Some advice please.....

14 Dec 2005

I've been a member of this site hoping to find some fun for a while now.
I've wriiten to many ladies but never had any success, i've never even had a reply sad

Please could the ladies who frequent the board take a look at my ad and tell me what is wrong?
Any tips to get a positive response would be most welcome.
You can be brutally honest, I can take it! confused

My ad is at:
http://photos.swingingheaven.co.uk/photo-adverts/swingers-368582.html

14 Dec 2005

Well, a face pic might help. We've all seen more cocks than you've had hot dinners, and they REALLY don't make us sit up and take notice. You need to stand out from the usual, quick shag merchants whio think a cock is all a woman is interested in. biggrin

14 Dec 2005

How come your joined date says 14th December 2005? dunno

14 Dec 2005

and Hammer please look at how many post there are from guys seeking women or couples......don't think people are singleing yourself out.....very few people get a reply. I myself have had an ad up for over 18 monthes..slightly changed from time to time....but have to say have only ever had two replies....differance is I ain't moaning..just get on with it. Maybe you will find if you post on here alittle more people get to know you, and alittle about what and who you are.....in 6 monthes time you may be surprised to get a couple of PM's from people.
Good luck

14 Dec 2005

Thanks for the advice.
Please don't get me wrong, I'm not moaning, just seeking advice from more experienced people on how to improve my chances of meeting up with someone.
As to my join date showing 14th Dec 2005. I can only guess that is because when I logged on today for the first time in a little while I was asked to update my details (possibly because of the recent site update?)
I am a genuine poster who's been a member for a good few months, only looking for a good time!! smile

14 Dec 2005

Quote by Hammer_2001_uk
I am a genuine poster who's been a member for a good few months, only looking for a good time!!

Your join date shown on the photo ads system shows you only joined on 8th Dec 2005.
I may be a cynic, but I think this is just a blatant attempt at getting some views for your ad :undecided:
Tracy-Jayne wink

15 Dec 2005

Thanks sexysteph for taking the time to give some good genuine advice.
Tracey Jayne, Il think you'll find the date on my photo ad of 8th December shows when I last modified it, not when I joined.
I have an email sitting in my inbox with the registration key to activate my membership dated 27th August 2005. So I know I'm not lying even if no one else believes me! :upset: smile

15 Dec 2005

But even the 27th August is not very long. You only get out of this site what you are prepared to put in it, and if you are willing to put in the effort then you just might get the results. wink

I had a quick look at your ad and dont be offended but I certainly wouldnt reply to it. It tells me nothing about the 'real' you, it gives nothing about your personality and I really could not care less what your cock looks like. Most of the 'longer standing memebers' of the forums (wont say old members) :wink: are not looking for a quick shag, we want to get to know anyone we potentially may swing with.
Imagine you have gone out for the night and fancied a woman in the bar, you wouldnt just go over and 'flop it out' would you (well, I hope not). You would take a bit of time to get to know her, you would let her see what you are like, talk to her, show your personality and put in some effort. Well, the forums work a little like that, we want to know you, to feel we can trust you and then, well, you never know unless you try :wink:
Good luck but I would definately get the ad amended lol

15 Dec 2005

Hello and :welcome: (I've chilled out a bit since yesterday)
I apologise for being so cynical - I just can't help being suspicious in the current climate.
I've seen your ad and there's a couple of constructive things I'd like to say from a woman's perspective (I appreciate this may not be every females point of view).
1. Wanting a lady to teach you - I think a lot of women want someone who knows what they're doing. If you think about it you ad is one of thousands. Tell the people more about what you have to offer.
2. Cock Pics - It's already been said, but contrary to what you might think us girls don't all swoon when we see a cock pic (and with the influx of personal messages at the moment it's just "same old, same old"). banghead

If you don't want to publish a face pic, a nice bum pic, thighs etc might be an idea :thumbup: