So when shall we get to shagging then?

22 Oct 2010

OK so you've talked/met and thought hmmm cool we're all agreed a shags on the cards. How do you move on from the point of finishing a meal or a drink or small talking or whatever to the actual doing the duuuurty? Do you you have the balls to say something like " OK nice meal now lets wanna f*ck"? Or do you pop on a porn video and hope someone gets the idea it's time to 'up it a notch' What do you do?

22 Oct 2010

Quote by Lost
OK so you've talked/met and thought hmmm cool we're all agreed a shags on the cards. How do you move on from the point of finishing a meal or a drink or small talking or whatever to the actual doing the duuuurty? Do you you have the balls to say something like " OK nice meal now lets wanna f*ck"? Or do you pop on a porn video and hope someone gets the idea it's time to 'up it a notch' What do you do?

I guess everyone is different, but being a bit on the subbie side, I hope the other person/people would reasd the signs correctly and take the lead. Can't seem to actually 'volunteer' myself, but hope they'll have the confidence and desire to take what they want :rascal:

22 Oct 2010

Yes a very akward one Lost. Haven't been there and got that T-shirt for a very long time so now its all a distant memory. Errm it was porn the last time and it was suggested that if we stopped watching it then Mrs Tweeky would take over the entertainment :grin:
At the current moment in time what seems to happen is this. We meet people in social situations. They mail us and say want to meet up again and get busy :grin: We say yes please. They say ok where and when. We say how about here at this time. They vanish never to be seen again. I dont get it its a very nice hotel too lol

Seem to have that effect on people dunno

22 Oct 2010

Quote by tweeky
Yes a very akward one Lost. Haven't been there and got that T-shirt for a very long time so now its all a distant memory. Errm it was porn the last time and it was suggested that if we stopped watching it then Mrs Tweeky would take over the entertainment :grin:
At the current moment in time what seems to happen is this. We meet people in social situations. They mail us and say want to meet up again and get busy :grin: We say yes please. They say ok where and when. We say how about here at this time. They vanish never to be seen again. I dont get it its a very nice hotel too Seem to have that effect on people

Tweekle, nice you is one thing but come on meeting 10:30 pm Friday night at Mrs Miggins boarding house and dormitory on stapleton road is too others a bit too much of an adventure :lol:

22 Oct 2010

I do some standard dating agencies with occasional success. But recently I have taken to simply doing things and letting people know that is what I am doing, where and when. It works some of the time. But its better than all this endless communications by email mobiles etc.

22 Oct 2010

Having a family we don't really have the time to go through all the social side of swinging. If we are going to meet then we want to meet and have gone to the effort of getting a babysitter etc.
If we did the social side, I'm sure my wife would let it be known that she is up for it. When it comes to sex if she's keen then she wants it to happen and will get out a deck of cards for strip poker if needed. Although a kiss between the ladies would probably indicate her intent too.

23 Oct 2010

I find at some point there's a lull in the conversation and everyone checks each other out and goes for it lol.

23 Oct 2010

thats the bit im crap at
i have never made the first move on anyone i always wait for them to suggest or make a move on me
so for me time to move onto playing is if and when they ask lol

23 Oct 2010

Quote by naughtynymphos1
thats the bit im crap at
i have never made the first move on anyone i always wait for them to suggest or make a move on me
so for me time to move onto playing is if and when they ask lol

Ready now? :twisted:

24 Oct 2010

I'm not very good at getting things moving in that direction, but hubby seems to be better. He usually takes our (lady) guest's top off and things tend to get underway fairly swiftly. Strangely, in most social situations, he is bolder than I am, despite professing to be excruciatingly shy. It's a good job really, or we'd spend far more evenings saying "Well isn't this nice?" instead of "May I........?" :rascal:

26 Oct 2010

well....if we meet first at a pub...I tend to say I'm going the tiolet for 5 mins exactly....Have a chat, if your gone when I come back....no hard feelings and not a problem....if you still here then great..lets go have some fun....that way you know they are up for it or not !!
If meet at my home....you have a drink and a bit of a social chat etc etc....then if i feel all is good, I tend to say..well...think it may be time for a guided tour of my bedroom....this way please !!!
If meet at their house...more difficult...and do try and wait for them to make the move.

26 Oct 2010

I am more reserved and tend to hold back and be led.
We did meet a couple where the host brought out an adults game to break the ice. Half way through the game Alexs' little voice asked innocently "Are we going to fuck yet?"
Even to this day the host has said he has never been lost for words except at that point
Dave_Notts

28 Oct 2010

We dont do the 'let meet up for a drink first' type social as we have kids and time is precious but we do go to socials and have never been to one yet that we've not played at. You can generally feel if people are interested so after we've chatted for a while, and if we're interested in them, then it's usually me who asks if they wanna go play. We do the same when we meet people in clubs on normal nights. We've not been to a social yet that hasnt been in a club so I'm not sure how we would arrange something then. Suppose I'd just ask if they wanted to come to our hotel room??
On house meets .... errrrm pretty much the same. We usually meet at our house and after we've all chatted for a bit and me and hubby have agreed that we're up for it (we have a code lol

) then I go for a pee and then come downstairs, stand in the doorway and ask if everyone would like to come upstairs.
We have our first meet in someone elses house tonight so I'm guessing we'll leave it to them???

