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This system seems very unfair or it's broken?
Despite the fact we've been here for a few years on and off, we only turned it on at the start of this week. Since then we've left rep every time we're prompted, feels like at least 20 times and so far only 2 people have left it for us. Now I know you could easily think we must be horrible and no one wants to leave rep for us, but we only have poilte, friendly exchanges with people even if it's a no thanks. So what gives? Are they just ignoring it or are we being prompted to leave rep and they're not?
Might as well switch it off again if people can't be bothered to use it fairly smile
Any thoughts?
Unknown User
I guess the thing is, not everyone puts store by it so it might not occur to them to do it.
Plus, are they all people you know well? We've had people message us about our pictures and it's been no more than us replying thanks and perhaps one other reply then we've had a SHREP notification. Personally, I wouldn't really send one at that point as I know very little about that person and wouldn't know what to say.
Have you tried asking some of the people you know best if they would mind submitting feedback?
Unknown User
Well, the ones we do know well are the 2 who've so far returned the rep... so perhaps you're right and we're being over zealous in leaving rep for people we don't really know. It's all part of the way we live, treating others as we'd like to be treated, but in this instance I suspect you're right. Perhaps we should hit the delete button instead when all we've done is exchange a couple of messages. I'm a bit paranoid about not leaving things undone and dealing with things promptly, so I don't like seeing these bright boxes with numbers in them that scream... DO SOMETHING NOW smile
Unknown User
Quote by DM_Couple
I'm a bit paranoid about not leaving things undone and dealing with things promptly, so I don't like seeing these bright boxes with numbers in them that scream... DO SOMETHING NOW smile

I know exactly what you mean I'm the same! Little, demanding red box screaming for attention :eeek:
It's lovely that you're doing that for people but, as you are finding, not everyone will do the same - not at all because of anything you have done but just because people don't use it the same way.
Unknown User
SHrep can appear to some a tad confusing, I only recently learnt how to leave feedback thanks to the assistance of HnS.
Maybe that's why fewer people have left feedback than you had anticipated :confused:
HnS
Sex God
DM,
some people deal with their's every day/time they log on, others only every so often.
granted for the ones you've Shrep'd, have they logged on since ?
also, whilst Shrep isn't hard, some people do seem to struggle with it and although they have it enabled it's only when some one shows or talks them through it does the penny drop and they start completing outstanding items.
Unknown User
I'm sure you're all making valid points and we'll certainly leave it on for longer. I guess I just wanted some reassurance the system isn't broken smile I agree it's not that straight forward to use, but it didn't seem to be too difficult. There again, that's probably all part of my keep things tidy OCD :)
Thank you.
Unknown User
well...if you need some Meet shrep always willing to assist... :twisted:
See never miss an opportunity me..... lol
Unknown User
Quote by deancannock
well...if you need some Meet shrep always willing to assist... :twisted:
See never miss an opportunity me..... lol

Always so helpful Dean!
And oi, where did my quote on your status go!! lol x
whiplash
Orgasminator
am struggling on how to leave a shrep for someone...have done it loads of times before but for some reason its just not working today......think the old grey matter has finally packed up lol
Unknown User
Quote by deancannock
well...if you need some Meet shrep always willing to assist... :twisted:
See never miss an opportunity me..... lol

151 Miles... as the crow flies... are you a crow? smile In any case, how long does it take a crow to fly a mile? Just checking out the feasibility :)
Unknown User
The only kind of shrep we pay attention to is that for real meets but even then some of the people we have met we have been unable to leave shrep for as they dont have shrep switched on
Unknown User
Quote by DM_Couple
well...if you need some Meet shrep always willing to assist... :twisted:
See never miss an opportunity me..... lol

