Quote by Shireen_Mids
:lol2: :lol2: :lol2: It was Dave and Debbie
I am off to slap Steve
give him one from me, the little winker
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single bi female...the holy grail?
Quote by Shireen_Mids
Even those of us that have oodles of confidence still find fault with ourselves H
I agree with that. Surprisingly despite an apparent air of confidence I am one of the least confident/shy people going
I'd much rather be led by someone else than make the first move and I will take full blame for Morbius and myself not having more encounters purely on the basis that I'm nervous.We've not really worked on the sort of bi-femwe would like to join us, but I guess personality is a biggie, and physical attraction has to be there to a degree. "Asset" wise then I don't think that's a concern or either is us
Cx
Ok, so I've so far managed to agree with points that Shireen, DavenDebbie and H-x have all made (too many to list and, well, can't be arsed to start pasting bits left right and centre.....!)
I guess a huge part of it is down to having the confidence (and brass balls) to say "sod it, you can't say what if all the time, I'm gonna email this woman and if she says no, it aint the end of the world".
Don't hold your breath though.............. :smile2:
I guess a huge part of it is down to having the confidence (and brass balls) to say "sod it, you can't say what if all the time, I'm gonna email this woman and if she says no, it aint the end of the world".
Don't hold your breath though.............. :smile2:
Quote by Shireen_Mids
Now what you have said is interesting because I have had several replies to my ad and when I have looked at their profile I think there isn't much point going on as the lady is very slim and very attractive so therefore I am not in their league
That ^ ^ ^ ^, or maybe your last post Shireen is just human nature - and one of the greatest misconceptions.
One that I've fallen foul of, a few times, and I'm sure many many others have too.
As an aside, I first met HLB because she wanted to meet a single guy, socially, to try to gauge whether we (the single guys) were mad, bad axe murderers.
I was determined on that first meet - before I'd even seen her - that I wasn't going to "hit on her" or indeed, sow any seeds for future play meets.
When I did meet her, it was easy to stick to my "plan" because within 30 seconds of being in her company; I had decided that she was way out of my league. And I'm talking about swinging/playing - let alone what did actually happen over the ensuing months !
Not many people know that, so keep it to yourself, will ya
Oh - and for the record - if I was under 40 and lived 20 miles away - this half of the couple would definitely want to be answering your ad :twisted: and I only say this half because I wouldn't presume to talk for her :wink:
In fact ................... if you take an average of mine and her age, it comes in at 38 :shock:
And ...............................................
Apparently, we're going to be on your doorstep this weekend :shock:
*time for a lie down methinks
Orgasminator
Quote by Calista
We've not really worked on the sort of bi-femwe would like to join us, but I guess personality is a biggie, and physical attraction has to be there to a degree. "Asset" wise then I don't think that's a concern or either is us
Cx
HUH speak for yourself!!!
I want a woman around 5 1/2 feet, brunette, big boobs and an arse to die for
.......... oh hold on :confused: .....
...I have that one, so yeah not really fussed on the 3rd of a 3some :twisted: :grin:
:scared: Quote by dambuster
We would have been at the same place had we not been going motor racing this weekend
That's one of the nicest fLuck offs I've ever had. Thank you :inlove:
Where did I say fluck off?? Huh?? Huh?? *Pokes tongue out and runs off giggling*
Sex God
yes we did see u in lmu
but being 171 miles away .................................
could u move to london????
but being 171 miles away .................................
could u move to london????
Sex God
Quote by twos_company
yes we did see u in lmu
but being 171 miles away .................................
could u move to london????
You wont like it there hun, honest, it's dirty and it smells a bit (london that is)
Come move to the country, Wiltshire's quite nice this time of year
Quote by sexkittenhfx
most of the regular couples on here have no profile or advert so ive no idea who to approach and who not to most of the time! but that debate is in another thread i think......lol
Just to bring this point back up, I have just received a reply to my ad and when I looked at their profile there was no information at all, no pics and no ad so how am I supposed to decide if I think I would like to engage in a conversation??
They didn't send me a pic either :dunno:Now I appreciate that people dont want to show their faces but at least a body shot would be nice
Quote by Pete_sw
yes we did see u in lmu
but being 171 miles away .................................
could u move to london????
You wont like it there hun, honest, it's dirty and it smells a bit (london that is)
Come move to the country, Wiltshire's quite nice this time of year
so distance is important to you both i see! lol
Quote by Morbius
HUH speak for yourself!!!
I want a woman around 5 1/2 feet, brunette, big boobs and an arse to die for
..... oh hold on :confused: .....
...I have that one, so yeah not really fussed on the 3rd of a 3some :twisted: :grin:
s'funny you should say that.
