Evening all! Dear Diddery in the sun is doing (??) a 'swinging special' tomorrow- be interesting to see what waffle she has on the subject-- the usual resonse is along the lines of-' dont!! it'll ruin your relationship--' any feelings on this?? Pos or neg-- Join the most popular community of UK swingers now
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Sex God
yes.. I feel very positive about swinging thankyou 
On a more serious note.. we have a far more trusting/secure relationship than a lot of our 'non-swinging' friends.... don't know whether the swinging has anthing to do with it or not, but its an interesting though.
On a more serious note.. we have a far more trusting/secure relationship than a lot of our 'non-swinging' friends.... don't know whether the swinging has anthing to do with it or not, but its an interesting though.
Sex God
Means more newbies on here I guess
At least there'll be someone to take the mickey out of lol Joking of course
None here would do a thing like that!!
:boink: :boink: 
At least there'll be someone to take the mickey out of lol Joking of course
None here would do a thing like that!!
:boink: :boink: 
Orgasminator
Quote by xxdevil69
yes.. I feel very positive about swinging thankyou
On a more serious note.. we have a far more trusting/secure relationship than a lot of our 'non-swinging' friends.... don't know whether the swinging has anthing to do with it or not, but its an interesting though.
I agree, out of most of our friends I would say that we have the most secure, communicative and trusting relationship. I don't think swinging is the reason, but it certainly helps us be able to swing ;)
Sex God
kenluvslucy,
just for once in my life, i'll actually buy the sun! this should be good. there'll no doubt be the dire warnings that swingers are singlehandedly responsible for every STD known to man ever, and advice that divorce is probably a better option if your partner suggests swinging.
i hope for once to read a reasoned articulate discussion, but i won't hold my breath!
neil x x x ;)
just for once in my life, i'll actually buy the sun! this should be good. there'll no doubt be the dire warnings that swingers are singlehandedly responsible for every STD known to man ever, and advice that divorce is probably a better option if your partner suggests swinging.
i hope for once to read a reasoned articulate discussion, but i won't hold my breath!
neil x x x ;)
Quote by neilinleeds
kenluvslucy,
just for once in my life, i'll actually buy the sun! this should be good. there'll no doubt be the dire warnings that swingers are singlehandedly responsible for every STD known to man ever, and advice that divorce is probably a better option if your partner suggests swinging.
i hope for once to read a reasoned articulate discussion, but i won't hold my breath!
neil x x x ;)
Oxymoron Alert!
Oxymoron Alert!
Sex God
oi kinky!
you calling me a moron? i'll have you fer that! :sparring: i know i know, foolishly optimistic of me, but then i live in hope. she can only be completely wong and moralising so many times and still get away with it, can't she?
neil x x x ;)
you calling me a moron? i'll have you fer that! :sparring: i know i know, foolishly optimistic of me, but then i live in hope. she can only be completely wong and moralising so many times and still get away with it, can't she?
neil x x x ;)
Sorry to disagree with some of you (yet again!), but I don't think the ability (mutual consent) of a couple to swing necessarily indicates a stronger relationship than that of a couple that chooses not to; nor for that matter is it likely to strengthen that relationship, any more than having a child does.
Indeed, there is a tenable argument that in a couple that swings, there is a greater likelihood that one or other partner will find themselves becoming emotionally attached elswhere.
Indeed, there is a tenable argument that in a couple that swings, there is a greater likelihood that one or other partner will find themselves becoming emotionally attached elswhere.
Quote by Kenluvslucy
How do they explain a relationship that developed through swinging?
Not everybody is in a relationship before they come into swinging, we were both partner and I met through this site and are happily going from strength to strength. (This may be the jinx on the relationship now lol).
Dave_Notts
Sex God
Quote by barry from lachambre in the sun article
"It's almost fashionable to be a swinger..."
Well that article wasn't as bad as I envisaged it being.
And we're almost fashionable!
Quote by morbiusUK
yes.. I feel very positive about swinging thankyou
On a more serious note.. we have a far more trusting/secure relationship than a lot of our 'non-swinging' friends.... don't know whether the swinging has anthing to do with it or not, but its an interesting though.
I agree, out of most of our friends I would say that we have the most secure, communicative and trusting relationship. I don't think swinging is the reason, but it certainly helps us be able to swing ;)
We totally agree with both of you.
You do not need a strong relationship to start swinging but there certainly are pitfalls for those who do not have a strong relationship, and couples that don't have one don't seem to last.
Speaking only from the club scene, we do not know many, if any, couples that have stayed active within the scene, that have not had that strong relationship. We feel that our relationship is stronger than most of our non-swinging friends. This is not because of swinging but it has allowed us to swing and to get over the ups and downs when we were new to it. For this reason it is possibly true to say that longterm swingers have stronger relationships than average...if they didn't they wouldn't still be swinging together.
Swinging does not neccessarily bring couples closer together, but if they aren't close already it's probably not for them and it won't last.
In Day Two of my series on Britain's sex secrets, I explain that while fantasies about group sex or threesomes can add spice to a relationship, the reality usually ends up with someone getting hurt.
By DEIDRE SANDERS
Sun Agony Aunt
While I agree it's not always wise to try to make your fantasies a reality, it depends on the individual and their circumstances.
