Some of you might have read my deleted post earlier and will know ive had a crap day and therefore cant sleep.
Anyway, this is my therapy.........I guess in order to be able to swing as a couple and not get jealous etc, you will have a very strong relationship?.........but im sure that by virtue of being human, you like everyone else will encounter the occasional tiff or bust up.
In central Africa there is a species of ape called the Bonobo. They are unique in the animal world because of their sexual habits. Unlike most other animals, they dont just mate at a set breeding time but actually use sex as a conflict resolution tool as well as a troop bonding excersise.
Do swinging couples also do this as part of conflict resolution?
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conflict resolution is a mandatorary course i have to go on every year with my job 
Hi Gemini 
I think the highly important and prob. the main point of swinging as a couple is mutual trust and respect and total understanding of your partner. Before you go into it you have to discuss all your boundaries and esp. what either of you would NOT want to see happening. We totally enjoy our swinging as we 100% understand each other and what we want out of our experience.. however, there are woman out there who still even when these have been set can get a little possessive of their man, this is only human nature.
Now onto the topic of sex being used as a conflict resolution tool... this should never ever be done. Men and women quite often use sex as a prize withdrawing it as a punishment to their partners for things that they have done, this is actually a well known part of domestic violence. In my opinion, sex is wonderful, it's primarily part of a loving relationship and should never be abused or used as a weapon.
I think the highly important and prob. the main point of swinging as a couple is mutual trust and respect and total understanding of your partner. Before you go into it you have to discuss all your boundaries and esp. what either of you would NOT want to see happening. We totally enjoy our swinging as we 100% understand each other and what we want out of our experience.. however, there are woman out there who still even when these have been set can get a little possessive of their man, this is only human nature.
Now onto the topic of sex being used as a conflict resolution tool... this should never ever be done. Men and women quite often use sex as a prize withdrawing it as a punishment to their partners for things that they have done, this is actually a well known part of domestic violence. In my opinion, sex is wonderful, it's primarily part of a loving relationship and should never be abused or used as a weapon.
Quote by Geminifemale
Unlike most other animals, they dont just mate at a set breeding time but actually use sex as a conflict resolution tool as well as a troop bonding excersise.
Do swinging couples also do this as part of conflict resolution?
Our conflicts tend to stem from life in general not jelousy.
We regularly use conflict resolution and did so prior to swinging.
This applies to the ladies;
Conflict = shag his brains out = resolved
Quote by Juniper_couple
Unlike most other animals, they dont just mate at a set breeding time but actually use sex as a conflict resolution tool as well as a troop bonding excersise.
Do swinging couples also do this as part of conflict resolution?
Our conflicts tend to stem from life in general not jelousy.
We regularly use conflict resolution and did so prior to swinging.
This applies to the ladies;
Conflict = shag his brains out = resolved
Quite true there Juniper couple :lol:
Been there done that........
Problem soon solved
Mr & Mrs goodtimez
I don't think swinging is a way to resolve conflict - communication is.
TBH, You hear about couples who decide to have a baby to fix their marriage. To me having sex would be a bit like this too. By that I mean you're just brushing the problem under the carpet and not actually resolving it.
As far as jealousy goes, I don't think swinging's the place to be for overly jealous people. When I imagine my partner being satisfied by another woman I find it turns me on. If someone felt jealous, insecure, miserable or afraid by this thought I'd be thinking they were in the wrong place.
TBH, You hear about couples who decide to have a baby to fix their marriage. To me having sex would be a bit like this too. By that I mean you're just brushing the problem under the carpet and not actually resolving it.
As far as jealousy goes, I don't think swinging's the place to be for overly jealous people. When I imagine my partner being satisfied by another woman I find it turns me on. If someone felt jealous, insecure, miserable or afraid by this thought I'd be thinking they were in the wrong place.
Orgasminator
Quote by Geminifemale
In central Africa there is a species of ape called the Bonobo. They are unique in the animal world because of their sexual habits. Unlike most other animals, they dont just mate at a set breeding time but actually use sex as a conflict resolution tool as well as a troop bonding excersise.
Nice to see somebody else talking about Bonobo (Pgmy) Chimps...
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewpost/146421.html#146421
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don't do the course but told about it continuously! plus told to advoid conflict as much as possbile which is a pian when someone is a right pain in the rear end :twisted:
never swing as a couple so can't answer the question ...... although i think that couples most be honest with each other always and never lie or cheat behind each others back .... none of us like this in any walk of life, truth builds a strong understanding
also knowing each others likes and wants is a good point as they can set a few guide lines to follow and also a few singles if they are not happy with something so they can move away from it or leave, etc.i would like to think that if i did swing as a couple that that person would know me well enough to know when i am not happy with a situation or not comfy with it and therefore sort it so both of us are happy which may mean both of us leaving and this would mean he would possible walk away from something that he was more than happy with but sometimes it is all about doing the right thing for your partner no matter if that was just a swing partner or a partner in life
it is said we are from the ape world therefore sometimes our behavior is just like theirs :dunno: the good points ...... togetherness ...the bad point .....fighting for our ground
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I don't think swinging is a way to resolve conflict - communication is.
TBH, You hear about couples who decide to have a baby to fix their marriage. To me having sex would be a bit like this too. By that I mean you're just brushing the problem under the carpet and not actually resolving it.
As far as jealousy goes, I don't think swinging's the place to be for overly jealous people. When I imagine my partner being satisfied by another woman I find it turns me on. If someone felt jealous, insecure, miserable or afraid by this thought I'd be thinking they were in the wrong place.
Totally agree :thumbup:
Mr goodtimez
