yup. I have often had sex with people I don't fancy. I see nothing wrong in it.
I am using the word 'fancy' to mean someone that I want to see again and someone that I have something more than just being 'horny' in common.
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Sex with some you don't fancy
Sex God
There is so much more to sexual attraction than some ones looks
Sex God
Quote by duncanlondon
the thing is though, can you have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone you really just don't fancy. How many times can you shag before you have to throw in the towel and admit its just not possible to continue?
What about people in a long term relationship for whom the sexual attraction has gone? Many of them carry on having sex...
If I have ever shagged anyone I didn't fancy, it's always been a one off situation. I could never have sex with someone I didn't fancy if it was expected to be more regular than that. As I said before, if I didn't fancy them on a mental or physical level, I don't really enjoy it, so why would I lay myself open to having to endure it more than once. It's easier for women to have sex with someone who doesn't really turn them on as they don't have to 'perform' in the same way men do. I have come to a time in my life where 'notches' are less important than orgasms.
Quote by noladreams
the thing is though, can you have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone you really just don't fancy. How many times can you shag before you have to throw in the towel and admit its just not possible to continue?
What about people in a long term relationship for whom the sexual attraction has gone? Many of them carry on having sex...
That's called marriage for a lot of people.
Sex God
Quote by duncanlondon
the thing is though, can you have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone you really just don't fancy. How many times can you shag before you have to throw in the towel and admit its just not possible to continue?
Luckily I have never had to face this problem
Sex God
Quote by Bluefish2009
There is so much more to sexual attraction than some ones looks
Of course there is. It doesn't have to be physical. But there has to be an attraction for me. To have sex with someone who wasn't attractive to me just seems a bit pointless in my world. I want to have sex with someone who makes me dribble... if I'm not dribbling then there's no point. :twisted:
Sex God
Quote by Dirtygirly
There is so much more to sexual attraction than some ones looks
Of course there is. It doesn't have to be physical. But there has to be an attraction for me. To have sex with someone who wasn't attractive to me just seems a bit pointless in my world. I want to have sex with someone who makes me dribble... if I'm not dribbling then there's no point. :twisted:
Yes, agreed, the wife will only have meets with some one who she has some sexual attraction too. How ever if i were a swinger, rather than a voyeur, I would not be so choosy.
Maybe thats a male thing?
Sex God
Quote by Bluefish2009
There is so much more to sexual attraction than some ones looks
Of course there is. It doesn't have to be physical. But there has to be an attraction for me. To have sex with someone who wasn't attractive to me just seems a bit pointless in my world. I want to have sex with someone who makes me dribble... if I'm not dribbling then there's no point. :twisted:
Yes, agreed, the wife will only have meets with some one who she has some sexual attraction too. How ever if i were a swinger, rather than a voyeur, I would not be so choosy.
Maybe thats a male thing?
Oh I don't think there's any maybe in that sentence!! :giggle:
And I'm sure some women. It's just not for me. I like a spark! :rascal:
Sex God
Quote by Dirtygirly
There is so much more to sexual attraction than some ones looks
Of course there is. It doesn't have to be physical. But there has to be an attraction for me. To have sex with someone who wasn't attractive to me just seems a bit pointless in my world. I want to have sex with someone who makes me dribble... if I'm not dribbling then there's no point. :twisted:
Yes, agreed, the wife will only have meets with some one who she has some sexual attraction too. How ever if i were a swinger, rather than a voyeur, I would not be so choosy.
Maybe thats a male thing?
Oh I don't think there's any maybe in that sentence!! :giggle:
And I'm sure some women. It's just not for me. I like a spark! :rascal:
You see when I saw the tittle, "Sex with some you don't fancy" I was just going to write, yes please
Sex God
Quote by Bluefish2009
You see when I saw the tittle, "Sex with some you don't fancy" I was just going to write, yes please
Yup... you're definitely a bloke! :giggle:
Sex God
Quote by Dirtygirly
You see when I saw the tittle, "Sex with some you don't fancy" I was just going to write, yes please
Yup... you're definitely a bloke! :giggle:
Few...mops brow...glad we got that cleared up :lol:
Sex God
Quote by Bluefish2009
You see when I saw the tittle, "Sex with some you don't fancy" I was just going to write, yes please
Yup... you're definitely a bloke! :giggle:
Few...mops brow...glad we got that cleared up :lol:
Well that arse is confusing! :rascal:
I do know a couple of blokes who won't have sex with people they don't fancy. However, one of them has said that they may be able to in a "kinky scenario" where it was the situation, if not the person, doing the turning on.
