I love to tease my husbands best friend. My husband encourages me as he thinks it's funny and also a turn on watching him blush but knowingly lusts after me.
I like to keep it subtle and not blatant as I feel that would ruin it. What do you guys think? Any ideas on things that I could do to flirt? My ultimate goal is to get him to beg me for it. My hubby doesn't think he will..but I am convinced otherwise.
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Teasing Hubbys best friend
I'm no expert in flirting, but an old school friend has a degree in psychology and when we are in pubs or restaurants or at parties she'll often watch to see who is flirting, and most of the following will send signals to her that you are flirting:
eye contact; try to make sure you are looking at him first; follow it up with the half smile - smiling with the half of your mouth closest to him/away from your hubby; this is supposed to say that you know he fancies you and that you might just fancy him too.
prolonged eye contact, and slightly dipping/turning your head when breaking eye contact, especially if you look down his body towards his crotch. And if you half smile when looking at his crotch it'll give him ideas...;
running and twirling your fingers through your hair when you talk to him;
fidgeting when talking to him - turning you body slightly away but constantly looking at him, then turning your body back to him; Apparently you're showing your profile and curves to him;
eye contact;
showing a little bit more leg or cleavage than normal, and then smiling when he notices you can see him staring at you;
the only time you should cross your arms is to bring your breasts together to highlight your cleavage. Just bringing your elbows close to your sides will have the desired effect. If you just sit there with your arms crossed your stomach and your shoulders slouched you're creating a barrier;
If you use a scrunch to keep your hair in a pony tail, use both hands to remove it and redo you hair (see running your fingers through your hair above). Only do this whilst you're talking to him so you've got his attention, as your breasts will rise as you put your hands behind your head.
asking him for help opening a stuck jar/moving furniture/pass you something rather than asking hubby;
eye contact;
make him feel he's the most important thing in your life;
laugh and smile at his jokes;
complimenting him/be interested in him as a person - what he does, how his day was etc;
bite your lower lip when you say something slightly suggestive, but don't over do this one or you'll appear nervous;
the longer you're flirting with him, the more suggestive your comments become;
picking bits of fluff (sometimes imaginary bits of fluff) off his shirt/jacket/jumper, especially useful to get his attention.
eye contact;
getting closer to him than you would normally do, then lightly touching him on the forearm when getting his attention or talking to him. At a more advanced stage you'll be brushing lightly past him as you walk by him, say in the kitchen where's there less room but still sufficient room to pass without contact;
If you're sitting next to each other, cross your legs and let the crossing foot "accidentally" touch his leg but leave it there for a second or two. Do this every time you cross or even uncross your legs. After the second time this happens, don't apologise. Always cross your legs so the leg furthest from him moves towards and touches him - that way you move your hips towards him with the suggestion that your pussy could become available. If you cross the leg closest to him away from him you are giving him the signal that your pussy is not available.
Point something out in the room by using your arm/hand furthest from him, that way you'll lean into him slightly
If you're sitting opposite at a table, "accientally" play footsy. Again, after the second time, don't apologise, just half smile at him - only he'll know why you're smiling at him;
accientally drop something and go against H&S guidelines to pick it up; don't bend your knees, bend your waist so he gets a good look at your arse.
When he leaves, get hubby to shake hands with him; that'll give you to the opportunity to kiss him cheek to cheek, and at the same time put your body against his so he can feel your breasts and legs against him, especially if you brush a leg against his crotch.
I'm sure you can kiss him suggestively with a hint of your breath in his ear - maybe you whispered something inaudible...? He won't know that, but it'll put thoughts in his mind...
You'll need hubby to pretend not to notice any of the above, or it'll be a giveaway.
I'm guessing that you possibly did most of the above to get your hubby's attention before you started getting serious/became engaged, but if you want to practice any of the above, give me or any number of males here, a shout...
eye contact; try to make sure you are looking at him first; follow it up with the half smile - smiling with the half of your mouth closest to him/away from your hubby; this is supposed to say that you know he fancies you and that you might just fancy him too.
prolonged eye contact, and slightly dipping/turning your head when breaking eye contact, especially if you look down his body towards his crotch. And if you half smile when looking at his crotch it'll give him ideas...;
running and twirling your fingers through your hair when you talk to him;
fidgeting when talking to him - turning you body slightly away but constantly looking at him, then turning your body back to him; Apparently you're showing your profile and curves to him;
eye contact;
showing a little bit more leg or cleavage than normal, and then smiling when he notices you can see him staring at you;
the only time you should cross your arms is to bring your breasts together to highlight your cleavage. Just bringing your elbows close to your sides will have the desired effect. If you just sit there with your arms crossed your stomach and your shoulders slouched you're creating a barrier;
If you use a scrunch to keep your hair in a pony tail, use both hands to remove it and redo you hair (see running your fingers through your hair above). Only do this whilst you're talking to him so you've got his attention, as your breasts will rise as you put your hands behind your head.