28 Oct 2010

For myself, after a little chatting and getting to know one another.
Approach gently, and confidently, place your arms around her, tilt your head and kiss.
I think you know what to do after that

28 Oct 2010

What's shagging :lol2:

28 Oct 2010

Quote by Funlovers2009
We dont do the 'let meet up for a drink first' type social as we have kids and time is precious but we do go to socials and have never been to one yet that we've not played at. You can generally feel if people are interested so after we've chatted for a while, and if we're interested in them, then it's usually me who asks if they wanna go play. We do the same when we meet people in clubs on normal nights. We've not been to a social yet that hasnt been in a club so I'm not sure how we would arrange something then. Suppose I'd just ask if they wanted to come to our hotel room??
On house meets .... errrrm pretty much the same. We usually meet at our house and after we've all chatted for a bit and me and hubby have agreed that we're up for it (we have a code ) then I go for a pee and then come downstairs, stand in the doorway and ask if everyone would like to come upstairs.
We have our first meet in someone elses house tonight so I'm guessing we'll leave it to them???

We have this on our profile. Its mainly so we dont meet people think they are ghastly and then have to find excuses to get out of the bedroom or hotel if thats where the first encounter is. We dont have wont play on a first meet but we do have some stuff about meeting for a drink. That does not mean to say we wouldn't but does say we want to know if we would first :lol: We think of it just like your socials and munchs we go for a drink but if play came on the agenda and we were all happy it wouldn't be a problem.

Quote by Steve
What's shagging :lol2:

We were told its something you do to a carpet to make it more fluffy feeling dunno

28 Oct 2010

Quote by tweeky
We dont do the 'let meet up for a drink first' type social as we have kids and time is precious but we do go to socials and have never been to one yet that we've not played at. You can generally feel if people are interested so after we've chatted for a while, and if we're interested in them, then it's usually me who asks if they wanna go play. We do the same when we meet people in clubs on normal nights. We've not been to a social yet that hasnt been in a club so I'm not sure how we would arrange something then. Suppose I'd just ask if they wanted to come to our hotel room??
On house meets .... errrrm pretty much the same. We usually meet at our house and after we've all chatted for a bit and me and hubby have agreed that we're up for it (we have a code ) then I go for a pee and then come downstairs, stand in the doorway and ask if everyone would like to come upstairs.
We have our first meet in someone elses house tonight so I'm guessing we'll leave it to them???

We have this on our profile. Its mainly so we dont meet people think they are ghastly and then have to find excuses to get out of the bedroom or hotel if thats where the first encounter is. We dont have wont play on a first meet but we do have some stuff about meeting for a drink. That does not mean to say we wouldn't but does say we want to know if we would first :lol: We think of it just like your socials and munchs we go for a drink but if play came on the agenda and we were all happy it wouldn't be a problem.
That really confused me so I had to go and read your profile (again redface

) ..... while I was there I notcied that you like couples under 40 so I'd better get my arse into gear and get to Bristol cos I'm 38 next month!!! (and there's you saying you dont get enough offers from couples .... I'm feckin fed up of offering myself to ya) :lol:

28 Oct 2010

Quote by Funlovers2009
We dont do the 'let meet up for a drink first' type social as we have kids and time is precious but we do go to socials and have never been to one yet that we've not played at. You can generally feel if people are interested so after we've chatted for a while, and if we're interested in them, then it's usually me who asks if they wanna go play. We do the same when we meet people in clubs on normal nights. We've not been to a social yet that hasnt been in a club so I'm not sure how we would arrange something then. Suppose I'd just ask if they wanted to come to our hotel room??
On house meets .... errrrm pretty much the same. We usually meet at our house and after we've all chatted for a bit and me and hubby have agreed that we're up for it (we have a code ) then I go for a pee and then come downstairs, stand in the doorway and ask if everyone would like to come upstairs.
We have our first meet in someone elses house tonight so I'm guessing we'll leave it to them???

