Shying Away from Munch Meeting

28 Sep 2005

Now and then, we get newbie asking for advice on meet and one of the usual recommendations they get is for them to attend a Munch. Would this be a problem for some of you out there?
For me personally, Iâ€™d be more worried sick of meeting someone I know from the workplace or neighborhood etc. I wonder if this has happened to anybody as with the case of the major regional Munch expected to have up to 300 people attending.
Iâ€™ve actually met a staff from my workplace in my partnerâ€™s â€˜grandishâ€™ party held outside our regionâ€¦crikey. Obviously I was very happy to see this person and we chatted merrily but at a Munch, Jesus what would you say?
redface

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28 Sep 2005

You're as likely to meet someone you know from RL at a munch as you are at a swinging club... however you're all at a swingers meet so who cares. No-one is gonna say anything about it afterwards cos you were all there for the same reason... social drinks and curious about swinging...
dunno

Problem solved! biggrin

28 Sep 2005

Quote by lusty_modesty
. . . . and we chatted merrily but at a Munch, Jesus what would you say?
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"Hello. Fancy seeing you here. Pint is it ? "
drinkies

28 Sep 2005

once you get past the inital shock i don't see what problem there would be.... they are at the munch for the same reason as you are... and there are enough other people at them that if you really didn't want to see them again it would be do-able,
please don't let that put you off... and it is a good chance to catch up with friends and make new ones along the way....
sean xxxxxxxxxx

28 Sep 2005

Quote by lusty_modesty
Jesus what would you say?

I don't think he'd agree with the whole principal of swinging, but my view is like the others..... You're all there for the same reason so if you see other's there you know they have nothing on you that you don't have on them. If it's someone attractive you might even get lucky with them wink

28 Sep 2005

Quote by little gem
You're as likely to meet someone you know from RL at a munch as you are at a swinging club... however you're all at a swingers meet so who cares. No-one is gonna say anything about it afterwards cos you were all there for the same reason... social drinks and curious about swinging...

Problem solved!

Actually, this did happen to us, and YES they did say something to others banghead

All I can say is, always go with your instincts Lusty. :!:

28 Sep 2005

i have to admit that bumping into someone i know at a munch or club bothers me not at all, after all we are all here for the same reason, and they are hardly going to tell everyone are they now
we bumped into my hubby boss at a club about 3 years ago

28 Sep 2005

i could see it leading to two things:
1. uncomfortable silences around the work place
orrrrr
2. amusing discussions about 'what we did at weekend'

28 Sep 2005

Quote by lusty_modesty
For me personally, Iâ€™d be more worried sick of meeting someone I know from the workplace or neighborhood etc. I wonder if this has happened to anybody as with the case of the major regional Munch expected to have up to 300 people attending.

I'd be horrified. Last thing I want to do at a Munch is talk shop. lol

28 Sep 2005

Well I have to admit - as others have said - even if you did meet someone you know...
They would be there for the very same reason - so I wouldn't worry.
I have only been to one big munch (more's the pity) however it was held in an area where I know quite a few people - and I didn't see anyone I knew.
I wasn't wearing my specs - so that could have been the reason.
However - what I did do was meet some lovely people!
I would stop worrying about it too much.
After all it is only a social evening.
Alex x

28 Sep 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
I'd be horrified. Last thing I want to do at a Munch is talk shop.

I couldn't agree more, Ice!!!! :lol:
Mal
wink

28 Sep 2005

Quote by Mal

I'd be horrified. Last thing I want to do at a Munch is talk shop.

I couldn't agree more, Ice!!!! :lol:
Mal
wink

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i just read that and thought .....good point

28 Sep 2005

I find the prospect of munching by turns exhilarating and terrifying, but then it's early days for me on here. For various reasons including the possibility however remote of meeting someone I know, specially a workmate. Intellectually I realise that's irrational, but I've not managed to convince myself of that yet - I think I'd let out a involuntary girly shriek and run for cover biggrin

!
I wonder if 'munch anxiety' is one of those things that you instantly forget what it was like, and how awful it was, once it's over, like the last half of a marathon? Perhaps we need a special Munch for the Apprehensive First Timers?

