Ok, following on from Nola's thread on blow job technique, anyone got any good tips for going down on a lady? I'm pretty confident in my skills, but you can always learn more...
I think there should be some kind of a SH sex tips manual... maybe a sticky or two. It would certainly be a useful resource to work through...
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Quote by tomu
I think there should be some kind of a SH sex tips manual... maybe a sticky or two. It would certainly be a useful resource to work through...
I am so sorry Tomu, but heck, just that line had me rolling about.
If SH were to print a manual, absolutely, there will be quite a few sticky pages
What I will say however, is take your time. It's not just about going straight to the clit, but savouring every moment, build up to it. Start by going extremely slowly, long licks, avoiding the clit, kissing the inside of the thigh, and when you know the time is right, again slowly, very slowly start to suck her clit into your mouth ...........
Just my opinion, but hell, I look forward to reading what the ladies say here :)
Master of Sex
I think there are probably as many 'techniques' as there are people because what works for one won't for another.
Personally, my clit is way too sensitive to be able to endure it being sucked into someone's mouth. Thumbs up to the 'warming up' techniques though.
At the end of the day, it's a matter of exploring your partner to find out what works ... providing you're both honest with each other, discovering ways of reaching new heights is the fun bit!
Personally, my clit is way too sensitive to be able to endure it being sucked into someone's mouth. Thumbs up to the 'warming up' techniques though.
At the end of the day, it's a matter of exploring your partner to find out what works ... providing you're both honest with each other, discovering ways of reaching new heights is the fun bit!
Warming the Bed
Hi Tomu
Just posted a question about cunninglingus on this forum, see link.............................
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/276091.html
This technique is meant to be great. There seems to be a few who can vouch for it.
Any feeback please leave here.
cheers.
Just posted a question about cunninglingus on this forum, see link.............................
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/276091.html
This technique is meant to be great. There seems to be a few who can vouch for it.
Any feeback please leave here.
cheers.
Sex God
Hmmm.... 
My one tip is variety... I get easily bored when someone is down there, like it when they kinda keep things varied!
Nola x
My one tip is variety... I get easily bored when someone is down there, like it when they kinda keep things varied!
Nola x
Warming the Bed
Quote by noladreams30
Hmmm....
My one tip is variety... I get easily bored when someone is down there, like it when they kinda keep things varied!
Nola x
All goes to show that we are all different. Variety stops me coming, i like a regular sensation i can expect, get into and then transcend. Find the spot (i'll help u there) then lick it. Simple huh ? lol
The number of times i've been on the verge of cumming, only to have him suddenly change techinque and so loose the build up ! It's so frustrating, because it means the sensation he's worked up disappeares and i go back to stage one and have to get back into the zone again.
Does that make any sense to anyone or do i sound nuts lol
Trixie xx
You can't really give tips for going down on a lady because everyone likes different (talk about stating obvious lol) i could give you tips for (in my opinion) mind blowing oral, you could try it on your next meet and them think 'what the f**ks he doing' lol you best just asking the lady in question
How complicated we make life.
Why not just ask the lady what she wants and how she wants it.
Personally i like women motorbikes and food to be the same..,,.. Hot fast and greasy.
Just shows we are all different, so successful technique on one clit may be totally shite on another.
Now blow jobs.... They are like beer........never had a bad one but some a lot better than others.
There, glad we got that one sorted.
Why not just ask the lady what she wants and how she wants it.
Personally i like women motorbikes and food to be the same..,,.. Hot fast and greasy.
Just shows we are all different, so successful technique on one clit may be totally shite on another.
Now blow jobs.... They are like beer........never had a bad one but some a lot better than others.
There, glad we got that one sorted.
when going down on a woman....
I would say that you see how she kisses first... then replicate that when you are enjoying her clit.
Start off slowly, reveal the clit by using your tongue to push back the hood... encircle her clit.. slowly, very slowly at first with a firm pressure. Flicking your tongue and getting a rhythm that makes her relax and start enjoying and most importantly expecting it. Don't vary it until she is totally relaxed and breathing steadily.
Then stop.... and as she begins to realise that you have control and you decide when she cums use your tongue to really explore her. As you stop and start... licking her clit for 5 minutes then stopping for varying amounts of time. Enhale the aroma as she becomes more aroused. Enjoy the different textures of her clit, her labia, the entrance to her cunt.
