I’ve read a couple of threads here about MMF, but hope I’m not going over old ground by asking for some suggestions and advice on this subject.
We’ve currently got an add here in the couples for couples section, we’re really pleased with the response and we might well meet someone in the near future. However I really fancy a MMF or even a MMMF and I’d love some suggestions/advice on how to set one up. One thing though…please guys, don’t take this as an invitation to send me loads of PM’s or emails and cock shots; I just want ideas at this stage.
My problem (and I don’t know if this is a girl thing or a blond thing) is that I really need there to be some chemistry with another guy before anything happens. Having spoken to other couples we’ve done the inventory of friends to see if any stray guys there would fit (so to speak), but all the hot ones are in relationships and we do not want to go messing there!! Last year I met an old boyfriend on friendreunited and we thought he’d be perfect; bit of chemistry and loads of fun; but sadly he only wanted a 1 to 1 with me, so he was out.
We’ve tried advertising (and had to wade through loads of cock shots and one line emails) but however ‘nice’ the guys seem in their emails, I can’t get over the idea that they think they’re onto a dead cert with me since we’ve advertised and as such see no reason to attempt any ‘seduction’ just down to action. Now that may be greatly unfair of loads of guys on here, and if so I’m sorry, but it’s how my girly mind works.
I’d love some suggestions how I can get over this, and I’d love to know if anyone else has the same problem and if so how they’ve overcome it.
Thanks guys and sorry for the long post :shock:
Kirstyxx
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Some MMF advice please
Sex God
Hey K n K xxxx
Interesting question , although Ive never really worked out what you would get from a MMF that you wouldnt get from a straight up mfmf . Im sure at some point F2 could take a rest LOL and same goes for all parties involved . Only people I know that insist on MMF only are couples where the female simply cant cope with seeing her man with another woman . Otherwise Id stick with the foursome formula ,its far less prone to jealousy and over attachment pitfalls, you get twice the male attention and some decent female conversation afterwards rofl .
Peace
G
Interesting question , although Ive never really worked out what you would get from a MMF that you wouldnt get from a straight up mfmf . Im sure at some point F2 could take a rest LOL and same goes for all parties involved . Only people I know that insist on MMF only are couples where the female simply cant cope with seeing her man with another woman . Otherwise Id stick with the foursome formula ,its far less prone to jealousy and over attachment pitfalls, you get twice the male attention and some decent female conversation afterwards rofl .
Peace
G
The advantage of MMF is two guys- two staight guys.
You get all the attention. I does have it's advantages when there isn't another woman there.
MMMF is great as well if you can handle the GrandSlam (all 3 holes poked at the same time)
More than 3 is a gangbang so they have to wait their turn.
Or do MMMF with 2 couples where the second girl wears a strap and takes on the male role.
She'll still be going ater the other two have cum and flopped.
If I want a second guy I just get Richard to bring back one of his friends from the gym - they've always been keen to oblige in the past.
I'd suggest join a gym so you get some "advertising" in
Or what I did when I was single is date two guys seperately and then get them together some time - obviously you have to ask them seperately to arrange it.
Oh the possibilities...
Rachel
You get all the attention. I does have it's advantages when there isn't another woman there.
MMMF is great as well if you can handle the GrandSlam (all 3 holes poked at the same time)
More than 3 is a gangbang so they have to wait their turn.
Or do MMMF with 2 couples where the second girl wears a strap and takes on the male role.
She'll still be going ater the other two have cum and flopped.
If I want a second guy I just get Richard to bring back one of his friends from the gym - they've always been keen to oblige in the past.
I'd suggest join a gym so you get some "advertising" in
Or what I did when I was single is date two guys seperately and then get them together some time - obviously you have to ask them seperately to arrange it.
Oh the possibilities...
Rachel
Sex God
Quote by chick0074
The advantage of MMF is two guys- two staight guys.
You get all the attention. I does have it's advantages when there isn't another woman there.
What are they then ?? :-)
Quote by kirstyxx
Thanks Rachel all those suggestions and options have really made the itch to try it worseAs you say...so many possibilities
Kirsty
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You go girl.
Work through the list one by one.
Write back in here to let us all know how you get on.
Might even convince Silk and Big G to give it a go!
Rachel
Sex God
hehehehe
Thankyou for your 'patronage' Chick truth is i never said we hadn't tried it . In fact I wouldnt feel qualified to comment on anything we hadn't tried . I just said I didn't understand what the advantage was ( still haven't really seen an answer for that lol).
Just because you haven't tried something doesn't always mean its a good idea to try it (disentary for example) , but it isn't a criticism you like what you like and thats kewl with us , all we asked was what it was you thought were the specific advantages , as we thought it may be more useful advise for our Buddy Kirst .
As for your encouragement to broaden our horizons , ;-) well anyone that knows us can make you a list of the things we haven't tried , and write it in capitals on the back of a postage stamp .
Peace
G xxxx
Thankyou for your 'patronage' Chick truth is i never said we hadn't tried it . In fact I wouldnt feel qualified to comment on anything we hadn't tried . I just said I didn't understand what the advantage was ( still haven't really seen an answer for that lol).