28 Sep 2005

Quote by bigDewi69
Jesus what would you say?

I don't think he'd agree with the whole principal of swinging wink

Good one! LOL! rotflmao

28 Sep 2005

Oh God Almighty! :shock: Hope the job got easier after that. wink

LOL!

28 Sep 2005

Quote by dambuster
. . . . and we chatted merrily but at a Munch, Jesus what would you say?
ops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops:

"Hello. Fancy seeing you here. Pint is it ? "
drinkies

I love that phrase. You guys are soooo.....funny. rotflmao

28 Sep 2005

Quote by Alexandra
I have only been to one big munch (more's the pity) however it was held in an area where I know quite a few people - and I didn't see anyone I knew.
I wasn't wearing my specs - so that could have been the reason.
Alex x

LAUGHED MYSELF TO CRYING!!!

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

28 Sep 2005

Quote by DarkEyedPhil
I wonder if 'munch anxiety' is one of those things that you instantly forget what it was like, and how awful it was, once it's over, like the last half of a marathon? Perhaps we need a special Munch for the Apprehensive First Timers?

Personally I think Munches the way they are now are already ideal for apprehensive first timers. The first Munch I went to I went on my own and didn't know anybody. I was apprehensive walking in because I didn't know what to expect, but I was welcomed like an old friend and very quickly felt quite at home. I've lost count of the number I've been to now, must be at least a dozen, and I've always been heartened to see how many people make a point of looking after the newcomers, making sure they're not sat on their own.
One thing I would say to first timers is if you're not very well known, try to make yourself a bit more visible beforehand in the forums or the chat room. It's much easier to break the ice when people recognise your name. smile

28 Sep 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
One thing I would say to first timers is if you're not very well known, try to make yourself a bit more visible beforehand in the forums or the chat room. It's much easier to break the ice when people recognise your name.

and then you get .....
Oh YOU are <xxxxx> are you???????
Then you find the night flies by so quick that you don't have time to chat to everyone!
Eh Ice?

28 Sep 2005

Quote by little gem
You're as likely to meet someone you know from RL at a munch as you are at a swinging club... however you're all at a swingers meet so who cares. No-one is gonna say anything about it afterwards cos you were all there for the same reason... social drinks and curious about swinging...

Problem solved!

This may be true to some but what happens when a married cpl with teenage kids family business etc bump into a middle aged perv who would like nothing better than to tell the world and his brother who he met and where!!!! this man publicly enjoys telling about his adventures and, seeing as tho hes single got no family and nothing to loose, would take a great deal of pleasure in telling everyone he knew about meeting the said married cpl!!
On the other hand we have bumped into people we know and we just dealt with the situation because they were in the same boat as us!! We dont know who were the most embarassed! lol
So as you can see we are not all in the same boat and we dont all have the same to loose.
Mr goodtimez

28 Sep 2005

I think my reaction would largely depend on 2 things....
1) Are they female
2) Have I got any chance lmao
seriously, wouldn't (and didn't) bother me at all when it did happen, nor would it if it happened again.

28 Sep 2005

Quote by lusty_modesty
Now and then, we get newbie asking for advice on meet and one of the usual recommendations they get is for them to attend a Munch. Would this be a problem for some of you out there?
For me personally, Iâ€™d be more worried sick of meeting someone I know from the workplace or neighborhood etc. I wonder if this has happened to anybody as with the case of the major regional Munch expected to have up to 300 people attending.
Iâ€™ve actually met a staff from my workplace in my partnerâ€™s â€˜grandishâ€™ party held outside our regionâ€¦crikey. Obviously I was very happy to see this person and we chatted merrily but at a Munch, Jesus what would you say?
ops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops:

Er........ if you meet ppl at a 'sex' party that you know / recognise they can hardly grass on you coz you can grass on them...
If being 'outed' as a swinger is such a big issue maybe you should be a swinger at all....... I had this discussion in the chat room and got shot down in flames but I still have the opinion that if someone doesn't like me or my lifestyle then fook them .... this is my life and it's expiring by the minute... !!!

