Just wanted to have a little rant and rave about something which really bugs me with people who post adverts and posts on the lets meet up forum, when people say that they are looking for someone, do they wait until they get to see the person, then, tell them that they are not what they are looking for, it is a little unfair, it just gets a guys hopes up only to have them dashed because they ain't some brad pitt lookalike, if a guy has the tackle, then what is the problem ?
I have had this done to me twice now and it is very frustrating, it is like dangling the proverbial carrot and should not be allowed.
So, people, if your going to ask for a guy to join you, be considerate and at least state your after someone who looks like George Clooney or Brad Pitt please, don't give guys false hopes.
Kry I know you're upset hunnie, but you can't seriously believe that if someone places an add they should have to play with whoever responds.
If you're going to swing you have to accept rejection, but try not to take it personally. It isn't necessarily about looks, it's about how you get on, how you come across in your ads.
It can also be just simply who you "click" with - and there's no way of knowing that when somebody is writing their criteria for an add.
Chin up.
I can understand that, but, I got nothing but, "sorry, bye" from the people who I spoke to, they didn't even give me the chance to chat to them and get a rapor going, which is the side of things I am peeved at, fair enough if they made the attempt to get to know me and felt that I was not what they wanted after that, but, to just see my photo then decide that I am not what they want, well, a little unfair I thought.
What has Brad Pitt and George Clooney got to do with it?....i gather you met up with them?....and it was then they said thanks but no thanks....perhaps they were embarrassed and wanted to leave straight away instead of wasting your time aswell as theirs.
hey like blonde say thats life ,would you swing with some one that you did not like the look of,maybe if you already met up in a pub could of sat down and had a drink ,in reality think we would of,and maybe told you straight away that your not what we are looking the fem part thought no that not for me and wanted to go straight away to avoid feeling guilty of setting up the meet,pics dont always show the person and do them justice .take it on the chin ,there are a lot of single males that aint had a meet even yet that start the winge threads ,keep trying and good luck :
u r not using your avatar photo r u ???? lol
just looked at yr profile -not a lot 2 go on there!!!
we always invite single guys 4 a no strings drink in a pub 1st -its too hard to decide 2 swing with someone from a couple of emails and a couple of pics
had 2 no shows this week so what r we doing wrong?
Are you using an accurate face pic, or even sending a face pic before meeting? We met with one guy who had used a pic that was about 10 years old and he looked completely different. No we didn't take things further.
We would usually stay for a few drinks even if it was obviously a no go. I am not sure if that is because we are polite, or we just like booze. Maybe it is a bit of both.
At least you are being invited to meet couples, so it seems you are half way there. If you have a "I demand sex" attitude it will scare people off. Well, it would scare us off.
The polite, friendly and non-pushy atitude is probably best.
We have met with couples who didn't want to play with us. We instead became their friends.
So are you a Red Dwarf fan? (Looking at your avatar)
I wasn't going to post on this one, but I've changed my mind......................so if what I say offends anyone, sorry, but I have a right to my opinion.
I'm 4 ft 10, I'm tiny, and I really can't cope with huge guys............over-weight huge I'm talking about. So should I really be expected to suffer discomfort and no enjoyment whatsoever just because some guy has answered one of my posts for a meet? I make it quite plain when I post for a meet that I'm small and am only looking for a certain size and build of guy. If the bloke then lies, and mis-leads me..................are you really suggesting I should go through with it anyway? Will I fuck!!! Just because I choose a swinging lifestyle doesn't make me fair game to every bloke with a cock...............it's MY body, and I'll share it with whoever I choose.
As a single guy, admittedly one who meets people at clubs, rather than by replying to Ads, I’ve got to agree with the majority of responders on here. If there’s no physical attraction, it just isn’t going to happen, and no-one should need to even consider apologising for taking a decision not to continue the contact if its not right.
Unfortunately the post doesn’t even get an intellectual debate going, because as soon as the phrase " If a guy has the tackle, then whats the problem" appeared we all realised that heres someone with no clue as to why he is getting nowhere, when its clear to everyone else exactly why he isnt succeeeding, and i guess with that attitude, it isnt just down to looks.
There are two sides to this scenario. The willing new responder and the advertisers, usually the 'couple'. Both with expectations and the ability to offend and be offended.
However consider things at the other end of the wedge. That is when you decide to turn down the advertisers. Things tend to become a bit more lairy all round. There is often a greater expectation from the advertisers for the responder to fulfil his/her part, once they have decided it suits them.
There should be no problems with either side wishing to get out at any time if there is growing unease and lack of enjoyment.
So in your haste to get some experience don't forgt your right to your own space.
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