Taking a chance on a stranger.....

19 Oct 2005

Well some may say I have been absolutely stupid... mind numbingly mental... or just down right daft....
But this morning on the 1st of my school runs.. I happened to have a bit of a bump in my car which meant the door handle of the drivers' door flew off.... There I was laughing and joking about it in the chatroom to some regular chatters and 1 of the chatters someone I purely recognise by their nick, had said they lived down the road in Ilford, was doing nothing, and could pop round to have a look at it for me....
So I agreed... :shock: I gave out my home address, my mobile number, logged off to go do a bit of quick tidying up, before he arrived.... Now please remember... I knew nothing of this guy... accept I recognise the nick.. and he always spoke politely to me in the past...
Well it turns out the guy did come round... he proceeded to hammer out the dent in my door... we dropped my son off to school.. found the scrap yard, eventually lol

(ok ok i ended up de-touring and getting half lost redface

) anyways, we found the scrap yard in the end... got back to mine with time for him to fit the new handle... have a coffee... AND get this.. he just about had enough time to give me a nice massage to relieve my lower back pain.. (which I do suffer from, and it had been playing up)
All in all had a nice couple of hours with a complete stranger, off this site... he hasn't been to any munches or meets, has only ever met 1 couple from the site... and now me... so watch out we have probably just lost another member :lol: surprised

ops:
The reason for me posting this to you all... is I am wondering if I am the only nutter who does this... you know.. take a chance on someone who you have absolutely no information on... but think.. what the hell why not... dunno

I ask because most of the really true great friends I have made have happened that way... me sitting in the chat room at any time and take a mad turn and say... fluck it.. yeah why not I'll meet you....
Is it only me... surely not... confused

Be interested to know what you all think about this wink

19 Oct 2005

Nope it's not just you Tatty......
I regularly do Shagathons at my house, where I invite people over to have a shag but most of them I've never met before, but I have seen them around here and just think I will take the chance on them....
It may be crazy but that feeling that you get when you make a new friend and/or shag buddy is great biggrin

19 Oct 2005

totally different for a man but i have met some one i know nothing about from a chat room before after chatting to them for a couple of hours
and i must admit i kept feeling in the back of my mind that am i mad?
well cut a long storty short the woman i met was really cool got on like a house on fire and had lts of fun
so i dont think u r mad
anyway hope u had a good time lol

19 Oct 2005

Most strangers in the world are probably normal people just like yourself, only a few odd ones who are likely to do you any harm. Problem is it the occassions when it goes wrong that gets reported in the press. You never see headlines like," two strangers meet, had a great time and became good friends" which obviously happens many times more often that the murders or rapes etc.
John & Shel

19 Oct 2005

Well you can all blame that kind of a meeting for me being here in the first place ;) I was taking to a guy on a chatroom one day and we got talking about fantasies and stuff, as you do redface

A couple of hours later I was driving to meet him, asking myself what the hell I was playing at :shock: confused

Anyway, I'm not going into details on here surprised

ops: but we had a very nice time :twisted: and more than two years on we still meet up occasionally and keep in touch on a fairly regular basis. As Geordiecpl2001 say, it's only the few and far between exceptions that get reported... although I do still thank my lucky stars that my particular meet wasn't one of them :scared:

19 Oct 2005

Not mad - but wouldn't do it every day!
As already said it is different for a guy - but have met people in the past after a couple of hours of chat in a chatroom and not having seen a pic - but almost always turn out to be fun, friendly and happy people that I have enjoyed spending time with.
Think the moral should be 'don't not do it, just be aware'

19 Oct 2005

I have only even invited one stranger back to my house, oh no actually make that 2 :lol2: both single guys, both was invited in day while kids was at school for a coffee and both expected nothing more once they got here, so yeah there are some nice people out there, have met some nutters too tho

19 Oct 2005

i think we all have a little doubt in the back of our minds when we are meeting some one for the first time
must say i never had a bad experience if i have met up with couples or single ladies but on a few occasions when i have had the opportunity to meet up with some one and it didnt feel right i didnt go but was curtious enough to tell them i wasnt coming
i guess if it doesnt feel right then dont do it
but we are all strangers until we meet
and there are alot of nice people out there

19 Oct 2005

My lovely friend Essexlady introduced me to someone via msn and 20 mins later he was driving over and came to stay the night. NOT something I've ever done before SO quickly.
But that meeting brought me to the site
Brought me a little mate in Chesterfield who I can always rely on kiss