I want a woman, around early 30s, 5' 4" ish (overshot the mark there a little
) gorgeous titties, and a bubbly, confident nature. A woman that's alive and with a pussy that's as sweet as nectar and a sex drive at least similarto mine.Not really fussed on the 3rd party.
Now the serious part. (I must stop this. it's been a sunny day and I've not been "Dawnie bad" all day :roll:
3somes - a slightly less complicated thing to arrange than 4somes - imho.
Yes - everybody still needs to "click" and be happy to play in each others company. I've asked more than one
ops: bi-fem if they are happy (and willing) to play in a 3some where the other girls is straight and not "try it on".And like-wise straight girls, about bi girls joining, but to play as a "straight"
But let's call a spade a spade.
If a guy and two straight girls play together, surely it's the guy that's "getting more out of it"
Having read some of the comments in this thread, I went to alter my profile. I wanted to take out the ref to looking for bi - at all. But the options weren't there that would have allowed me to be comfortable. There is no couples option. there's straight, gay, and bi - but no "just a couple"
A couple of people.
A couple of sexually liberated people.
I'm beginning to feel incredibly awkward at asking to meet bi fem couples or bi fems.
A lot of people will see this as bollox, but to have a bi fem join HLB and me is far more for their pleasure than mine. And besides, I'm getting on; and need to take more frequent tea breaks nowadays :oops:
Don't get me wrong - I'd get plenty from it too :twisted: but that really would be secondary to the whole experience.
Quote by Shireen_Mids
most of the regular couples on here have no profile or advert so ive no idea who to approach and who not to most of the time! but that debate is in another thread i think......lol
Just to bring this point back up, I have just received a reply to my ad and when I looked at their profile there was no information at all, no pics and no ad so how am I supposed to decide if I think I would like to engage in a conversation??
They didn't send me a pic either :dunno:Now I appreciate that people dont want to show their faces but at least a body shot would be nice
i totally agree. i understand theres people here that arent looking to meet up and therefore dont need a profile...but if youre going to be actively seeking to meet people by sending out pm's...then as far as im concerned a profile and some pics is essential.
dambuster...i afraid im going ot have to read your post a couple more times before it sinks in......
Quote by dambuster
A lot of people will see this as bollox, but to have a bi fem join HLB and me is far more for their pleasure than mine. And besides, I'm getting on; and need to take more frequent tea breaks nowadays
Don't get me wrong - I'd get plenty from it too :twisted: but that really would be secondary to the whole experience.
That's pretty much how we see it too :thumbup: Ok there's pleasure/benefits for all involved but a third to join us (m or f) is more about the other person that us.
Cx
Sex God
Quote by sexkittenhfx
yes we did see u in lmu
but being 171 miles away .................................
could u move to london????
You wont like it there hun, honest, it's dirty and it smells a bit (london that is)
Come move to the country, Wiltshire's quite nice this time of year
so distance is important to you both i see! lol
seriously? yes, we are more interested in making friends, not just for play, but someone with whom Caron can do the girly things with too, out for a drink, girly shopping, u know the kind of thing, the ffm play would just be the iceing on the freindship.
Quote by sexkittenhfx
dambuster...i afraid im going ot have to read your post a couple more times before it sinks in......
Yeah - me too.
The whole thing about some people "seeing the sbf, and not seeing Jane" is something I wasn't aware of and it's it's been disturbing me a little since it was brought up in conversation last week.
it sort of reminds me of having a token gay, or token woman in the workplace.
Quote by Pete_sw
yes we did see u in lmu
but being 171 miles away .................................
could u move to london????
You wont like it there hun, honest, it's dirty and it smells a bit (london that is)
Come move to the country, Wiltshire's quite nice this time of year
so distance is important to you both i see! lol
seriously? yes, we are more interested in making friends, not just for play, but someone with whom Caron can do the girly things with too, out for a drink, girly shopping, u know the kind of thing, the ffm play would just be the iceing on the freindship.
well same here really pete, thats why im trying to get more involved in socials and munches, to make some friends and take it from there. distance is an issue for me too, i dont travel as i dont drive and feel more comfortable on my own territory...on the other hand i wouldnt want anyone ot travel for over half an hour to meet me as i would be worried it wouldnt be worth it!
Sex God
Quote by sexkittenhfx
]well same here really pete, thats why im trying to get more involved in socials and munches, to make some friends and take it from there. distance is an issue for me too, i dont travel as i dont drive and feel more comfortable on my own territory...on the other hand i wouldnt want anyone ot travel for over half an hour to meet me as i would be worried it wouldnt be worth it!
:shock: :shock: Errrrm not worth it? :shock:
Hun we've just checked you out and are thinking of movuing to halifax
Quote by dambuster
dambuster...i afraid im going ot have to read your post a couple more times before it sinks in......
Yeah - me too.
The whole thing about some people "seeing the sbf, and not seeing Jane" is something I wasn't aware of and it's it's been disturbing me a little since it was brought up in conversation last week.
it sort of reminds me of having a token gay, or token woman in the workplace.
it does happen tho, its the rason i took along time out from the scene and am only tentatively dipping my toe again, contrary to what was said earlier about a 3 some being more about the extra person......often its alllllllll about the couple and the feelings/wants of little old me gets lost in the commotion!
Quote by Calista
A lot of people will see this as bollox, but to have a bi fem join HLB and me is far more for their pleasure than mine. And besides, I'm getting on; and need to take more frequent tea breaks nowadays
Don't get me wrong - I'd get plenty from it too :twisted: but that really would be secondary to the whole experience.
That's pretty much how we see it too :thumbup: Ok there's pleasure/benefits for all involved but a third to join us (m or f) is more about the other person that us.
Cx
No pressure there, then .
H.x
Quote by Pete_sw
]well same here really pete, thats why im trying to get more involved in socials and munches, to make some friends and take it from there. distance is an issue for me too, i dont travel as i dont drive and feel more comfortable on my own territory...on the other hand i wouldnt want anyone ot travel for over half an hour to meet me as i would be worried it wouldnt be worth it!
:shock: :shock: Errrrm not worth it? :shock:
Hun we've just checked you out and are thinking of movuing to halifax
ops: :oops: :oops: well, you dont have to move house but if you ever find yourself this way then give me a call
Quote by H-x
A lot of people will see this as bollox, but to have a bi fem join HLB and me is far more for their pleasure than mine. And besides, I'm getting on; and need to take more frequent tea breaks nowadays
Don't get me wrong - I'd get plenty from it too :twisted: but that really would be secondary to the whole experience.
That's pretty much how we see it too :thumbup: Ok there's pleasure/benefits for all involved but a third to join us (m or f) is more about the other person that us.
Cx
No pressure there, then .
H.x
surely its preferable to be about all 3 of us?
Quote by sexkittenhfx
yes we did see u in lmu
but being 171 miles away .................................
could u move to london????
You wont like it there hun, honest, it's dirty and it smells a bit (london that is)
Come move to the country, Wiltshire's quite nice this time of year
so distance is important to you both i see! lol
seriously? yes, we are more interested in making friends, not just for play, but someone with whom Caron can do the girly things with too, out for a drink, girly shopping, u know the kind of thing, the ffm play would just be the iceing on the freindship.
well same here really pete, thats why im trying to get more involved in socials and munches, to make some friends and take it from there. distance is an issue for me too, i dont travel as i dont drive and feel more comfortable on my own territory...on the other hand i wouldnt want anyone ot travel for over half an hour to meet me as i would be worried it wouldnt be worth it!
surely if its the couples decision to travel a distance and if the attraction isnt there then that is their choice.. you shouldnt be worried...even if there is no attraction then you can have a few drinks and get along socially..you can never have enough friends..
Quote by sexkittenhfx
A lot of people will see this as bollox, but to have a bi fem join HLB and me is far more for their pleasure than mine. And besides, I'm getting on; and need to take more frequent tea breaks nowadays
Don't get me wrong - I'd get plenty from it too :twisted: but that really would be secondary to the whole experience.
That's pretty much how we see it too :thumbup: Ok there's pleasure/benefits for all involved but a third to join us (m or f) is more about the other person that us.
Cx
No pressure there, then .
H.x
surely its preferable to be about all 3 of us?
I think you've both misunderstood me! ... I play as a single and know how awkward it "can" be as the couple know each other etc, the point I was trying to make is that we try to make the experience more about the other person that what we get out of it. I did state pleasure/benefits for all involved!
Guess I'll just shut up.
Cx
Orgasminator
Quote by sexkittenhfx
A lot of people will see this as bollox, but to have a bi fem join HLB and me is far more for their pleasure than mine. And besides, I'm getting on; and need to take more frequent tea breaks nowadays
Don't get me wrong - I'd get plenty from it too :twisted: but that really would be secondary to the whole experience.
That's pretty much how we see it too :thumbup: Ok there's pleasure/benefits for all involved but a third to join us (m or f) is more about the other person that us.
Cx
No pressure there, then .
H.x
surely its preferable to be about all 3 of us?
LOL
yeah it is, i think that came over wrong Calista lol
I think what she ment is that if/when we have a fem join us we're looking to ensure that she is comfy and happy more so than prehaps ourselves. Afterall we know each other (I think :s) whereas No.3 is new so we'd want to make sure she had a good time.