Finally when she is ready to cum and you know this because the noise she makes will be deeper and more earnest. She will have a pleading look in her eyes. She will perhaps be holding your head tight she will be pushing herself against you. Make her cum.. and hold her against your face. Make sure that you drain every last piece of energy.
Taking all of that into consideration - bloody enjoy it. The receiver can tell when you don't.
I would say that you see how she kisses first... then replicate that when you are enjoying her clit.
Start off slowly, reveal the clit by using your tongue to push back the hood... encircle her clit.. slowly, very slowly at first with a firm pressure. Flicking your tongue and getting a rhythm that makes her relax and start enjoying and most importantly expecting it. Don't vary it until she is totally relaxed and breathing steadily.
Then stop.... and as she begins to realise that you have control and you decide when she cums use your tongue to really explore her. As you stop and start... licking her clit for 5 minutes then stopping for varying amounts of time. Enhale the aroma as she becomes more aroused. Enjoy the different textures of her clit, her labia, the entrance to her cunt.
Finally when she is ready to cum and you know this because the noise she makes will be deeper and more earnest. She will have a pleading look in her eyes. She will perhaps be holding your head tight she will be pushing herself against you. Make her cum.. and hold her against your face. Make sure that you drain every last piece of energy.
Taking all of that into consideration - bloody enjoy it. The receiver can tell when you don't.
Sex God
Quote by splendid_
when going down on a woman....
I would say that you see how she kisses first... then replicate that when you are enjoying her clit.
Start off slowly, reveal the clit by using your tongue to push back the hood... encircle her clit.. slowly, very slowly at first with a firm pressure. Flicking your tongue and getting a rhythm that makes her relax and start enjoying and most importantly expecting it. Don't vary it until she is totally relaxed and breathing steadily.
Then stop.... and as she begins to realise that you have control and you decide when she cums use your tongue to really explore her. As you stop and start... licking her clit for 5 minutes then stopping for varying amounts of time. Enhale the aroma as she becomes more aroused. Enjoy the different textures of her clit, her labia, the entrance to her cunt.
Finally when she is ready to cum and you know this because the noise she makes will be deeper and more earnest. She will have a pleading look in her eyes. She will perhaps be holding your head tight she will be pushing herself against you. Make her cum.. and hold her against your face. Make sure that you drain every last piece of energy.
Taking all of that into consideration - bloody enjoy it. The receiver can tell when you don't.
:inlove: :worship: Oh my, I think I just came over all unnecessary!!
Yes please!!
Quote by noladreams30
when going down on a woman....
I would say that you see how she kisses first... then replicate that when you are enjoying her clit.
Start off slowly, reveal the clit by using your tongue to push back the hood... encircle her clit.. slowly, very slowly at first with a firm pressure. Flicking your tongue and getting a rhythm that makes her relax and start enjoying and most importantly expecting it. Don't vary it until she is totally relaxed and breathing steadily.
Then stop.... and as she begins to realise that you have control and you decide when she cums use your tongue to really explore her. As you stop and start... licking her clit for 5 minutes then stopping for varying amounts of time. Enhale the aroma as she becomes more aroused. Enjoy the different textures of her clit, her labia, the entrance to her cunt.
Finally when she is ready to cum and you know this because the noise she makes will be deeper and more earnest. She will have a pleading look in her eyes. She will perhaps be holding your head tight she will be pushing herself against you. Make her cum.. and hold her against your face. Make sure that you drain every last piece of energy.
Taking all of that into consideration - bloody enjoy it. The receiver can tell when you don't.
:inlove: :worship: Oh my, I think I just came over all unnecessary!!
Yes please!!
Me too
You have sex for a whole five minutes :shock:
Quote by winchwench
when going down on a woman....
I would say that you see how she kisses first... then replicate that when you are enjoying her clit.
Start off slowly, reveal the clit by using your tongue to push back the hood... encircle her clit.. slowly, very slowly at first with a firm pressure. Flicking your tongue and getting a rhythm that makes her relax and start enjoying and most importantly expecting it. Don't vary it until she is totally relaxed and breathing steadily.