Brought me the chance to meet and make sooooooooooo many other friends
And also led me to meeting - on a cold, late night near Romford, a very special chap after only a week of chatting. Not so brave and impulsive, as I waited with friends in a car til he showed. As he drew up in the car my friend said 'Aww look, he don't look like he could do ya much harm!'
And he hasn't
And I'm happy
Just trust your instincts
Cathy x

19 Oct 2005

As the old saying goes.....'a stranger is a friend who you havent met yet'

19 Oct 2005

Quote by DreamerHelen
Nope it's not just you Tatty......
I regularly do Shagathons at my house, where I invite people over to have a shag but most of them I've never met before, but I have seen them around here and just think I will take the chance on them....
It may be crazy but that feeling that you get when you make a new friend and/or shag buddy is great

I just had to reply to this Helen.... the meet today wasn't for a shag/play in anyway at all... yeah he ended up giving my back a bit of a poke and prod... but it wasn't a shgathon confused

or anything like that...
He reckoned he'd have a look at my car.. and I went with the flow.... dunno

Just had to clear that up in case some peeps thought I was inviting strangers round my house when my kids were about for a shag... no... lol

19 Oct 2005

i suppose the thought of danger and lust appeals but it can be dangerous ......................

19 Oct 2005

Quote by Geordiecpl2001
Most strangers in the world are probably normal people just like yourself, only a few odd ones who are likely to do you any harm. Problem is it the occassions when it goes wrong that gets reported in the press. You never see headlines like," two strangers meet, had a great time and became good friends" which obviously happens many times more often that the murders or rapes etc.
John & Shel

I guess we are all strangers to one another till the day we actually meet smile

Ive always maintained the theory that however long you chat on sites you dont actually get to know the person till you actually meet them. Maybe thats just me being to careful which i guess isnt a bad thing. I also agree there is an element of excitement in meeting a total stranger for the first time. Fortunately and probably more luck than judgement, everyone i have met off the internet from all walks of life and in different circumstances have all turned out to be fantastic people biggrin

And as John and Shell said above, most of us are normal people :) I hope i am normal anyway :D Please no replies to that lol

19 Oct 2005

Quote by tattyxpx
Nope it's not just you Tatty......
I regularly do Shagathons at my house, where I invite people over to have a shag but most of them I've never met before, but I have seen them around here and just think I will take the chance on them....
It may be crazy but that feeling that you get when you make a new friend and/or shag buddy is great

I just had to reply to this Helen.... the meet today wasn't for a shag/play in anyway at all... yeah he ended up giving my back a bit of a poke and prod... but it wasn't a shgathon confused

or anything like that...
He reckoned he'd have a look at my car.. and I went with the flow.... dunno

Just had to clear that up in case some peeps thought I was inviting strangers round my house when my kids were about for a shag... no... lol

Oh I know that Tatty hun........It just so happened that my meets ARE for shags...LoL
I know you wouldn't be shagging when your kids are around.....

19 Oct 2005

Quote by Red(RHG)
Just trust your instincts
Cathy x

I firmly believe in my instincts....have led me to make some wonderful friends kiss

19 Oct 2005

On two occasions i have met people who have sent me messages via the add section within and hour on both occasions i just dropped everything and went and me then. it was the same for both of them and me a meet with a total stranger .
Both meets turned out ok both ladies are now good friends and even though one lady only calls and chats on teh phone now its still nice to have someone to talk to now and again without all the sex stuff getting in teh way.

19 Oct 2005

Yep - I have done this - and met a couple fo lovely guys - we're still good friends although no 'fun' now. HOWEVER , I also met the guy I'm with now - over 4 years ago - so .................. I think its great !! Just trust your gut feelings/ instincts.

19 Oct 2005

i have meet a few people of the net being male most people think you be fine.
i still worry meet them in public place if possable couple times gone around houses
belly full of butterflys have made some great friends out them had some good fun to.
i trust my gut feeling on things and they be right 99% time

19 Oct 2005

So .... does this mean that your car window no longer springs open when you put the window down ? :lol: :lol:
I think he was the brave one !!! ....... u were a mad woman in the chatroom this morning lol ... it was so so so funny !
Sorry you had a bit of a smash and really pleased it was sorted by a kindly stranger for you
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