151 Miles... as the crow flies... are you a crow? smile In any case, how long does it take a crow to fly a mile? Just checking out the feasibility :)
more of an eagle...lol....but hey work down that way quite often....so never a problem...oh I like the shrep meet thing...you never kbnow it might actually work...lol
M1ssVery
Master of Sex
I think for Shrep to be truly honest feedback that others can refer to it needs to be submitted after getting to know the person(s) quite well.
Leaving Shrep after a message or 2 can be misleading to others who look at it because at that stage you yourselves don't really know them..
So yes, I agree with others, I only submit feedback for people I regularly chat to or have met and i am relatively sure they are "nice friendly and genuine" ;) And if they forget to submit mine, I prompt them ;)
One thing though, do we really need a Site and a Vouch one? Think it's enough to have one for online communication and one for meets.
whiplash
Orgasminator
Quote by M1ssVery
I think for Shrep to be truly honest feedback that others can refer to it needs to be submitted after getting to know the person(s) quite well.
Leaving Shrep after a message or 2 can be misleading to others who look at it because at that stage you yourselves don't really know them..
So yes, I agree with others, I only submit feedback for people I regularly chat to or have met and i am relatively sure they are "nice friendly and genuine" ;) And if they forget to submit mine, I prompt them ;)
One thing though, do we really need a Site and a Vouch one? Think it's enough to have one for online communication and one for meets.

I hardly ever leave shrep tbh missvery but i do feel as if a shrep needs to be left if only to warn other single females....I very rarely meet single guys, in fact i think its about 4 in all my 6 yrs on here, however i met up with one the other week n he was really nice, polite considerate etc etc to the point i deceided to meet up with him again.
We went to a club as he had never been to one before and we went to 'play' in the main room (as ya do lol) Now apart from my time spent owning a swingers club I have never been to one where there are single guys..have always gone on cpls nights...so i was intimidated to say the least when i found us surrounded by half a dozen single guys but hey ho when in rome lol, I was shocked to discover tho mid play the guy i was with had left the room to watch someone else & i was virtually alone with 6 guys none of whome I had met before...I actually felt quite scared, ok in cold light of day that sounds silly but at the time it certainly wasnt silly
....his excuse ..he didnt understand club etiquette.
Trust me tho he saved the best till last...he left me in club 25 miles from home with no way of getting back!!!
If it wasnt for the fact I knew someone who was in the club who kindly came and picked me up (as they had just left)and let me stay at their house and brought me home this morning THANK YOU MRS CROMPTON xxxxxxxxxxxxx then i dont know what i would have done.
Am disappointed with myself as in all my years on here I have never put myself in a position where i cannot get home or have put my safety at risk!!!!
If ever there was a need for a name & shame ..this is it!!!!!
little__gem
Sex God
Whips, What a horrible experience and learning curve. Glad you got back OK.
SHrep does not account for lack of caring in other people and will not really replace gut instinct as to whether someone is going to be safe to meet or not. That is one of many reasons I do not have SHrep enabled.
kiss LG.x
neilinleeds
Sex God
You said:
Quote by DM_Couple
This system seems very unfair or it's broken?

Later on you said:
we're being over zealous in leaving rep for people we don't really know.

Why are you leaving rep for people you don't really know? D'you think that's useful, for anyone? If so, how? confused
Any thoughts?

Yup. Not being harsh, but I think you've answered your own question?
N x
Unknown User
Quote by neilinleeds
You said:
This system seems very unfair or it's broken?

Later on you said:
we're being over zealous in leaving rep for people we don't really know.

Why are you leaving rep for people you don't really know? D'you think that's useful, for anyone? If so, how? confused
Any thoughts?

Yup. Not being harsh, but I think you've answered your own question?
N x
Gee, thanks for stating the obvious. We'd never have worked that one out on our own. Talk about quoting out of context, are you a politician? If not, you should be smile
Lost
Sex God
Quote by DM_Couple
quoting out of context

Hang around, it's an art form you'll see used quite often in forum lol
neilinleeds
Sex God
Quote by Lost
quoting out of context

Hang around, it's an art form you'll see used quite often in forum lol
Oi you, out of context how?
DM, you asked why doesn't SHREP work for you, then you told us how you were using SHREP, then I subtly ( or as subtly as I can get! ) tried to suggest in the nicest possible way how the way you were trying to use SHREP was meaningless, and useless, as per your own discovery, so not sure how I quoted anything you said out of context? If it seems I was stating the bleedin' obvious, well, a little tiny part of me says 'ask a silly question, get a silly answer' but I'm not about to feel bad about it, cos:
1) you asked a question inviting a reply, and we are being adult and having a conversation, aren't we?
2) see above
N x
skinny
Sex God
SHREP.....sounds like a bad name for a mutt....people have left shrep for me, and I have no idea how to reciprocate. I've read the posts, but I'm none the wiser, so I just stay mute rather than hit the wrong buttons and cause offence which I then can't then retract.
M1ssVery
Master of Sex
Quote by whiplash
I think for Shrep to be truly honest feedback that others can refer to it needs to be submitted after getting to know the person(s) quite well.
Leaving Shrep after a message or 2 can be misleading to others who look at it because at that stage you yourselves don't really know them..
So yes, I agree with others, I only submit feedback for people I regularly chat to or have met and i am relatively sure they are "nice friendly and genuine" ;) And if they forget to submit mine, I prompt them ;)
One thing though, do we really need a Site and a Vouch one? Think it's enough to have one for online communication and one for meets.

I hardly ever leave shrep tbh missvery but i do feel as if a shrep needs to be left if only to warn other single females....I very rarely meet single guys, in fact i think its about 4 in all my 6 yrs on here, however i met up with one the other week n he was really nice, polite considerate etc etc to the point i deceided to meet up with him again.
We went to a club as he had never been to one before and we went to 'play' in the main room (as ya do lol) Now apart from my time spent owning a swingers club I have never been to one where there are single guys..have always gone on cpls nights...so i was intimidated to say the least when i found us surrounded by half a dozen single guys but hey ho when in rome lol, I was shocked to discover tho mid play the guy i was with had left the room to watch someone else & i was virtually alone with 6 guys none of whome I had met before...I actually felt quite scared, ok in cold light of day that sounds silly but at the time it certainly wasnt silly
....his excuse ..he didnt understand club etiquette.
Trust me tho he saved the best till last...he left me in club 25 miles from home with no way of getting back!!!
If it wasnt for the fact I knew someone who was in the club who kindly came and picked me up (as they had just left)and let me stay at their house and brought me home this morning THANK YOU MRS CROMPTON xxxxxxxxxxxxx then i dont know what i would have done.
Am disappointed with myself as in all my years on here I have never put myself in a position where i cannot get home or have put my safety at risk!!!!
If ever there was a need for a name & shame ..this is it!!!!!
wow whiplash that is some anecdote! Firstly, glad you are ok! And secondly, I don't think you should be disappointed in yourself- no amount of Shreping or character checking could have pre-warned you about this..
I think we always need to be very careful when we meet ANYONE (no matter how experienced we are), but sometimes you just don't know! Although scared, you kept your wits about you and got yourself out.
i think the number of active members would decline very quickly if people could name and shame.. ;)
mincepie
Warming the Bed
Quote by neilinleeds
Oi you, out of context how?

By leaving out the natural progression of the discussion - OP asked a question, they got an answer, they took the new information in and reconsidered their approach... You chose to disregard this learning process and pick two lines from two separate posts to make it appear that the OP were contradicting themselves - when in fact they were thinking aloud, and deciding to adjust their use of the facility.
Quote by M1ssVery
One thing though, do we really need a Site and a Vouch one?

I agree there's something amiss there - especially as the Site rep cannot include chat feedback. Chat being a SHrep blackhole is also one thing that puts me off the rep system somewhat.
I have a question of my own - vouches for people you haven't met? What do you all think about that?
Quote by whiplash
....his excuse ..he didnt understand club etiquette.
Trust me tho he saved the best till last...he left me in club 25 miles from home with no way of getting back!!!

Such a sad and shocking story! All the more so because it happened to someone with your experience. Also shocking that this was a follow-on meet, you'd expect that a person's reliability is a known quantity when you've met before is a known quantity, but it sounds like putting him in a totally unknown environment destabilised him and brought out the worst in him (I can't explain it any other way). My heart goes out to anybody who is meeting alone (including the men!), when things go wrong it can put you in a very vulnerable position. Unfortunately I doubt even leaving bad SHrep would give enough of warning, as most users with negative SHrep will choose not to display it. dunno
neilinleeds
Sex God
Quote by mincepie
Oi you, out of context how?

By leaving out the natural progression of the discussion - OP asked a question, they got an answer, they took the new information in and reconsidered their approach... You chose to disregard this learning process and pick two lines from two separate posts to make it appear that the OP were contradicting themselves - when in fact they were thinking aloud, and deciding to adjust their use of the facility.
Or alternatively, I was simply trying to reinforce an argument they'd already made in answer to their own question re: the brokenness or otherwise of SHREP ( for the record, I think it's plain that if people use it that way, repping people they don't even know, it will inevitably be broken. That's all. ) but I take your point. Having re-read the thread I also now understand it was probably more of a technical question than a philosophical one. :doh: rolleyes
DM, apologies for being an arse. Not my intention.
Unknown User
" as most users with negative SHrep will choose not to display it. "
Sorry, but I've perused many a profile where the OP has chosen to display negative feedback and I for one if left negative SHrep would display it on my profile.
Lost
Sex God
Quote by neilinleeds
quoting out of context

Hang around, it's an art form you'll see used quite often in forum lol
Oi you, out of context how?
N x
Awww man I didn't mean to refer that statement to you Neil, Definitely didn't mean you, just in general terms. I can see how you took it out of context though. I probably would of done too. Just goes to show how easily it can happen especially when I'm posting at silly O'clock time. Please accept my apology.
Oh and just to add. We always thought you were more gay than you are ;)
xx
mincepie
Warming the Bed
neilinleeds, what a naughty, well-behaved dog-bunny you are lol To be fair, I believe "broken" was used to denote a possible technical issue rather than the efficiency/value of the rep system.
paddy, I should have possibly written "many" instead of "most" just to be moderate ;) But I am an avid SHrep browser and whenever I notice a neg comment I always check to read it, and often fail. My impression is more people choose to hide than not. If I am talking to the people and feel enough connection I will ask about it, and it is usually misunderstandings and petty stuff, which makes me wonder why they don't just display it and let readers make their own mind. For the record, a few months ago I had been left a negative in error and I did display that, with pride :lol: but it was edited out by mods without my prompting dunno
neilinleeds
Sex God
Quote by mincepie
To be fair, I believe "broken" was used to denote a possible technical issue rather than the efficiency/value of the rep system.

Probably got in with the edit as you were typing? See above! :P ;)
Quote by Lost
Oh and just to add. We always thought you were more gay than you are
xx

Hahahahaha! Piss off! kiss
N x
Unknown User
Quote by mincepie
Oi you, out of context how?

By leaving out the natural progression of the discussion - OP asked a question, they got an answer, they took the new information in and reconsidered their approach... You chose to disregard this learning process and pick two lines from two separate posts to make it appear that the OP were contradicting themselves - when in fact they were thinking aloud, and deciding to adjust their use of the facility.
Thank you, very well explained and an accurate representation of the entire process that took place.
Quote by neilinleeds
DM, apologies for being an arse. Not my intention.

No worries, and absolutely accepted. We try not to take any forum or otherwise written activity too seriously. Without facial expression and other visible clues it's all too easy to take it all out of context.
Life is good smile