28 Sep 2005

Quote by Wishmaster
Er........ if you meet ppl at a 'sex' party that you know / recognise they can hardly grass on you coz you can grass on them...

Errrrrrr a munch is NOT a sex party!
Many non swingers actually attend too - they just enjoy the sociability of the forum and munches.

28 Sep 2005

Quote by Wishmaster
Er........ if you meet ppl at a 'sex' party that you know / recognise they can hardly grass on you coz you can grass on them...
And what happens if they are already "out" ... you can hardly grass them then but they can still out you.
If being 'outed' as a swinger is such a big issue maybe you should be a swinger at all.......
So people who wish to keep aspects of their swinging life private shouldn't be swingers? Should we all tell our friends, families, employers? ....why??? I've no objection in anyone being open about swinging and hope it all stays rosy for them but don't include us in it.
I had this discussion in the chat room and got shot down in flames but I still have the opinion that if someone doesn't like me or my lifestyle then fook them .... this is my life and it's expiring by the minute... !!!

And it's their life too so they should choose what to do as and when they want to just as you obviously do.

28 Sep 2005

Quote by Alexandra

One thing I would say to first timers is if you're not very well known, try to make yourself a bit more visible beforehand in the forums or the chat room. It's much easier to break the ice when people recognise your name.

and then you get .....
Oh YOU are <xxxxx> are you???????
Then you find the night flies by so quick that you don't have time to chat to everyone!
Eh Ice?
Especially when someone wants to monopolise the most gorgeous woman in the room. Now who would want to do a thing like that? ;)
kiss

28 Sep 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
One thing I would say to first timers is if you're not very well known, try to make yourself a bit more visible beforehand in the forums or the chat room. It's much easier to break the ice when people recognise your name.

I agree with Ice. I have also been to many munches, and the newbies whom I've observed feeling most awkward (at the start of the munch anyway) turn out to be the ones who haven't posted much, or who have only posted in "let's meet up". The more you've joined in discussions in the cafe, (or the chat room I suppose, I don't go there that often) the more you will find that people already know you (in a way) and the easier it becomes to break the ice.
Mike.

28 Sep 2005

I think frankly that when you get to a certain age you also get to a point where you just couldn't give a flying fuck.
I don't mean this in the sense of not caring about other people's feelings and sensibilities but there are some areas of my life where I just don't give a toss for what someone may think of me. It's my life, I don't set out to be censorial of others or give them grief, so as far as I'm concerned if they have a problem it's their problem and not a part of my agenda.
I don't suppose there's a human being on the face of this planet who doesn't have a few skeletons knocking about in their closet. It's just a normal part of the human condition.
biggrin

:D :D :D

28 Sep 2005

Quote by Alexandra
I wasn't wearing my specs - so that could have been the reason.
Alex x

Have you noticed when you take your specs off, your face goes all blurry?

28 Sep 2005

It might just be that it's all part of the fun!.... rolleyes

Imagine for a wee moment....
Yikes! "Hi mum I thought you said ' The slimmers club '
now that would be a good laugh lol

On a more serious note(Q for a song) maybe meeting someone that u know would actually help u settle into the swing of things and see ur self for what u are.....
A HAPPY GO LUCKY SWINGER..or am I just kiddin myself.
Ultimately who cares,
you are what you are so make the most of it and enjoy.... biggrin

28 Sep 2005

Quote by leandy15
you are what you are so make the most of it and enjoy....

And you are who you choose to become if you work hard enough at it.
I'm now about 70% ES and 30% the other me. By the time I pop off I'll be 100% ES and ready for the big cosmic SH.
I reckon that's something to look forward to. :D :D :D
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