Then stop.... and as she begins to realise that you have control and you decide when she cums use your tongue to really explore her. As you stop and start... licking her clit for 5 minutes then stopping for varying amounts of time. Enhale the aroma as she becomes more aroused. Enjoy the different textures of her clit, her labia, the entrance to her cunt.
Finally when she is ready to cum and you know this because the noise she makes will be deeper and more earnest. She will have a pleading look in her eyes. She will perhaps be holding your head tight she will be pushing herself against you. Make her cum.. and hold her against your face. Make sure that you drain every last piece of energy.
Taking all of that into consideration - bloody enjoy it. The receiver can tell when you don't.
:inlove: :worship: Oh my, I think I just came over all unnecessary!!
Yes please!!
Me too
You have sex for a whole five minutes :shock:
I can give oral to a woman for over an hour...
That is what makes me a lesbian.
that is what makes wor lass love me.
going down on a woman is THE best thing in the world.. her smell, her taste, watching the look in her eye...listening to her breathing change..... I just need to nip off for a little while
ops: Sex God
Think I am going to copy and paste Splendid's words of erotic wisdom onto card, get it laminated and carry it with me at all times... then, just when they're about to start I'll say "have a quick read of the rules"
Quote by noladreams30
Think I am going to copy and paste Splendid's words of erotic wisdom onto card, get it laminated and carry it with me at all times... then, just when they're about to start I'll say "have a quick read of the rules"
Sod the card- I'm off to have it tattooed on my inner thigh in the morning!
Sex God
Quote by winchwench
Think I am going to copy and paste Splendid's words of erotic wisdom onto card, get it laminated and carry it with me at all times... then, just when they're about to start I'll say "have a quick read of the rules"
Sod the card- I'm off to have it tattooed on my inner thigh in the morning!
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: Quote by winchwench
Think I am going to copy and paste Splendid's words of erotic wisdom onto card, get it laminated and carry it with me at all times... then, just when they're about to start I'll say "have a quick read of the rules"
Sod the card- I'm off to have it tattooed on my inner thigh in the morning!
thats a pretty big inner thigh......
Quote by winchwench
Think I am going to copy and paste Splendid's words of erotic wisdom onto card, get it laminated and carry it with me at all times... then, just when they're about to start I'll say "have a quick read of the rules"
Sod the card- I'm off to have it tattooed on my inner thigh in the morning!
I'll be checking you have at the camping social so I can report back to the other members :grin:
Quote by splendid_
when going down on a woman....
I would say that you see how she kisses first... then replicate that when you are enjoying her clit.
Start off slowly, reveal the clit by using your tongue to push back the hood... encircle her clit.. slowly, very slowly at first with a firm pressure. Flicking your tongue and getting a rhythm that makes her relax and start enjoying and most importantly expecting it. Don't vary it until she is totally relaxed and breathing steadily.
Then stop.... and as she begins to realise that you have control and you decide when she cums use your tongue to really explore her. As you stop and start... licking her clit for 5 minutes then stopping for varying amounts of time. Enhale the aroma as she becomes more aroused. Enjoy the different textures of her clit, her labia, the entrance to her cunt.
Finally when she is ready to cum and you know this because the noise she makes will be deeper and more earnest. She will have a pleading look in her eyes. She will perhaps be holding your head tight she will be pushing herself against you. Make her cum.. and hold her against your face. Make sure that you drain every last piece of energy.
Taking all of that into consideration - bloody enjoy it. The receiver can tell when you don't.
This is a fantastic piece of writing. Thankyou.
I tend to do what I like myself and it usually works a treat 
Alternate between little flicks of the tongue and sucking on the clit to deep probing of her pussy, long strokes with the back of your tongue and a couple of fingers inside searching for that elusove G spot. Don't do too much of the same thing but keep the variation going. Hot breath is good as well as a cold tongue ( ice cubes or lollies in a cup by the bed are good :wink: )
Alternate between little flicks of the tongue and sucking on the clit to deep probing of her pussy, long strokes with the back of your tongue and a couple of fingers inside searching for that elusove G spot. Don't do too much of the same thing but keep the variation going. Hot breath is good as well as a cold tongue ( ice cubes or lollies in a cup by the bed are good :wink: )
Ok this is my first reply on these forums as i am abit new too this, whilst i am new to swinging (Still got V plates) i am not new at being intimate with women.
