Hi Everyone
First of all I hope I'm posting this in the right place. If not please accept my sincerest apologies. I'm wanting to know what I need to do to get some replies from female members on this site. I've never had problems meeting women in a social capacity ,pubs, clubs etc. But have found it extremely difficult via this website. I do enjoy a healthy sexlife as it is but I joined the site merely to meet like minded individuals in my area, I'm in my late 20's, clean, fun, discreet, have a good job, consider myself to be handsome and generally an all round sound bloke but have found it very difficult to even get replies from women I message. Granted there are a lot of single men on here vying for ladies attention but am I doing something drastically wrong. Any advice will be most welcome on how to get involved in groups in my area would be most welcome. Cheers Markofdon. x
Join the most popular community of UK swingers now
Login
Single Male Advice needed
last reply
13 replies
998 views
0 watchers
0 likes
Sex God
Try having a look here:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/81218.html
welcome to the forums......hope you have fun
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/81218.html
welcome to the forums......hope you have fun
just went and looked at your profile!
it is not apitising!
go and look at it and think if you were looking for a partner would this turn you on?
would you be rushing to contact this guy or would you be moving on!
have a look at my profile and then rewrite yours!
tell people who you are and what you like and what you offer!
I dont guarintee sucess but you might find that you get more traffic!
the thing is to watch for those that keep returning and contact them if they intrest you!
you are a guy therefore you are one of many single girls and couples get to pick us! we need to stand out and the best way to do that is to be open and honest!
hope you have a better time than till now!
this place is OK
you wont find better!!!!
it is not apitising!
go and look at it and think if you were looking for a partner would this turn you on?
would you be rushing to contact this guy or would you be moving on!
have a look at my profile and then rewrite yours!
tell people who you are and what you like and what you offer!
I dont guarintee sucess but you might find that you get more traffic!
the thing is to watch for those that keep returning and contact them if they intrest you!
you are a guy therefore you are one of many single girls and couples get to pick us! we need to stand out and the best way to do that is to be open and honest!
hope you have a better time than till now!
this place is OK
you wont find better!!!!
Sex God
ok wilwil am sorry but some advice on your profile as well ........ cock shot is your only visable pic and an essey for your message am sorry i got bored so gave up reading am sure it says fab things about you but far too long.
ok now markofdon profile not so bad hun but the fun dress up pics ermmm no comment but nice to see face at least perhaps a nakid torso and remove the complaining comment from message as well it only comes across as angry and bored with trying...... keep trying chat in the rooms perhaps your local 1 and get your name down on social lists and munches ... above all remember the averages are not good unless you are prepared to make some effort .... chat loads and be witty and funny without too much sarky comments or derrogitory remarks either againt the site or the members as it only puts peoples backs up .... try reading the link that was posted earlier in the thread loads of useful advice there.
only thing left to say is godd luck and happy hunting
ok now markofdon profile not so bad hun but the fun dress up pics ermmm no comment but nice to see face at least perhaps a nakid torso and remove the complaining comment from message as well it only comes across as angry and bored with trying...... keep trying chat in the rooms perhaps your local 1 and get your name down on social lists and munches ... above all remember the averages are not good unless you are prepared to make some effort .... chat loads and be witty and funny without too much sarky comments or derrogitory remarks either againt the site or the members as it only puts peoples backs up .... try reading the link that was posted earlier in the thread loads of useful advice there.
only thing left to say is godd luck and happy hunting
Sex God
The only thing I'd do Mark, is remove the pictures from your profile that have bits of other people in them. Other than that your profile looks fine - just take off the bit about giving up 
Like Sara said, get your name down for a social or something near you and get yourself seen.
Like Sara said, get your name down for a social or something near you and get yourself seen.
Sex God
Mark, I can echo what most of the other posters here have said, and add that on a profile, anything that hints of desperation or frustration is automatically a turn-off for most people. And yes, if you put pics on your profile, it's best to put up simple basic pics of yourself.
I would say that most of the single males who get something out of this site (not always sure I'm one of those but anyway) are the ones who get known to others by either joining in the banter here on the forums or in the chatrooms, or both. Find a chatroom you like and join in - it takes time, but can ultimately be very rewarding, if you can be patient.
Good luck.
I would say that most of the single males who get something out of this site (not always sure I'm one of those but anyway) are the ones who get known to others by either joining in the banter here on the forums or in the chatrooms, or both. Find a chatroom you like and join in - it takes time, but can ultimately be very rewarding, if you can be patient.
Good luck.
Sex God
When i 1st looked at your profile pics it left me thinking..hmmmmm where have you got your pics from as they have a completely different name across them to your actually site name.
Have you recently changed it? If so, was there a big reason for it?
Have you recently changed it? If so, was there a big reason for it?
Sex God
Quote by Lilmiss
When i 1st looked at your profile pics it left me thinking..hmmmmm where have you got your pics from as they have a completely different name across them to your actually site name.
Have you recently changed it? If so, was there a big reason for it?
I think when members change their nic, as some do (and pay for it), the name on their pics already on their profile doesn't change. So, it can be confusing but there's nothing sinister about it.
Your profile gives me the impression you're here for a quick shag and you're not bothered who it's with. Most of the photos involve other people and you look like you're more pleased about what you're doing than bothered about whether they're pleased to be there or not, although well done for having a face shot and not a cock shot.
H.x
H.x
Thanks for all the advice guys it's been really helpful. The feedback as been really interesting especially finding out my old username is on my photos. I changed that ages ago!!! Is there anyway to get rid of this? anyway thanks again, I'll be reviewing my profile so feel free to drop by and give me your thoughts.
Take care
Markofdon
Take care
Markofdon
My advice my new member is to read some of my many Posts within this community.
Create good threads that show both intelligence & humour.
Also contribute to good threads, this WILL get you noticed. It has done it for me...the things since I've joined this community :twisted:
Even had a lovely romance from this & where still friends Not in the sex shag friends fuck buddy but friends.
Also create a good Photo Advert(s), again your welcome to look at mine.
Last point, if you can attend go to Munches & Social's (like mine...I HAD to get that one in) you shall meet members in the flesh.... :shock:
Hope this helps....Oohhhh I forgot.
Try to have a presence on the Froum rather than the Chatroom. The reason is that members 'checking you, out' can read ALL your previous Posts unlike within the Chatroom.
If you want still use the Chatroom but use the Froum.
You owe me drinks :cheers:
From 'Master' Wunderhorse.
Create good threads that show both intelligence & humour.
Also contribute to good threads, this WILL get you noticed. It has done it for me...the things since I've joined this community :twisted:
Even had a lovely romance from this & where still friends
Not in the sex shag friends fuck buddy but friends.Also create a good Photo Advert(s), again your welcome to look at mine.
Last point, if you can attend go to Munches & Social's (like mine...I HAD to get that one in) you shall meet members in the flesh.... :shock:
Hope this helps....Oohhhh I forgot.
Try to have a presence on the Froum rather than the Chatroom. The reason is that members 'checking you, out' can read ALL your previous Posts unlike within the Chatroom.
If you want still use the Chatroom but use the Froum.
You owe me drinks :cheers:
From 'Master' Wunderhorse.
Sex God
Quote by markofdon
Hi Everyone
First of all I hope I'm posting this in the right place. If not please accept my sincerest apologies. I'm wanting to know what I need to do to get some replies from female members on this site. I've never had problems meeting women in a social capacity ,pubs, clubs etc. But have found it extremely difficult via this website. I do enjoy a healthy sexlife as it is but I joined the site merely to meet like minded individuals in my area, I'm in my late 20's, clean, fun, discreet, have a good job, consider myself to be handsome and generally an all round sound bloke but have found it very difficult to even get replies from women I message. Granted there are a lot of single men on here vying for ladies attention but am I doing something drastically wrong. Any advice will be most welcome on how to get involved in groups in my area would be most welcome. Cheers Markofdon. x
I wrote this for someone who asked the same question at 4am this morning (god only knows what i was doing up!!)
most of the advice I think is applicable to you as well.. so i'll repost it...
okay... I put that bit in bold for a reason....
The reason being when I look at posts like this, the first thing that goes thru my head is I hope the ad isn't "two lines and a cock shot".... because unfortunatly that is what most single guys do...
so I looked at the ad and from what I can gather from reading what people before me saw... it wasn't far off this discription
okay, so imagine that you are trying to get the attention of people and you are all doing the same thing.... what do you have to bring to the table that is any different to anyone else...
sell yourself....
what is your selling point to say pick me?
what makes you different from the hundreds of people answering that ad?
What makes that person reading your ad think "wow I must meet that person!"
If you got hundreds of replies to your ad.... and you saw what you had written in your ad... hand on heart would you answer it???? seriously.....
when it comes down just to the bare numbers.... couples, and women can be very choosey when it comes to men because there are so many more of them....
so if you are writing something basically "bog standard"... you are just one of hundreds doing the same thing.....
what does your ad say about you?
