Hi folks. Thought I'd see if I can get your opinion on something....
I was in the bi married chatroom recently. I was given grief by a guy because my profile status says I am straight. On my profile blurb I explain my bi experience. I count myself as straight because I am not sexually attracted to guys, never had/dont want a boyfriend, not interested in kissing guys in the slightest, I just like the /naughtiness of bi play but only within a threesome with couple dynamic, hence me being in that particular room.
Do you think putting straight down as my status misleading or dishonest?
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Quote by MuckyMagnet
Hi folks. Thought I'd see if I can get your opinion on something....
I was in the bi married chatroom recently. I was given grief by a guy because my profile status says I am straight. On my profile blurb I explain my bi experience. I count myself as straight because I am not sexually attracted to guys, never had/dont want a boyfriend, not interested in kissing guys in the slightest, I just like the /naughtiness of bi play but only within a threesome with couple dynamic, hence me being in that particular room.
Do you think putting straight down as my status misleading or dishonest?
No it is not wrong... Bloody labels!!
I have straight on my profile as I do not fancy men, yet I guess I am not straight, as I would love to shag this boy (Ladyboy)
Quote by Bluefish2009
No it is not wrong... Bloody labels!!
I have straight on my profile as I do not fancy men, yet I guess I am not straight, as I would love to shag this boy (Ladyboy)
Oh shit! :shock:
(I think I'd better go change my profile now! ;) )
In response to the original question, your profile should reflect the status you feel most comfortable with, so if you consider yourself straight then that should be what it says. If someone in chat is abusive towards you because of that, or tries to force you out of the room, then just use the report button and list the room/date/time and someone will deal with the complaint.
Now if BIoke looked like that I might be tempted by his advances! ;)
Sex God
Quote by Cubes
Now if BIoke looked like that I might be tempted by his advances! ;)
Tempted, I would cross hell and high water
Sex God
I thought most of the 100 guys who are in the bi-married or any other bi room at any given time have straight profiles!
If you partake of the bisexual your profile should state that, your profile should be 100% honest 100% of the time, that is why it has a text box so that you can elaborate on any of the set "labels", so put yourself as bi-sexual then state in the text box what your bisexual preferences are, ie when the time, the people and the place is right and only in 3some situations is what you have stated, so state that in there
Sex God
Quote by Bluefish2009
Now ... BIoke ... I might be tempted by his advances! ;)
Tempted, I would cross hell and high water
*Rings*
"Oh hi, Bioke? Yes, I'm good thanks, you? And the lovely Mr Bioke? Good... Just ringing to let you know you've got yourself a couple of forum admirers..."
:twisted:
Quote by noladreams
Now ... BIoke ... I might be tempted by his advances! ;)
Tempted, I would cross hell and high water
*Rings*
"Oh hi, Bioke? Yes, I'm good thanks, you? And the lovely Mr Bioke? Good... Just ringing to let you know you've got yourself a couple of forum admirers..."
:twisted:
As long as he realises the above is conditional on him having some pretty radical cosmetic and gender reassignment surgery first! Oh, and he'll need to update his underwear drawer too! ;)
Quote by MuckyMagnet
Hi folks. Thought I'd see if I can get your opinion on something....
I was in the bi married chatroom recently. I was given grief by a guy because my profile status says I am straight. On my profile blurb I explain my bi experience. I count myself as straight because I am not sexually attracted to guys, never had/dont want a boyfriend, not interested in kissing guys in the slightest, I just like the /naughtiness of bi play but only within a threesome with couple dynamic, hence me being in that particular room.
Do you think putting straight down as my status misleading or dishonest?
I'm a regular in that particular room and to be honest It's rare anyone gives anyone any grief......
That said if you where targeted by an individual for no aperant reason, you could always report the individual.
Most of the regular visitors to that chatroom have straight on their profile
Warming the Bed
I think that labels are nothing more than a nuisance. Sexuality is far more complicated than the standard three categories, and for me 'bi-curious' does very little to explain the complexities of being attracted to an idea, gentle mingling or a desire to try.
I agree profiles should be honest, but then a lot of people go on a sexual journey through life and are not easily defined by even a plethora of labels at any one time.
I'd love to think up new names though...
I agree profiles should be honest, but then a lot of people go on a sexual journey through life and are not easily defined by even a plethora of labels at any one time.
I'd love to think up new names though...
