Dear Doctor SH
Should I sleep with my friend?
Shes lovely we get on really well. We are both single. We are very very good mates, Shes pretty much asked last night if we wanna muck about... neither of us want a relationship..
but... I am worried that I will lose a good friendship and things will get awkward...
and I actually really like her.
What should I do? Should we just get on and let the juices flow, or be restrained and keep being good mates.
yrs horny but concerned of South London.
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Quote by sarflad
Dear Doctor SH
Should I sleep with my friend?
Shes lovely we get on really well. We are both single. We are very very good mates, Shes pretty much asked if we wanna muck about... neither of us want a relationship..
but... I am worried that I will lose a good friendship and things will get awkward.
and I actually really like her.
What should I do? Should we just get on and let the juices flow, or be restrained and keep being good mates.
yrs horny but concerned of South London.
One for Auntie Polo Lady I think.....!!
CC.....
Quote by dambuster
Now the subject has been mentioned she may find it difficult to cope with you if you dont take it any fruther?
Shag her ! !
just go for it,you only live once and all that,i have a very good friend and we have got "busy" on more than one occassion :!: we still get on fine,
I'm not sure you're asking in the right place.
Bare in mind you are asking on a swinger site and many of the people who use the Forum meet up with each other regularly and consider each other friends and also play together.
So whilst I would say "go for it", I'm not sure how this translates to a vanilla friendship
Bare in mind you are asking on a swinger site and many of the people who use the Forum meet up with each other regularly and consider each other friends and also play together.
So whilst I would say "go for it", I'm not sure how this translates to a vanilla friendship
Sex God
Firstly does she know you swing?
Id say no if its just a vanilla friendship, it may put a strain on it.
If its a swinging friendship then go for it, you both know what its about, and you can have a very good strong friendship even though your playing together as well as with other people
Id say no if its just a vanilla friendship, it may put a strain on it.
If its a swinging friendship then go for it, you both know what its about, and you can have a very good strong friendship even though your playing together as well as with other people
Orgasminator
I have had sex with vanilla friends and 1 of 2 things happen, it works out great or all fucking hell breaks loose.
So at the end of the day its up to you to decide, do you play it safe or dance with the devil !!
So at the end of the day its up to you to decide, do you play it safe or dance with the devil !!
Sex God
Quote by Alexandra
I have to agree with Sam.
You sound as if you are between a rock and a hard place.
If you have any concerns at all - don't do it.
But do talk it through to make sure she feels that you are not rejecting her.
Just my opinion though.
Hugs,
Alex
:worship: :worship: Simple yet very well thought out and reasoned advice :thumbup:
Alexandra has it nailed I think, talk to your friend about it, it doesn't have to get all heavy. Tell her that you'd love to but you are concerned that you don't want to damage such a good friendship. If you are both mature about it and understand the ground rules then why not??. I was in the same position a few years ago andnot only were we best mates we end up as FBs for a long time and even though we now live in different continents we still think very fondly of each other, so it can work but as in all things honesty is the best policy (with each other and also with yourself.)
Good luck I hope it all goes brilliantly for you.
Good luck I hope it all goes brilliantly for you.
Quote by Dawn_Mids
do you play it safe or dance with the devil !!
Dance with the devil :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
ALWAYS ! ! ! !
Throw caution to the wind.
If we all stopped to consider the consequences of our actions, we'd never do anything
*Disclaimer
I've never "dipped my toe" into anything. I always jump in with both feet. However - I try to do it with my eyes open. You know before hand what the risks are. Only YOU can decide for yourself whether a risk is worth taking.
All things in moderation ??
Fuck that !
If you're gonna do it, and enjoy it .............. DO IT TO EXCESS ! ! ! !
Well just my humble opinion but there are friends who are my soul mates and there are friends who I shag. I think the word friend can be used too lightly at times you know as there are people on here I call real friends but I would find it really difficult to play with as I love them as my friends and I dont ever want to loose that.
Now that doesnt mean I havent stayed friends with men I have played with (hands up how many can remember that moment lol lol) but it is not the same - I cant say I see them as soul mates and I know as time goes by we will be aquaitences rather than friends? Nothing wrong with that just moving on with life.
So Sarflad depends on how you see the future .................... good friends are worth their weight in gold ........... they are there at that darkest hour and at the highest points of success ........................... a shag isnt for life - but it sorts out the itch lol
However if you both fancy the pants off each other and the moment is right then just get and do it ffs lol thing is it will just happen anyway................................
good luck
Now that doesnt mean I havent stayed friends with men I have played with (hands up how many can remember that moment lol lol) but it is not the same - I cant say I see them as soul mates and I know as time goes by we will be aquaitences rather than friends? Nothing wrong with that just moving on with life.
So Sarflad depends on how you see the future .................... good friends are worth their weight in gold ........... they are there at that darkest hour and at the highest points of success ........................... a shag isnt for life - but it sorts out the itch lol
However if you both fancy the pants off each other and the moment is right then just get and do it ffs lol thing is it will just happen anyway................................
good luck
Many years ago (too many to think about :shock
my bestest ever female friend and I decided to test the water and slept together. It was one of the most erotic and exciting experiences we'd ever had and it was all the more special because of the friendship we had.
I fell in love
She fell off the end of the world
I found out later from her sister that she just wanted me to be a friend and couldn't handle the pressure of hurting me... so she cut all ties. To this day the times we spent together remain very precious to me and I'd give anything to go back to being just friends with her. :upset:
Moral of the story... if it ain't broke... don't try to fix it!
my bestest ever female friend and I decided to test the water and slept together. It was one of the most erotic and exciting experiences we'd ever had and it was all the more special because of the friendship we had.I fell in love
She fell off the end of the world
I found out later from her sister that she just wanted me to be a friend and couldn't handle the pressure of hurting me... so she cut all ties. To this day the times we spent together remain very precious to me and I'd give anything to go back to being just friends with her. :upset:
Moral of the story... if it ain't broke... don't try to fix it!
Quote by sarflad
Dear Doctor SH
Should I sleep with my friend?
Shes lovely we get on really well. We are both single. We are very very good mates, Shes pretty much asked last night if we wanna muck about... neither of us want a relationship..
but... I am worried that I will lose a good friendship and things will get awkward...
and I actually really like her.
What should I do? Should we just get on and let the juices flow, or be restrained and keep being good mates.
yrs horny but concerned of South London.
lol
A - Does she regularly have purely physical relationships with guys?
B- Are you aware of her sleeping with guys and then saying "cheers babe" and walking away?
C - Are you prepared for a relationship to start between you and your friend?
D - Has she ever demonstrated being able to seperate physical pleasure from emotional attachment?
If the answer is 'NO' to any/all of the above - keep the pecker in the pants and enjoy having someone you value as a friend.
:twisted: :lol: :twisted: :lol: :twisted: I think as long as you explained the situation to her first then there shouldn't be a problem"
maybe just a gentle " look you red hot man eating machine, i want ya ass babe and i want it now but don't want to lose your friendship, so how about we get bouncey and roughen up them sheets........"
Shaz x
maybe just a gentle " look you red hot man eating machine, i want ya ass babe and i want it now but don't want to lose your friendship, so how about we get bouncey and roughen up them sheets........"
Shaz x
Quote by constance
Should I sleep with my friend?
but... I am worried that I will lose a good friendship and things will get awkward...
and I actually really like her.
You've answered you're own questions there
Then again a good **** and she may become an even better friend!!!
Now the subject has been mentioned she may find it difficult to cope with you if you dont take it any fruther?
How friendly can you get ffs
cc_7up
Master of Sex
well i say go for it as we were both friends who started sleeping with each other and few months down the line we started going out and now 1yr on in happy relationship n live together so we say yer go 4 it
Master of Sex
if you're both happy about it and you obviously both want to do it,do it,I shag my friends and we're still always friends,if you can't shag your friends ,who can you shag,give her the seein to you think she deserves,john
Sex God
Not a great deal to add here (who said 'makes a change!' 
)
This is actually a really difficult decision and one that only you can make. None of us on here know the details of your friendship and so we're not in a position to judge. I can understand why you have thrown this open to the Forum - there are a lot of very wise and level headed people on here.
I suspect that part of your reason was also to try and get other people to help you make the decision because you were torn and not sure which way to go. That is not in any way meant as a criticism. It's perfectly understandable and is just human nature. The fact is, however, that no-one can decide for you.
