OK so we are very happily married and have been getting really horny about her screwing other men, either with me to join in or on her own. We are right on the brink of doing this........but I have to ask the question......
When we do finally take the plunge so to speak, will it all be the way we hope?? Will it ruin our relationship or do what we think, make us even hornier and more in love?
I would love to hear of your opinions good or bad.
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So should I really let the wife get screwed??
Sex God
Not having been in a swinging relationship, this really is just my personal opinion rather than eperience.
I think only you can answer that. Only you two are privy to your feelings. Am sure others will say think long and hard and talk lots.
Nola x
I think only you can answer that. Only you two are privy to your feelings. Am sure others will say think long and hard and talk lots.
Nola x
only you and your wife are best placed to answer that...you know how strong your marriage is.
speaking for ourselves, we found it strengthened the ralationship and added a horny new dimension to our relationship, but for sll the ones who are happy with swinging there will be others for whom it, sadly didnt work out.
communication and talking your feelings throgh before (and after if it goes ahead) is the crucial key!)
good luck with whatver happens xxx
speaking for ourselves, we found it strengthened the ralationship and added a horny new dimension to our relationship, but for sll the ones who are happy with swinging there will be others for whom it, sadly didnt work out.
communication and talking your feelings throgh before (and after if it goes ahead) is the crucial key!)
good luck with whatver happens xxx
My opinion is that only you can answer any of those questions accurately.
Do you get jealous when another guy pays attention to your missus, or do you see it as a compliment?
Given that we're swingers it's highly unlikely that we're going to be against someone sharing a fuck with his missus and another guy.
Just remember that if you do go through with it, it cannot be undone so you must be sure beforehand.
I'm not sure what to read into the fact that you've asked the question. I'm not sure you've asked because you have doubts and need them calming or that you're all for the idea but need some backup that it's not wrong.
It's only wrong if it's not right for you, your missus and your relationship.
It's not wrong to want to do it but bottle out at the last minute.
It's not wrong to fantasise about it but leave it as a fantasy.
It's not wrong when you are both into it and you have the sort of relationship and outlook that permits the sort of emotions you will feel afterwards.
Do you get jealous when another guy pays attention to your missus, or do you see it as a compliment?
Given that we're swingers it's highly unlikely that we're going to be against someone sharing a fuck with his missus and another guy.
Just remember that if you do go through with it, it cannot be undone so you must be sure beforehand.
I'm not sure what to read into the fact that you've asked the question. I'm not sure you've asked because you have doubts and need them calming or that you're all for the idea but need some backup that it's not wrong.
It's only wrong if it's not right for you, your missus and your relationship.
It's not wrong to want to do it but bottle out at the last minute.
It's not wrong to fantasise about it but leave it as a fantasy.
It's not wrong when you are both into it and you have the sort of relationship and outlook that permits the sort of emotions you will feel afterwards.
Sex God
Sorry.... but i don't understand the thing of should "YOU" let her get fucked?
Shouldn't it be HER choice and you both discuss it and come to a certain agreement as a cpl?
Lil
Shouldn't it be HER choice and you both discuss it and come to a certain agreement as a cpl?
Lil
Thanks to all so far for your replies.
Lil, you are right more a bad use of words and not the situation!!
Peanut, I think you hit the nail on the head, I am sure that for both of us it is just that what we fantasise about is not the "Norm" in society and because we are both (as I am sure most swingers are) very much normal, we sometimes question our "normal" thoughts for our right to have fun!!
Lil, you are right more a bad use of words and not the situation!!
Peanut, I think you hit the nail on the head, I am sure that for both of us it is just that what we fantasise about is not the "Norm" in society and because we are both (as I am sure most swingers are) very much normal, we sometimes question our "normal" thoughts for our right to have fun!!
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Thanks to all so far for your replies.
Lil, you are right more a bad use of words and not the situation!!
Peanut, I think you hit the nail on the head, I am sure that for both of us it is just that what we fantasise about is not the "Norm" in society and because we are both (as I am sure most swingers are) very much normal, we sometimes question our "normal" thoughts for our right to have fun!!
I relate to what you have said, I often and still wonder how we have gone against the norm, But my answer to myself is this is the norm for us.
I would say if you decide to try it never on a first meet have expectations, what you fantasise about isn't the reality.
But we have had great fun and no regrets.
Talking is key and you will hit some issues you cant count for, talk them through and listen to each other.
Only the two of you can decide what is best for you and trust is paramount.
Some make it a lot don't be careful, and good luck in what you decide.
