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sorry im sure yer all fed up with this 'classic' topic..well ya shouldnt have opened the post silly :twisted:
ok here goes. lol
1.
How do singles fit into swinging? Whats the difference between swinging & having f**k buddies(pardon the expression)..is there one? do you see it like that?
2.
whats the difference between swinging and prostitution??? If the males are paying then getting sex eg at clubs.
My original idea was something like free love so i dont like it if males are cold & impersonal i want friendship & fun. To me playing with someone is where both parties r unselfish considerate & theres lots of warmth & laughter. I wasnt looking to become some kind of gangbang queen or a cock sucking machine 4 males whos idea of foreplay is to stick their dick in your mouth *soap box alert*
you see why i want a definition of swinging
Unknown User
:shock:
Bloke sits back, grabs popcorn, gets comfortable and watches confused
Dawnie
Sex God
Quote by lets_kiss
2.
whats the difference between swinging and prostitution??? If the males are paying then getting sex eg at clubs. I had one guy in a club i was in mmf scenario & one male turned to the other & said this is worth paying for eh! & the other one said certainly is!

Oh my God, think I'll pull up a chair and watch the replies to this one :eeek:
Unknown User
Quote by Dawn_Mids

2.
whats the difference between swinging and prostitution??? If the males are paying then getting sex eg at clubs. I had one guy in a club i was in mmf scenario & one male turned to the other & said this is worth paying for eh! & the other one said certainly is!

Oh my God, think I'll pull up a chair and watch the replies to this one :eeek:
Great minds - can you delete my first post please Dawn - my fingers couldn't control themselves wink
Dawnie
Sex God
Bloke, fetch PoloLady please, she always knows how to answer this type of thread :thumbup:
Unknown User
erm am i in the dog house ?? bolt
Unknown User
hey not sure about the first point as to new this, but second hits home as i have just been on few swinging clubs websites and read the reviews.
And to be honest itsput me off , it made me feel one im paying for sex or even worst like a male sex slavestood around with a towel waiting for a couple to come and pick me up. Sorry that just does not seem like fun
marriedmale
Sexpert
Quote by lets_kiss
1.
How do singles fit into swinging? Whats the difference between swinging & having f**k buddies(pardon the expression)..is there one? do you see it like that?

Err... does it really matter ?
I'm not being dismissive, but don't understand the point, unlike question 2 .......
Quote by lets_kiss
2.
whats the difference between swinging and prostitution???

Okay, shoot me down, but swinging is 'enjoying an open and potentially polygamous set of sexual relations with simmilar minded people'.
Prostitution is exchanging sexual acts for money.
So.......
Unless the club pays the women, it's swinging.
If I pay for a hotel for a female 'friend' and the inevitable happens, is she a prostitute ?
Well.... I paid didn't I ?
See my point ?
Hope so !
Unknown User
Quote by lets_kiss
erm am i in the dog house ?? bolt

Noooooooooooooo not in the least but you may need this >>>>>>>>>>>>>>
...........
Phredd
Unknown User
Quote by Dawn_Mids
Bloke, fetch PoloLady please, she always knows how to answer this type of thread :thumbup:

I've searched high and low but she's incognito.. has anyone got Polo Lady? lol
Unknown User
Come on you lot give the girl a chance.... She has asked questions that are slightly different to the normal "define swinging" ones....
I am going to have a think on this and come back to you.... (I need a wee and a coffee :lol2: )
Dawnie
Sex God
Quote by Shireen_Mids
(I need a wee and a coffee :lol2: )

Make sure you don't get those two mixed up :eeek:
Unknown User
Dawn..... Stop hijacking smackbottom :lol2:
mr__powers1
Sex God
If you really don't know the difference between swinging and prostitution i'm sure as hell not going to tell you! rolleyes
Calista
Sex God
There was a really interesting thread on this a while back ... think Bluexxx might have started it.
Found it ... wasn't blue at all and unfortunately detriorated at some point but worthwhile reviewing confused
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopicpage/59310/20.html
Created a lot of good debating and discussion smile
Cx
Dawnie
Sex God
Quote by Shireen_Mids
Dawn..... Stop hijacking smackbottom :lol2:

Make me :rascal:
Unknown User
Quote by lets_kiss
1.
How do singles fit into swinging? Whats the difference between swinging & having f**k buddies(pardon the expression)..is there one? do you see it like that?

Swinging has always been percieved as being a couple thing, but lets face it not everyone is bi and therefore meeting couples may not be their bag.... For us as a couple we have met with more single men than we have couples but then it is far harder for us to find a couple where we both like both of the other couple.... Logistical nightmare :lol2:
Swinging is a lifestyle and not a matter of numbers wink
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whats the difference between swinging and prostitution??? If the males are paying then getting sex eg at clubs. I had one guy in a club i was in mmf scenario & one male turned to the other & said this is worth paying for eh! & the other one said certainly is!

Actually this is something I had never thought about and yeah I suppose with a club situation it could appear that that is how it is.... I would hate to think that's how it is though sad
My original idea was something like free love so i dont like it if males are cold & impersonal i want friendship & fun. To me playing with someone is where both parties r unselfish considerate & theres lots of warmth & laughter. I wasnt looking to become some kind of gangbang queen or a cock sucking machine 4 males whos idea of foreplay is to stick their dick in your mouth *soap box alert*

If you prefer a more intimate encounter then a club is not the place I would suggest you frequent... For me personally it feels more like a meat market than a sensual place, but that's just me...
Has anyone got any advice for me at the clubs?
I usually play with one guy at a time if ive never been with them before but 50% of them blow it & dont have the right attitude. They take charge & try to control me & what i do for the rest of the evening.

See above..... I would avoid the club scene to be honest and stick to more intimate encounters, but meeting socially first in a public place would have to be a must for a single girlie smile
Oh and Dawn smackbottom
Unknown User
Quote by builderforfun
hey not sure about the first point as to new this, but second hits home as i have just been on few swinging clubs websites and read the reviews.
And to be honest itsput me off , it made me feel one im paying for sex or even worst like a male sex slavestood around with a towel waiting for a couple to come and pick me up. Sorry that just does not seem like fun

Its true & ill bear that in mind when i see the guys towelled up at the clubs thanks 4 the input xx
mr__powers1
Sex God
If you are a single guy and you pay to get into a club,your paying for the facilities,some have saunas and jacussi's........you are not paying for guaranteed sex.....if there by chance happens to be a woman there into gangbangs and wants sex with lots of guys and she invites you to join in that doesn't make her a prostitute,however there are some places...not normally clubs but usually arranged as hotel meets where the guys go to gangbang meets where the woman is paid to have sex with them......let this be known that this it not swinging in any shape or form and should not be considered so.
peenut
Orgasminator
Question 1, depends if the other persons see me as "single" I see my self as an individual player.
Question 2 , I would say about 50 quid....... :happy:
Unknown User
PMSL............................
Ooerr what a dumb ass thing to put in here lol..... Public enemy No 1 till the next dumb ass question lol.....
Unknown User
Quote by mdr2000
PMSL............................
Ooerr what a dumb ass thing to put in here lol..... Public enemy No 1 till the next dumb ass question lol.....

ok im sorry rolleyes
Freckledbird
Sex God
Males and females pay to get into clubs, so how can it be prostitution? (in the scenario you described, males and female had sex)
As Dave said, it's the facilities you pay for, not guaranteed sex. If you're paying for sex in a club, it's not a swingers club, it's a brothel, surely?
Unknown User
ok cool good point
peenut
Orgasminator
Good point, also you can "join" a club but you can't " join " a brothel. as you are then a punter not a member.
Darkfire
Sex God
Quote by builderforfun
hey not sure about the first point as to new this, but second hits home as i have just been on few swinging clubs websites and read the reviews.
And to be honest itsput me off , it made me feel one im paying for sex or even worst like a male sex slavestood around with a towel waiting for a couple to come and pick me up. Sorry that just does not seem like fun

What a refreshing viewpoint from a guy kiss
Dark is impressed wink
Italeo
Sexpert
Quote by Bloke2005
:shock:
Bloke sits back, grabs popcorn, gets comfortable and watches confused

PMSL