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Mr Danem has been on at me for weeks now about talking dirty during sex, redface I kinda stuggle with this one confused need some ideas on how I build up the courage to do this for him without sounding like a prat surprisedops:
Any suggestions? dunno
He wants me to talk about what other men have done to me redface and what I have done to other men surprisedops:
If you tell him you don't feel comfortable with the idea, why does he keep going on "for weeks" about it?
Something about this doesn't sound right. :cry:
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Mr Danem has been on at me for weeks now about talking dirty during sex, redface I kinda stuggle with this one confused need some ideas on how I build up the courage to do this for him without sounding like a prat surprisedops:
Any suggestions? dunno

Yes, tell him you're not comfortable with it if you aren't. Or find something he's not comfortable doing and get him to do that before you agree to talk dirty to him.
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Mr Danem has been on at me for weeks now about talking dirty during sex, redface I kinda stuggle with this one confused need some ideas on how I build up the courage to do this for him without sounding like a prat surprisedops:
Any suggestions? dunno

Yes, tell him you're not comfortable with it if you aren't. Or find something he's not comfortable doing and get him to do that before you agree to talk dirty to him.
A bit of give and take like FB says.
He may realise how much this is making you uncomfortable. sad
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Why does everybody always have to be so negative ??
The question was "how can i do this without sounding like a prat ? "
Now people are trying to psychoanalyse Danems` relationship !! :shock: :shock:
I`m sure Mrs Danem could have come in and said " I don`t want to do this, how can I say no ? " If that was what she wanted !!!
Give everybody a break and if you can`t be positive and answer simple questions, keep it to yourself or open a thread ... A possible title could be
" Reading between the lines, I can`t help myself "

I don't think anyone is trying to psychoanalyse anything. Danem's initial post suggested that she was uncomfortable about talking dirty, punctuated by redface and confused saying that she struggled with it. In my opinion, if she's uncomfortable with it, he either knows and doesn't care, or he doesn't know and needs to be informed. Either way, she shouldn't be made to feel uncomfortable by doing anything she's struggling with.
If your not comfortable with dirty talk it would instantly be a passion killer for you. You can not talk things that arent pleasurable for you. Thats not consensual or sexy.
If you want to slowly explore what dirty talk you might enjoy maybe both of you start with something light, that on the face of it isnt really "dirty" at all. Just talking about what it is you are both doing to one another right now, how it feels and what you'd both like to do next. All in terms and language you find suits you both. Reccount and describe a time that you two were together and what you did with one another.
If hes not happy with what ever is comfortable for you and wants instant porno script then he needs a flee in his here, thats to put it mildly.
Budding Claire Rayner here. lol
Friday x
Mr Jay often talks dirty to me and I love it esp. when he's whispering in my ear. On the odd occasion he's asked me to talk to him like that and I try, I really do but it's just not me and I end up in fits of laughter which isn't really nice. I think if it's not in your nature you cannot do it so don't even go there. lol
In Edit: ive changed my post as i dont remember saying it last night redface :shock: , i will come back with a decent answer later. Sorry surprisedops:
louise xx
Tell him you'd rather not do it.
If he persists tell him to 'Fuck Off' and ask him if that's dirty enough. wink
And before all the bleeding hearts jump on me - that was a joke - hence the :wink: (Why I feel I need to add this bit I don't know - but I do).
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Serious answer now.
Talking dirty generally just doesn't work if it's not natural and instinctive. So if it isn't, as in your case, it is likely to be a turn-off. So I can understand your wariness.
Why don't you try saying:
"Oh yes fuck me, fuck me!" a few times and see if it works. If it doesn't he probably won't ask again.
If it does - for you both - then you could graduate on to "Oooh stick your cock up me....." and take it from there.
Apologies to the faint hearted for the graphic nature of this post and if anybody quotes certain parts of it back at me - I'll sue!! wink
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Serious answer now.
Talking dirty generally just doesn't work if it's not natural and instinctive. So if it isn't, as in your case, it is likely to be a turn-off. So I can understand your wariness.
Why don't you try saying:
"Oh yes fuck me, fuck me!" a few times and see if it works. If it doesn't he probably won't ask again.
If it does - for you both - then you could graduate on to "Oooh stick your cock up me....." and take it from there.
Apologies to the faint hearted for the graphic nature of this post and if anybody quotes certain parts of it back at me - I'll sue!! wink
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sillyhwoar: oooh Tune, you have me all hot n bothered and it's Sunday!
tallking dirty can be really good, and enhance the sex!! But it has to be right for you..
i used to talk to my gf about stuff she had done in the past, and what she wanted to try in the future...
both of us really enjoyed it..
why not try that.,...almost discuss like role play ideas, or what youd like to do? that may be a bit easier than what you have actually done?
although if you really arent comfortable, then he should really understand...maybe suggest somthing you really wana try..
Talkingdirty is for wimps ! !
You should dosomething dirty.
Try shitting in his trouser pocket.
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Talking dirty is for wimps ! !
You should do something dirty.
Try shitting in his trouser pocket.

