Have any of you made friends through the swinging scene?
I don't meen people you meet for regular legover's I meen proper friends where you nip round each others house for a coffee or go out pub and so on?
We have plenty of vanilla friends but never managed to make a friend of a site other than for reg meets for fun.
Tony :sad:
Join the most popular community of UK swingers now
Login
Swinging friends
Sex God
Definitely here, we have made friends, fine friends. Really good as the whole friendship thing can be more open in how you can express yourself and what you can talk about.
There can be a little dubiousness when involving your or their families in the friendship and its always a consideration initially but there are some friends that we now are happy to have about us and our families primarily because that's what they are is mates.
One couple we go see whenever we get chance to we call our therapists because its such a chilled time we spend with them that when we come away it feels as if the worlds a better place and we love them dearly. In fact we have quite a few special mates.
A lady who is a surrogate aunt to our kids and who has come to our aid on at least one really quite traumatic time. Another cpl who, when we lost the use of our car for a while immediately stepped in and said "We have one you can use for as long as you need too" How cool we're they, even though the guy of the couple has the sense of humour of a four year old and a sweet tooth to match. Not much I wouldn't do for these guys. These people are dear to us and along with others have made some of the most special times and memories we'll ever have.
Certainly didn't expect these friendships when we started our swinging adventures but what a bonus!
There can be a little dubiousness when involving your or their families in the friendship and its always a consideration initially but there are some friends that we now are happy to have about us and our families primarily because that's what they are is mates.
One couple we go see whenever we get chance to we call our therapists because its such a chilled time we spend with them that when we come away it feels as if the worlds a better place and we love them dearly. In fact we have quite a few special mates.
A lady who is a surrogate aunt to our kids and who has come to our aid on at least one really quite traumatic time. Another cpl who, when we lost the use of our car for a while immediately stepped in and said "We have one you can use for as long as you need too" How cool we're they, even though the guy of the couple has the sense of humour of a four year old and a sweet tooth to match. Not much I wouldn't do for these guys. These people are dear to us and along with others have made some of the most special times and memories we'll ever have.
Certainly didn't expect these friendships when we started our swinging adventures but what a bonus!
Yep. We have met some great people off the site and have become good friends.
It's great when that happens because they are like minded so you can talk about anything over a cup of coffee (beer or vodka in my case :lol2
and although we met them through a swinging site they are the same as our vanilla friends but we are more relaxed around them and don't have to worry about letting slip that we are perves and shag other people when we get the chance 
As Lost said, we never expected to make friends like that when we joined the site but we are glad we have.
It's great when that happens because they are like minded so you can talk about anything over a cup of coffee (beer or vodka in my case :lol2
and although we met them through a swinging site they are the same as our vanilla friends but we are more relaxed around them and don't have to worry about letting slip that we are perves and shag other people when we get the chance As Lost said, we never expected to make friends like that when we joined the site but we are glad we have.
Sex God
Yes, a couple of friends.
Quote by niceandgentle
Shaz, Tony, sadly I've never met you in person but you always come over as a really friendly, open couple so sure it's nothing you've ever done, must be 'them' lol
We are real friendly and Shaz is to friendly :twisted: but maybe thats the problem, Shaz should start playing hard to get
Yes, we have made more friends than we have played with people, friends like Marc n Donna, we met them at Utopia about 5 years ago, yes we have played with them about 4 times in 5 years, but we actually meet up with them every Thursday at ours for a social night, we play Wii or go to play pool, we have been on holiday together, to the cinema and so on so they are more friends than play partners, we will play with them again one day but the friendship will always be the big part of our time together, then there is Mark n Tiffany, never played with them but they have stayed at ours many many times, we met them at Chameleons and we visit them in Nottingham when we can, Mark n Jodie, come over to visit us at least once a month, we usually go to Waterworld with them, again never played with them but met them at Chameleons too. Went to a Xotix Xtreme with Gail n Mick a couple of weeks ago, stayed at thier house but didn't play with them, had a great time though, Met up with Craig and Sarah on Saturday at Xotix Xtreme by prior arrangement, we haven't played with them ever as I am outside thier age range but we will be seeing them again very soon for sure, I could go on all day listing couples and females we have met up with on numerous occasions but do not play with. We love to play but for us the social side of the scene is the best bit.
