Hello all
as a beginner on this site could anyone give me some advice what i should try first?
i am eger to build on my experiences with new people and hence i am on this site
so far its been great
i have tried a club in blackpool some time ago -which has now closed i think -
but it was a poor night to go -but i am willing to try another in manchester
hope you can help
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Hi mate,
ok - I've been in your shoes and to be honest you need 2 things (a) pateince and (b) patience....
Being a single male in this scenario means that you'll be doing the chasing. Read the reviews of clubs on here as many feature the negative comment that too many single guys trail couples in hope. At best a single male (from what I hoped and could imagine) could join in with a couple or group (we're not looking by the way!) and have a great time, at worst they can be seen as pushy and very clingy, desperate for a shred of attention and a sniff of opportunity.
Just be polite - respect that even though you've only asked once, the couple/female has been asked dozens of times that day perhaps.
good luck!
ok - I've been in your shoes and to be honest you need 2 things (a) pateince and (b) patience....
Being a single male in this scenario means that you'll be doing the chasing. Read the reviews of clubs on here as many feature the negative comment that too many single guys trail couples in hope. At best a single male (from what I hoped and could imagine) could join in with a couple or group (we're not looking by the way!) and have a great time, at worst they can be seen as pushy and very clingy, desperate for a shred of attention and a sniff of opportunity.
Just be polite - respect that even though you've only asked once, the couple/female has been asked dozens of times that day perhaps.
good luck!
Casanova
Robbo
No easy way I'm afraid mate. It'll come down to a few basics:
1. How interestiing your personality is to others
2. How physically attractive you are to others
3. How much money you have to spend, as swingers clubs are very expensive for single guys
4. How much time you have to devote to all this.
1 & 2 will be what decide how far you get with the people who you eventually meet.
3 & 4 will decide how quickly and how many people you will get to meet.
Certainly the Manchester clubs will be a better bet for you than Blackpool. Or rather I should say "Greater Mancheser" as from down here, it's Liasons and Parnters which are the clubs with the best reputations at the moment. The Blackpool clubs tend to fleece the guys for their cash.
Other than that, see what Steph and Snesh have said. I can only echo their advice.
No easy way I'm afraid mate. It'll come down to a few basics:
1. How interestiing your personality is to others
2. How physically attractive you are to others
3. How much money you have to spend, as swingers clubs are very expensive for single guys
4. How much time you have to devote to all this.
1 & 2 will be what decide how far you get with the people who you eventually meet.
3 & 4 will decide how quickly and how many people you will get to meet.
Certainly the Manchester clubs will be a better bet for you than Blackpool. Or rather I should say "Greater Mancheser" as from down here, it's Liasons and Parnters which are the clubs with the best reputations at the moment. The Blackpool clubs tend to fleece the guys for their cash.
Other than that, see what Steph and Snesh have said. I can only echo their advice.
Sex God
partners is a really good place for the wet area they let a few single men in ,just go be yourself get chatting to peeps and see what happens ,but there are a lot of single men who when see a cpl move from room to another takeoff after them dont get caught up with them if you get chatting to a cpl you might get invited to a room with them,remember all ppl have different tastes ie 3sums whatever just cause they are there dont mean instant success if you already been to clubs you will know at least a little of what to expect hope you have some luck.
Robbo
A few words of advice on swingers clubs. I've been to quite a few clubs now, and like anything else in life, what you get out of the experience depends on what you put into it.
There are those (thankfully I've not met too many) who think that you can forget all about politeness, common courtesy, and even cleanliness when you walk into a swingers club. Not true!! - the clothed / semi-clothed / naked bodies you meet in there are real people, who deserve to be treated as such.
Another wrong assumption is that "everyone is there for the same thing". There may well be couples and singles who go to clubs to enjoy a "quick shag" or group sex or whatever, but the majority of people I have met prefer to make friends, chat to people, take things gently, and relax. To some, the club is a place for a social gathering instead of going to the pub. To others, they will gradually take in the atmosphere, start feeling horny, and go off on their own or (if you are lucky!) with someone they fancy for some fun.
Lots of people on this site can recommend their own favourite club. Membership fees can be a drawback for single men, but if you find one where you feel happy and relaxed, you can make plenty of good friends.......and have some fun.
I personally like Adam and Eves in Manchester (others will tell you they hate it!), Cupids is very popular with many of the SH regulars too.
Good luck!
A few words of advice on swingers clubs. I've been to quite a few clubs now, and like anything else in life, what you get out of the experience depends on what you put into it.
There are those (thankfully I've not met too many) who think that you can forget all about politeness, common courtesy, and even cleanliness when you walk into a swingers club. Not true!! - the clothed / semi-clothed / naked bodies you meet in there are real people, who deserve to be treated as such.
Another wrong assumption is that "everyone is there for the same thing". There may well be couples and singles who go to clubs to enjoy a "quick shag" or group sex or whatever, but the majority of people I have met prefer to make friends, chat to people, take things gently, and relax. To some, the club is a place for a social gathering instead of going to the pub. To others, they will gradually take in the atmosphere, start feeling horny, and go off on their own or (if you are lucky!) with someone they fancy for some fun.
Lots of people on this site can recommend their own favourite club. Membership fees can be a drawback for single men, but if you find one where you feel happy and relaxed, you can make plenty of good friends.......and have some fun.
