Newbie here. My wife and I (we're 25) have only ever had sex together (we were teenage sweethearts you could say), and lately (last 1 1/2 years or so) our bedroom sex talk has had a lot of fantasies of other people together with us. We talk about it a lot during sex, and I would love to see her get banged by another man, and she says she would love to see me fuck another woman. I would like a threesome both ways MFM and MFF, and she says she would like it and that it turns her on. She loves watching porn with me and fantasizing about other people licking her clit, and banging her, as well as me with others. When I've gone out, I've never cheated on her, but I've told her I did a couple of times (told her the truth afterwards) and she got REALLY hot with it and we had great sex.
Here's my question. Do you think we should act out this fantasy of sex with other people? We're from Canada, and going to Italy this September for our anniversary, and I think this would be a perfect time to try to have a couple of threesomes, but I don't want it to harm our relationship. I would hate to see us act this out and really regret it afterwards. I'm sure I wouldn't. I can't speak for her though. I've thought about just surprising her one night with a threesome with another girl (she really wants to try another girl). Would this be a good idea?
I know that this forum is full of people who love group sex, so the opinions might be a little bias, but any constructive suggestions would be appreciated.
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Should I surprise my wife?
Sex God
It is not long since the last time this sort of question was asked in here - I think it's worth repeating what I wrote then: I would advise people only to swing with others where there is full agreement beforehand at all times by all participants. A scenario like yours is fraught with danger - how on earth can you be sure that your partner will be in the mood for a "surprise" as you call it? Complications could so easily occur...at worst an assault charge.
Mike.
Mike.
Sex God
Noooooooooooooo........... very bad idea. I reckon plenty of experienced swingers wouldn't like such a "suprise" being sprung on them never mind someone who's never done anything like it before. It will open up a can of worms that really might not be nice.
Seems you are on the right road by both talking about it, though I'd go with the advice above, though when you say "surprise" I am guessing you mean as in a surprise present for her... so your intention is OK, but the reality might bite you hard.
Have fun exploring your fantasies now, and when you want to take it further I'd say BOTH of you be involved.... it really is the only option you have.
Maybe visit a swinging club together, if you have one in Canada, or explore the soft-swing option first before you dive in the deep end...
Many a fantasy is ruined by reality.
Have fun exploring your fantasies now, and when you want to take it further I'd say BOTH of you be involved.... it really is the only option you have.
Maybe visit a swinging club together, if you have one in Canada, or explore the soft-swing option first before you dive in the deep end...
Many a fantasy is ruined by reality.
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Just another thought - this is a UK Swingers Site. Since when did Canada become part of the UK? :shock:
Mal
Mal
Quote by bluexxx
Noooooooooooooo........... very bad idea. I reckon plenty of experienced swingers wouldn't like such a "suprise" being sprung on them never mind someone who's never done anything like it before. It will open up a can of worms that really might not be nice.
I agree with bluexxx
talk about it and plan it carfully together
We talked a lot about our fantasies before we acted on them. I think it was a good two years before we started checking out websites and the swinging scene before we took the plunge. Surprises are not a good idea. I think like others have said you both need to be commited and a club is the best way to get started. Remember you don't have to participate in a club. You can just go and soak up the atmosphere and watch others. Then you can both make up your minds to see if it is for you or not.
Master of Sex
put the shoe on the other foot. would you be happy if your wife did what your planning?