I personally don't know of anyone who has been seriously hurt through swinging. Maybe a few dented egos, a bit of irrational jealousy when emotions have got in the way??
I think Dreary is commenting on the people who swing when one partner isn't really into it. What o you think?
On that note, can I ask if anyone has been hurt by/ through swinging?
By DEIDRE SANDERS
Sun Agony Aunt
While I agree it's not always wise to try to make your fantasies a reality, it depends on the individual and their circumstances.
I personally don't know of anyone who has been seriously hurt through swinging. Maybe a few dented egos, a bit of irrational jealousy when emotions have got in the way??
I think Dreary is commenting on the people who swing when one partner isn't really into it. What o you think?
On that note, can I ask if anyone has been hurt by/ through swinging?
Casanova
I fell off and broke my wrist, Does that count? :swingingchair:
Quote by Marya
On that note, can I ask if anyone has been hurt by/ through swinging?
We know couples that have had problems from swinging, including breakup and partner swapping, but swinging was the catalyst...they would probably have managed to do that without swinging.
Entry into swinging is a life-changing event and really should be done after serious thought...you can't get toothpaste back into the tube. Having said that, we have found that it has enriched our lives both sexually and socially.
Ric n Jax
My first thought it 'what were you doing reading the sun in the first place??'... my second thought is along the same lines.
When i become leader of the (not so) free world i will ban tabloids and their irresponsible journalism.... I'll also round up all the Daily Mail staff, look them in camps, torture them, persecute their families leaving them with no option but to flee the country in fear of their lives - i wonder how unsympathetic they'd be about asylum seekers then??!!
When i become leader of the (not so) free world i will ban tabloids and their irresponsible journalism.... I'll also round up all the Daily Mail staff, look them in camps, torture them, persecute their families leaving them with no option but to flee the country in fear of their lives - i wonder how unsympathetic they'd be about asylum seekers then??!!
i have to admit, that although Daz and i had talked about swinging in great detail before getting involved, i still feel a tiny bit insecure at times - what if the other woman is better than me, what if Daz prefers her to me?? thoughts like that could have had a serious strain on our relationship, but now i've learnt to look on it like this - i "Make love" with Daz, with anyone else, its just sex. Since ive put that philosophy into practice, i've felt 100% more confident and comfortable with swinging, and its also helped Daz and I to talk even more openly than we did before about what we want out of meets.
But, having said all that, we've only met 1 couple that we felt totally and completely relaxed with, and they are the only couple we would even consider meeting on a regular basis.
But, having said all that, we've only met 1 couple that we felt totally and completely relaxed with, and they are the only couple we would even consider meeting on a regular basis.
Quote by Robbie
My first thought it 'what were you doing reading the sun in the first place??'... my second thought is along the same lines.
When i become leader of the (not so) free world i will ban tabloids and their irresponsible journalism.... I'll also round up all the Daily Mail staff, look them in camps, torture them, persecute their families leaving them with no option but to flee the country in fear of their lives - i wonder how unsympathetic they'd be about asylum seekers then??!!
You get my vote... as long as I can be camp commander (& that does not mean I will develop a mincing walk...). Add in the Daily Express staff as well. :twisted: :twisted:
Sex God
Quote by Sgt Bilko
If you want to read it, but don't want to buy the paper, it's here:
:roll: :roll:
Its a lovely advert, dont ya think? LOL
Quote by dazandlou
i have to admit, that although Daz and i had talked about swinging in great detail before getting involved, i still feel a tiny bit insecure at times - what if the other woman is better than me, what if Daz prefers her to me?? thoughts like that could have had a serious strain on our relationship, but now i've learnt to look on it like this - i "Make love" with Daz, with anyone else, its just sex. Since ive put that philosophy into practice, i've felt 100% more confident and comfortable with swinging, and its also helped Daz and I to talk even more openly than we did before about what we want out of meets.
Ditto all the above! Shallowly, it never crossed my mind that R might have the same fears when we have had mmf threesomes. I just imagined he'd be ok. Damn, I feel bad about that now.
Still, I think this is because I can never imagine anyone measuring up to his standards, so it is bloody improbable that it'd happen. Sex God
Quote by Marya
On that note, can I ask if anyone has been hurt by/ through swinging?
Yeah, my marriage broke up over it. Particularly due to one incident which both of us had trouble dealing with.
Silky
Sex God
we've found that the trouble comes from if we get on too well with a couple.. then its like sleeping with friends which isn't what we want. We prefer the sluttish aspect of meeting someone, screwing, then walking away never to be seen again!! :twisted:
Talking of agony Aunts......
Now would I hijack a thread
: :?: :?:
I remember a letter wrote to Marjorie Proops some years back which never got printed ........
"DEAR MARGE"
Everytime my husband and I have sex, he ALWAYS puts it in with his left hand - is this normal :?:
"Dear Worried",
Some men put it in with their left hand, some with their right.......
If you find one who uses both - my number's 0181 527 ..........
Just leaving >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
Now would I hijack a thread
: :?: :?: I remember a letter wrote to Marjorie Proops some years back which never got printed ........
"DEAR MARGE"
Everytime my husband and I have sex, he ALWAYS puts it in with his left hand - is this normal :?:
"Dear Worried",
Some men put it in with their left hand, some with their right.......
If you find one who uses both - my number's 0181 527 ..........
Just leaving >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