Just because you haven't tried something doesn't always mean its a good idea to try it (disentary for example) , but it isn't a criticism you like what you like and thats kewl with us , all we asked was what it was you thought were the specific advantages , as we thought it may be more useful advise for our Buddy Kirst .
As for your encouragement to broaden our horizons , ;-) well anyone that knows us can make you a list of the things we haven't tried , and write it in capitals on the back of a postage stamp .
Peace
G xxxx
Sex God
Well thankyou for all your sage advise (giggles).
I expect you'll be PM'ing Kirsty with all teh more specific , less general comments .
Peace
xx
I expect you'll be PM'ing Kirsty with all teh more specific , less general comments .
Peace
xx
Warming the Bed
I agree with chick. I find a good way to go about it is when away from home. So you and your boy can pick the guy, like a total stranger at a club and someone you are attracted to makes it all the more sexy for the two of you. Well at least this is what my X thinks LoL.... lets us know how it goes... BYEeee
Warming the Bed
Chears! Nothing more sexy! Than a girl who can have a few. But most men dont like to see (Hey dont ask me why). So what club was it u were going?
Thanks for all the suggestions and advice, we both really appreciate you all taking the time to share your knowledge, suggestions and experiences.
We like the idea of going out and picking someone up cause it gets away from the advertising bit and allows for huge elements of attraction and chemistry which is what I need to really get me going.
Time to get out the pulling gear I think
I promise to post any experiences here
K & K
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We like the idea of going out and picking someone up cause it gets away from the advertising bit and allows for huge elements of attraction and chemistry which is what I need to really get me going.
Time to get out the pulling gear I think
I promise to post any experiences here
K & K
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Warming the Bed
and that way u can dance with them first and see what they have to offer. Having your bf dear u to do sexy things with them makes it fun too, like while still in the club. See how they react and how u like him seeing it and he like to see it.
A little bit of experience here
This is how we started, and despite the attraction of sex with a stranger, we were scared of what we might end up meeting with, so we decided upon a long standing friend who was single at the time. Mrs Grimsby and I decided that he was the on for her first sex with someone other than me, - and we'd been together 19yrs at that time.
It took me about 6 months to pluck up the courage to invite him along and join us, when I finally did it he jumped at the chance and after some conversation about it only being sex, no relationship etc, the kids went off to stay with G'ma, and that was that.
This continued for some time until he got a new woman, and we didn't want to spoil things for him. MMF would still be our prefered, just to pleasure mrs Gy.
We now advertise for cpls, as many of the guys we have spoken to/emailed are way over the top and full of themselves. We are very picky with the cpls too :)
Hope this helps in some way
This is how we started, and despite the attraction of sex with a stranger, we were scared of what we might end up meeting with, so we decided upon a long standing friend who was single at the time. Mrs Grimsby and I decided that he was the on for her first sex with someone other than me, - and we'd been together 19yrs at that time.
It took me about 6 months to pluck up the courage to invite him along and join us, when I finally did it he jumped at the chance and after some conversation about it only being sex, no relationship etc, the kids went off to stay with G'ma, and that was that.
This continued for some time until he got a new woman, and we didn't want to spoil things for him. MMF would still be our prefered, just to pleasure mrs Gy.
We now advertise for cpls, as many of the guys we have spoken to/emailed are way over the top and full of themselves. We are very picky with the cpls too :)
Hope this helps in some way
Kirsty, another way to try it would be to go to a swingers club or a party. We do have mmf and mmmf when we can, but have be to parties and had more mmmmf mmmff that sort of thing, the advantage is you dont have to set it up. You just end up on a bed and you get joined by men or couples who take your fancy, you get to choose as in good clubs and at good parties everyone knows the limits, so if you dont like them they wont pester you. Can be more fun though as you dont know how many are going to join or what variety male or female.
Tracy(bi) and Richard
P.s. Hi Silk and Big g
Tracy(bi) and Richard
P.s. Hi Silk and Big g
Sex God
Hi Trace , Hi Rich :-) nice to bump into ya here xxxxxx
Sex God
AAAAAAaaanyway ............did anyone else hear the whooshing sound of our last post going over a head ???
Hehehe ,
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Hehehe ,
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AAAAAAaaanyway ............did anyone else hear the whooshing sound of our last post going over a head ???
Hehehe ,
xxxx
Heh heh
Some of your posts are quite clever, and you do have to go back and see what you've missed sometimes.
Well done on the FHM thing by the way. A good read.
As you say -peace
Rachel
Sex God
Thankyou xxxx
Hello,
Myself and hubby have met some great guys through this site. I think my advise to you would be to steer clear of the guys who answer adds as they never seem to go into the actual chat room for you to get to know a little about them. Also the best meets we have had have been from guys who dont want to do the cyber thing but are genuinly interested in your way of life.
Anyway happy hunting and play safe xxx
Myself and hubby have met some great guys through this site. I think my advise to you would be to steer clear of the guys who answer adds as they never seem to go into the actual chat room for you to get to know a little about them. Also the best meets we have had have been from guys who dont want to do the cyber thing but are genuinly interested in your way of life.
Anyway happy hunting and play safe xxx
