Spontaneous Meets

30 Sep 2014

Spontaneous Meets
How do you feel about them?
If someone tickles ya fancy would you just meet them at a drop of the hat (no pun intended whoever knows me)
Or would you play the long game ?????????? Instant attraction or bide your time?????? I know it depends but interested in your views smile

30 Sep 2014

If it just feels right then why not, spontaneity roolz!

30 Sep 2014

Don't think I even need to answer fer those who know me. It's how it's always been, and included wives and girlfriends, and sex on first dates, and sex with people I'd never ever met before. It just happens sometimes. I'm not including dogging here, that's a different ball game, and not nearly as enjoyable.
As far as the site goes, I find that as long as I stay off cam then I'm not likely to be propositioned; but, generally speaking, when I have been invited to meet. on the spur of the moment, I've usually gone along with it at fairly short notice. I've always subscribed to trying out the sex first, then perhaps get to know them better (or not), and I think that should apply more to ladies, because there's too many poor options out there in the love department. I always used to tell mrs skinny, before she asked me to marry her, that she should shag em first and decide whether they were worth any further effort.

1 Oct 2014

I do have been known to partake in meetings at the shortest of notices, either over the internet or in person at a club. There's something so good about fucking someone somewhat randomly and at a moments notice - Sometimes the only words exchanged are about protecting ones health.
Then again I do believe that swinging is more diverse than fucking any hole and I do value the social side so much - it's all about friendship and mutual pleasure. This is why I'm happy to play a long game and actually talk. I've been in the middle of a social rant, expounding about the stresses of my life to a woman at a club when she decided the location of my brain needed to be changed - As per the above paragraph I did not disagree!
So my desires fall into fuck you now, and I hope we can talk later category, but I'm also the type who can justify the talk now, maybe fuck you later mentality lol

2 Oct 2014

This is a very good question, I can argue both sides... It is a question of timing, it's like picking fruit - you don't want to pick too soon, but you don't want to leave it to rot on the tree either.
I think in general it is a mistake to delay meeting when the desire/spark is there and working -that's the best way to spoil that initial excitement! Gotta strike while the iron's hot. But on the other hand, in my (admittedly limited) experience I have found that drop-of-a-hat meets (ie same day, next day type of arrangements) while exciting are often not much appreciated; they are on the casual end of the casual sex spectrum, often good fun but ultimately inconsequential. I think partly it is because people don't really appreciate whatever comes to them easy, and partly because even in swinging there is place for seduction. Gearing up to a meet is like winding a spring, or indeed like building up to an orgasm. The higher tension brings a greater release.
To use jfpassingfun's expressions, I find the short notice meets are more like "fuck now, talk never" - I find it's a totally different mindset. That fits well with some people's play objectives, it doesn't greatly fit with mine. I prefer *some* continuation, I am not too keen on strangers or one-offs, so while I am tempted sometimes, I usually decline. MY "drop of a hat", when it happens, is about a week. My "long game" is... well, you could probably get a hip replacement on the NHS before you get to have sex with me rolleyes

To be fair though this is to a large extent due to my time/resource/energy constrains; I do wonder what I'd do if I was single/no dependents.

2 Oct 2014

Quote by pebble
My "long game" is... well, you could probably get a hip replacement on the NHS before you get to have sex with me .

Ah, but we're worth the wait. ;)

3 Oct 2014

Quote by Cubes
My "long game" is... well, you could probably get a hip replacement on the NHS before you get to have sex with me .

Ah, but we're worth the wait. ;)
didnt know Cubes had been in for a hip replacement innocent

3 Oct 2014

Ooo, tricky one. I know which one I think I prefer but then I get caught out by a surprisingly strong connection and suddenly, it's a quick meet…
For me, it still all boils down to the connection and there have been and, are some, really great ones. I like what earlier 'posters' said about it being about the social and seductive sides of swinging as well as the blatant 'we are going to fuck and it's going to be amazing'!
That said, I have, on rare occasions, compromised on the connection for silly reasons and have generally regretted it. Hence, why my preference would be for a longer game, with some tantalising, physically and mentally stimulating and naughty communication before actually meeting. I am pretty busy so it's never the simplest feat to organise getting together but I would like to hope it would be within a week or two.
Kx

4 Oct 2014

Quote by Katniss
My "long game" is... well, you could probably get a hip replacement on the NHS before you get to have sex with me .

Ah, but we're worth the wait. ;)
didnt know Cubes had been in for a hip replacement innocent

4 Oct 2014

Quote by Kate_
For me, it still all boils down to the connection and there have been and, are some, really great ones. I like what earlier 'posters' said about it being about the social and seductive sides of swinging as well as the blatant 'we are going to fuck and it's going to be amazing'!
That said, I have, on rare occasions, compromised on the connection for silly reasons and have generally regretted it. Hence, why my preference would be for a longer game, with some tantalising, physically and mentally stimulating and naughty communication before actually meeting. I am pretty busy so it's never the simplest feat to organise getting together but I would like to hope it would be within a week or two.
Kx

This pretty much sums up our approach too. We tend to get to know people in stages, with online taking point, following up with a social meet, and leading to bedroom fun if the click is there. We've also made some great lifelong friends on the way. smile