19 Oct 2005

Quote by blonde
So .... does this mean that your car window no longer springs open when you put the window down ? :lol: :lol:
I think he was the brave one !!! ....... u were a mad woman in the chatroom this morning lol ... it was so so so funny !
Sorry you had a bit of a smash and really pleased it was sorted by a kindly stranger for you
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

:giggle: no.. the door doesn't spring open when i roll the window down anymore.. :happy: and I no longer have to climb in the back to open my door... rolleyes

poor guy he must have thought... is this woman for real.. :lol:
dunno

but he certainly does a good massage wink

:kiss:

20 Oct 2005

to be honmest i wudnt invite anyone back to my flat or house (i live with parents so purley hypotheticly) that i hadnt know for a while or met at a munch.
MikeC

20 Oct 2005

A precaution i've taken in the past when meeting a stranger is to have a friend ring me about 20 minutes after any pre-arranged meet time. Then if i'm not comfortable with the situation i'm in, its easy to say "somethings come up and i've gotta go" or something similar. Similarly, when me and my partner were in a swingers club, we'd have a secret password or phrase we'd use if an uncomfortable situation arose, or if anything was happening that either of us were'nt happy with. The golden rule being that if either of us used the word or phrase, then we get out of the situation no matter what.

20 Oct 2005

Quote by Bazza64
, when me and my partner were in a swingers club, we'd have a secret password or phrase we'd use if an uncomfortable situation arose, or if anything was happening that either of us were'nt happy with. The golden rule being that if either of us used the word or phrase, then we get out of the situation no matter what.

Spot on Bazza, we set this system up ourselves when we first got together. We originally set it up for when we were playing and exploring sexual games toghether, something that didnt spoil the mood but just let the other person now the situation was going to far. When we started swinging we decided to use the same system.
As for saying 'what the hell, give this guy a chance' and taking a chance on a stranger from a chatroom, last time I did that about 6 years ago, I ended up marrying that person :shock:
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Suffice to say I wouldnt recommend it lol

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

21 Oct 2005

Quote by tattyxpx
Well some may say I have been absolutely stupid... mind numbingly mental... or just down right daft....
But this morning on the 1st of my school runs.. I happened to have a bit of a bump in my car which meant the door handle of the drivers' door flew off.... There I was laughing and joking about it in the chatroom to some regular chatters and 1 of the chatters someone I purely recognise by their nick, had said they lived down the road in Ilford, was doing nothing, and could pop round to have a look at it for me....
So I agreed... :shock: I gave out my home address, my mobile number, logged off to go do a bit of quick tidying up, before he arrived.... Now please remember... I knew nothing of this guy... accept I recognise the nick.. and he always spoke politely to me in the past...
Well it turns out the guy did come round... he proceeded to hammer out the dent in my door... we dropped my son off to school.. found the scrap yard, eventually (ok ok i ended up de-touring and getting half lost ) anyways, we found the scrap yard in the end... got back to mine with time for him to fit the new handle... have a coffee... AND get this.. he just about had enough time to give me a nice massage to relieve my lower back pain.. (which I do suffer from, and it had been playing up)
All in all had a nice couple of hours with a complete stranger, off this site... he hasn't been to any munches or meets, has only ever met 1 couple from the site... and now me... so watch out we have probably just lost another member :lol: ops:
The reason for me posting this to you all... is I am wondering if I am the only nutter who does this... you know.. take a chance on someone who you have absolutely no information on... but think.. what the hell why not... I ask because most of the really true great friends I have made have happened that way... me sitting in the chat room at any time and take a mad turn and say... fluck it.. yeah why not I'll meet you....
Is it only me... surely not... Be interested to know what you all think about this

You called? :lol:
I've met "strangers" several times. Sometimes I've let my sister know rough details but other times I've not told anyone which is probably a silly thing to do, looking back.
Now I do make sure someone knows where I'll be if I'm meeting someone for the first time.
I've made some good friends in the past from just going with the flow - I'm not generally known for my spontaneity! But sometimes I'll like someone enough online to take the chance of meeting them without knowing much about them.
I give my mobile number out to people but not my address.
Good on ya Tatty..... is this guy any good at massages? If so, send him my way please!
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21 Oct 2005

Taking a chance on a stranger........ hhhhmmmmmmmmmm........
Isn't that kind of what we do anyway? We text, talk, chat, flirt.... with a person... and then arrange to meet up...... I'm sure everyone has their back up plan in place..... but its still two people meeting for the first time.
equi-princess xxx
P.s how many of us have hitch-hiked somewhere or given a lift to a stranger?