Staying safe

1 Jul 2013

I wasn't sure where to post this, but since it invariably relates to actual meets, I thought here was appropriate.
An often raised topic, and one I heard discussed in the chatroom very recently, that of meetings arranged but the other party didn't show up.
There are a couple of aspects you should be aware of.
First and foremost, unless you have seen or have spoken to a woman then it's best to assume that there isn't one involved.
If you are asked, in chat or through "ping pong messaging", lots of questions as to your likes and sexual preferences and so on, then it's virtually certain that there's someone getting off on the messaging and has no intention of meeting.
When a meeting is arranged, you will have divulged certain information, such as the time and location of the meet, how to recognize you and so on. It is a fact that certain people will simply seek to identify you. They will be at the public meeting place, but they won't disclose themselves as being the other party. Equally, they perhaps only sought to get your address.
Keep a specific sim card just for your swinging friends, only giving your regular number to those who will become real friends.
This isn't meant to scare anyone, most of these timewasters are just that, and we won't begin to understand how this pleases them, but it's clear to see that some caution is advisable.

1 Jul 2013

Nice and timely reminder Skinny
Tks

1 Jul 2013

I have exchanged numbers and have called or been called on the phone and I get the male and ask to also speak to her and she is of course "away" or, in one case, was "too shy" to come to the phone. A sure way to end a correspondence is to ask to talk to HER on the phone.

27 Jul 2013

As newbies this is very interesting information both from the saftey aspect and the SIM card.
In chat other night. A few guys wanted to talk to Jools on phone.
We both thought this was dodgy and she did not want to.
However this now seems like a good idea.
Also we hold the power over them, we can proceed as we want rather than guys being rude
To us, as they think it's a male pretending to be a couple.
I am sure we have an old payg SIM card laying around.

28 Jul 2013

I do have to say I really hate talking on the phone. Its easier to web cam to prove who you are I think.
Some people don't actually want to have small talk with the person that's being arranged for their fun, others like the social side of swinging I guess.
Xx fem Xx

29 Jul 2013

Quote by jools_fun
As newbies this is very interesting information both from the saftey aspect and the SIM card.
In chat other night. A few guys wanted to talk to Jools on phone.
We both thought this was dodgy and she did not want to.
However this now seems like a good idea.
Also we hold the power over them, we can proceed as we want rather than guys being rude
To us, as they think it's a male pretending to be a couple.
I am sure we have an old payg SIM card laying around.

Quite a common thing to have an old phone and handset specifically for here- you can switch it off when you don't want contact or ditch the sim and get a new one if you give out the number to someone who turns in to an arse

30 Jul 2013

Quote by jools_fun
As newbies this is very interesting information both from the saftey aspect and the SIM card.
In chat other night. A few guys wanted to talk to Jools on phone.
We both thought this was dodgy and she did not want to.
However this now seems like a good idea.
Also we hold the power over them, we can proceed as we want rather than guys being rude
To us, as they think it's a male pretending to be a couple.
I am sure we have an old payg SIM card laying around.

Guys asking in chat you have every right to say no not yet. I mean when there has been more contact, for example I exchanged THIRTY EIGHT emails with the 'lady' of one couple, it sounds a lot but not so many when you are exchanging info about likes and desires and sexually then I said shall we talk on the phone now, just to say hi.(But I was also getting suspicious that this 'lady' was no lady at all!) Everything went silent after that. Any guy can put up photos of a woman or people having sex even and claim to be a couple. There comes a time when it's good to verify that there is actually a woman there.

2 Aug 2013

we now have a cam and it better in our opinion, still stay anon, but guys can see we are. both there. had some fun last night lol

problem is pushy guys, but i guess as we get more experienced we can say no to them and stick with regular reliable, polite guys.

8 Aug 2013

hi everybodyjust a quick heads up on sim cards, did you know you can buy a sim for any phone company on for 1penny?.

1 Sep 2013

Quote by fem_4_taboo
I do have to say I really hate talking on the phone. Its easier to web cam to prove who you are I think.
Some people don't actually want to have small talk with the person that's being arranged for their fun, others like the social side of swinging I guess.
Xx fem Xx

Agreed, it is very difficult to fake a cam chat. You can see the other parties.
(Always ask them to wave or do a Thumbs UP in case it's a video spoof)