then i definately fall into the old school category.
but i am sure there was a thread some time ago about a club in Leeds i think it was, that only allowed, slim, pretty females in an athletic handsome blokes in and i am sure there was age restrictions too, along the lines of no one over 35 kinda thing.
not even sure if it was this site but am sure someone will know which club i am talking about.
Earthy xx
New wave & elitism, old school inclusive and eclectic...
No matter what label anyone wants to put on it, swinging will always be a choice for the person(s) involved.
If any of you have a preference for who you want to swing with are you being elitist?
If a group of people all have the same tastes to the exclusion of anyone elses are they to be pillored for extolling elitism?
An 'inevitable' gravitation towards social class or preferences for a particular type of person male or female is neither right or wrong!
I personally refuse to judge anyone just because I do not meet their swinging criteria.
Nobody will ever be all things to everybody!
The letting down of walls is purely a choice for the individual(s) & will not be a governing factor if I sit with them enjoying a pint & good banter! :thumbup:
In all honestly we can say that we are very non judgmental miss srne an me, we get along with anyone, gay, straight, black, white,old or young whatever as long as they are genuine people and are nice and friendly we will chat to them and get along like a house on fire!
When we attended the NE munch we got on and had a great time with the broad spectrum of the swinging community and it was a fantastic night, however we are very selective with our swinging partners, not because we are segregating any section of the swinging community or think of ourselves as elitists or anything, we do this purely because we will only have that type of sexual experience with people we choose and are attracted to.
In reality we look for people who are of similar age to us, of similar stunning appearance and who probably fit the typical stereotype of an "elitist swinger" you mentioned but thats not why we choose them over dorris and eddy who are 45 & 42 from Grimsby, an like a drink and a good laugh, its just because we dont fancy them, not cos we are trying to be the height of swinging social society
I just think that some people look to people from similar age groups, of similar appearance and interests to them to "hedge their bets" for want of better words, of getting along and having a sucesfull meet up. Im sure if you asked the people we chat to on the chatrooms an stuff whether they thought we were "elitist" or whatever they would say no (we hope)as we will socially get along with anyone like we said earlier who is genuine and nice.
So, in answer to your question Lost, we dont think there is an elitism really or an old school or new school, just people in a community (in this instance swinging) who look for people that match their requirements or are what they are looking for to meet with. Again this is always an opinion an thats the great thing about the cafe, everyone has one an are entitled to theirs
I'm definitely an old school sort of person....I don't discriminate on age, height, weight, colour, sexuality etc...
And Munches are great places to be cause there are a huge mix of people of all shapes and sizes who just want to meet people and have a great time...
I think that you guys in the above post are right it is just a matter of 'the way it' is regards swinging or anything else in the way of lifestyle/s.
I think the idea of exclusivity on clubs etc is a little dubious though and surely that maybe elitism and i can see that being wrong.
Thanks for post guys
What an interesting thread.
We look for people similar to ourselves ( interests & outlook).
We wouldn't regard ourselves as elitist or otherwise, just know what we are looking for.
There's a wide spectrum out there, catering for various tastes. We wouldn't condemn anyone for preferring supermodels in the same way we wouldn't condemn anybody into BBW. It's a just a matter of personal preference.
It would be a boring world if the same thing made us all twitch.
Hopefully people are more interested in that wonderful sex organ inside your head.
The reason why people are involved in this "life style" is of far more interest....
( Closes large tome & leaves pulpit ).
Lost can you define old school? when i say this i mean what was the meaning from the actual article you've taken it from, I'm guessing its the old keys in a bowl senario where you'll have to take whatever comes along (pardon the pun) im also asuming it means sexual practise and not just social, the reason i asked this is i've seen a few people post saying they guess they must be old school as they visit munches and will basically get on with anyone ragardless of weight, height, age race etc, which lets be honest is an easy thing to do even the so called people of the swinging elitism could do this? after all theres a huge difference with socialising and being intimate and im sure the very fussy people amounst us will socialise with anyone and have a ball at any social/munch they attend, what this article seems to be getting at or sorry it may be the way im seeing it is the old school swingers have no particular preference and will sleep with anyone regardless, like i mentioned before the old keys in a bowl senario, ie you'll take what you get its just for fun.
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You saved me writing all that out :thumbup:
