Single guys take note ..........................

11 Feb 2004

Quote by lucyslovely
Its not only how newbies write their ads .... its also how they answer ads as well! ......... Out of 64 emails - there is only 1 that stands head n shoulders above the rest ...

of course I had to chat to him wink

and I did wonder if he had been following Mal's advice rolleyes

Quote by mal609
Patience young man, patience I am sure that very soon, ........... you will get as many opportunities as you can cope with......... and if I have noticed, so will others.

So this afternoon we met for a drink :cheers: and a chat :grin: All I can say is, it was nice to meet someone who treated me with respect. He's a lovely bloke (specially after that kiss

) with the right attitude .... a real gent ! ........ Single guys take note !
Lucyslovely :kiss:
ps ... will accept payment in kind for putting something good about you Mr Writer ;) .... thank you for a lovely afternoon passionkiss

11 Feb 2004

Yippeee! Another happy ending for a single guy!
I can't take all the credit, with James taking advice from me, because if he wasn't a decent guy in the first place, then he wouldn't have had the result he did.
Am I turning into the 'SH Agony Uncle' !! confused

Mal

11 Feb 2004

Aw, I feel all warm and cosy inside - lots of meets seem to be happening at the mo, isn't it nice wink

:wink: :wink:

11 Feb 2004

Quote by lucyslovely
ps ... will accept payment in kind for putting something good about you Mr Writer ;) .... thank you for a lovely afternoon

I'll hold you to that, Lucy! Thanks for a lovely afternoon yourself; it was great to meet you.

11 Feb 2004

I'm with Blue on this - what a lovely thread. Thanks Judy and Lucy for sharing - I shall glow contentedly all day. And props to Mr Writer and Mr Sweet Letter for being Decent Chaps in the best SH tradition.

11 Feb 2004

Its very nice to see the age of the Gentleman is not dead if you treat the ladies with some respect and be courteous towards them the right results usually the garbage about ive got this and that doesnt work,let them find it out for you show manners and respect youll get results.

11 Feb 2004

Congratulations to everyone involved on the fun they've found. biggrin

Maybe it's counterproductive to even discuss this in public (because then everyone would start doing it and it wouldn't work anymore), but how does one go about making one's reply stand out from the crowd? How does one go about charming someone using only a limited amount of knowledge and no instant feedback? Hypothetically, if I were ever going to reply to another advert ever again (I'm not going to harp on anymore about my record of getting responses - I feel better now, thanks - but it is pretty dire), how would I go about it?
A lot - well, pretty-much all - of the advice that's floating around seems to be aimed at the - and I've struggled manfully to find a way of saying this without being offensive - the stereotypically uninspiring type of reply. To wit:
* Write more than one line
* But don't write a huge essay
* No cock pics
* Keep crudities to a minimum
* Say things that relate to the lady's ad
* Sell yourself
* Ask a few questions to give her reasons to respond, but not so many she feels like a contestant on Mastermind. Give and receive.
All of which is fine, but - without wishing to sound snobbish - I feel as though I know this already. And surely this is only going to take you from "bad" to "average" - what advice would you give to someone to lift the quality of their reply to "great", "wonderful" or "must-respond-now"? I'm sure there must be many other polite-and-literate-but-unsuccessful single guys out there who'd benefit from this kind of help.
Just once I'd love to see an example of what a good reply would look like, rather than what it shouldn't look like. (So I can copy-and-paste it into my email program and use it myself - just kidding, just kidding!) :shock:

11 Feb 2004

Roger,
Your ad stands out from the crowd with its honesty and wit, so I'm sure your replies do too.
No advice to give (now that makes a change!).
Love Sappho xxx

11 Feb 2004

I can only agree with Sappho here, your ad is very well presented.
I hope you get a meet soon, I would certainly reply to an ad like that if you were in my area!
smile

11 Feb 2004

Note to self: move to Scotland. smile

Thanks for the praise! I rewrote my advert this morning (for the last ten days or so it's been asking for volunteers for alien impregnation, just to see if that got any responses) and was quite chuffed with how it turned out.

11 Feb 2004

Quote by roger743_27m_wmids
Thanks for the praise! I rewrote my advert this morning (for the last ten days or so it's been asking for volunteers for alien impregnation, just to see if that got any responses) and was quite chuffed with how it turned out.

Its a good ad Roger ..... I'm just curious as to how many women actually replies to mens ads! I have to say its not something I've done ... but don't know about any of the other ladies or members of SHWI.
Lucyslovely xx

11 Feb 2004

In my experience, none whatsoever. I've been posting ads on various sites for 326 days (I calculated that this morning) and I can't recall ever having a reply to my ad from a real woman. (It'd be unrealistic to expect one - there's so many men-seeking-women ads I'd guess the women who even bother to look just look at the first few dozen.) I've had occaisional replies from couples (usually recognisably the male half of the couple, never recognisably the female), and occaisional replies from "women" trying to entice me to join a porn-site or phone them on a premium-rate number or go to a (paid) gang-bang party or whatever.

11 Feb 2004

Lucy,
I have to confess I've never replied to an ad either. It's much more fun getting to know people here in the Cafe, and safer I think in the long run. I know I've never regretted a meet as a result of making a friend in the Forum.
Sappho xxx

11 Feb 2004

Quote by Sappho
Lucy,
I have to confess I've never replied to an ad either. It's much more fun getting to know people here in the Cafe, and safer I think in the long run. I know I've never regretted a meet as a result of making a friend in the Forum.
Sappho xxx

I'm pleased I met James :lickface: .... and, although he replied to my ad .. I felt that I'd got to know him through his posts :small-print: in the forum. Chatting through The Cafe really does help lol

And, thinking about the people that have replied to ads in the past, James is actually the first person I have ever met from an ad rolleyes

Lucy xx

12 Feb 2004

Quote by Sappho
Lucy,
I have to confess I've never replied to an ad either. It's much more fun getting to know people here in the Cafe, and safer I think in the long run. I know I've never regretted a meet as a result of making a friend in the Forum.
Sappho xxx

I have to agree with all that has been said.. and from a male perspective too. Not all males reply to ads.. I'm sure lots of us prefer to make friends in the Forum like you girls do. It's always been great to know someone before meeting them and I've never regretted a meet therafter.. quite the opposite wink

steve
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