Sex God
Ohh no honestly, same old shit? Does seem to come round a lot more frequently these days though maybe theres a bug I'll redo my standard answer, actually cant be arsed. What Mids said :thumbup:
I'll redo my standard answer, actually cant be arsed. What Mids said :thumbup: 
Sexlightened
well half the couples profiles are always of a single bloke wanking on cam.. so if they can do it. why not a 
Sex God
No, it's neither misleading nor dishonest. You self-identify as straight. Your bisexual explorations previous change the self-identification not in the slightest. If someone chooses to pull you up on your status imagining that once had sex with a bloke = bi, end off then that's a failure on their part to understand that sexuality is not defined by sexual acts, it's the other way round: sexual acts are defined by our sexuality. The most that could be said is that in certain circumstances with certain people you would be open to male on male play, meaning you're possibly situationally bi, but that's not the same as being bi. If you see no reason to change your self-identification then fine, you have no need to explain that to anyone else. If they don't like it, tough shit, deal with it or don't, but why should you give a fuck?
Sex God
Quote by nellie-mwgc
I dont care or mind if someone has straight on their profile but then says they are bi when chatting, however i wouldnt want to meet them because i prefer to meet people who are open about their sexuality and i prefer to meet bi men
But then declaring yourself bi could be every bit as misleading in its own right. Some will assume you're always bi, can't be straight where the situation calls for straight, motivated by the search for M on M experiences when in reality you might not be looking for that consciously and actively at all. You're just open to exploring if the opportunity presents itself. It's not the same thing.
Quote by neilinleeds
I dont care or mind if someone has straight on their profile but then says they are bi when chatting, however i wouldnt want to meet them because i prefer to meet people who are open about their sexuality and i prefer to meet bi men
But then declaring yourself bi could be every bit as misleading in its own right. Some will assume you're always bi, can't be straight where the situation calls for straight, motivated by the search for M on M experiences when in reality you might not be looking for that consciously and actively at all. You're just open to exploring if the opportunity presents itself. It's not the same thing.
Its choice thought and thats my choice, every one is free to make their own choices too :)
Sex God
Quote by nellie-mwgc
Its choice thought and thats my choice, every one is free to make their own choices too
Of course. I was just suggesting that it's maybe not as straightforward whichever way you cut it. How you choose to define the OP's sexuality is a matter for you. The OP need not concern himself with your personal definition if it's at variance with his own, his taking precedence over anyone else's.
Oooh a subject close to my heart.
For a long time I had Bi on my profile solely because I had dabbled a bit as a lad and am pretty much open to anything. Then it became slightly more accurate.
I then discovered that it puts off people with small minds which was a bonus.
I then realised that some of the people I like were afraid I might find them irresistible and added the current profile caveat.
Now what reallllllllllllllllllly does piss minx off is that Bi seems to be the fashionable label for women. I can honestly state that in the last couple of years we have enjoyed way more girl on girl fun with female playmates who declare themselves to be straight than with those who declare themselves Bi. And I really don't know why that is so. To quote minx "licking my tit while yer husband has a wank does not make you bi".
For a long time I had Bi on my profile solely because I had dabbled a bit as a lad and am pretty much open to anything. Then it became slightly more accurate.
I then discovered that it puts off people with small minds which was a bonus.
I then realised that some of the people I like were afraid I might find them irresistible and added the current profile caveat.
Now what reallllllllllllllllllly does piss minx off is that Bi seems to be the fashionable label for women. I can honestly state that in the last couple of years we have enjoyed way more girl on girl fun with female playmates who declare themselves to be straight than with those who declare themselves Bi. And I really don't know why that is so. To quote minx "licking my tit while yer husband has a wank does not make you bi".
Quote by neilinleeds
I dont care or mind if someone has straight on their profile but then says they are bi when chatting, however i wouldnt want to meet them because i prefer to meet people who are open about their sexuality and i prefer to meet bi men
But then declaring yourself bi could be every bit as misleading in its own right. Some will assume you're always bi, can't be straight where the situation calls for straight, motivated by the search for M on M experiences when in reality you might not be looking for that consciously and actively at all. You're just open to exploring if the opportunity presents itself. It's not the same thing.
I think the two quotes above highlight the quandry I had. All things considered, I think I'll leave things as they are, as I'm happy with my sexuality as described in my profile blurb. I think the kind of people I'd like to meet would be able to evaluate the profile as a whole rather than just the status label.
As the OP for this thread I've obviously followed it with interest. Thank you kindly to all of you who have been arsed to write your own constructive posts...:)
Sex God
Quote by MuckyMagnet
I think the kind of people I'd like to meet would be able to evaluate the profile as a whole rather than just the status label
Yes. It could be a useful filter for you. You're interested in those that get you and accept you as you are. Someone who chooses to believe their preconceptions of you rather than what you state about yourself is probably not gonna be on the right wavelength and compatible personally or sexually, so hardly gonna be missed.
