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Stop Cam Stelth?

Seem to be two streams of argument here if I read it right ...
Get rid of the stealth cam ... because there does not seem to be a reason why someone watching should have reason to keep the fact that they are watching from the people on webcam?
Agreed.
I think is the argument that the person on webcam should be seen by nobody unless they have explicitly invited that person to view? Or is the argument that public view is ok as the person on webcam can 'block' someone they don't want or feel comfortable is viewing ?
I would go with the fact that as it's a public chatroom, if you're camming, then other people 'should' be able to see you ... so long as you have the option to 'block' ... for 'invite only' I think that's what 'private chatrooms' are for ... bit like you have private rooms in most swingers clubs.
Quote by neilinleeds
firstly . . . why would someone feel the need to go into stealth mode in the first place, given that someone turning their cam on is necessarily making a public performance for people they don't really know, why would a user feel the need to be secretive about it? if they feel the need to be secretive about it, what does that say about them? if they want to hide it from the person on cam, what is going on in that relationship that requires secrecy and the denial of consent?
secondly . . . what is the logic behind providing this service, and why do admin think it's a good idea?
dunno
neil x x x ;)

We are still waiting for these answers....
Minx x x
Quote by Shireen_Mids
I know il prob get stick for this.. but hey im being honest smile

If you are happy with it hun then I dont have a problem, but I would at least like the option to know who was watching me kiss
Shireen
xxx
Thanks... ooo hang on.. i agree to that too.... the way it was before was cool.. could have been better if the choice was yours as to who u offered your cam to !
Oh i getting all in a cerfuffle now... lol
Basically i dont like the idea of not knowing whos watching me...
I like the idea of knowing and seeing how many people have there eyes on me
oh hell...i need a drink...
Fun xxx
My point is nothing is anything but stealthy on this site, Its still possible to view all the forums without even logging in or being a member! Cams and chatrooms I agree member only but even if you don't "show up " everything is still traceable on the SH database. as one is still logged on.!
Quote by peenut
My point is nothing is anything but stealthy on this site, Its still possible to view all the forums without even logging in or being a member! Cams and chatrooms I agree member only but even if you don't "show up " everything is still traceable on the SH database. as one is still logged on.!

Sorry to be pedantic peenut, but what does that have to do with this thread/poll?
Mine and my partners face pics are on here for all to see-no problems, anyone who matters to me knows I am a swinger.
That doesn't mean that I am happy for someone to watch me live on cam without me knowing though does it?
Minx x x
Doesn't the use of a stealth mode on cam's and the ability to NOT be able to block someone from viewing your cam, and also the use of winks as a form of spam go against the privacy policy of the site, and I quote:
"General Privacy Statement
It's quite simple. We will never use any information you give us for anything other than the administration of this site, helping you to make the most of it. This means we will never give any other third party access to any of your information, full stop.
If you set your options in the Photo Ads and Forum sections of this site to anonymous/hidden, then no-one will have access to your email address apart from us and our moderators, and then only in the official capacity of helping to run this site.
You will NEVER have problems with spam as a result of using this site if you set your options appropriately. In fact, you can use this site completely anonymously, until you are ready to take things further with someone when you decide to.
We do ask your browser to set cookies. Of course, there is no malicious or underhand intent here. We use these cookies to enable you to login to the various systems, carrying around your username and password for example. We also use cookies to provide us with anonymous statistics on traffic to our site - this is perfectly normal and nothing to be concerned about we assure you."
I dont cam very often, but when I do its mainly for the benefit of those who know me personally or for those who I have had regular contact with on here or in the chat rooms. I dont think that a stealth option is a good idea. Why should I show my face to someone I dont even know is watching?
I dont have anything to hide.....Like minxy my avatar is me (believe me if I was going to use a fake picture, it would be a better one than that.....), but I object to having people hiding behind software. Perhaps Im over reacting, but I just find it too creepy, even for me.....
Its a turn off, is that not enough?
Dont forget to VOTE!
Quote by PoloLady
Stealth depends on who and for what reason. If a web cam is put in your home without you knowing, thats stealth, but if you broadcast , then thats about as stealthy as having sex in the high street on Saturday afternoon! Can't see what all the fuss is about, people were happy enough to cam on the open net , but at least here you have to be a member and so abide by the rules and be accountable and reasonably traceable !

