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As you've probably guessed i'm quite new to this site, although I feel like i'm settling in ok and I've had loads of replies to my ads. I'm still not sure as to what i'm looking for.
I've had loads of ideas, although probably not good ones lol
Do you think it would be a good idea and do able if I meet a single bi female or even a by curious one (like myself) to meet just as friends.... and then go to a public meet/club or munch?
I really want to do this but as i've never met anyone before i'm a bit dubious, especially after some of the stories i've been told about males posing to be singles etc etc
lol You're probs sick of me asking all these questions and I apologise in advance lol
Any ideas offers...
please post on here as my mailbox is getting continuously over run and its starting to feel like a chore to check it now lol
(Dont you just hate it when you get one of those wink things to check out someones profile and all they've got on is their age (no pics of further info)? grrrr
curvster xxx
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Swinging virgin.. What should i be looking for
Well you sort of answered your own question really.... Going to a few Munches and socials would help you make up your mind without any pressure.. As scary as some people might seem so far they have been more than friendly, to us anyway. If they can manage us they can manage you easily and there are loads of single Fems on here to offer support if you try one... A social that is lol!!
best thing is to try and have fun...... No one can make you do anything your not happy with.
Mike xx
best thing is to try and have fun...... No one can make you do anything your not happy with.
Mike xx
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What you really need is a young, debonair, witty & charming guy who is a meaty treat for girls to eat 
ok, i'll fetch my coat
(seriously, go to a munch for a no pressure night out where you'll meet some great people :thumbup
ok, i'll fetch my coat
(seriously, go to a munch for a no pressure night out where you'll meet some great people :thumbup
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grrrr
As you've probably guessed i'm quite new to this site, although I feel like i'm settling in ok and I've had loads of replies to my ads. I'm still not sure as to what i'm looking for.
I've had loads of ideas, although probably not good ones lol
Do you think it would be a good idea and do able if I meet a single bi female or even a by curious one (like myself) to meet just as friends.... and then go to a public meet/club or munch?
I really want to do this but as i've never met anyone before i'm a bit dubious, especially after some of the stories i've been told about males posing to be singles etc etc
lol You're probs sick of me asking all these questions and I apologise in advance lol
Any ideas offers...
please post on here as my mailbox is getting continuously over run and its starting to feel like a chore to check it now lol
(Dont you just hate it when you get one of those wink things to check out someones profile and all they've got on is their age (no pics of further info)? grrrr
curvster xxx
Take lots of care curvy-gal. Some people are not what they seem even and it's easy to give away far too much about yourself without realising it. The dodgy types use this information to gain your trust and then abuse that trust. Having said that we've made some good friends in the time we've been around and there are lots of good folk.
I would avoid meeting anyone alone but if I had to it'd be in a safe and public place having told friends and family where I was going beforehand. It's sad to have to take precautions like these but it's not only in the swinging context that we must do so.
Good luck.
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What you really need is a young, debonair, witty & charming guy who is a meaty treat for girls to eat
ok, i'll fetch my coat
(seriously, go to a munch for a no pressure night out where you'll meet some great people :thumbup
And as if by magic my case was proven by M2PU curvy-gal LOL.
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but you could put me in a dress and you'd never know i wasn't a girlie
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Curvy-Gal,
Meaty, for all his bullshitting and bollox, is a complete gent.... even if he does look like Les Dawson on a good gurning day! ;)
I'd say look for someone you're comfy with that is going to be happy going at your pace without pushing you into something or a situation. Maybe go with a friend first just to have a look around the club. See what happens in the environment and if someone takes your fancy you can go and have fun! I'd be happy to go to a club with you as a female friend although I'm not sure where you live, (play not on the cards at all) and see if you felt comfy with the surroundings.
If you're meeting someone you don't know, try to get there on your own (if you have your own transport) and meet them in a pub before hand for a drink, so you have time to suss them out before you're in a club environment with the person. If you're relying on lifts then the person could simply leave you half way through the evening with no way of getting home. I know of females who prefer to know the person theyre clubbing with socially beforehand because they don't have transport of their own and so there needs to be a greater level of consideration and trust there I guess.
I personally look for if they can hold somekind of conversation while in the pub. If they can't I write it off and go home, because thats one of the things I need from an encounter of clubbing with someone, the ability to chat in the quiet moments when not shagging.
The other things to check are their wants and needs kind of match with yours, this bit can be done online to narrow the search down. There is no point meeting someone who is absolutely keen on coming on your face, if it's the one thing that makes you want to be sick!
Feel welcome to PM me if you need any advice or have any specific questions.
Gem. x
Meaty, for all his bullshitting and bollox, is a complete gent.... even if he does look like Les Dawson on a good gurning day! ;)
I'd say look for someone you're comfy with that is going to be happy going at your pace without pushing you into something or a situation. Maybe go with a friend first just to have a look around the club. See what happens in the environment and if someone takes your fancy you can go and have fun!
I'd be happy to go to a club with you as a female friend although I'm not sure where you live, (play not on the cards at all) and see if you felt comfy with the surroundings.If you're meeting someone you don't know, try to get there on your own (if you have your own transport) and meet them in a pub before hand for a drink, so you have time to suss them out before you're in a club environment with the person. If you're relying on lifts then the person could simply leave you half way through the evening with no way of getting home. I know of females who prefer to know the person theyre clubbing with socially beforehand because they don't have transport of their own and so there needs to be a greater level of consideration and trust there I guess.
I personally look for if they can hold somekind of conversation while in the pub. If they can't I write it off and go home, because thats one of the things I need from an encounter of clubbing with someone, the ability to chat in the quiet moments when not shagging.
The other things to check are their wants and needs kind of match with yours, this bit can be done online to narrow the search down. There is no point meeting someone who is absolutely keen on coming on your face, if it's the one thing that makes you want to be sick!