I'm on the cusp of a decision to maybe start playing the field again (what can I say, I wear people out
) ...which leads me to a dilemma. I'm really bloody picky- not about looks (-I remember meeting a guy who was as hot as hell and made me drool when I walked into the room, but 5 minutes later when I was having to explain my jokes realising there was no way in hell I was gonna shag him...) but about that "spark."
Why do I have to be fussy about the hardest thing to find?
I'm on the cusp of a decision to maybe start playing the field again (what can I say, I wear people out
) ...which leads me to a dilemma. I'm really bloody picky- not about looks (-I remember meeting a guy who was as hot as hell and made me drool when I walked into the room, but 5 minutes later when I was having to explain my jokes realising there was no way in hell I was gonna shag him...) but about that "spark." Why do I have to be fussy about the hardest thing to find?
Sex God
Quote by Witchy
Why do I have to be fussy about the hardest thing to find?
I often ask myself the same question
(of myself ;-) )
Sex God
Quote by Dirtygirly
You see when I saw the tittle, "Sex with some you don't fancy" I was just going to write, yes please
Yup... you're definitely a bloke! :giggle:
Few...mops brow...glad we got that cleared up :lol:
Well that arse is confusing! :rascal:
We have to have a picture of the wife as avatar as we dont want to scare people
Quote by Steve
Why do I have to be fussy about the hardest thing to find?
I often ask myself the same question
(of myself ;-) )
Fiddle around in there for long enough...can you remember which side you dress? Might be easier to find in the morning when it's a bit bigger, hang in there, you'll find it.
Sex God
Is there no such thing as a fu*k is a fu*k for f*cks sake?
Sex God
Quote by Lost
Is there no such thing as a fu*k is a fu*k for f*cks sake?
Course there is... just in my world I'd like to be attracted to the person I'm fucking and I'd certainly hope he was attracted to me. There would be nothing more insulting than finding out someone was fucking me for the sake of a fuck.
*shudders*
Quote by Ms_Whips
I do know a couple of blokes who won't have sex with people they don't fancy. However, one of them has said that they may be able to in a "kinky scenario" where it was the situation, if not the person, doing the turning on.
I'm on the cusp of a decision to maybe start playing the field again (what can I say, I wear people out
Why do I have to be fussy about the hardest thing to find?
you broke both of them? bad witchy! you do realise that guys will start to run if you don't play nicer don't you? then you'll have none to choose from.
play nice!
whips
:cry:
I have been known to "break men"
But this time it's more to do with long voyages and the strain just being too much for one person to handle :giggle:
and anyway, they can run, but they can't hide...
Lost- of course there is, ffs!
Sex God
Quote by Witchy
I do know a couple of blokes who won't have sex with people they don't fancy. However, one of them has said that they may be able to in a "kinky scenario" where it was the situation, if not the person, doing the turning on.
I'm on the cusp of a decision to maybe start playing the field again (what can I say, I wear people out
Why do I have to be fussy about the hardest thing to find?
you broke both of them? bad witchy! you do realise that guys will start to run if you don't play nicer don't you? then you'll have none to choose from.
play nice!
whips
:cry:
I have been known to "break men"
But this time it's more to do with long voyages and the strain just being too much for one person to handle :giggle:
and anyway, they can run, but they can't hide...
Lost- of course there is, ffs!
What a way to go though, eh
Sex God
Quote by Witchy
That's a fecking wide lamppost your imagination has there whips!
Bluefishies, I didn't hear any complaints- just a little moaning
vision....
Looks down at broken man, with disapproving shake of the head remove cigarette from mouth and steps on under red high heeled shoe. No words spoken, turns and leaves room...
Sexlightened
Quote by Dirtygirly
See I still don't understand.
DG, your rigth about about the wank thing, some time's it better to have sex with yourself than just some one thats there and game for it :lol:, for many years I work and ran nightclub door's and was in a stituation at one time in life when I was like the preverble "dog with two cocks", and would hit on anything with a pulse, and some times at 3am it wasn't a strong pulse, I wasn't picky and Im have never had a problem like some guy's in not being able to get a hard on, so let's say some of the girl's were less than pleasing to the eye, and I often woke in the morning wondering why the fuck I had bothered,I'm glad to say once I got thing's out of my system and returned to what was normal life for me, I did then and still now have to have some kind of attraction with a woman to say the lest. I have traveled great distances to meet with couple's and women I have spoken to for a long time, and had a drink, and had to say "sorry there's some thing just not right here", and gone up to my hotel room and happy to wank and enjoy it, so for me even if it's going to be a one nightstand, if they don't float my boat, then even tho I know I can rise to the occasion, and it's not just a matter of look's if there's some thing personal, then me and my bulge are happy to walk away.
