Married 18 years tried flowers.. New car.. Meals out.. Weekends away...
Wife not Intrested in sex... Is it OK to play away or should I just live with the frustration and lack of any self esteem??
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Sexless marriage is it OK to play away?
Talk to her tell her how you feel..it's never good to cheat a relationship..Tell her you miss sex and that you still have a active sex drive that needs fulfilling....If the whole relationship is pretty poor, I would think about moving on..life is too short...But it looks like you have already made your mind up about cheating on her anyway, because you are on here and probably other sites too with a single male account.
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Married 18 years tried flowers.. New car.. Meals out.. Weekends away...
Wife not Intrested in sex... Is it OK to play away or should I just live with the frustration and lack of any self esteem??
Your wife is also in this sexless marriage and not just you. Ask yourself how you would feel if she was the one who was playing away.
When I first joined this site in 2004 it was to gain advice from the sexperts on here because i too was trapped in a sexless marriage. Two years of trying to make things work later and in 2006, I moved out of the home and within weeks, my ex had started divorce proceedings.
The thing is, I knew she wasn't happy, but I didn't realise how deep her unhappiness was so with hindsight, theres no wonder sex was off the menu. BUT, during that time, I stayed true to my vows and didn't play away, even though the opportunities were there to do so and years later, we remain good friends and we are both in happier places. I put this down to not cheating on her and her not cheating on me when we were married.
Ultimately, the decision to play away will be yours to make, but think about the consequences first.
If only this was as easy to fix...........with talking....there are times and good reasons when no amount of heart to hearts will fix things........and divorce is not what either want.......negative comments are understandable and to be expected.....but until you have been in this situation it may be wise to go easy on the condemnation......remember its easy to tell the homeless guy to get a job and sort himself out when you have one and all life's comforts.........and you may well be right..............but not always!!!
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If only this was as easy to fix...........with talking....there are times and good reasons when no amount of heart to hearts will fix things........and divorce is not what either want.......negative comments are understandable and to be expected.....but until you have been in this situation it may be wise to go easy on the condemnation......remember its easy to tell the homeless guy to get a job and sort himself out when you have one and all life's comforts.........and you may well be right..............but not always!!!
A opinion was asked for and it was given...it's upto the OP on how he acts upon it.
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Erm could you guys lay off the use of the full stops please, they're in pretty short supply due to fears over Brexit, and we're trying to stockpile them for emergencies (full stop)
Nah..........there's a great big pile of them next to the butter mountain and wine lake!!............................
Quote by 2for2moreQuote by etvSo, It's ok to cheat if you're p'd off enough?
If only this was as easy to fix...........with talking....there are times and good reasons when no amount of heart to hearts will fix things........and divorce is not what either want.......negative comments are understandable and to be expected.....but until you have been in this situation it may be wise to go easy on the condemnation......remember its easy to tell the homeless guy to get a job and sort himself out when you have one and all life's comforts.........and you may well be right..............but not always!!!
As i said ...unless or until you find yourself in this impossible situation ,with no hope of it getting any better.....at all....ever,not next week,next month,next year,next 10 years.............then a slightly less predictable knee jerk reaction may be wise,i genuinely hope you are never in this very sad situation....only then would you really be in a position to understand!!........oh and i get p'd off when i stub my toe,scratch the car..........slightly different level.......and with that i shall so no more!!!
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Married 18 years tried flowers.. New car.. Meals out.. Weekends away...
Wife not Intrested in sex... Is it OK to play away or should I just live with the frustration and lack of any self esteem??
no,never ok to play away,swinging if both of you know and approve is ok,sex no matter how good is just sex it's not love which should be there between partners
Whenever this subject is broached here the answer is always emotive, but generally falls in one direction: Swinging is a consensual act and all involved should be aware and approve. I believe there are websites out there for people who want to have affairs, but that's not what this one is for.
So agree with 2for2more and MrandMrsBad, all this stuff takes two to talk it through, cards on the table, get real with each other it worked when things were good! If it's not possible to sort things out, after every avenue, then part, hurt as it may, it has to be done. Then, and only then, go find your sex, don't do it think you'll not be found out playing away now, as you will hurt everyone, including yourself......for what?
Do the right thing!
Quote by 2for2moreQuote by etvIt has nothing to do with moral high ground. Cheating is cheating, simple as that. Calling yourself a swinger in order to do so makes swingers look bad too.
Wow!!!......some are so high up on that lofty morale high ground its wonder they dont have a nose bleed !!
so then you are saying this to both sex as we know that you dont say this to some women on the site you are very good friend s with
Quote by 2for2moreQuote by love2chat2Even if there was any substance to that childish false accusation Mr L2. The fact would still remain that going out and having sex without your partners knowledge or consent is cheating, whether you're a man or a woman. That's not my rules, that's just the way it is, and calling yourself a swinger is never going to work as any kind of defence, all that does is give swingers a bad name. Ask any divorce lawyer!Quote by 2for2moreso then you are saying this to both sex as we know that you dont say this to some women on the site you are very good friend s withQuote by etvIt has nothing to do with moral high ground. Cheating is cheating, simple as that. Calling yourself a swinger in order to do so makes swingers look bad too.
Wow!!!......some are so high up on that lofty morale high ground its wonder they dont have a nose bleed !!
so your saying then mr 2 for that it ok too be married and have sex with other if your other half ok with that and still stay married as you just said . The fact would still remain that going out and having sex without your partners knowledge or consent is cheating, whether you're a man or a woman. but it still cheating in the eyes of the as you say the law as if your married and having sex with other it is still cass as cheating
Quote by love2chat2Quote by 2for2moreso your saying then mr 2 for that it ok too be married and have sex with other if your other half ok with that and still stay married as you just said . The fact would still remain that going out and having sex without your partners knowledge or consent is cheating, whether you're a man or a woman. but it still cheating in the eyes of the as you say the law as if your married and having sex with other it is still cass as cheatingQuote by love2chat2Even if there was any substance to that childish false accusation Mr L2. The fact would still remain that going out and having sex without your partners knowledge or consent is cheating, whether you're a man or a woman. That's not my rules, that's just the way it is, and calling yourself a swinger is never going to work as any kind of defence, all that does is give swingers a bad name. Ask any divorce lawyer!Quote by 2for2moreso then you are saying this to both sex as we know that you dont say this to some women on the site you are very good friend s withQuote by etvIt has nothing to do with moral high ground. Cheating is cheating, simple as that. Calling yourself a swinger in order to do so makes swingers look bad too.
Wow!!!......some are so high up on that lofty morale high ground its wonder they dont have a nose bleed !!
You have lost me now 2chat2... so are you now saying it's not ok to cheat..
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Maybe not but that's the married persons choice and we all have a rights to those without being vilified by people on here doing what is not classed as the norm anyway ,and this is Mrs ..........
So you consider it ok to cheat, that's your choice (from where I'm sitting, it looks like you just told everyone you'd be happy to cheat on your other half). All you have to do now is convince the rest of society that it's ok.
As you can see i said that's the married persons choice and not that it's my choice ,so who's mud slinging now ?????/
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Obviously all of the critics are in wonderful relationships with sexy partners. If you were in the same boat as most of the 'single' men on here you wouldn't be so quick to condemn. Also no one on here is critical of a nympho wife cheating on her husband. Read the bloody stories and follow up comments. Hypocritical people!
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More than happy to let you have the final word L2, Please make it as entertaining as what you've said so far....
Grow up and look around you. People are cheating and telling lies every minute of every day.
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Obviously all of the critics are in wonderful relationships with sexy partners. If you were in the same boat as most of the 'single' men on here you wouldn't be so quick to condemn. Also no one on here is critical of a nympho wife cheating on her husband. Read the bloody stories and follow up comments. Hypocritical people!
You said it single men..not married ones or cheating ones..let hope a partner never cheats on you
Forum Virgin
If I had withheld sexual contact I would expect nothing else. My lack of sexual action to my partner if I had one would be the cause of the cheating and therefore my fault. Deal with the cause not the victim.
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If I had withheld sexual contact I would expect nothing else. My lack of sexual action to my partner if I had one would be the cause of the cheating and therefore my fault. Deal with the cause not the victim.
It's really not that simple..the OP as not replied to anything on this thread..we do not know what the full story is and the truth..and you could say, if it's that bad, he should grow a pair and move on to a new life..not cheat ...it could be a I'm feeling guilty thread because I am cheating on my Mrs.
This thread has become a little controversial, surely it boils down to our younger days when most of us were taught right from wrong, and because Jonny up the road steals a car doesn't make it right for you to do the same. It's the same code we live by throughout life. Good and bad people make up this world.......it's not easy sometimes to be a good one !!!!