Too be honest the one thing i have learned is that all women are different, and more importantly all women want to be treat different - Being a typical Bloke we all want the quick step-by-step procedure for making a woman orgasm but its not written down and although there a very useful hints and tips coming from the ladies (and i would pay attention too them) you must never go into a women with a checklist in your head at what to do!
Whilst being away in the Merchant Navy years ago, i read a Cosmo mag once ( It was the Captains wife's one and i was bored ok lol)and there was an article called "kiss and Tell" and in it was women of all ages and backgrounds talking about kissing - It dawned on me (a few hours later - hey i'm a man we never get the point straight away lol) that women really love kissing and if i were to love it too and get into it then that would help me.
Ever since i would class myself as a good kisser - but only cos i enjoy kissing and pay attention to how the woman is reacting - this has been mentioned in numerous replies on here and that is the key phrase - one woman liked it soft and gentle on her lips and as i moved away horizontally (not down) she pulled me back in - another woman wanted it firm and passionate, biting of lips and such.
Anyway in my experiance, there is no perfect instructions on being good at oral sex, being willing too spend time paying attention to her and what she likes pays off in the end, listen to her moans and reactions - if she likes your tongue or fingers or both there she will move her hips/body towards it again if you change direction. Women like too give subtle hints and hope you pick up on them!!!
Well that is my approach to oral sex, i am no cassanova but i am un-selfish enough to want to please a woman first as i have found if you do that you are rewarded xxxx But don't listen too me try it yourself.....Remember every Girl is different thats why their Special/Frustrating as hell lol
xxxxxx
Too be honest the one thing i have learned is that all women are different, and more importantly all women want to be treat different - Being a typical Bloke we all want the quick step-by-step procedure for making a woman orgasm but its not written down and although there a very useful hints and tips coming from the ladies (and i would pay attention too them) you must never go into a women with a checklist in your head at what to do!
Whilst being away in the Merchant Navy years ago, i read a Cosmo mag once ( It was the Captains wife's one and i was bored ok lol)and there was an article called "kiss and Tell" and in it was women of all ages and backgrounds talking about kissing - It dawned on me (a few hours later - hey i'm a man we never get the point straight away lol) that women really love kissing and if i were to love it too and get into it then that would help me.
Ever since i would class myself as a good kisser - but only cos i enjoy kissing and pay attention to how the woman is reacting - this has been mentioned in numerous replies on here and that is the key phrase - one woman liked it soft and gentle on her lips and as i moved away horizontally (not down) she pulled me back in - another woman wanted it firm and passionate, biting of lips and such.
Anyway in my experiance, there is no perfect instructions on being good at oral sex, being willing too spend time paying attention to her and what she likes pays off in the end, listen to her moans and reactions - if she likes your tongue or fingers or both there she will move her hips/body towards it again if you change direction. Women like too give subtle hints and hope you pick up on them!!!
Well that is my approach to oral sex, i am no cassanova but i am un-selfish enough to want to please a woman first as i have found if you do that you are rewarded xxxx But don't listen too me try it yourself.....Remember every Girl is different thats why their Special/Frustrating as hell lol
xxxxxx
Sex God
Quote by redpanthermanBloody 'ell
What happened to the good old nosh of the bearded clam after a curry & 10 pints of God's finest ales?
Giving you lot the right to vote was just plain wrong!
Mr Red........to my office now for a lashing or two :twisted: then you can tell me how sorry you are for that comment :giggle:
Sex God
Quote by MrsFC
What happened to the good old nosh of the bearded clam after a curry & 10 pints of God's finest ales?
Giving you lot the right to vote was just plain wrong!
Mr Red........to my office now for a lashing or two :twisted: then you can tell me how sorry you are for that comment :giggle:
MrsFC please rotate that avatar.......I'm getting a crick in my neck ;-)
Quote by MrsFC
What happened to the good old nosh of the bearded clam after a curry & 10 pints of God's finest ales?
Giving you lot the right to vote was just plain wrong!
Mr Red........to my office now for a lashing or two :twisted: then you can tell me how sorry you are for that comment :giggle:
Sit on my face n first! :twisted:
