Quote by HimandHer
It still amazes me how many profiles are out there that have no pictures... and no text - how are you supposed to know anything about the person?
Quote by Buenohombre69
I've used a number of sites to meet partners on a casual but friendly basis over the years but I'm still something of a newbie on this particular site (which I still find a little arcane in comparison to other dating related sites I've been on, especially when it comes to the ludicrously over complicated shrep system).
My general experience - and I've done a little research over the years too - is that from a straight single man's perspective it pays to have a picture showing your torso and face (most women want to see a face pic but respond more readily to seeing the torso too). Contrary to what most men on dating sites seem to believe, close ups of your dick are a bad place to start for most women (in fact I've never used one at all in over five years of regularly meeting new partners online) so if you really have to use these it's best to keep these to respond to requests only. To me this sort of thing suggests an aspect of many men ineptly trying to display "peacock feathers" judging by the veritable penis parade that can be encountered by doing a single man search on certain sites, lol). You also need to get over a sense of being approachable and nonthreatening, rather than being the greatest stud/sex machine on earth. Although size undoubtedly matters to some, most women appear to be looking to be treated sensitively by a man who is tactile and can hold a conversation rather than a hunk with large cucumber hanging between the legs.
I've also found that it is really the profile and main picture that matters, so when it comes to initial contact, the object is simply to get potential partners to look at your profile rather than develop a deep interest by what they see in the opening email itself. I've found it best to use something quite short and snappy that implies an easy going nature and gsh rather than a profound piece of prose about your entire life history. A lot of women complain about "cut and paste merchants" but the reality is that with so much competition (I usually get about a 10% response rate to emails, with about a quarter to a third of those actually leading to meets) it simply isn't practical to send a completely bespoke opener every time - and whenever I've tried adding a comment in a standard opener directly relating to something in the other person's profile, I've never actually noticed any difference to the response rate.
So that's my ten penneth, based largely on experience of more conventional dating sites...
Quote by Dawnie
I've used a number of sites to meet partners on a casual but friendly basis over the years but I'm still something of a newbie on this particular site (which I still find a little arcane in comparison to other dating related sites I've been on, especially when it comes to the ludicrously over complicated shrep system).
My general experience - and I've done a little research over the years too - is that from a straight single man's perspective it pays to have a picture showing your torso and face (most women want to see a face pic but respond more readily to seeing the torso too). Contrary to what most men on dating sites seem to believe, close ups of your dick are a bad place to start for most women (in fact I've never used one at all in over five years of regularly meeting new partners online) so if you really have to use these it's best to keep these to respond to requests only. To me this sort of thing suggests an aspect of many men ineptly trying to display "peacock feathers" judging by the veritable penis parade that can be encountered by doing a single man search on certain sites, lol). You also need to get over a sense of being approachable and nonthreatening, rather than being the greatest stud/sex machine on earth. Although size undoubtedly matters to some, most women appear to be looking to be treated sensitively by a man who is tactile and can hold a conversation rather than a hunk with large cucumber hanging between the legs.
I've also found that it is really the profile and main picture that matters, so when it comes to initial contact, the object is simply to get potential partners to look at your profile rather than develop a deep interest by what they see in the opening email itself. I've found it best to use something quite short and snappy that implies an easy going nature and gsh rather than a profound piece of prose about your entire life history. A lot of women complain about "cut and paste merchants" but the reality is that with so much competition (I usually get about a 10% response rate to emails, with about a quarter to a third of those actually leading to meets) it simply isn't practical to send a completely bespoke opener every time - and whenever I've tried adding a comment in a standard opener directly relating to something in the other person's profile, I've never actually noticed any difference to the response rate.
So that's my ten penneth, based largely on experience of more conventional dating sites...
Quote by Lizaleanrob
and who said the toys where for you
i believe thats sexism
Quote by Dawnie
I've used a number of sites to meet partners on a casual but friendly basis over the years but I'm still something of a newbie on this particular site (which I still find a little arcane in comparison to other dating related sites I've been on, especially when it comes to the ludicrously over complicated shrep system).
My general experience - and I've done a little research over the years too - is that from a straight single man's perspective it pays to have a picture showing your torso and face (most women want to see a face pic but respond more readily to seeing the torso too). Contrary to what most men on dating sites seem to believe, close ups of your dick are a bad place to start for most women (in fact I've never used one at all in over five years of regularly meeting new partners online) so if you really have to use these it's best to keep these to respond to requests only. To me this sort of thing suggests an aspect of many men ineptly trying to display "peacock feathers" judging by the veritable penis parade that can be encountered by doing a single man search on certain sites, lol). You also need to get over a sense of being approachable and nonthreatening, rather than being the greatest stud/sex machine on earth. Although size undoubtedly matters to some, most women appear to be looking to be treated sensitively by a man who is tactile and can hold a conversation rather than a hunk with large cucumber hanging between the legs.
I've also found that it is really the profile and main picture that matters, so when it comes to initial contact, the object is simply to get potential partners to look at your profile rather than develop a deep interest by what they see in the opening email itself. I've found it best to use something quite short and snappy that implies an easy going nature and gsh rather than a profound piece of prose about your entire life history. A lot of women complain about "cut and paste merchants" but the reality is that with so much competition (I usually get about a 10% response rate to emails, with about a quarter to a third of those actually leading to meets) it simply isn't practical to send a completely bespoke opener every time - and whenever I've tried adding a comment in a standard opener directly relating to something in the other person's profile, I've never actually noticed any difference to the response rate.
So that's my ten penneth, based largely on experience of more conventional dating sites...
Quote by HimandHerThat's pretty much the same for me although I'll probably switch off after three paragraphs.
Anythng that says "We don't respond to...." - I don't read any further.
I get switched off by any profile which is clearly punching above its weight.
I don't read profiles with no pictures.
I don't bother read anything more that 5 paragraphs.
What I do look for, is something which is punchy, to the point, not too coarse or outwardly offensive, something that is nice, polite and easy to read.
It still amazes me how many profiles are out there that have no pictures... and no text - how are you supposed to know anything about the person?
Quote by HimandHer
Anythng that says "We don't respond to...." - I don't read any further.
I get switched off by any profile which is clearly punching above its weight.
I don't read profiles with no pictures.
I don't bother read anything more that 5 paragraphs.
What I do look for, is something which is punchy, to the point, not too coarse or outwardly offensive, something that is nice, polite and easy to read.
It still amazes me how many profiles are out there that have no pictures... and no text - how are you supposed to know anything about the person?
Quote by Funlovers2009
A good sense of humour goes a long way and is probably the best way to get into my pants!
Quote by Max777
Can't be that bleeding obvious Brucie or others might take more interest in how their profiles appear to others. Never a bad thing to see things reiterated or posted on a subject that's of importance in the 'scene' we're in
Quote by Lost
Can't be that bleeding obvious Brucie or others might take more interest in how their profiles appear to others. Never a bad thing to see things reiterated or posted on a subject that's of importance in the 'scene' we're in
Quote by anais
tel. no's, email addies and anything else that breaks the AUP
