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We were having this discussion inthe chatroom the other night. A single male commented that he never got any replys to his mails... I looked at the profile and what do you know!!!! no pictures, no text, no nothing!
So... I pose the question to you single males... and everyone else... If a couple have no pictures and no text what do you assume.. for me its leave it well alone, If they cant be bothered to complete a profile then I cant be bothered worrying about whether they're going to be a loss to me. That out of the way.. what do you think a blank profile says to the people on this site???
The 2 guys I spoke to said they'd never thought of it like that and now do have profile that include decent photos and some text that makes them worth reading about.... but why do so many mail you with nothing about them? Lets face it, if you were going to buy a 3 piece suite you wouldn't say .. send me anything you've got! you'd want some details, even if it was just style, colour and maintenace required!
agree wholeheartedly. profiles are crucial and should be entirely honest. WYSIWYG
I can see your point and it's been raised on more than one occasion, however each to there own I say and if they want a blank profile they can have one. I did however find out when I set up the account for andyhandy this is him, that admin send out an e mail advising about filling out a profile for better results as well as advising against cock shots and such biggrin So most newer members will already be aware of this. Now I'm not saying as you are but do we really have to drag single men down every week, the odds are already stacked against us as it is. :cry: :cry: wink
Fully agree.
I know a lot of people choose not to fill out their profiles or have ads as they don't wish to be contacted by random people and that's fine.
But if somebody is actively looking to meet people it certainly helps to give as much information about yourself and what you're looking for.
You often see people post here that they've been unsuccessful and asking advice on the forum and the advice given is quite similar to what you've said.
I don't think it's just single guys that do this though
you are 100% correct....
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
Fully agree.
I know a lot of people choose not to fill out their profiles or have ads as they don't wish to be contacted by random people and that's fine.
But if somebody is actively looking to meet people it certainly helps to give as much information about yourself and what you're looking for.
You often see people post here that they've been unsuccessful and asking advice on the forum and the advice given is quite similar to what you've said.
I don't think it's just single guys that do this though

i think all groups are guilty in doing this..its just that single men outweigh all the other groups so are highlighted more..
entirely agree dave/debbie, but please feel free to pm me for meaningless grattuitous exhortaions as to what you should do next on cam! Or alternatively check profile and we could try for real LOL
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entirely agree dave/debbie, but please feel free to pm me for meaningless grattuitous exhortaions as to what you should do next on cam! Or alternatively check profile and we could try for real LOL

but then when you do write a profile, people take no notice of it, as our profile says no single men ....
well....after a short time away ....and after reading this post ive updated and completed my profile...complete with a photo smile
so andromeda....if i get no replies ( due to me being a churlish old git) im gonna ask permission to spank you form your other half :)
but seriously...a good post and its topic is duly noted...
thanks
dargento
ps problem is some have met me and already know im loud and old :)
hi
I had nothing on my profile to begin with when i joined late last year but i've now got one pic which is also my avatar and a bit of text in ther and i add bits now and then. Its still not full by any means but i wrekon it was down to impatience and lack of knoledge that i didnt do it sooner.
ie. typical bloke buy a piece of electrical goods, get it home, get it out of the box, chuck the manual in the bin, set it up.
Why aint this workin right lol
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hi
I had nothing on my profile to begin with when i joined late last year but i've now got one pic which is also my avatar and a bit of text in ther and i add bits now and then. Its still not full by any means but i wrekon it was down to impatience and lack of knoledge that i didnt do it sooner.
ie. typical bloke buy a piece of electrical goods, get it home, get it out of the box, chuck the manual in the bin, set it up.
Why aint this workin right lol

This is the the last time I promise :shock:
Goose you big stud take me to bed and lose me forever bolt
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This is the the last time I promise :shock:
Goose you big stud take me to bed and lose me forever bolt

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
I love that line!
Cx
Quote by sheddy
Now I'm not saying as you are but do we really have to drag single men down every week, the odds are already stacked against us as it is. :cry: :cry: wink

