And breathe!
I think it's natural to talk about socials, both past and forthcoming. However, you shouldn't disclose details even of ones that have happened. At least if newbies know they exist, they know that at some point they will probably have the opportunity to meet some of those folks they talk to in chat.
It's a bit dull talking about them constantly though, I reckon.
It can also be the same for those attending socials. As one who is often quiet and sat in the corner or leaves early ect you tend to feel you have missed some of the things they are chatting about in the room.
But on the other hand the post social chat soon dies down and normal chatting resumes untill the next one.
I have recently seen new folks come in the room i use and evryones talking about the social and it must seem a bit daunting and has even been mentioned by some new folks how evryone in the room knows each other.
...further more I personally know of three couples who will not enter the rooms or go to a social for personal reasons.
Are they dull?
I'm very sorry if you miss read what i wrote I'm not saying anyone is dull or that they cant pull I no that some people on here only look at pics and profiles and there sex life is fab i should have put quotes down stating what i said he said etc I'm one of these people that love the chat rooms and the socials but like you say some people just don't like them. every one has there own voice and i have more respect for people that say whats on there mind i always try and ask when unsure about something and i only hope people don't get put off by things that are done or said in the room and if your a newbie going to a social i would like to think that i would never let some one site in the corner on there own weather it be a single male single woman or a coy cpl looking lost and only hope that other that go to socials would do the same :angel:
i like to swing in 3-d.i like to chat the old fashioned way ( with my mouth)and i know from personal experience that in a "live setting" people get to meet the "real" you.
I love the way that one matches faces with names in a social setting.
what surprises me are the amount of people who prefer to be in chat when you could be actually meeting people for either social or purely sexual reasons.
ive had a few parties at my home over the time ive been a member. some guests played, some been to numerous munches and private parties all of which i have enjoyed, even the ones i didnt play at.
I know its a case of horses for courses but my money is on going to a social everytime, however im accutely aware that i wouldnt have so many ways to break the ice had i not have spent time in chat or in the forums.
Very clicky, na dont think any ones very clicky its just more ppl who chat to each other ,who have met or played together ,
but we always heard the old "its a clicky room " or "click club" if you dont put something in you aint gona get a lot out.
i think the socials are there to compliment the chat rooms. It allows you to faces to names. It allows you to get to know the people on a more personal level. Some people are very upfront in room and yet very shy when you meet.
As for rooms being clicky... the answer is, if you mean people like talking to friends who they know..then yes rooms are clicky. Its the same as when you walk into a pub.... if its first time..not many will say hello to you. They will talk amongst themselves to their friends. However if you go into pub on a regualr basis..and say hello..people start to recognise you..say hello back and start chatting. Soon you are regular and part of the pack. Treat the chat room in exactly same way.
we just started to visit the forum,chatroom,and hopefully one of us is attending a than just placing an ad and see what happens.
we hope to make some good friends as well as hoping it all works out. c+s
i think socials are a great way of meeting people you have chatted to in the rooms,
however, yes there had to be one... i wish the socials would follow some of the munch guidelines.
it upsets me to see the location being given out in open chat.
you dont know whos passing through and what their motives are.
if newbies( well infact anyone) were to attend a social arranged in this manner and something went wrong, well its not nice to say the least.
i dont hold with the fact that if your seen at a swinging social then everyone there is going to keep your id safe, some people are open about being a swinger in their family and work life, others are not.
but thats a whole other thread.
chat being clicky?
i dont think so, if im in a blatent sexual room i expect/ accept different chat. If im in my reguler room of devon and cornwall its like being in your local and we have mundane chat i guess, well not overly sexual.
it can be running very fast and some people get upset if you dont all say hi straight away if a newbie pops in, but you may miss it. or it may be so blatently sexual like, bi guy devon anyone want to meet that you dont reply.
hope that makes any sense.
xx fem xxx
I thought I'd stick my oar in here.
I'm a chatter who goes to a few socials in the year. With the occasional dip into the forums (as you can see LOL)
A chat room is like any room - if someone comes in half-way through a conversation it can seem clicqued, and it can be hard to feel comfortable with joining in. But - as someone said - the chat specifically about recent/coming socials does die down, the same as any animated conversation.
There are 3 kinds of people in a chat room: chatters who know each other fairly well, chatters who don't really know many people but cht anyway (they soon move into the first group) and lurkers. Not a nice name, especially when they are just quietly sitting there enjoying the flow of chat.
I would say that if anyone comes into a chat room, it's worth sitting and watching for a bit and getting a feel for the flow and subject of the chat. Then it's easy to slip in with a 'hi all, I'm new'. The reason chat often 'fails' is that part is easy, it's the second sentence that seems hard to drop in, especially if the first one appears to have been ignored.
Persevere, but some rooms are just in too much of a flow and maybe it's time to try another one for a minute.
That's my ha'p'orth anyway.
PS Redpantherman - I have got to love man that can spell prerogative. XXXXXXX
gosh foxy n rpm i think have said it all
i`m very shy when meeting peeps at socials
but after a while we settle down
do u remember yr first one rpm
i like them when we get away from the kids to meet peeps that u have only said hi to in chatroom
and then u now they r real people n u can put a face to the name when u r in the chatroom think sh is getting better n better....
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