We were having this discussion inthe chatroom the other night. A single male commented that he never got any replys to his mails... I looked at the profile and what do you know!!!! no pictures, no text, no nothing!
So... I pose the question to you single males... and everyone else... If a couple have no pictures and no text what do you assume.. for me its leave it well alone, If they cant be bothered to complete a profile then I cant be bothered worrying about whether they're going to be a loss to me. That out of the way.. what do you think a blank profile says to the people on this site???
The 2 guys I spoke to said they'd never thought of it like that and now do have profile that include decent photos and some text that makes them worth reading about.... but why do so many mail you with nothing about them? Lets face it, if you were going to buy a 3 piece suite you wouldn't say .. send me anything you've got! you'd want some details, even if it was just style, colour and maintenace required!
agree wholeheartedly. profiles are crucial and should be entirely honest. WYSIWYG
Fully agree.
I know a lot of people choose not to fill out their profiles or have ads as they don't wish to be contacted by random people and that's fine.
But if somebody is actively looking to meet people it certainly helps to give as much information about yourself and what you're looking for.
You often see people post here that they've been unsuccessful and asking advice on the forum and the advice given is quite similar to what you've said.
I don't think it's just single guys that do this though
entirely agree dave/debbie, but please feel free to pm me for meaningless grattuitous exhortaions as to what you should do next on cam! Or alternatively check profile and we could try for real LOL
Well I'm not a single guy. But my profile is as blank as I can possibly make it.
However the text is quiet clear that I do not want random people finding out facts about me against my will.
The comment I've written is that if you want to find something out about me, then you should get off your ass and either find me in a chatroom and talk to me, or come and find me at a munch.
That way we can both get to know each other.
I appreciate that some people on here have got something to hide, but rest assured I'm not one of them.
Ian
interesting replies and I have to agree that its not just single males that are guilty of this. There are cples too. That said the men Ive spoken too have gone off and completed the profile and then asked for an opinion ( brave i know!!)
The other thing that amazes me if the amount of "winkers" that expect you to reply to a blank profile.... Let me think...( sctatches head and ponders a moment) ..hmmmm no idea what you look like, what you enjoy, whethere you have hot air between your ears.... ooooh yeahhh cant miss this opportunity lol
People shouldn't feel that they have to complete a profile if they don't want to.
Ours is blank for two reasons - one we haven't got round to getting a picture for it and two, for the moment, we're not really looking to meet people directly through here so it doesn't matter.
When we start to look for particular couples then we'll put some nice text and pics, natch.
For me being on this site is about making connections with other people. If that's what you want to do, you got to communicate. That means telling folk something of yourself, either in a mail or on a profile. If you write a one liner mail or have a blank profile you're not giving a good image of yourself so when you get blown out it's your fault. That's the way I see it.
It's a two way street though, just cos you're a couple doesn't mean you're better ( well maybe some of you then ). I recently decided not to further things with a couple after being cut off in a messenger conv ( and before you say that happens ( and it does ) I would have sent a mail saying "soz bloody PC/MSN etc" ).
I always read an ad and the profile before sending a mail ( in which I put time and effort ) and only then if I fit the criteria. I know it must be a pain to be swamped with admirers but it would be nice occasionally to get a thanks but no thanks, mind you I did get one of those recently ( quite refreshing it was ) instead of the usual silent treatment.
I guess I'm trying to say
A: Make an effort
B: notice someone elses
C: Have fun.
Does anyone else get pissed off by bad spelling in an ad ? or is it just me ?