I think the best advice has already been given. Talk to her. Try and find out how she feels. Make sure that you are not misreading the signs and let her know how you feel too. Tell her how much you value her friendship and make sure that she knows you don't want to lose it. The rest is for the two of you to decide.
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you luck with it. If it goes spectatularly well, then come back and tell us about it. We'll all be thrilled to bits for you.
Will
)This is actually a really difficult decision and one that only you can make. None of us on here know the details of your friendship and so we're not in a position to judge. I can understand why you have thrown this open to the Forum - there are a lot of very wise and level headed people on here.
I suspect that part of your reason was also to try and get other people to help you make the decision because you were torn and not sure which way to go. That is not in any way meant as a criticism. It's perfectly understandable and is just human nature. The fact is, however, that no-one can decide for you.
I think the best advice has already been given. Talk to her. Try and find out how she feels. Make sure that you are not misreading the signs and let her know how you feel too. Tell her how much you value her friendship and make sure that she knows you don't want to lose it. The rest is for the two of you to decide.
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you luck with it. If it goes spectatularly well, then come back and tell us about it. We'll all be thrilled to bits for you.
Will
Quote by tonup
Alexandra has it nailed I think, talk to your friend about it, it doesn't have to get all heavy. Tell her that you'd love to but you are concerned that you don't want to damage such a good friendship. If you are both mature about it and understand the ground rules then why not??. I was in the same position a few years ago andnot only were we best mates we end up as FBs for a long time and even though we now live in different continents we still think very fondly of each other, so it can work but as in all things honesty is the best policy (with each other and also with yourself.)
Good luck I hope it all goes brilliantly for you.
Go with honesty! Then if you still both want to............
Quote by Sassy-Seren
As long as you're both single and have nothing to complicate things then I'd go for it. It really depends if you're going to develop it into a relationship or just be fuck buddies. Knowing what you both want from this from the start is essential.
I have an of/on mate of mine I've known for best part of six years she's wonderful to know always a giggle to be with. When I slept with her the only problem she had was my lifestyle I wasn't honest with her to begin with & I think that's what caused the problems... Now she knows that I'm not the one woman guy she's looking for we're just having no-strings fun HER CHOICE!!!
Honesty IS always the best policy!
Now tell her about your lifestyle - not all the gory details... let her know what your thinking so she can make her own mind up
cor im touched at the breath of opinion and advice. thanks alot.
yeah this a fucking stupid place to ask!
*** youre all crazy and love fucking! *** LOL!!!
- I sort of forgot you lot are sex mad
look at that ...
NEVER get shagged off here - just come for agony advice! Whats that about!
im too nice!
well it nearly all happened on friday - and i kind of put the breaks on (idiot!!) ... cos I think if it will happen better to do it with eyes open I rekon. but maybe i think i should have just dived in . so confused.
but.. yeah she knows Im a.... errrr... "sexual maverick"... so that side of things is fine..
so what happens from there we'll see.
But yep she is what i would class as a genuine friend. Like a real one.
and I think im right to be cautious, and not muck up something valuble.
thanks
xxx
p.s. AWWW. nice aint I?... :-)
p.p.s ...and if any ones out there who wants to give me more personal advice on procedures and techniques...let me know!
ill try and keep you posted!
yeah this a fucking stupid place to ask!
*** youre all crazy and love fucking! *** LOL!!!
- I sort of forgot you lot are sex mad
look at that ...
NEVER get shagged off here - just come for agony advice! Whats that about!
im too nice!
well it nearly all happened on friday - and i kind of put the breaks on (idiot!!) ... cos I think if it will happen better to do it with eyes open I rekon. but maybe i think i should have just dived in . so confused.
but.. yeah she knows Im a.... errrr... "sexual maverick"... so that side of things is fine..
so what happens from there we'll see.
But yep she is what i would class as a genuine friend. Like a real one.
and I think im right to be cautious, and not muck up something valuble.
thanks
xxx
p.s. AWWW. nice aint I?... :-)
p.p.s ...and if any ones out there who wants to give me more personal advice on procedures and techniques...let me know!
ill try and keep you posted!