asking him for help opening a stuck jar/moving furniture/pass you something rather than asking hubby;
eye contact;
make him feel he's the most important thing in your life;
laugh and smile at his jokes;
complimenting him/be interested in him as a person - what he does, how his day was etc;
bite your lower lip when you say something slightly suggestive, but don't over do this one or you'll appear nervous;
the longer you're flirting with him, the more suggestive your comments become;
picking bits of fluff (sometimes imaginary bits of fluff) off his shirt/jacket/jumper, especially useful to get his attention.
eye contact;
getting closer to him than you would normally do, then lightly touching him on the forearm when getting his attention or talking to him. At a more advanced stage you'll be brushing lightly past him as you walk by him, say in the kitchen where's there less room but still sufficient room to pass without contact;
If you're sitting next to each other, cross your legs and let the crossing foot "accidentally" touch his leg but leave it there for a second or two. Do this every time you cross or even uncross your legs. After the second time this happens, don't apologise. Always cross your legs so the leg furthest from him moves towards and touches him - that way you move your hips towards him with the suggestion that your pussy could become available. If you cross the leg closest to him away from him you are giving him the signal that your pussy is not available.
Point something out in the room by using your arm/hand furthest from him, that way you'll lean into him slightly
If you're sitting opposite at a table, "accientally" play footsy. Again, after the second time, don't apologise, just half smile at him - only he'll know why you're smiling at him;
accientally drop something and go against H&S guidelines to pick it up; don't bend your knees, bend your waist so he gets a good look at your arse.
When he leaves, get hubby to shake hands with him; that'll give you to the opportunity to kiss him cheek to cheek, and at the same time put your body against his so he can feel your breasts and legs against him, especially if you brush a leg against his crotch.
I'm sure you can kiss him suggestively with a hint of your breath in his ear - maybe you whispered something inaudible...? He won't know that, but it'll put thoughts in his mind...
You'll need hubby to pretend not to notice any of the above, or it'll be a giveaway.
I'm guessing that you possibly did most of the above to get your hubby's attention before you started getting serious/became engaged, but if you want to practice any of the above, give me or any number of males here, a shout...
Just had an email from my friend;
Get hubby to find out how his mate likes girls to be dressed, then dress accordingly.
In warmer weather, try wearing a white see-through blouse with no bra, and leave a few buttons undone. Or leave the bottom ones undone and tie the bottom in a knot to reveal your midrife.
If you're all going out to the pub/dinner and you're wearing a very tight skirt or dress which zips at the back, try to have a "wardrobe malfunction"; pretend to try to sort it yourself so you show off your curves whilst putting your hands behind your back/bum, then get him to free it for you, so he gets a good look at you from behind and close up and can smell your purfume, and it lets him put his hands where they wouldn't normally be. Giggle and tell him he tickles.
Or, as you get into the car drop your purse so his mate picks it up for you - he gets a good look at your calf and foot. If you're feeling daring, have a problem with a shoe and ask him to sort it.
The longer you flirt with him (over the course of a few weeks), the more accidental body contact you should be initiating; you're telling him it's ok for him to touch you in a non sexual way, and if you smile at him every time he does so, then you're encouraging him to be more daring.
Get hubby to find out how his mate likes girls to be dressed, then dress accordingly.
In warmer weather, try wearing a white see-through blouse with no bra, and leave a few buttons undone. Or leave the bottom ones undone and tie the bottom in a knot to reveal your midrife.
If you're all going out to the pub/dinner and you're wearing a very tight skirt or dress which zips at the back, try to have a "wardrobe malfunction"; pretend to try to sort it yourself so you show off your curves whilst putting your hands behind your back/bum, then get him to free it for you, so he gets a good look at you from behind and close up and can smell your purfume, and it lets him put his hands where they wouldn't normally be. Giggle and tell him he tickles.
Or, as you get into the car drop your purse so his mate picks it up for you - he gets a good look at your calf and foot. If you're feeling daring, have a problem with a shoe and ask him to sort it.
The longer you flirt with him (over the course of a few weeks), the more accidental body contact you should be initiating; you're telling him it's ok for him to touch you in a non sexual way, and if you smile at him every time he does so, then you're encouraging him to be more daring.
Thank you both for those fantastic responses. Very in depth and exactly what I need to hear. I expected to get the "flash your pussy at him" type response but not so.
I will put your suggestions into practice and let you know how it goes. Obviously it wont be quick as I intend to draw this out slowly....
Any more suggestions or ideas would be great.
I will put your suggestions into practice and let you know how it goes. Obviously it wont be quick as I intend to draw this out slowly....
Any more suggestions or ideas would be great.
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What a fantastic guide. Thank you xxx
hate to pour water on the fun but I hope you and your husband have thought about the consequences that could happen, what if he succumbs to his lust for you and makes a pass, will you lose the friendship ? is it worth losing a best friend for ? no need to answer your grown ups and can do what you want but thought it worth mentioning for your benefit and for the benefit of anyone who reads this and fancies doing the same.
