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Spanking without bruises.
Quote by Darkfire
I'm still none the wiserI just dont 'get it'
someone help me out here
Being spanked, caned or cropped does depend a lot on what both parties want out of it. A skilled spanker won't necessarily leave bruises depending on the toy used, angle of hit, strength and desire. The spankee, won't bruise necessarily, unless prone to bruising.
The desire of most people isn't to be bruised or to show how much pain the spankee can take! A lot depends on the mood, is it a playful slap/spank, is it purely a "control" thing, is it a punishment or "bdsm" thing?
Many people initially start of with a slap/spank and realise they enjoy it for one reason or another, they then explore that and build up to paddle, tawse's or floggers, again these depend on the outcome desired. Crops can be quite erotic but .... in the wrong hands and used "incorrectly" can have the more severe outcomes such as weals and drawn blood.
I've seen people quite literally thrashed and walk away red raw, but by the morning the marks are barely visible, I've also been cropped by someone on here and the first hit drew blood :shock: and I don't bruise/hurt easily.
With Morbius, I can take a considerable amount of play in terms of spanking, flogging, but I trust no-one else to do so, because unless they are very experienced their style will be very different. Morbius and I spent a long time, exploring limits, feel, outcomes. I do not trust anyone who picks up or buys a paddle/crop/flogger and thinks that they can do "it" properly.
I can only speak from a BDSM point of view but I "trust" experienced Dominants, those who are known to me and I can "verify" their experience, I trust them not to immediately attack me and bruise. A good Dom will not bruise, unless that is the desired outcome!
Anyone can wield a whip, but a good experienced careful Dom (for want of a better word) can wield one that leaves few marks, gives the desired outcome, and only creates pain to a tolerable level for that individual.
Although I enjoy erotic pain, I do not wish to be hurt by anyone, when the play is over then I don't expect to still be in pain! That borders on the boundaries of abuse!
Playful taps, teasing, and rubs are fun, beating the hell out of your partner isn't! LOL
I don't think I've answered anything after all that :shock:
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Quote by chashoniton
i don't think i'd want real pain, .... i do quite like a feeling of....dominance? .... i don't think I mean I want to be beaten to within an inch of my life thanks!
but as a woman who isn t a tiny, delicate, petite person, it's rather lovely to feel smaller and possibly helpless....but in a good way!
what i mean (i think) is that i like the thought that Chas (who is much taller, bigger, stronger than me) could 'overwhelm' me if he (or I) chose to........ I like that feeling of not being in control...but in a controlled way...how weird is that?
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that's not wierd, THAT makes perfect sense to me :thumbup:
As does this Cali :thumbup: :
when the play is over then I don't expect to still be in pain! That borders on the boundaries of abuse!
Playful taps, teasing, and rubs are fun, beating the hell out of your partner isn't! LOL
thanks