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Unless it's instinctive- it's not easy.
I find it pretty damn embarassing, but the more you do it the easier it gets.
The one time I got really,really into it- describing how I would like to be seduced & screwed by a guy who kept flirting with me- resulted in possibly the best sex we've ever had.
If you wantto give it a go, as Tune said- start small. Progress from "mmmm, thats nice" to "oh fuck that feels good".
Before you know it, if you enjoy it you'll be "Dripping with spunk from his huge, hard cock" wink
Been talking by text for the last few days and its brill. Much harder face to face though I love been told dirty things (hint hint lol :lol: )
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If you want to give it a go, as Tune said- start small. Progress from "mmmm, thats nice" to "oh fuck that feels good".
Before you know it, if you enjoy it you'll be "Dripping with spunk from his huge, hard cock" wink

But for fuck's sake . . .
don't go with
"Take me, take me big boy; I'm yours ! ! !" with a smattering of 70's porno oooohs and aaaaahs while thrashing your head from side to side
Particularly with someone you've just met. Or you might find he collapses into a heap, and guffaws like a rabid buffoon - and worse; loses his raging hard on redface surprisedops: :oops:
rotflmao
Another one to avoid would be
"Give me 12 inch and make me bleed"
But seriously . . . .
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Mr Danem has been on at me for weeks now about talking dirty during sex, redface I kinda stuggle with this one confused need some ideas on how I build up the courage to do this for him without sounding like a prat surprisedops:
Any suggestions? dunno

As others have said, you should only do and say what you're comfortable and happy to say or do.
Maybe start small, and work your way up to it iver a period of time.
Or - jump straight in with both feet - just keep your eyes open.
:thumbup:
I used to crack up at the idea of talking dirty, I just couldn't do it without sounding tacky and busting into giggles :giggle:
I found that sending naughty text messages helped me. It's easier to think of the words during a horny text exchange, plus I like the anticipation aspect ;) When you do get together then, try repeating a few of the things you sent in the texts ;)
HTH
As an aside, a recent 'date' was quite good at talking dirty during foreplay and sex itself, but as he was coming he started shouted at the top of his voice, " Now you've had me!! " :shock: I couldn't help but bust into the giggles again :giggle: redface
yeah text messages are definitely a good way to start...although i guess its wise not to go too far in texts, in case the other person is expecting some sex animal, especially when you are finding your way with someone new... :P
I can text dirty :twisted: I can write erotic stories. I love it when one man in particular whispers real dirty stuff in my ear and it can make me orgasm when done right but I can't bring myself to say it out loud redface
I've tried but it all sounds ridiculous and not the least bit sexy when I say it dunno
I'm crap at talking dirty as I'm sure Stormy will agree. I just feel such an idiot when I try. However if Stormy does it and I'm in just the right mood I love to hear it, but the mood has to be right. There's nothing worse than a real loving session where you feel all soft and sensual :inlove: and then you hear come on you....(Insert appropriate naughty words) breathed into your ear :eeek: Kinda kills it for me blink
I find it difficult not to talk during sex.
During sex, and in real life I tend to think something then quickly say it - I don't always mean to. redface
I love talking dirty during intimate moments! :twisted:
dunno What??
Oh I hav'nt anything more to say! I'm just following Kiss around today :inlove:
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dunno What??
Oh I hav'nt anything more to say! I'm just following Kiss around today :inlove:

Feel free! :rascal:
passionkiss
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In Edit: ive changed my post as i dont remember saying it last night redface :shock: , i will come back with a decent answer later. Sorry surprisedops:
louise xx

My heads a bit clearer now so i shall respond to your question. I found it quite a struggle at first to talk dirty but what i did was used the words i was most comfortable with. Once i was used to doing that i slowly introduced new words/scenarios/things that i Knew Joe would like to hear.. I do think that the more you do it the easier it becomes and i actually love doing it now. wink
Louise xx
Ok - here's a suggestion - worked extremely well for me and an ex -
Start by telling him that there's something you want to share, something sexual about what happened previously. Judge his reaction, if it's positive, carry on - but make it up. Pretend you are writing erotic fiction, but WITHOUT any of the actual dirty words.
EG, you could say, "I had a plumber come to the house a few years ago, and I'd had a few wines, and I didnt realise my top buttons were undone..." etc. Keep it realistic-ish, to save u being embarrassed - but the point is, you are playing a role, recounting a tale so (I found, anyway) its so much easier than just coming out with some rude words in the height of passion!
Afterwards, you can always tell him that actually u made it up for his benefit. My ex always knew I made them up, but each time suspended his belief because he enjoyed the tales so much.
Good luck xxx
I am a natural moaner and groaner during sex and say the occasional dirty talk but I couldn't chat all the way through about things my ex used to do to me! confused That would kill the passion for me.
I do love it when I am being dirty talked to by a guy also - its a real turn on for me. x