This is something that has been puzzling me a lot lately - and ThirtyfourD's excellent thread about single men's profiles made me think about it even more.
Neither Sappho nor I have played for a while and for reasons that I don't need to go into (ie they're personal) Sappho is not likely to be meeting anyone as a single or a couple at the moment.
Should I change my profile to a single male? The profile text would still make very clear that I am in a relationship with Sappho and that if I played alone it would be with her consent (she is always happy to confirm this separately if needed) as I have always felt that honesty is essential - to her above all, but to anyone else I meet too.
My concern is that a couple profile (even one that states we also meet alone) may lead people to believe that we will be meeting as a couple and that may (currently) give the wrong impression.
So, I am genuinely interested to hear people's opinions here. Should I retain the couple profile - but make it clear that Sappho is currently 'unavailable', or should I revert to a single male profile - but make it clear that Sappho is still very much in the picture and that everything I do is with her consent? Obviously, I am also discussing this with the lady herself, but I would also like to know the views of the people who I may be wishing to meet.
All comments (whether here or in my inbox) will be read with interest.
Will
Keep your couples profile...
Make reference to Sappho's profile in the text and amend Sappho's profile to lightly mirror yours (with regards to her not being active at present) :thumbup:
Best wishes to you and the lovely Sappho :-)
Ahhh, Steve. Always good to hear from you!
A very happy new year from us both!
Will & Sappho
I think, as long as you are being honest and that your profile makes it clear that you are not operating behind your partner's back then it shouldn't be a problem for any parties involved.
I've had conversations with the male half of 'so called couples on here' that have come to a halt when I asked to speak to their other half; makes me wonder sometimes if their partners even know that their pictures and details are on the site.
The fact that you thought about this Will puts you in a completely different category from the deceitful scoundrels that use swinging sites as a way to have affairs.
End of the day Will how do you define yourself? Sod what anyone else thinks, it's whatever terms you feel most comfortable using that you feel most accurately describe you and your situation. Please yourself first and foremost, you need explain nothing to anyone. Course you'll want to explain to some extent so again, be only as upfront on your public profile as you and Sappho feel most comfortable with. You can explain still further in private if anyone asks you to or you feel a need to.
Retaining your couple profile with an explanation of the situation in the text with some reciprocity with Sappho's profile as Steve suggested perhaps is enough. There'll only be room for confusion among those who don't actually bother to read the profile text before contacting you, and why worry about them? You'll have done enough for your part at least.
Good to see you back BTW Will. You're always missed. Sappho too. Happy New Year to you both.
ooooh FB - always nice to see those thighs! :twisted:
I knew that I would get honest impartial advice here - that's why I asked the question.
Thanks,
Will
Lovely to see you about the place. Been too long. Small hijack in progress, sure Will won't mind, should know to expect that by now really . . . So, how've you been?