I personally like Adam and Eves in Manchester (others will tell you they hate it!), Cupids is very popular with many of the SH regulars too.
Good luck!
Sex God
Robbo,
everyone has their own tastes and we certainly do not go out looking to make friends and socialise when we swing. When we go to Clubs we go to fuck and if Mrs Hot likes the look of a guys cock she will ask me to invite him for a threesome. We don't want names and personal history. A lot of Swingers who go to Clubs have the same attitude, alot of Swingers that talk about it on this chat group are evidently social creatures who wish to invite people nto their intimate life - we don't and we are not alone in this, swinging fulfils our fantasies - that's all.
Some things to help you (some already mentioned)
1) Don't follow couples around
2) Don't stand so close you are breathing down a couples neck
3) Chance encounters in the jacuzzi and pool are always better if you are already there before the couple arrives.
4) Don't be drunk
5) Be clean, polite and chatty and don't be afraid to be a bit sexy if you do chat.
In Partners there is a harness room and a round (orgy) room. Exhibitionist couples will use these area's to put on a show on a Friday / saturday if you are there you stand a chance of being invited if the woman is looking for multiple male contact. Look at the man and get his consent before going anywhere near the woman and if he nods look at the woman to make sure that she too is happy.
Finally - and I hope this is obvious but we occasionally put on a show in partners and Mrs Hot will only be interested in a hard cock, not one she has to work to find out its potential. Don't stand there wanking, but if you are hard - don't be shy about it.
Just be alive, be sexy and be cool - you will do fine.
By the way - in case you had not gathered we like Partners and in your case I would sggest that Partners would be a great place for you to start - you can sit all night in the smoky bar area / lounge trying to chat people up or you can get naked and in the wet area and wait - just don't, don't, don't join in the travelling train of gawkers following people around - be yourself
everyone has their own tastes and we certainly do not go out looking to make friends and socialise when we swing. When we go to Clubs we go to fuck and if Mrs Hot likes the look of a guys cock she will ask me to invite him for a threesome. We don't want names and personal history. A lot of Swingers who go to Clubs have the same attitude, alot of Swingers that talk about it on this chat group are evidently social creatures who wish to invite people nto their intimate life - we don't and we are not alone in this, swinging fulfils our fantasies - that's all.
Some things to help you (some already mentioned)
1) Don't follow couples around
2) Don't stand so close you are breathing down a couples neck
3) Chance encounters in the jacuzzi and pool are always better if you are already there before the couple arrives.
4) Don't be drunk
5) Be clean, polite and chatty and don't be afraid to be a bit sexy if you do chat.
In Partners there is a harness room and a round (orgy) room. Exhibitionist couples will use these area's to put on a show on a Friday / saturday if you are there you stand a chance of being invited if the woman is looking for multiple male contact. Look at the man and get his consent before going anywhere near the woman and if he nods look at the woman to make sure that she too is happy.
Finally - and I hope this is obvious but we occasionally put on a show in partners and Mrs Hot will only be interested in a hard cock, not one she has to work to find out its potential. Don't stand there wanking, but if you are hard - don't be shy about it.
Just be alive, be sexy and be cool - you will do fine.
By the way - in case you had not gathered we like Partners and in your case I would sggest that Partners would be a great place for you to start - you can sit all night in the smoky bar area / lounge trying to chat people up or you can get naked and in the wet area and wait - just don't, don't, don't join in the travelling train of gawkers following people around - be yourself
Sex God
Quote by Too Hotthats fully explained by to hot there ,that is a typical night,we too love the swing and one night had to tell one man as he came up and was wanking inchs from the mrs face ,but is a good night to be had if you follow the rules and not the couples,like the bit of advice to hot gives about being in the wet area before a cpl ,yup dont follow and make it obvious good luck
Robbo,
everyone has their own tastes and we certainly do not go out looking to make friends and socialise when we swing. When we go to Clubs we go to fuck and if Mrs Hot likes the look of a guys cock she will ask me to invite him for a threesome. We don't want names and personal history. A lot of Swingers who go to Clubs have the same attitude, alot of Swingers that talk about it on this chat group are evidently social creatures who wish to invite people nto their intimate life - we don't and we are not alone in this, swinging fulfils our fantasies - that's all.
Some things to help you (some already mentioned)
1) Don't follow couples around
2) Don't stand so close you are breathing down a couples neck
3) Chance encounters in the jacuzzi and pool are always better if you are already there before the couple arrives.
4) Don't be drunk
5) Be clean, polite and chatty and don't be afraid to be a bit sexy if you do chat.
In Partners there is a harness room and a round (orgy) room. Exhibitionist couples will use these area's to put on a show on a Friday / saturday if you are there you stand a chance of being invited if the woman is looking for multiple male contact. Look at the man and get his consent before going anywhere near the woman and if he nods look at the woman to make sure that she too is happy.
Finally - and I hope this is obvious but we occasionally put on a show in partners and Mrs Hot will only be interested in a hard cock, not one she has to work to find out its potential. Don't stand there wanking, but if you are hard - don't be shy about it.
Just be alive, be sexy and be cool - you will do fine.
By the way - in case you had not gathered we like Partners and in your case I would sggest that Partners would be a great place for you to start - you can sit all night in the smoky bar area / lounge trying to chat people up or you can get naked and in the wet area and wait - just don't, don't, don't join in the travelling train of gawkers following people around - be yourself