You wouldn't but then you are not a female rolleyes
I am sorry but there are some people I object to watching me.... Steve also gets a little apprehensive when there are bimales watching him on cam.... It's about what we are comfortable with....
As far as I am concerned if the stealth thing stays then our cams get packed back in their boxes and returned to where they came from...
I hate to agree with peanut (for some reason) but the nut has a point - once you put your cam on in an open room you may as well assume EVERYONE is watching (little eye symbol or not). You know who is in the room, you can still turn off if you're not happy with who is in the room.
Whilst I cannot see the advantage of stealth for anyone (as their presence in the room is still there) and agree peolpe who choose to use it are in some way creepy...
Once your cam is on and some members are there who you do not personally know through meeting them - then at that point you have no real idea of who is watching you anyway - they are just usernames. Even with a little eye symbol - you have no idea who of the watchers is recording your cam (yes that can be done) and then showing it elsewhere.
So I find both sides of the debate strange confused
Agree with you 100% dunno
if dlep is on then they have to go rolleyes
Quote by markz
if dlep is on then they have to go rolleyes

I just KNEW you'd have to comment.....*sigh*
Go and polish your tin hat doggy boy.....
lol
Quote by Dlep
if dlep is on then they have to go rolleyes

I just KNEW you'd have to comment.....*sigh*
Go and polish your tin hat doggy boy.....
lol
see your still waiting for the breast reduction op :roll:
i've never used the chatroom here, but, Get rid of it!........why? we'll consider these two things
i know of at least one woman on the site who gets a thrill out of arranging a meet with someone and then waiting, tied up & blindfolded, for him to come round. this is her thrill, her choice, but what if he decided to bring a mate without asking? she hasn't given consent so this would be a violation of her wishes, . so although it's not on the same par, hows the new stealth cam viewer any different. if you want to go on open cam it's your choice, if you want to have a private 1-2-1 or group session then you choose who it's with. allowing just anyone to view any cam is just an obscene violation of the users of this site.
and what would happen if this happened?
every year from july onwards it's silly season for 6 weeks, the kids get out of school and find this place. so imagine if little billy (aged 13 years old) gets his dads credit card details and signs up for an account. he wanders into the chat room and clicks on a cam in stealth mode to find someone committing any number of sexual acts. as a minor would the cam owner be liable for procecution under one of the obscene publication acts/ sexual abuse laws etc (you can bet the site owners have sheilded themselves with the T&C on signup, but what about the users) and this doesn't even take in any moral standards of the users or general public. and what if the gutter press got hold of this incident? you can bet the entire scene would get dragged through the dirt and shat out the other end.
so although just hypothetical, and maybe a little tenuious, i seem to have put more thought into it than the admin.
this scene is all about consent, no means no and not being able to choose who you interact is just plain ridicules
Quote by BiWelshMinx
My point is nothing is anything but stealthy on this site, Its still possible to view all the forums without even logging in or being a member! Cams and chatrooms I agree member only but even if you don't "show up " everything is still traceable on the SH database. as one is still logged on.!

Sorry to be pedantic peenut, but what does that have to do with this thread/poll?
Mine and my partners face pics are on here for all to see-no problems, anyone who matters to me knows I am a swinger.
That doesn't mean that I am happy for someone to watch me live on cam without me knowing though does it?
Minx x x
Well let me put it like this, although we on these forums can post as members, its possible to "spy" without ever registering ! As members we hide behind usernames but its also possible to be a member, never "post" to then get into chatroom and never chat ! one is still being anon ! If one is unhappy about "certain members" watching then at least you know they are watching, but it is not a crime, unless they do somthing ! you can then have them kicked,banned etc. But even if people are in stealth, as soon as they do somthing , they uncloak and can be identified ! Maybe not by you directly but by info accessable to the admin.
Quote by meat2pleaseu
so although just hypothetical, and maybe a little tenuious, i seem to have put more thought into it than the admin.
this scene is all about consent, no means no and not being able to choose who you interact is just plain ridicules

Well said Meaty.
Quote by peenut
But even if people are in stealth, as soon as they do somthing , they uncloak and can be identified ! Maybe not by you directly but by info accessable to the admin.

blink You dont really understand what stealth means do you peenut??
Its where you can watch someone's cam without their knowledge.... They only uncloak as you put it when they want to....
Quote by Shireen_Mids
But even if people are in stealth, as soon as they do somthing , they uncloak and can be identified ! Maybe not by you directly but by info accessable to the admin.