Should I ever visit, I'll have to remember to ask if you need to go for a pee :giggle:

28 Oct 2010

Quote by mancunian
We dont do the 'let meet up for a drink first' type social as we have kids and time is precious but we do go to socials and have never been to one yet that we've not played at. You can generally feel if people are interested so after we've chatted for a while, and if we're interested in them, then it's usually me who asks if they wanna go play. We do the same when we meet people in clubs on normal nights. We've not been to a social yet that hasnt been in a club so I'm not sure how we would arrange something then. Suppose I'd just ask if they wanted to come to our hotel room??
On house meets .... errrrm pretty much the same. We usually meet at our house and after we've all chatted for a bit and me and hubby have agreed that we're up for it (we have a code ) then I go for a pee and then come downstairs, stand in the doorway and ask if everyone would like to come upstairs.
We have our first meet in someone elses house tonight so I'm guessing we'll leave it to them???

Should I ever visit, I'll have to remember to ask if you need to go for a pee :giggle:
pmsl .... gotta have a pre shag pee .... its a must!!!

28 Oct 2010

Quote by Funlovers2009
We dont do the 'let meet up for a drink first' type social as we have kids and time is precious but we do go to socials and have never been to one yet that we've not played at. You can generally feel if people are interested so after we've chatted for a while, and if we're interested in them, then it's usually me who asks if they wanna go play. We do the same when we meet people in clubs on normal nights. We've not been to a social yet that hasnt been in a club so I'm not sure how we would arrange something then. Suppose I'd just ask if they wanted to come to our hotel room??
On house meets .... errrrm pretty much the same. We usually meet at our house and after we've all chatted for a bit and me and hubby have agreed that we're up for it (we have a code ) then I go for a pee and then come downstairs, stand in the doorway and ask if everyone would like to come upstairs.
We have our first meet in someone elses house tonight so I'm guessing we'll leave it to them???

We have this on our profile. Its mainly so we dont meet people think they are ghastly and then have to find excuses to get out of the bedroom or hotel if thats where the first encounter is. We dont have wont play on a first meet but we do have some stuff about meeting for a drink. That does not mean to say we wouldn't but does say we want to know if we would first :lol: We think of it just like your socials and munchs we go for a drink but if play came on the agenda and we were all happy it wouldn't be a problem.
That really confused me so I had to go and read your profile (again redface

) ..... while I was there I notcied that you like couples under 40 so I'd better get my arse into gear and get to Bristol cos I'm 38 next month!!! (and there's you saying you dont get enough offers from couples .... I'm feckin fed up of offering myself to ya) :lol:
Hmm in theory we should start moving the ages up a year each year as we aint getting any younger either :shock: To simplify the above it basically says we do drinks not guaranteed shags but we would if we fancied it wink

28 Oct 2010

If it's a party we all know why we are there, so it is just a matter of chatting, finding people one likes and then just asking.
If its a meet then again its just time over a drink and then if I am not asked, I ask.
If its a chance meet, it is much like above, but more time to lead up. Having said that I recall a chance meet on a train. We chatted for a few stations and I asked how far she was going. She told me she was going all the way and then told me which station she was getting off at. We fucked in the toilet, I do not recall any of the other words we exchanged.
Travis

29 Oct 2010

Quote by tweeky
We dont do the 'let meet up for a drink first' type social as we have kids and time is precious but we do go to socials and have never been to one yet that we've not played at. You can generally feel if people are interested so after we've chatted for a while, and if we're interested in them, then it's usually me who asks if they wanna go play. We do the same when we meet people in clubs on normal nights. We've not been to a social yet that hasnt been in a club so I'm not sure how we would arrange something then. Suppose I'd just ask if they wanted to come to our hotel room??
On house meets .... errrrm pretty much the same. We usually meet at our house and after we've all chatted for a bit and me and hubby have agreed that we're up for it (we have a code ) then I go for a pee and then come downstairs, stand in the doorway and ask if everyone would like to come upstairs.
We have our first meet in someone elses house tonight so I'm guessing we'll leave it to them???

We have this on our profile. Its mainly so we dont meet people think they are ghastly and then have to find excuses to get out of the bedroom or hotel if thats where the first encounter is. We dont have wont play on a first meet but we do have some stuff about meeting for a drink. That does not mean to say we wouldn't but does say we want to know if we would first :lol: We think of it just like your socials and munchs we go for a drink but if play came on the agenda and we were all happy it wouldn't be a problem.
That really confused me so I had to go and read your profile (again redface

) ..... while I was there I notcied that you like couples under 40 so I'd better get my arse into gear and get to Bristol cos I'm 38 next month!!! (and there's you saying you dont get enough offers from couples .... I'm feckin fed up of offering myself to ya) :lol:
Hmm in theory we should start moving the ages up a year each year as we aint getting any younger either :shock: To simplify the above it basically says we do drinks not guaranteed shags but we would if we fancied it wink

Oooh so does that mean I'm back in with a chance? ;)

29 Oct 2010

after we chatted and decided to meet.
we can talk for a bit when you arrive but i'll just shut you up as i want to play.
not here to look at the curtains!