Just something me and my hubby were discussing? Whats the difference? We swing with other couples/singles but do we have an open relationship as we're happy for either of us to swing seperately??
Not that it really matters what you call it as long as you're both happy, but just interested in what people thought?
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Swinging or open relationship?
Sex God
I think the difference may be that in swinging each knows who and when the other one is seeing. In an open relationship each knows that the other plays away but not who or when.
My view only. Maybe there is no difference.
My view only. Maybe there is no difference.
Yes we thought that too - if you were to go with someone that your partner didn't know of, i.e who you met in a club when they weren't there (but you've agreed that thats ok) maybe thats an open relationship?
Just as an example if we do meet people by ourselves, the other half always knows about them (usually through the swinging network) will have seen a picture of them and probably chatted to them also! So i guess thats a variation of swinging....
Just as an example if we do meet people by ourselves, the other half always knows about them (usually through the swinging network) will have seen a picture of them and probably chatted to them also! So i guess thats a variation of swinging....
Us... We think Swinging is having fun as a couple with others.. and an Open relationship is where each have permission to seek fun and indeed have fun outside of the relationship.
Nothing wrong with either so long as all happy..
We swing... but we don't have an open relationship! :inlove:
Thats just us lol....
Mike x
Nothing wrong with either so long as all happy..
We swing... but we don't have an open relationship! :inlove:
Thats just us lol....
Mike x
personally for us its more of an open relationship but we both are totally honest about who when where n wat but its always been classed as that since we got together 
he worked away for weeks/months at a time i was a nympho so we both knew it wasnt guna work for me not to have other f.b's while he was away and are prob still more like that as we still play alone more than we do together (with others that is)me being the worse one
Tan x
but its always been classed as that since we got together he worked away for weeks/months at a time i was a nympho so we both knew it wasnt guna work for me not to have other f.b's while he was away and are prob still more like that as we still play alone more than we do together (with others that is)me being the worse one Tan x
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Good question- and :welcome:
If I had to categorise, I'd define swinging as partner swapping, and an open relationship as one where partners had given consent to "play away."
I think
:thumbup: I was thinking of how to comment on this, don't need to now, these are my thoughts xx
Sex God
As long as you are both happy with the way that you define your relationship... then it doesn't really matter how others perceive it 
so your last sentence is how I look at it
God, I hate labels anyway......
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"Big Large Black Dude from Tyneside" :lol: :lol:
so your last sentence is how I look at itGod, I hate labels anyway......
signed
"Big Large Black Dude from Tyneside"
:lol: :lol: Sex God
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We're both very happy with our relationship and it doesnt really matter how you define it really, just interested in peoples thoughts....
Whatever its called, its a lot of fun and hope to have many more experiences!!
if that is the case check your pm box!!!!
:lol:very interesting post coming..... :D :D
I think I agree with most people - I'm in an Open Relationship as Tim and I don't tend to Swing together (although we have occasionally).
But although we're in an open relationship we both know everything that's going on with each other's lives...I know who he's playing with and when.
In fact, we both go out to a Swingers Club on a Saturday night and the only rule we have is that I know he's going to play BEFORE he goes...and then it's fine...and the same goes for me.
But although we're in an open relationship we both know everything that's going on with each other's lives...I know who he's playing with and when.
In fact, we both go out to a Swingers Club on a Saturday night and the only rule we have is that I know he's going to play BEFORE he goes...and then it's fine...and the same goes for me.
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For me, id define swinging as knowing exactly what your both up to and an open relationship as not.
Louise xx
how can it be a open relationship if you dont know what each others upto? i would have though even if your not always there you would still know what your partners getting upto other wise it would be cheating?
im not sure what we are as we meet as a couple and at times as singles, does that make us swingers in a open relationship? lol
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For me, id define swinging as knowing exactly what your both up to and an open relationship as not.
