Single Fems

26 Mar 2005

Quote by Shireen_Mids

Ooohhhh Missy have I missed something??..... Do tell :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
Shireen
xxx

I know, I know!!!

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Oh Shireen :rotflmao: Ooooooooh I kissed a girl for the first time in, like, ever!!! :shock: :bounce:
wow, what a kiss :twisted: what a kisser :twisted:
And bless her heart, she was everso good cos she didn't even mind when afterwards I just walked off going OMG OMG OMG OMG :shock:

26 Mar 2005

I am single and I am looking for a relationship with a twist. I don't see why one can't have the best of both worlds: a man to rely upon and share life with and an active sexual life involving new experiences.

26 Mar 2005

Well i have to say i am shocked
I can not believe that someone said men want a shag but women really want a house and family, what a totally sexest comment and coming from a woman as well!!!! i know a few single women on here who swing for the same reason as men cause they want the sex with no hasstle and are deffo not looking 4 a relationship, some women do want more than a hubby to run about after and shitty nappies u know lol

26 Mar 2005

i think denises comment may have been taken out of context here , partly her own fault for posting it while drinking and not being clear bless her
i was part of the earlier discussion mentioned - and the issue we were really discussing was the difference in that there are some single females that will not play with married males even though the partner has given full permission.
all of us involved in the conversation knew females that fitted that catagory , but none of us could name a single male that said the same thing regarding not playing with married women

26 Mar 2005

A great topic,
Well for whatâ€™s its worth here are my thoughts.
I thought that swinging was about having sex without having the emotional ties. Males, females enjoying them selves without the guilt trips (Adam & Eve scenario). It seems to me that women that are only looking for single males are potentially looking for a relationship. One of the attractions of a site like this is to meet like-minded people. I love women and want relationships based on friendships but without the ball and chain I, people understanding from the out-set what the expectations are.
Well-done denisebabe great topic
regards
Tazman

26 Mar 2005

Quote by Lil_Bunny
I tried social conformity (house, live in partner, "normal" life, kids etc) and it didn't work for me. Possibly I was with the wrong partner but I'm mature enough to realise I don't need a partner to feel fulfilled or complete.

Glad you are mature enough to realise that. Life is for living, not hoping what will come.
'Single' and 'married' are social tags not a state of mind, I know 'married' people who treat each other like strangers and single people who have very deep relationships with others.
People are far too complex to generalise that men want this and women want that, and to be honest I would find it a bit strange if women were joining a swinging site just in search of a partner. It would be like that fable that all motor repair night school classes are full of women all thinking they will find a man good with his hands lol

26 Mar 2005

Quote by tazman
A great topic,...I thought that swinging was about having sex without having the emotional ties.. It seems to me that women that are only looking for single males are potentially looking for a relationship.

It has brought out some good comments.
It's not black and white I don't think. I came here to explore sides of me as yet unexplored. (They're explored now about which I am rather pleased!) And yes, like many women here I love the liberation and honesty of the lifestyle. I could no longer consider getting my kicks from picking someone up, drunk and late in a smoky bar. Earch. How could I.
But I also recognise in me the desire to share my home with someone again and so I'm still seeking in the vanilla world. THAT'S the one where it's very difficult to make connections.
And I also recognise that a little part of me kinda hopes a SH contact might one day become more.
You see - that's women for you. We just want it every which way we can!!!
Jezzay.

26 Mar 2005

Quote by DeniseBabe
Really ! Im kind scared now

you avator scares me :cry:
DeniseBabe your avator does things for me wink

26 Mar 2005

Quote by horneyoldtart
i think denises comment may have been taken out of context here , partly her own fault for posting it while drinking and not being clear bless her
i was part of the earlier discussion mentioned - and the issue we were really discussing was the difference in that there are some single females that will not play with married males even though the partner has given full permission.
all of us involved in the conversation knew females that fitted that catagory , but none of us could name a single male that said the same thing regarding not playing with married women

well I think the above is untrue of men as well. What you really saying is that we think with our dicks and not our brains. Not exactly true !! You said you couldn't name a single guy that would turn down a shag from a maried lady. well may i proudly introduce myself. ONly last week I met a member off here . When I met here she told me she had a partner, and he was unaware of what she was doing. I made my excuses..dropped her off and went off and had a wank instead. Now maybe thats just me....but somehow I think there may well be a few more us that think with our brains instead of our dicks .

26 Mar 2005

I'm really undecided about this one. At the moment I'm really happy with the swinging lifestyle and (up until my recent op) had been busily fulfilling many fantasies. I still have more, and can't see myself leaving the scene for a while because I'm enjoying the no-strings sex with a few different partners and without any insecurities or jealousy from either side.
On the other hand, I did admit today in the chatroom that IF a single guy who was happy with the swinging came along and we both wanted more than just the occasional shag, yes I'd be happy for more than just sex between us.
This is where I start to go round in circles though. I'm kind of a "been there, done that, got the t-shirt" type girl, and my past experience of a relationship founded on swinging means that I'd be very wary of a more serious relationship.
So in conclusion......... I have no idea wtf I want dunno

so I'll just carry on resting for now and then having lots of fun once I'm better :lol2:

27 Mar 2005

I am a single male, and i know for a fact that there are a number of single females that wana shag. There are a number of females in cpls that wana shag
However a lot of these will only shag people they have become friends with.
I am a relative new male to the scene and yes I have shagged people without getting to kmow them, I will admit.
However I have recently relised that the shag is far better if you know the person before hand. I have made a lot of friends from the site and I have found a new mum as well.
Sorry Missy couldnt resist that ;).
Anyway theres my words of no so mutch wisdom.
MikeC

27 Mar 2005

Quote by jezzay
A great topic,...I thought that swinging was about having sex without having the emotional ties.. It seems to me that women that are only looking for single males are potentially looking for a relationship.

It has brought out some good comments.
It's not black and white I don't think. I came here to explore sides of me as yet unexplored. (They're explored now about which I am rather pleased!) And yes, like many women here I love the liberation and honesty of the lifestyle. I could no longer consider getting my kicks from picking someone up, drunk and late in a smoky bar. Earch. How could I.
But I also recognise in me the desire to share my home with someone again and so I'm still seeking in the vanilla world. THAT'S the one where it's very difficult to make connections.
And I also recognise that a little part of me kinda hopes a SH contact might one day become more.
You see - that's women for you. We just want it every which way we can!!!
Jezzay.
Very good topic and something that's crossed my mind occassionally ... say a single guy/girl meets another single here or through a munch, how do you know that he/she is possibly looking for a relationship? So you never ask the question because both of you think they only want NSA meets and you don't want to place them in an awkward position? In fact, it may well be that swinger sites/clubs are the wrong place to look for long term? Then again, as a swinger, would you go vanilla if in a relationship? If you're both swinging, implies not, which contradicts my earlier point, so this would therefore be a good place to meet potential partners.
Not sure ...

27 Mar 2005

Quote by MISSCHIEF
Oh Shireen Ooooooooh I kissed a girl for the first time in, like, ever!!! :shock: :bounce:

And there I was thinking she was saving herself for me!!!! :shock: Sheez! I'm gutted!!!!! :cry: lol

:lol: :lol:

27 Mar 2005

rainbow ihoped missy was saving herself for me as well,
lol sorry missy cudnt resist.
MikeC

27 Mar 2005

As someone said above, it's impossible to strictly categorize what people look for in a swinging (or any other) relationship. As a single guy, I appreciate the no-strings sex the lifestyle offers, but in the end, it's the companionship and the people you meet that you remember.
Personally, I don't look for a relationship when I swing, but depending on the person, I'd certainly be open to the idea.
I think (as someone mentioned above), the key question is how the topic is brought up. Even if both parties want to go further, when you're already having NSA sex, I cannot imagine a delicate way to bring it up without risking absolute full frontal rejection...
C

27 Mar 2005

Quote by J3diMast3r
A great topic,...I thought that swinging was about having sex without having the emotional ties.. It seems to me that women that are only looking for single males are potentially looking for a relationship.

It has brought out some good comments.
It's not black and white I don't think. I came here to explore sides of me as yet unexplored. (They're explored now about which I am rather pleased!) And yes, like many women here I love the liberation and honesty of the lifestyle. I could no longer consider getting my kicks from picking someone up, drunk and late in a smoky bar. Earch. How could I.
But I also recognise in me the desire to share my home with someone again and so I'm still seeking in the vanilla world. THAT'S the one where it's very difficult to make connections.
And I also recognise that a little part of me kinda hopes a SH contact might one day become more.
You see - that's women for you. We just want it every which way we can!!!
Jezzay.
Very good topic and something that's crossed my mind occassionally ... say a single guy/girl meets another single here or through a munch, how do you know that he/she is possibly looking for a relationship? So you never ask the question because both of you think they only want NSA meets and you don't want to place them in an awkward position? In fact, it may well be that swinger sites/clubs are the wrong place to look for long term? Then again, as a swinger, would you go vanilla if in a relationship? If you're both swinging, implies not, which contradicts my earlier point, so this would therefore be a good place to meet potential partners.
Not sure ...
Question for Zezzay;
what type of commitment are you looking for? What would that commitment mean for your partner? You see I might be happy to share your bed, become swinging partners and real good friends. You see for me its all about friendship that counts. Once it becomes demanding then its no fun! You must be free!

27 Mar 2005

Quote by DeniseBabe
Our conversation was actually what we had witnessed in the chat room if that helps shed any light. Of course everyone has reservations and limits. We just stated we had never seen a man say he only wanted a single women yet lots of single women tend to say they only want a single man.

Is this because the women are looking for partners or is it because the women may not believe that the married men are doing it with their partners consent, and are therefore protecting themselves from being involved in any possible marital problems ?

27 Mar 2005

Quote by DeniseBabe
There were a few of us today and we decided that only women want single men..... the single men are happy to play with a couple or with a single fem.
So with this we came up with the fact that single women only want to meet single men because deep down they want a relationship yet dont want to openly admit it......... are we right or wrong in our discussion and our outcome???

Perhaps some of us single men want something more permanant as well, but are too scared to admit it case we frighten the single girls off.
John redface

27 Mar 2005

I think most of the time you can tell just by reading the ad between the lines weather they want just a shag or something more longlasting biggrin

27 Mar 2005

Quote by Davejw
I think most of the time you can tell just by reading the ad between the lines weather they want just a shag or something more longlasting

Biggest problem I find with people reading between the lines is that they read things that aren't there :shock:

31 Mar 2005

deep down don't we all just want to be loved confused

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31 Mar 2005

Maybe, just maybe we are all individual, complex creatures - meaning general, stero-typical judgements are a little unfair.
It could be that people who frequent sites such as these are more complex, and live a more varied lifestyle than the 'norm'. And so these are people who are less likely to pidgeon holed in one category or another.
We are all individuals on our own journey. Vive la difference I say biggrin