personanlly i would like to right something long about meself but i struggle to find things to say.....
thats y i tend to only conatct people i have met at munchs at least i can talk to them then
MikeC
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Quote by PoloLady
I am not so sure that just because a reply is short - this actually does mean person/people will turn out to be a rather disappointing encounter.
As it has just been pointed out - it is easy for someone to prepare a detailed reply to send and then just cut and paste it to all and sundry.
I tend never to write anything in my replies as i feel it helps me keep a sense of mystery.
Besides with minimalism being all the rage a plain white email is this seasons must have for every swinger!
Quote by Glasgowfella
I am not so sure that just because a reply is short - this actually does mean person/people will turn out to be a rather disappointing encounter.
As it has just been pointed out - it is easy for someone to prepare a detailed reply to send and then just cut and paste it to all and sundry.
I tend never to write anything in my replies as i feel it helps me keep a sense of mystery.
Besides with minimalism being all the ragea plain white email is this seasons must have for every swinger!
Unfortunately for some - a plain white (blank) shag list isn't
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ask me to talk in real life i am ok....
but in a pm hmmmmm
cant do it
MikeC
but in a pm hmmmmm
cant do it
MikeC
Quote by PoloLady
I am not so sure that just because a reply is short - this actually does mean person/people will turn out to be a rather disappointing encounter.
As it has just been pointed out - it is easy for someone to prepare a detailed reply to send and then just cut and paste it to all and sundry.
I tend never to write anything in my replies as i feel it helps me keep a sense of mystery.
Besides with minimalism being all the ragea plain white email is this seasons must have for every swinger!
Unfortunately for some - a plain white (blank) shag list isn't
Shag list? You mean that "fun & games" ISNT ludo?
OOOPS
Quote by Glasgowfella
I am not so sure that just because a reply is short - this actually does mean person/people will turn out to be a rather disappointing encounter.
As it has just been pointed out - it is easy for someone to prepare a detailed reply to send and then just cut and paste it to all and sundry.
I tend never to write anything in my replies as i feel it helps me keep a sense of mystery.
Besides with minimalism being all the ragea plain white email is this seasons must have for every swinger!
Unfortunately for some - a plain white (blank) shag list isn't
Shag list? You mean that "fun & games" ISNT ludo?
OOOPS
People who only play board games are indeed bored.
Quote by PoloLady
I am not so sure that just because a reply is short - this actually does mean person/people will turn out to be a rather disappointing encounter.
As it has just been pointed out - it is easy for someone to prepare a detailed reply to send and then just cut and paste it to all and sundry.
I tend never to write anything in my replies as i feel it helps me keep a sense of mystery.
Besides with minimalism being all the ragea plain white email is this seasons must have for every swinger!
Unfortunately for some - a plain white (blank) shag list isn't
Shag list? You mean that "fun & games" ISNT ludo?
OOOPS
People who only play board games are indeed bored.
Thats not true!!!! I know many many dice enthusiasts who only use the board games as a means to an end, and you could never in a million years call them boring, extremely strange and in need of a good shake yes, but not boring! I never have the problem of being bored, you need to be able to think to do that!!!
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yes
Quote by duncanlondon
I think there is a difference between sending a reply that conveys a good message and one which is full of clever waffle.
However the reply of the advertiser to the reply of the responder is not always quite as bountiful as one would expect.
If you in fact get one at all. But hey-ho that's life!
Quote by PoloLady
I have heard it said on several occassions - I have indeed said it myself -
"If they can't be arsed to write something more than that - then ...."
But I am having second thoughts.
Why should someone be expected to write a bloody essay - in hope that they get any reply at all?
Thats true PoloLady
I think that if both parties make an effort to say a few things about themselves, prob in PM rather than in open Post, then there is a probability that things COULD progress to a meet
NC
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It can be difficult to know where to draw the line. A massive essay makes someone sound like a 70's Californian , undergoing self analysis. Not very British.
A brief sentence may say nothing or could convey good information.
However I think if the advertiser asks for a reasonable amount of information, they should be prepared to respond in as much deatil as the responder. Don't you think?
A brief sentence may say nothing or could convey good information.
However I think if the advertiser asks for a reasonable amount of information, they should be prepared to respond in as much deatil as the responder. Don't you think?
There is the case of an advertiser who wants a lot of detail, but does not have the skill to reply in kind. Either through shyness or inability to express oneself.
But a short note to explain this would help.
But that's the problem. The less you actually say about yourself, the more you probably have to do to explain why.
So its a paradox.
But a short note to explain this would help.
But that's the problem. The less you actually say about yourself, the more you probably have to do to explain why.
So its a paradox.
here's my
worth
Its all about trust.
At first you can't be arsed writing much to somebody in case you end up playing e-mail/pm pin ball. Then, depending on how the messages go, you get the 'feel' for the person your talking to, just like in real life. By this time you should have worked out whether the person your corresponding with is actually genuine (NN1 has this down to a fine art....most people on the net are men..including the women!) and so, you can expand the conversation.
I think most people are, rightly so in most cases, still a bit wary of the net and that will have an effect on the openness of writings as well.
There you go, I'm off to bury me head somewhere...mmmm
worth
Its all about trust.
At first you can't be arsed writing much to somebody in case you end up playing e-mail/pm pin ball. Then, depending on how the messages go, you get the 'feel' for the person your talking to, just like in real life. By this time you should have worked out whether the person your corresponding with is actually genuine (NN1 has this down to a fine art....most people on the net are men..including the women!) and so, you can expand the conversation.
I think most people are, rightly so in most cases, still a bit wary of the net and that will have an effect on the openness of writings as well.
There you go, I'm off to bury me head somewhere...mmmm
Quote by duncanlondon
However I think if the advertiser asks for a reasonable amount of information, they should be prepared to respond in as much deatil as the responder. Don't you think?
No.
But what I am suggesting is just - because a message is short, it does not mean the things that we may assume.
I have thought about his today and I often reply with short statements or single line questions. If they keep up the replying we eventually get a conversation going.
My usual reply to "tell me about you then?" is "what do you want to know?"
Some people need more specific questions - some only need broad ones.
Some people find it easy to waffle about them selves - others don't.
Yet we make assumptions about short replies in general - rather than what the short reply actually is.
