Hiya gang
A question to everyone really... I know the swinging community prides itself on it's openness and freedom, however one area that still seems to be closed for the most part is for girls like me. i.e. Full Time Pre-Op transexuals, the straight guys dont want us, most single girls dont want us, so my question is, who does?, is there anyone in the community who swings with transexuals??
I would love to hear your views on this..
Hugs
Dannii xxx
i thought that the TV/TS chatrooms and advert sections on this site were very busy places.......
of course theres always the chance that these places arent representative of the so called "swinging World" but i doubt it....
Hiya DeeCee,
Thats my point.. there is a separate section for TV/TS, as if we are to be shunted to one side, i dont know if this is the intention but thats how it feels sometimes. I'm a full time pre-op TS woman, yes, until the op I still have man bits, but I am and have always felt that I am female.. I've never really done the "tranny" scene so dont know what to expect there either.. so i suppose the real question I was aking is, where do i fit in with the "mainstream" swinging scene?
Hugs
Dannii xxx
I havent (as yet).. though seem to rule nothing out as an absolute no-no...
in the same way I sometimes find it slightly difficult to say (in a matter of fact manner) what I actually DO want...
never say never I guess..
However...I am aware of someone who maost definately want to play...
>but Im saying nowt!<
Have fun!
LP
Hi Dannii,
:welcome: to the Cafe!
I can't come anywhere close to knowing how you feel so I'm probably going to be way off the mark. That said, here are my totally uninformed thoughts:
Should you really be asking whether there's a place for you in mainstream swinging, or should you instead be considering if swinging is right for you at this point in your journey.
Maybe you could wait until you have the body that you're most comfortable with before jumping in the at deep end. Once you're sure how to catagorise yourself you'll be more able to decide what you want from the swinging scene, rather than asking people to catagorise you.
As I said, that's probably all complete bollox, but either way, make yourself at home, make some friends, and above all make it right for you.
Best wishes,
Cueball.
Wow, thanks guys and girls for the replies, i'm certainly encouraged by what you have said.
Yes, you are right, there is a choice of which room we can go into and I'm so happy there is, and the fact that most of you see the person rather than the gender is also heartening.
I know that at the moment I am stuck between two camps, it's the same in my everyday life and i've learned to live with it (to some extent..lol)
I hope I see you all in the chatrooms at some point and we can get to know each other better..
Thanks again and hugs
Dannii xxx
One of the several "first rule of swinging"s is "be tolerant"... and it's generally applied to tolerance of people who have different tastes to you. I think this applies to the orignal poster in two ways, firstly the original poster should be welcomed with open arms, by all an sundry, as they seem to be very nice, able to string a sentence together etc... but secondly it means the original poster also has to be tolerant of people whos personal tastes mean they dont want to play with them.*
I think you are not getting the response you want because you are new, and not very well known round here, not because of your plumbing!
Personally, as someone who loves playing with breasts, and loves playing with cocks, I have 'playing with a transexual or three' pretty high up on my wish list :twisted:
* god that was a messy sentence, I wish I'd paid more attention earlier on in the thread where she made it clear she wanted to be referred to as 'she', it took me ages to word that without gender-specific pronouns!
Hiya Little gem and Mister D
God i wish more people like you lived in my home town.....lol... but seriously Mr D, it proabably is because i'm new here and finding my feet so to speak, and the last thing i want to do is offend anyone, but i thought it would be best to find out the general feeling amongst the membership, hell it could save me a lot of money in membership fees and a lot of heartache is this was the wrong place for me, fortunately, from the responses I've had to this thread and also in messsages and in the chat room, this is precisely where I should be, as the vast majority are fun, friendly people.
Thank you again
Hugs
Dannii xxx
Well, I think the poll results pretty much speak for themselves, and once again I find myself in the majority.
Maybe its because as a Bi male I feel I could 'let myself go' a little more with a pre op TS, than I can with another man. To be honest, I'm not sure how I would feel if the option ever came up, but as I am open minded and easy going I think I would go with the flow and see where it led.
My partner (F) is rather excited at the thought, so as we usually play together on balance I could go for it. No probs.
H
My (as opposed to our) opinion- If I liked/fancied them, why the hell not?
We regulary go to fetish parties and would love to swing with a good looking pre op ts but its finding them. TS that call themseves George and have hairy legs dont do it for us. Do you remember that program - Something about Miriam. Now I may be wrong as I didnt watch it all but it was an Amercian dating show where the woman was actually a TS and the men didnt know. She was sexy and all the men I spoke to about it said they would!
Mel
xxx
Well Dani , I have been on the site for quite sometime now and can only say I have always been treated with the courtesy and respect that the swinging heaven community affords to all that venture here , generally if you can accept the prefrences of the other community members then they seem to respect yours , wherever you roam on here....have fun..............Steph
Just be yourself, honest and open, see where things go and where you're feeling the most happy.
even been known to swing from time to time! ;)