Feel welcome to PM me if you need any advice or have any specific questions.
Gem. x Cheers Gem you sound great... shame youre so far away *stamps feet* lol
Although everyone is on here really.
And you too sassy... there aint much going on in cumbria.
None of my friends know i'm doing this, to be honest i think they'd be quiet disgusted... i've mentioned it a few times after a few drinks and all i got was "ewwww no!! i couldnt do that!"
ISo i'd have to travel to pretty much anywhere....
I do think its a good idea though to go with a female as a friend to a club first time (you never know what could happen lol) but i think it would be more comfortable.
If after getting to know yous for a bit you'd fancy a night out sometime let me know and i'll book a hotel (so i can have a drink!!) and i'll come down sometime serious.
Be great to make new friends too on this scene as up here i feel a bit abnormal lol
curvster xxx
Although everyone is on here really.
And you too sassy... there aint much going on in cumbria.
None of my friends know i'm doing this, to be honest i think they'd be quiet disgusted... i've mentioned it a few times after a few drinks and all i got was "ewwww no!! i couldnt do that!"
ISo i'd have to travel to pretty much anywhere....
I do think its a good idea though to go with a female as a friend to a club first time (you never know what could happen lol) but i think it would be more comfortable.
If after getting to know yous for a bit you'd fancy a night out sometime let me know and i'll book a hotel (so i can have a drink!!) and i'll come down sometime serious.
Be great to make new friends too on this scene as up here i feel a bit abnormal lol
curvster xxx
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Curvy, I know it's a bit far but if you even fancy a couple of days in the land of song ( and that's just H in the shower) I'd be more than happy to keep you company
Cheers sassy hun i'll hold u to that!!
I'm moving house in the next few weeks (o/) so it wont be for a little while yet but it give us time to get to know each other a bit (and for u to know i'm not a male posing to be a bi fem, as i've heard happens lolol)
Curvster xxx
I was too busy looking at the video :twisted: :rascal:Curvy girl please do check your mail as I've attached a face pic and my profile is also up to date and also with pics
I play with a lovely cpl in Carlisle and we're keen to broaden our circle of friends
We've put a few shows on to in the Cumbria Chatroom :shock:
Anyway please do check your inbox and get back to me if your interested xxx
Everything will be at your pace etc to make sure your comfortable with the situation of course thats if your interested anyway
xxxx
I play with a lovely cpl in Carlisle and we're keen to broaden our circle of friends
We've put a few shows on to in the Cumbria Chatroom :shock:
Anyway please do check your inbox and get back to me if your interested xxx
Everything will be at your pace etc to make sure your comfortable with the situation of course thats if your interested anyway
xxxx
curvy gal im close to you and would love to chat or accompany you
check out my profile im honest and trustworthy and about 7 miles from you and like you none of my friends know im doing this either
i need someone in the same frame of mind to chat with
im nr caldbeck my msn is xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx if you want to chat sometime
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check out my profile im honest and trustworthy and about 7 miles from you and like you none of my friends know im doing this either
i need someone in the same frame of mind to chat with
im nr caldbeck my msn is xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx if you want to chat sometime
Mods Edit - personal contact details removed, please contact via this site
Hiya hun
I joined this site as a single bi fem a year ago and had very similar worries and got fed up with getting crappy 1 liners.
I went to a munch and had a great time.
For me it was not just a great night out, I got to meet real people in a safe environment.
I also find it much easier to judge people in person than on line so it's worked well for me. I have never had an ad on this site and never needed one.
This isn't the way everyone does it but it works for me.
I would suggest you put your name down for a munch/social event and get chatting to a few people on here and get to know them a bit.
You'll then begin to find an approach to swinging that suits you. :thumbup:
Whatever you decide to do - enjoy it
I joined this site as a single bi fem a year ago and had very similar worries and got fed up with getting crappy 1 liners.
I went to a munch and had a great time.
For me it was not just a great night out, I got to meet real people in a safe environment.
I also find it much easier to judge people in person than on line so it's worked well for me. I have never had an ad on this site and never needed one.
This isn't the way everyone does it but it works for me.
I would suggest you put your name down for a munch/social event and get chatting to a few people on here and get to know them a bit.
You'll then begin to find an approach to swinging that suits you. :thumbup:
Whatever you decide to do - enjoy it
Munch! Munch! Munch! Munch!....wooooohoooooooo..........really enjoyed our first munch.......now we hungry for more....HLB can you be our hand holder agian pwetty pwees....lol.....................must remeber to stay away from beer at the next one tho......
do many peeps fall asleep at they`re first munch?!.......heard that sonia pulled tho pmsl lol :giggle:
do many peeps fall asleep at they`re first munch?!.......heard that sonia pulled tho pmsl lol :giggle:
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Munch! Munch! Munch! Munch!....wooooohoooooooo..........really enjoyed our first munch.......now we hungry for more....HLB can you be our hand holder agian pwetty pwees....lol.....................must remeber to stay away from beer at the next one tho......
do many peeps fall asleep at they`re first munch?!.......heard that sonia pulled tho pmsl lol :giggle:
Rumours lol........ All rumours!! Has she said she enjoyed it though???
We did lol....
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curvy, it's an old saying but, if it don't feel right, it's not right.
Trust your instinct's.
THere are load's of great people on this site, the fun is finding them!
Good luck
Totally true. Also, no-one genuine will object to meeting just for a drink first - then having a 'real' meet another time. Difficult if they are 150 miles away, but then you can find out a lot through chatting. I have a separate msn for swinging (without my real name on it for instance) and when I am thinking of meeting someone we get into a conversation on there - as safe as you can get.
Have fun, hun. :thrilled:
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