Quote by MuckyMagnet
I dont care or mind if someone has straight on their profile but then says they are bi when chatting, however i wouldnt want to meet them because i prefer to meet people who are open about their sexuality and i prefer to meet bi men
But then declaring yourself bi could be every bit as misleading in its own right. Some will assume you're always bi, can't be straight where the situation calls for straight, motivated by the search for M on M experiences when in reality you might not be looking for that consciously and actively at all. You're just open to exploring if the opportunity presents itself. It's not the same thing.
I think the two quotes above highlight the quandry I had. All things considered, I think I'll leave things as they are, as I'm happy with my sexuality as described in my profile blurb. I think the kind of people I'd like to meet would be able to evaluate the profile as a whole rather than just the status label.
As the OP for this thread I've obviously followed it with interest. Thank you kindly to all of you who have been arsed to write your own constructive posts...:)
No, declaring your bisexual in your profile only means that sometimes you like to play with men, and nothing else, that is why profiles have set "status" type boxes and a box for text.
Whatever you answer in the set questions there is the place to elaborate on anything else.
So if you tick bisexual you can then add in your text box, "I enjoy oral sex with men at certain times but it is not an essential part of my enjoyment of meeting couples" or "I only meet couples to play with both partners" or anything else that is applicable.
The same applies to all the boxes, TRAVEL or NOT TRAVEL, means nothing without something in the text box saying how far your willing to travel, I mean even not travel must involve some distance you are willing to go or state "will meet at home", many who contact us but live a long way away then go on to say that they travel around the country with thier work and are often in the Stoke area, a lot of time would be saved and meet chances increased if this was stated in the text area of thier profile.
A profile is just that, it is information about you and where applicable your partner, which means the more information you give the more your chances of finding compatible people. I know I will not contact a couple in Glasgow asking if they ever travel to this area but I might if thier profile stated that they did.
Sex God
Quote by MidsCouple24
If you partake of the bisexual your profile should state that, your profile should be 100% honest 100% of the time, that is why it has a text box so that you can elaborate on any of the set "labels", so put yourself as bi-sexual then state in the text box what your bisexual preferences are, ie when the time, the people and the place is right and only in 3some situations is what you have stated, so state that in there
I would have to disagree.
I have done pretty much everything there is to do with another woman although I primarily like to play straight. I describe myself as bi-selective as I only play with women if the mood takes me. I was listed as bi on our profile and described in the text that I will only play with women if the mood takes and so if this was an important consideration for a meet then we may not be the right couple. Despite this, we constantly got messages from single girls and couples specifically asking for girly fun. This proved to me just how few people actually read the profile text. I got fed up of describing my preferences in return messages and so changed the profile to straight and left the description of my sexuality in the profile text. Despite this, we still get messages which state how much they want girly fun. We also get lots if messages from bi men wanting to play with Lee even though we have stated that he is straight both as his status and in the text.
I conclude therefore, that some people don't bother looking at the status or the text. If they like the pics, that's all that matters :lol:
Sex God
I would agree with 'laine, the mention of bi can bring countless mail from people you don't wish to meet, and have said so on your profile. I know it's tricky, contentious even, but I'm happy as long as no one get's deceived. the married straight guy who suddenly becomes bi when his mrs isn't around is, to me, just as much a cheat as if he were having a pop at one of the single girls. Truth is guys will tweek their profile just to try to get laid. I get whispers frequently from guys with straight profiles, it's just slightly irritating, I don't get into conversation, but if you are talking about meeting as a couple, and this hasn't been thrashed out, then it could be worse than awkward. Then again, if you are a single guy why would it matter if your profile spoke the truth? I have to say also that I've never known anyone in the "bi" room to be disagreeable to a straight profile, so I'm choosing to swallow that with the proverbial pinch too. Gay guys know that "straight guys" by the bucketload want a blow job, or more, and would never bother to ask if you are bi.
But do you really want to meet people who haven't even the courtesy to read your profile ? we don't, to us it just means they are going to do what they want and have no regard for our meeting criteria, "oops sorry I stuck it in your bum I thought you would like it" is quite a scary scenario, we like to meet people who care as much for our thoughts and desires as we have for thiers.
The fact that they message us without reading our profile just warns us to keep away operating more of a "if in doubt kick it out" policy.
The fact that they message us without reading our profile just warns us to keep away operating more of a "if in doubt kick it out" policy.
Sexpert
Have a look at this...it makes sense to me...I wonder if we could get it as an add-on on the profiles 