I know what I'D like to stack against you ! :rascal: :twisted:
I agree with Andromeda. If there's nothing written on the proifle, I don't bother with them. There has to be something there to spark some interest. We don't all shag anything with a pulse ( leave that to the blokes :giggle: ) kiss
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Now I'm not saying as you are but do we really have to drag single men down every week, the odds are already stacked against us as it is. :cry: :cry: wink

I know what I'D like to stack against you ! :rascal: :twisted:
I agree with Andromeda. If there's nothing written on the proifle, I don't bother with them. There has to be something there to spark some interest. We don't all shag anything with a pulse ( leave that to the blokes :giggle: ) kiss
why do you need a pulse :twisted: :twisted: :grin: :grin:
mr and mrs dpg xxxx
Well I'm not a single guy. But my profile is as blank as I can possibly make it.
However the text is quiet clear that I do not want random people finding out facts about me against my will.
The comment I've written is that if you want to find something out about me, then you should get off your ass and either find me in a chatroom and talk to me, or come and find me at a munch.
That way we can both get to know each other.
I appreciate that some people on here have got something to hide, but rest assured I'm not one of them.
Ian
interesting replies and I have to agree that its not just single males that are guilty of this. There are cples too. That said the men Ive spoken too have gone off and completed the profile and then asked for an opinion ( brave i know!!)
The other thing that amazes me if the amount of "winkers" that expect you to reply to a blank profile.... Let me think...( sctatches head and ponders a moment) ..hmmmm no idea what you look like, what you enjoy, whethere you have hot air between your ears.... ooooh yeahhh cant miss this opportunity lol
People shouldn't feel that they have to complete a profile if they don't want to.
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People shouldn't feel that they have to complete a profile if they don't want to.

I agree with that too, I was merely asking the question because of a discussion from someone that couldn't understand why no one would reply to any mails he sent..... thats got to be something to make you want to reply... even if its just details in the mail you recieve...
well its an opinion anyway, just mine, might be right, might be wrong , but I chose to voice it wink
Quote by Andromeda
We were having this discussion inthe chatroom the other night. A single male commented that he never got any replys to his mails... I looked at the profile and what do you know!!!! no pictures, no text, no nothing!

There are valid reasons for not wanting to have a profile filled in. There was recently a thread running about people who had recoginised colleauges and neighbours just from info on the persons ad or profile. This is not a closed forum, anyone can view the info on a profile and this is the most well pubicised swingers sites in the UK. There is always an influx of guests when the site is mentioned in the media. A lot of the people checking out the site are doing it just to be morally outraged by it, and if they recognise a colleauge or neighbour could use the information they find on this site to make life difficult for that person.
I will probably get accused of being paranoid, but there are several people on this site who have had major problems with neighbours who have discovered they are swingers. We had a load of hassle off our neighbour last year just because she had heard Den watching a porn DVD one night, I hate to think what she would do if she found out we were swingers.
As long as the person who has a blank profile writes a decent mail to the person they are contacting I don't see the problem. Why should they let all and sundry know their personal details and preferences. Surely the only people who need to know those details are the ones who they are contacing. By all means leave the profile blank, but send as many details they are comfortable with disclosing initially, to the person they are contacting. Then if they get a reply from the first mail, send more details - now what is the problem with that?
Les x
I can't believe i'm going to do stick up for the single guys ( spank some sence into me someone please)
I don't think we should put all guys in the same pot so to speak there are some guys that have put a lot of thought & effert into their profiles for instance davidfranklin (If i was nearer i might have been tempted) smile
Then there are those guys that don't put much on their profiles but are regulars in the rooms,they are funny,polite,patient not pushy & respectful. They put time & effert into chatting with people surely if you judge them just for not having a profile what does that say about you?
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I can't believe i'm going to do stick up for the single guys ( spank some sence into me someone please)

Did i hare someone ask for a spanking lol
bolt smackbottom
co incidence?????????????? smile
earlier today we had a mial from a single guy..............
love your profile etc etc.................
checked his n/a n/a n/a no ads an pics................
sent him our pretty standard response " if we had a profile like yours , would you be interested in us" which we feel is fair comment.......got accused of being a rude time waster and told to p**s off!!!!!!!!! sent jags a new twat to zap !!!!!!! biggrin :D :D
there's two seperate questions in this thread i think?
the guy who says "why don't i get any replies?" with no profile and no ad the answer is obvious. even i could work that one out? lol ;)
the lack of a profile in other circumstances is different though, IMO? if i had a profile, with all the boxes filled in, it might suggest to others that i was looking for contacts from people who'd simply done a quick search, or been pointed to my profile, and matched up their boxes with mine, and that's not what i want?
it would be misleading of me to use the profiles / ad system, cos that's not the way i do things? nowt to do with me trying to mislead others???
neil x x x ;)
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there's two seperate questions in this thread i think?
the guy who says "why don't i get any replies?" with no profile and no ad is obvious. even i could work that one out? lol ;)
the lack of a profile in other circumstances is different though, IMO? if i had a profile, with all the boxes filled in, it might suggest to others that i was looking for contacts from people who'd simply done a quick search, or been pointed to my profile, and matched up their boxes with mine, and that's not what i want?
it would be misleading of me to use the profiles / ad system, cos that's not the way i do things? nowt to do with me trying to mislead others???
neil x x x ;)

but if u are a single guy out mailing couples who have a profile that says something...............
it`s nice to have more than the couple of lines they`ve mailed you to give you a clue if they`re your sort of people or not...........
yep . . . . like i said . . . seperate issues though?
i only mail people i already know in one way or another? nothing i could say on a profile would be as valid as the impressions they get of me in real life, or from the content of more daft posts than i'd care to mention? so . . . as i only play with people i know, and don't do random emails, and aren't interested in random emails ((( generally speaking? lol ;) ))) there's no point in me trying to come up with a profile is there? i hope they use different criteria, just as i do?
course, if i was a newbie trying to attract the interest of people i knew nothing about, apart from what i'd seen of their profile, i'd think i might need to have one meself?
neil x x x ;)
Quote by neilinleeds
there's two seperate questions in this thread i think?
the guy who says "why don't i get any replies?" with no profile and no ad the answer is obvious. even i could work that one out? lol ;)
the lack of a profile in other circumstances is different though, IMO? if i had a profile, with all the boxes filled in, it might suggest to others that i was looking for contacts from people who'd simply done a quick search, or been pointed to my profile, and matched up their boxes with mine, and that's not what i want?
it would be misleading of me to use the profiles / ad system, cos that's not the way i do things? nowt to do with me trying to mislead others???
neil x x x ;)

That's exactly what I was trying to say, but you seemed to do it so much better :thumbup:
OK................so I have just changed my profile as I am now a single guy. I have filled in all the boxes and put a little bit in the profile text section......
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and I still dont get replies to emails................come one ladies tell what I am doing wrong lol ;).....
...............am I that bad that no one wants to know me sad pmsl
bLEEp
xxxxxx
u look ok to us bleep....
but u r in sheffield............
love the park in sheffield with the stream running thru btw
all we`ve got here is concrete jungle with the river thames biggrin
Ours is blank for two reasons - one we haven't got round to getting a picture for it and two, for the moment, we're not really looking to meet people directly through here so it doesn't matter.
When we start to look for particular couples then we'll put some nice text and pics, natch.
For me being on this site is about making connections with other people. If that's what you want to do, you got to communicate. That means telling folk something of yourself, either in a mail or on a profile. If you write a one liner mail or have a blank profile you're not giving a good image of yourself so when you get blown out it's your fault. That's the way I see it.
It's a two way street though, just cos you're a couple doesn't mean you're better ( well maybe some of you then ). I recently decided not to further things with a couple after being cut off in a messenger conv ( and before you say that happens ( and it does ) I would have sent a mail saying "soz bloody PC/MSN etc" ).
I always read an ad and the profile before sending a mail ( in which I put time and effort ) and only then if I fit the criteria. I know it must be a pain to be swamped with admirers but it would be nice occasionally to get a thanks but no thanks, mind you I did get one of those recently ( quite refreshing it was ) instead of the usual silent treatment.
I guess I'm trying to say
A: Make an effort
B: notice someone elses
C: Have fun.
Does anyone else get pissed off by bad spelling in an ad ? or is it just me ?