blink You dont really understand what stealth means do you peenut??
Its where you can watch someone's cam without their knowledge.... They only uncloak as you put it when they want to....
Big bro is watching
c_b
xxx
Just because I am paranoid does not mean people are watching me ! So what are these stealth people who don't do anything going to do exactly ?
not sure about that meaty? we no longer have obscene / pornographic pictures in public areas? AFAIK, the chatroom isn't public and requires a registration, and stealth mode requires further payment? if there was a loophole, it would apply only to those members who currently enjoy free site-wide access . . . i.e. no validation . . . and only if free users could use stealth mode?
i dunno if that applies? dunno if it does, that might be an issue? but i'm not sure it makes a difference whether schoolkid sees it in stealth mode, or as a supposed adult user using his dad's log in without stealth mode? i don't think stealth muddies the water on that one legally?
i think the main issue is consent? viewing a user on cam establishes a relationship. the relationship is one of voyeur and exhibitionist. it is a sexual act of sorts, and all sexual acts require consent. if one party is denied knowledge of what they might be consenting to, then the whole area of consent becomes very, very muddy indeed? disallowing certain kinds of information that might have a bearing on consent is IMO a bit of a no no on a swinging site?
neil x x x ;)
Quote by neilinleeds
i think the main issue is consent? viewing a user on cam establishes a relationship. the relationship is one of voyeur and exhibitionist. it is a sexual act of sorts, and all sexual acts require consent. if one party is denied knowledge of what they might be consenting to, then the whole area of consent becomes very, very muddy indeed? disallowing certain kinds of information that might have a bearing on consent is IMO a bit of a no no on a swinging site?

I'll let you off for almost causing offence in the other thread you've just posted in now Neil kiss
Quote by london_steve
a better idea would to be for cammers to be able to bar peeps from watching their cams, so if a cammer was getting greif or abuse from someone, they could dtop them watching. this can be the case and i have seen it when i have been on cam with my better half. also as a reg in jo's place and holder of the boot key alot of the time, peeps often tell me when someone is being abusive to them but is still watching them on cam. so i'm for losing the new stealth mode and bringing in a option where you can stop people fron watching your cam.....

Steve - I totally agree.
To be honest - the method would be best - so you can have the option of choosing to allow or block someone from viewing.
I have a bit of a problem with someone who didnt get me to do his bidding on cam, so tends to stalk, view and make snide comments all the time now. He is one of a small number I would like to block permanently from my cam.
Alex x
am not being funny but I do know of one member on here who has made all his posts comments ect copyright to himself how would the owners go on if we all did that
Well provided you don't "copy" word for word, and pass it off as your own , you can still Quote, and as this is a forum and not a book I would say copyright here is utter tosh !
Quote by markz
if dlep is on then they have to go rolleyes

I just KNEW you'd have to comment.....*sigh*
Go and polish your tin hat doggy boy.....
lol
see your still waiting for the breast reduction op :roll:
Are you still waiting for the flesh for your penis enlargement then ? :roll:
Quote by peenut
Well provided you don't "copy" word for word, you can still Quote, and as this is a forum and not a book I would say copyright here is utter tosh !

IT is now
ok a test: I hereby own all copyrights to our names sentances and (images sent via camera on this and any other site and therefore reseve the right to charge any site a fee if they allow my image (without my consent to be viewed)
Cat
Quote by BiWelshMinx
if dlep is on then they have to go rolleyes

I just KNEW you'd have to comment.....*sigh*
Go and polish your tin hat doggy boy.....
lol
see your still waiting for the breast reduction op :roll:
Are you still waiting for the flesh for your penis enlargement then ? :roll:
rotflmao
Thanks Minxy.....I was going to reply but I just couldnt be bothered......I've got other ways of winding Doggy boy up......wink
Quote by Dlep
if dlep is on then they have to go rolleyes

I just KNEW you'd have to comment.....*sigh*
Go and polish your tin hat doggy boy.....
lol
see your still waiting for the breast reduction op :roll:
Are you still waiting for the flesh for your penis enlargement then ? :roll:
rotflmao
Thanks Minxy.....I was going to reply but I just couldnt be bothered......I've got other ways of winding Doggy boy up......wink
kiss
I take your point on pics and movies though, but viewing is not copyright. If one did copy cams and use on another site for profit then well I think that could be a valid point. although maybe getting a bit off topic for this thread.
just get rid of the bloody stealth mode cam viewing ffs rolleyes