Louise xx
how can it be a open relationship if you dont know what each others upto? i would have though even if your not always there you would still know what your partners getting upto other wise it would be cheating?
im not sure what we are as we meet as a couple and at times as singles, does that make us swingers in a open relationship? lol
Ok, maybe I should explain a little better.
In my opinion and its just that, the way I see things, swinger's swing together or seperately but still discuss and know who's being met, where etc. An open relationship to me means that you have relationships/encounters away from your partner with not much/if any discussion about it at all.
Thats just the way I see it though.
Louise xx
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Ok, maybe I should explain a little better.
In my opinion and its just that, the way I see things, swinger's swing together or seperately but still discuss and know who's being met, where etc. An open relationship to me means that you have relationships/encounters away from your partner with not much/if any discussion about it at all.
Thats just the way I see it though.
Louise xx
So in your opinion dek n me would be classed as swingers basically if you read up there ^^^^^^^ there somewhere where as i class it as an open relationship with a little bit of swinging thrown in
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Ok, maybe I should explain a little better.
In my opinion and its just that, the way I see things, swinger's swing together or seperately but still discuss and know who's being met, where etc. An open relationship to me means that you have relationships/encounters away from your partner with not much/if any discussion about it at all.
Thats just the way I see it though.
Louise xx
So in your opinion dek n me would be classed as swingers basically if you read up there ^^^^^^^ there somewhere where as i class it as an open relationship with a little bit of swinging thrown in
No, in my opinion you should be classed as whatever you want to be classed as. I speak for no-one else except myself/Joe and my opinion of myself/Joe.
louise xx
I think I am with the majority here.. Swinging is where you arrive as a couple, play as a couple and leave as a couple.
Open relationship is when neither of you arrive togeher and you play alone and see who you want to without having to have the agrrement of your partner.
Either is good if you like that sort of thing ......but for me I like the swinging as I find it a turn on knowing kev is there enjoying too and I can see him enjoying
Open relationship is when neither of you arrive togeher and you play alone and see who you want to without having to have the agrrement of your partner.
Either is good if you like that sort of thing ......but for me I like the swinging as I find it a turn on knowing kev is there enjoying too and I can see him enjoying
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Ok, maybe I should explain a little better.
In my opinion and its just that, the way I see things, swinger's swing together or seperately but still discuss and know who's being met, where etc. An open relationship to me means that you have relationships/encounters away from your partner with not much/if any discussion about it at all.
Thats just the way I see it though.
Louise xx
So in your opinion dek n me would be classed as swingers basically if you read up there ^^^^^^^ there somewhere where as i class it as an open relationship with a little bit of swinging thrown in
No, in my opinion you should be classed as whatever you want to be classed as. I speak for no-one else except myself/Joe and my opinion of myself/Joe.
louise xx
Wasnt picking up on anything simply putting in 2 diff opinions about it there isnt a right or wrong way to class yourself
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No, in my opinion you should be classed as whatever you want to be classed as. I speak for no-one else except myself/Joe and my opinion of myself/Joe.
louise xx
Wasnt picking up on anything simply putting in 2 diff opinions about it there isnt a right or wrong way to class yourself
yes, I totally agree :thumbup:
louise xx
We swing as a couple and also play separatley, i would say the separately bit means we have an open relationship.
I would say an open relationship is playing on your own, and not always having to have prior permission for each time.
We generally know when one of us is going to play because it is usually arranged beforehand and we have to sort out kids etc etc. I wouldn't expect to know beforehand every time, if an opportunity arose for either of us we would go for it, but we would tell the other half afterwards.
I think it's about not keeping secrets, if we play we both know about it, whether before or after.
J xx
I would say an open relationship is playing on your own, and not always having to have prior permission for each time.
We generally know when one of us is going to play because it is usually arranged beforehand and we have to sort out kids etc etc. I wouldn't expect to know beforehand every time, if an opportunity arose for either of us we would go for it, but we would tell the other half afterwards.
I think it's about not keeping secrets, if we play we both know about it, whether before or after.
J xx
