I spotted a post today about someone giving a tradesman a spur of the moment blow job and it got me thinking: How do you initiate something like that outside of the swinging lifetsyle?
From a man's perspective, if I was in an everyday vanilla situation and a good looking woman offered herself to me I'd have to seriously consider the offer. Even if I didn't accept I'd probably be flattered and just laugh it off.
However, reversing the situation, surely if I offered sexual favours to a female, for example a postwoman, I'd probably end up in court! :shock:
Why do you think that is? Where's the sexual equality in it?
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Not exactly an answer to your question Cubes, but I must admit I have oft fantasised about that kind of situation - either being the offerer of said impulsive act, or being on the receiving end of such an offer.
I'm just not sure I'd ever have the courage to do it.
Would be fun though.
I'm just not sure I'd ever have the courage to do it.
Would be fun though.
Sex God
Quote by Cubes
I spotted a post today about someone giving a tradesman a spur of the moment blow job and it got me thinking: How do you initiate something like that outside of the swinging lifetsyle?
From a man's perspective, if I was in an everyday vanilla situation and a good looking woman offered herself to me I'd have to seriously consider the offer. Even if I didn't accept I'd probably be flattered and just laugh it off.
However, reversing the situation, surely if I offered sexual favours to a female, for example a postwoman, I'd probably end up in court! :shock:
Why do you think that is? Where's the sexual equality in it?
Depends on who you offered sexual favours to :rascal:
There's no such thing as sexual equality, anywhere. Men are superior in some areas, women in others. Sexual equality in sexual matters though - maybe some women are more likely to feel threatened by such offers and a man could laugh them off, if he wasn't interested?
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Not exactly an answer to your question Cubes, but I must admit I have oft fantasised about that kind of situation - either being the offerer of said impulsive act, or being on the receiving end of such an offer.
I'm just not sure I'd ever have the courage to do it.
Would be fun though.
Why wouldn't you have the courage though? Is it because you worry about the being turned down (I can't imagine how that would happen :twisted: ) or do you worry about the man being so shocked he'd call the police? I can't imagine that happening either, which is my point.
Quote by Freckledbird
I spotted a post today about someone giving a tradesman a spur of the moment blow job and it got me thinking: How do you initiate something like that outside of the swinging lifetsyle?
From a man's perspective, if I was in an everyday vanilla situation and a good looking woman offered herself to me I'd have to seriously consider the offer. Even if I didn't accept I'd probably be flattered and just laugh it off.
However, reversing the situation, surely if I offered sexual favours to a female, for example a postwoman, I'd probably end up in court! :shock:
Why do you think that is? Where's the sexual equality in it?
Depends on who you offered sexual favours to :rascal:
There's no such thing as sexual equality, anywhere. Men are superior in some areas, women in others. Sexual equality in sexual matters though - maybe some women are more likely to feel threatened by such offers and a man could laugh them off, if he wasn't interested?
That's exactly what I was trying to say: I wouldn't think twice about propositioning you because I know you're "into" that sort of thing, but in everday life it's a complete no-no.
Interesting thread Cubes, its never crossed my mind that I might be lining myself up for civil or criminal action by flirting except in the workplace where such things are obviously governed by employer/employment specific rules.
I suspect like flower I have always worked by instinct and gently explored the possibilities. A combination of balance and subtlety I suppose.
I'm not sure if women can get away with it any more than men.
I suspect like flower I have always worked by instinct and gently explored the possibilities. A combination of balance and subtlety I suppose.
I'm not sure if women can get away with it any more than men.
Sexlightened
Quote by Cubes
How do you initiate something like that outside of the swinging lifetsyle?
I find accidentally bending over a little too far in front of them in a short skirt and stockings, or leaning forward in a low cut top, again accidentally rubbing my boobs against their arm as I pass them a pen - all those kind of things. Easily wriggled out of or can be laughed off, but most of the time I can tell from their eyes and reaction if they're up for it or not.
Definitely easier for women to get away with than men, although I've found the jack-the-lad flirty tradesmen types, are often the ones to run a mile if you show you're actually interested in them!!!
I've managed my binman and postman and working on the window cleaner, but he's a harder nut to crack it would seem!!!
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I suspect like flower I have always worked by instinct and gently explored the possibilities. A combination of balance and subtlety I suppose.
I'm not sure if women can get away with it any more than men.
When you put it like that it's almost a form of 'gaydar'. The last time we as a couple managed to 'score' with a previously vanilla bi-fem it literally took a couple of months to work out how she might react and to pave the way to finally making a move. In some respects I suppose it could almost be a form of grooming. :shock:
I guess that's the biggest benefit of a site like this - you can forget all the pre-amble and go straight to the good stuff! :thumbup:
Quote by Cubes
I suspect like flower I have always worked by instinct and gently explored the possibilities. A combination of balance and subtlety I suppose.
I'm not sure if women can get away with it any more than men.
When you put it like that it's almost a form of 'gaydar'. The last time we as a couple managed to 'score' with a previously vanilla bi-fem it literally took a couple of months to work out how she might react and to pave the way to finally making a move. In some respects I suppose it could almost be a form of grooming. :shock:
I guess that's the biggest benefit of a site like this - you can forget all the pre-amble and go straight to the good stuff! :thumbup:
Note to myself...just ask for shag....please....
:D Quote by Cubes
Why do you think that is? Where's the sexual equality in it?
There isn't any, but women are owed at least a couple of hundred years worth of payback on the equality front. You lot wouldn't let us vote for so long that subsequent generations have evolved with all of that desire for emancipation pushed into other areas
It'll even out in about a hundred years time, although the postwoman will have been replaced by humourless robots with tasers, so you'll still lose out. Sorry :lol:
Quote by Freckledbird
I spotted a post today about someone giving a tradesman a spur of the moment blow job and it got me thinking: How do you initiate something like that outside of the swinging lifetsyle?
From a man's perspective, if I was in an everyday vanilla situation and a good looking woman offered herself to me I'd have to seriously consider the offer. Even if I didn't accept I'd probably be flattered and just laugh it off.
However, reversing the situation, surely if I offered sexual favours to a female, for example a postwoman, I'd probably end up in court! :shock:
Why do you think that is? Where's the sexual equality in it?
Depends on who you offered sexual favours to :rascal:
There's no such thing as sexual equality, anywhere. Men are superior in some areas, women in others. Sexual equality in sexual matters though - maybe some women are more likely to feel threatened by such offers and a man could laugh them off, if he wasn't interested?Good point Frecklebird ....think your reply about covers it
:D trav.....
I have been thinking about this a bit more. With regard to vanilla situations.
I think a woman could offer sex almost immediately to a stranger or temporary acquaintance. Its more unlikely a woman would respond to a strangers offer.
But its unlikely that a man would be successful at 'offering'. A man would be asking or suggesting, after which a woman may then initiate proceedings. But offering is somehow a woman's entitlement.
With an ongoing relationship, I think there is more room for a man to offer sex, under various circumstances, and then it does work.
However the rules change where sex is used for power gains. ie promotions, favours at work etc. But this is more like trading.
So in most cases I would say that women hold the trump card in 'offering', with men being occasionally opportunistic in using it.
I think a woman could offer sex almost immediately to a stranger or temporary acquaintance. Its more unlikely a woman would respond to a strangers offer.
But its unlikely that a man would be successful at 'offering'. A man would be asking or suggesting, after which a woman may then initiate proceedings. But offering is somehow a woman's entitlement.
With an ongoing relationship, I think there is more room for a man to offer sex, under various circumstances, and then it does work.
However the rules change where sex is used for power gains. ie promotions, favours at work etc. But this is more like trading.
So in most cases I would say that women hold the trump card in 'offering', with men being occasionally opportunistic in using it.
Sexpert
The rules for not getting into court if your a man are:
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