Sex God
That's one of the oddest (in terms of my initial expectations) things that have happened since I joined the site. I have made friends.
I think it helps that the North West has a regular social scene (all hail Mrs NWC and her Wigan Munch crew!) Going to Munches has allowed me to meet people in a social setting and get to know them.
After six years hanging around this place, I've now got SH pals who are very firmly in my circle of friends, who've met my family and other non-swinging friends and who I believe I will be friends with loooong after I hang up my swing boots.
Bizarrely, I also have 'Munch friends' who I may only see twice a year at Wigan but who, nonetheless, I consider friends. We will never play, but it is fantastic to meet up, catch up and have a great chat, a few glasses of wine and a boogie. I really look forward to seeing them.
As for playing partners, I've kept in touch with many and I know the ones who I can (and have) been able to rely on to help me out, lend a listening ear or just be available for an amicable and stress-free fuck if that's a mutual itch that needs scratching.
I wasn't expecting to make friends on here, but I'm really glad I have.
I think it helps that the North West has a regular social scene (all hail Mrs NWC and her Wigan Munch crew!) Going to Munches has allowed me to meet people in a social setting and get to know them.
After six years hanging around this place, I've now got SH pals who are very firmly in my circle of friends, who've met my family and other non-swinging friends and who I believe I will be friends with loooong after I hang up my swing boots.
Bizarrely, I also have 'Munch friends' who I may only see twice a year at Wigan but who, nonetheless, I consider friends. We will never play, but it is fantastic to meet up, catch up and have a great chat, a few glasses of wine and a boogie. I really look forward to seeing them.
As for playing partners, I've kept in touch with many and I know the ones who I can (and have) been able to rely on to help me out, lend a listening ear or just be available for an amicable and stress-free fuck if that's a mutual itch that needs scratching.
I wasn't expecting to make friends on here, but I'm really glad I have.
Sex God
Quote by Dawnie
I wasn't expecting to make friends on here, but I'm really glad I have.
Same here :thumbup:
Same here :thumbup:
Same really as what Nola said, two of our closest friends we met through this site and although we are not play friends, we do go to clubs together, go out for meals, go for normal days out and we probably are closer to them than we are to other friends we have met outside of swingin. That could well be because we can all be open and dont have to come up with excuses as to where we are going at weekend, and why we buy baby wipes and condoms
Sex God
Yep, we have lots of friends we've met through SH. Some of them came to our wedding in January
Quote by Dawnie
I wasn't expecting to make friends on here, but I'm really glad I have.
Same here :thumbup:
Yep have made friends but I don't visit all for a cuppa - to far away!! :sad: I do have a long term friend from here that I meet for a cuppa regularly! Puts up with all my moans and groans - heavens knoows why! :lol2:
Dawnie - just realised we will have been members 10 yrs next yr!!:crazy: How shall we celebrate? :-) Do we get a gold watch or something?
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
Have any of you made friends through the swinging scene?
I don't meen people you meet for regular legover's I meen proper friends where you nip round each others house for a coffee or go out pub and so on?
We have plenty of vanilla friends but never managed to make a friend of a site other than for reg meets for fun.
Tony :sad:
I thought i had made friends with some of the guys i regularily met, they seemed to want to stay friends when i had a break from swinging when i met my partner and moved house, they were all for popping round for a cup of tea .... however it never actually happened ... they vanished when i made it clear i wasnt going have sex with them anymore, only one of them do i have regular contact with now, we have a shared love of football and txt each other talking about football and have met a couple of times, once for coffee and once at a match (met with my family then)
However i dont have friends in my vaniila life either, i have nothing in common with other females (apart from being female) and men seem to just want sex ! I am loner by nature anyway :) and like my time alone :) (apart from being with my children)
Quote by nellie-mwgc
I thought i had made friends with some of the guys i regularily met, they seemed to want to stay friends when i had a break from swinging when i met my partner and moved house, they were all for popping round for a cup of tea .... however it never actually happened ... they vanished when i made it clear i wasnt going have sex with them anymore, only one of them do i have regular contact with now, we have a shared love of football and txt each other talking about football and have met a couple of times, once for coffee and once at a match (met with my family then)
However i dont have friends in my vaniila life either, i have nothing in common with other females (apart from being female) and men seem to just want sex ! I am loner by nature anyway :) and like my time alone :) (apart from being with my children)
Yep, that's how we found it it. soon as we take a break for a couple of months like we do now and then the people we though was friends didn't want to know.
Sexpert
Yes, we have met friends both off SH and through catching up with people at clubs. Also like frecklebird we had a whole table of swinging friends at our wedding.
Sex God
Not as yet though I'm nowhere near as active on this site as I am on the alternative scene so need to rectify that really :-)
Quote by Dawnie
Dawnie - just realised we will have been members 10 yrs next yr!!:crazy: How shall we celebrate? :-) Do we get a gold watch or something?
Oooohhhh I hadn't noticed that :haha:
You could have a pair of matching hold-ups :giggle:
:rotflmao: An you can have the gold sparkly ones that PK likes so much
Sex God
When we first joined, lots of people tried to persuade us to go to socials to which we replied "We're here for the sex, if we wanted to be social, we'd go the local pub!" However, we soon changed out minds and we have made lots of friends.
Of course, friendship comes at many levels. There are people who we only meet at social events, people we have played with and kept in touch with as friends and then there are the true friends ... ones where we have met their families and they have met ours, the kind you could call and ask for a favour, advice, or pop in for a brew when passing (or when stuck in a traffic jam). We've even been invited to a couple of weddings.
Of course, friendship comes at many levels. There are people who we only meet at social events, people we have played with and kept in touch with as friends and then there are the true friends ... ones where we have met their families and they have met ours, the kind you could call and ask for a favour, advice, or pop in for a brew when passing (or when stuck in a traffic jam). We've even been invited to a couple of weddings.
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
yes ive been lucky and still remain in contact with most of the people ive met.
even if its just a text message checking they are ok.
We have remained in contact with many via txt but I meen more along the lines of becomming personal friends.
yes to that also.
i recently meet a lady i hadnt seen for over 2 years and it was still good yet had been texting her and msn chat since we original meet.
checking my mobile most of the numbers stored are woman and i dont include my mum in that ! lol
i have made what i regard as 'true' friends through this site and another one that i am a member.....my first meet was with a couple who live not too far from me, n the weekend before last I went on her daughters hen do, I've met their children, parents friends etc etc etc.
Another 'true' friend I met via here, he helped me move house, I've recently been on holiday with him, again met family members, I can ring him up day or night have a giggle, have a moan & can honestly say i think the world of him & hope we will be friends for life.
Have met people at munches and kept in touch with on a daily basis, even if just to say hello
In fact in all honesty I have met many people via swinging who I regard as friends & hope I continue to do so, as I find those people are the most honest, sincere & a bloody good laugh
Chelle
xxx
Another 'true' friend I met via here, he helped me move house, I've recently been on holiday with him, again met family members, I can ring him up day or night have a giggle, have a moan & can honestly say i think the world of him & hope we will be friends for life.
Have met people at munches and kept in touch with on a daily basis, even if just to say hello
In fact in all honesty I have met many people via swinging who I regard as friends & hope I continue to do so, as I find those people are the most honest, sincere & a bloody good laugh
Chelle
xxx
