No this has nothing to do with, "does size matter"
This is The Big Question.
What drives you? Do you have a specific goal in life and how do you know what your goal is?
I ask (well a number of you will guess what has realy prompted this)because Im turned 40, and I dont seem to be going anywhere, worst of all I dont knoiw where I want to go!!
When I was in my 20's it was so easy, The road was clear, bigger house, newer car, get kids through school, colegfe uni etc , but what now?
How does one define ones goal in life?
Before anyone tghinks why post that here , in Tanias conditioner thread Sgt Bilko has implied that he would like more pressing and improtant problems!!
Join the most popular community of UK swingers now
Login
The big question
I've got my own long term plan.
2 years - finish my degree
5 years - Be in a senior position
10 years - Own my own games company
15 years - Be a market leader
20 years - Be a freelance consultant, setting up numerous projects to help others
25 years - Retire and take up golf
Cars, houses etc all come when I get the money
2 years - finish my degree
5 years - Be in a senior position
10 years - Own my own games company
15 years - Be a market leader
20 years - Be a freelance consultant, setting up numerous projects to help others
25 years - Retire and take up golf
Cars, houses etc all come when I get the money
Sex God
In the words of Robbie Williams, "I am here to make money and get laid". Of course, I have completely different life-goals than Robbie
:lol: :lol:
:lol: :lol: Quote by foxylady 123
I ask (well a number of you will guess what has realy prompted this)because Im turned 40, and I dont seem to be going anywhere, worst of all I dont knoiw where I want to go!!
Foxylady, I'm perhaps overly chilled out at times or so I've been told. Dont worry about these things, life has a funny habit of throwing things at you when you least expect it, good and bad. So sit back enjoy life and I'm sure new chances or goals will bring themselves to your attention but if you worry to much about these things you may find you miss them as you may not even notice when they present themselves.
Quote by foxylady123I like to think of life like a high jump competition where you are the only contestant.
How does one define ones goal in life?
In the end, it doesn't matter how high you finally get because you will always be the winner. Just keep raising the bar a little at a time.
lhk
Kat
"ANYWAY"
People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered
LOVE THEM ANYWAY
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives,
DO GOOD ANYWAY
If you are successful you win false friends and true enemies,
SUCCEED ANYWAY
The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow,
DO GOOD ANYWAY
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable,
BE HONEST AND FRANK ANYWAY
What you spent years building may be destroyed overnight,
BUILD ANYWAY
People really need help but may attack you if you help them,
HELP PEOPLE ANYWAY
Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth,
GIVE THE WORLD THE BEST YOU'VE GOT ANYWAY.
At the end it is not about how others see you anyway, it is about how you see yourself.
- Taken from A Simple Path, the story of the life and work of Mother Theresa of India and her Missionaries of Charity homes around the world. This poem is from a sign on the wall of Shishu Bhavan children's home in Calcutta.
I heard some lyrics this morning which hit home to me:
Shower the ones you love with love
Think I will work really hard at that one.
It seems that Ozzie Osbourne has won loads of admirers just for the way he treats his children - showing them that he loves them all the time. Batty as a fruitcake but demonstrative and able to articulate his love and deep affection for his family and friends. Think he hates the animals though!!
:rose:
Shower the ones you love with love
Think I will work really hard at that one.
It seems that Ozzie Osbourne has won loads of admirers just for the way he treats his children - showing them that he loves them all the time. Batty as a fruitcake but demonstrative and able to articulate his love and deep affection for his family and friends. Think he hates the animals though!!
:rose:
One of the best things I ever read was something about working all your life to get to the top of the ladder. But what happens when you get to the top and find the ladder is against the wrong wall?
I guess for me the "goal" is to be happy with who I am and contented with the life I lead. I no longer wish to work ridiculous hours, stressed out at work so that I can have a bigger/better car or a bigger/better house. I would rather go to sleep at night with a smile on my face and wake up the next morning happy and joyful at what the day may bring.
I guess for me the "goal" is to be happy with who I am and contented with the life I lead. I no longer wish to work ridiculous hours, stressed out at work so that I can have a bigger/better car or a bigger/better house. I would rather go to sleep at night with a smile on my face and wake up the next morning happy and joyful at what the day may bring.
Sex God
OMG foxylady! damn you for being all philosophical! i'm trying to avoid introspective philosophical stuff, and now look! 
i have no bloody idea where my life is going. i never have. i have no interest whatsoever in big houses, flash cars, or money in the bank. i just wanna do what makes me happy, be content, grow into someone more than i am now, and know that however i live my life, there's more love than hurt for all concerned. i'll never have kids so i can afford to be a bit selfish, and if only i knew what would make me happy, i'd go for it. getting there slowly but surely i think, and i have ideas, but maybe i need to hit 40, cos the 30's ain't helped a massive amount on that score?
that's not a very good answer is it?
n x x x :P
i have no bloody idea where my life is going. i never have. i have no interest whatsoever in big houses, flash cars, or money in the bank. i just wanna do what makes me happy, be content, grow into someone more than i am now, and know that however i live my life, there's more love than hurt for all concerned. i'll never have kids so i can afford to be a bit selfish, and if only i knew what would make me happy, i'd go for it. getting there slowly but surely i think, and i have ideas, but maybe i need to hit 40, cos the 30's ain't helped a massive amount on that score?
that's not a very good answer is it?
n x x x :P
Sex God
i suppose until i few years ago... i would have reeled off a huge list of things in my life but with the things that have happened now it is just simple
to be happy in whatever i do.....
:) :) :)
for me it is honestly as simple as that.....i am at a stage that i am getting to be at peace with myself......and it has taken me a long time......
sean xxxxxxx
to be happy in whatever i do.....
:) :) :) for me it is honestly as simple as that.....i am at a stage that i am getting to be at peace with myself......and it has taken me a long time......
sean xxxxxxx
Quote by Rainbows
One of the best things I ever read was something about working all your life to get to the top of the ladder. But what happens when you get to the top and find the ladder is against the wrong wall?
I guess for me the "goal" is to be happy with who I am and contented with the life I lead. I no longer wish to work ridiculous hours, stressed out at work so that I can have a bigger/better car or a bigger/better house. I would rather go to sleep at night with a smile on my face and wake up the next morning happy and joyful at what the day may bring.
Hurrah! This gets my vote! I did the working in London/commuting/do anything for my job crap and I found myself teetering on divorce, diagnosed as a stress-head by my doc and very unhappy. I've totally changed my attitude now and find myself a happier person altogether as I have realised that life is not a dress rehearsal!
Of course everyone needs to be comfortable and money helps this but I hated flogging my guts out for some money-grabbing, self-centred, selfish, fat, champagne-swigging MD with a big Audi so we're doing our own thing now and believe me it was worth it!
Mr CC
I've been thinking about this a lot lately.
I've returned to work and come to the conclusion that this is not what I want to do with my life.
Timmy and I are hoping to move down south at some point but a lot is reliant on when they close the pit, as they keep changing it, I'm coming round to the idea of just upping and doing it anyway.
This, however, doesn't really help me sort out my goals or career. I'd like to either work from home or do a job that has more interest for me, with books if possible.
I just can't motivate myself to start looking around to make changes.
Doesn't really help you Foxy but at least you know you're not alone
Jas
XXX
I've returned to work and come to the conclusion that this is not what I want to do with my life.
Timmy and I are hoping to move down south at some point but a lot is reliant on when they close the pit, as they keep changing it, I'm coming round to the idea of just upping and doing it anyway.
This, however, doesn't really help me sort out my goals or career. I'd like to either work from home or do a job that has more interest for me, with books if possible.
I just can't motivate myself to start looking around to make changes.
Doesn't really help you Foxy but at least you know you're not alone
Jas
XXX
Here is the Tony Robbins discussion board on goal setting, what I suggest you look for is RPM (Rapid Planning Method) or OPM (Outcome P(can't remember) Massive-action), there is some really great stuff there, there was one particular thread started by Lisa (can't remember her last name) that went through the entire thing, it was an awesome set of posts, if you want I can find it out for you.
Chris
Chris
Found it, I actually copied most of the thread to a Word document, been meaning to read it for ages, it starts like this;
If anyone wants a copy let me know...
Better yet, gone looking for the original and !
Posted by Lisa Thompson on 04-17-2003 01:38 AM:
RPM Master Step #1: Develop Your Driving Force - Your Ultimate Vision
Hi All!
Welcome to the RPM Master Steps! Some simple things to keep in mind in order to maximize RPM! Since RPM is a top-down planning process, let's start from the beginning.
You are creating your life plan, so let's develop that DRIVING FORCE! The Driving Force is comprised of several elements
1) Your Ultimate Vision
2) Your Ultimate Purpose
3) Your True Identity
4) Your Code of Conduct
5) Your Values and Rules
6) Your Passions
Today, we will focus on the Ultimate Vision. So, how do you create your Ultimate Vision. First, get into a peak physiological state! Find some music that will really get you pumped (i.e., Daily Magic CD from GTE, PPII Subliminal Music, Music from UPW Weekend - the playlist is on the TR website). Another great place for music is Day 4 of TOYL - totally incredible! You may want to yell out some incantations while you're at it! TR says you want to be in a state of emotional certainty where you feel that you have the heart, strength, power, and the skills to overcome any challenge to achieve your goals.
If anyone wants a copy let me know...
Better yet, gone looking for the original and !
For me it all comes back to adding to love and happiness, for myself and others. Love that ladder / wall thing Rainbows - I really have a feeling that my wall is such a great one to look at, I don't care about the top of the ladder. I guess I'm not trying to get over the wall! I did something like the Tony Robbins stuff Marmalaid's talking about a while back, and I found it really helped me sort huge amounts of things out. That's how I ended up as a Life Coach
I must say that it really strikes me that a lot of people I've met on this site and at munches have a similar openness, honesty, contentment, and peacefulness that I've come across in people who've done coaching and self-development stuff.
I must say that it really strikes me that a lot of people I've met on this site and at munches have a similar openness, honesty, contentment, and peacefulness that I've come across in people who've done coaching and self-development stuff.
i went for a long run after reading this post/posting my initial response, as this caught me at a particularly low point in my mental state.
I agree with other people on this post: whatever it is you are doing, the goal should be that you are happy. Content. That no matter what is is, raising children well, working for success in your company, you are living your life for YOU. My partner and I definiltely chose career paths that are difficult and don't lead to money, but we followed our hearts, and I wish everyone has that opportunity.
There was that advice song, produced by Baz Lurman: Everybody's Free to Wear Sunscreen. FANTASTIC song, and on point with this topic. I listen to it whenever doubt about my life creeps in.
I agree with other people on this post: whatever it is you are doing, the goal should be that you are happy. Content. That no matter what is is, raising children well, working for success in your company, you are living your life for YOU. My partner and I definiltely chose career paths that are difficult and don't lead to money, but we followed our hearts, and I wish everyone has that opportunity.
There was that advice song, produced by Baz Lurman: Everybody's Free to Wear Sunscreen. FANTASTIC song, and on point with this topic. I listen to it whenever doubt about my life creeps in.
Sex God
oooh good one Foxy....
Well i dont have any plans (career or otherwise) because life doesnt follow plans lol
But i do:-
Want to enjoy every day as much as I can
Live as spontaneously as possible
Meet and make new friends
Travel more nationally and internationally
Get a job and broaden my horizons (once kids at full time school)
To see my kids struggling with their temperamental 2 yr olds :giggle:
To have enough money to allow me to stop and smell the flowers
To be able to help friends whenever we can - financially and emotionally
To repay our friends for their support and love through the hard times
Pretty vague i guess, but im easily pleased and not a hugely ambitious person. My motto is work to live, not live to work. :twisted:
Well i dont have any plans (career or otherwise) because life doesnt follow plans lol
But i do:-
Want to enjoy every day as much as I can
Live as spontaneously as possible
Meet and make new friends
Travel more nationally and internationally
Get a job and broaden my horizons (once kids at full time school)
To see my kids struggling with their temperamental 2 yr olds :giggle:
To have enough money to allow me to stop and smell the flowers
To be able to help friends whenever we can - financially and emotionally
To repay our friends for their support and love through the hard times
Pretty vague i guess, but im easily pleased and not a hugely ambitious person. My motto is work to live, not live to work. :twisted:
Its only when you're asked the 
: do you realise how hard the answer is :shock:
My goals, long term is to work in the Fashion Industry, earn bucketloads of money, retire in The Caribbean and live a healthy happy life
Reality says I will achieve only a few of these, so after an element of deep thought I've decided my main aim is to wake up each morning and make each day as worthwhile as possible
As a father to teenage daughters I want them to be afforded every opportunity I didn't have, to have the most amazing lifes, but I also want them to experience bad days becos its only then you appreciate the good ones :D
: do you realise how hard the answer is :shock: My goals, long term is to work in the Fashion Industry, earn bucketloads of money, retire in The Caribbean and live a healthy happy life
Reality says I will achieve only a few of these, so after an element of deep thought I've decided my main aim is to wake up each morning and make each day as worthwhile as possible
As a father to teenage daughters I want them to be afforded every opportunity I didn't have, to have the most amazing lifes, but I also want them to experience bad days becos its only then you appreciate the good ones
:D Sex God
in all seriousness, this is a huge question for me . . . .
i have never seen myself fitting in with the rat race. i've always rejected it, which means i enjoy at times the "benefits" provided by those who do it, which brings a fair amount of guilt, and i've always failed when i've ((( half-heartedly ))) tried!
taking onboard all the stress associated with having someone on my back, ripping me to bits, and holding the threat of dismissal over my head, to earn a piss poor salary ((( e.g. 14 grand including commission! ))) to then put all the cash i earn into someone elses bank account ((( e.g. a quarter million for the company paying my piss poor wages! ))) has never struck me as a particularly equitable arrangement!
trouble is, the more i reject the whole idea of rat-racing, the more it seems it's the only sensible option, cos it takes money to opt out, so up to a point, you have to do the rat-race before you can even *think* about NOT doing it?
t'is a catch-22 kinda thing? and it's rubbish!
n x x x
i have never seen myself fitting in with the rat race. i've always rejected it, which means i enjoy at times the "benefits" provided by those who do it, which brings a fair amount of guilt, and i've always failed when i've ((( half-heartedly ))) tried!
taking onboard all the stress associated with having someone on my back, ripping me to bits, and holding the threat of dismissal over my head, to earn a piss poor salary ((( e.g. 14 grand including commission! ))) to then put all the cash i earn into someone elses bank account ((( e.g. a quarter million for the company paying my piss poor wages! ))) has never struck me as a particularly equitable arrangement!
trouble is, the more i reject the whole idea of rat-racing, the more it seems it's the only sensible option, cos it takes money to opt out, so up to a point, you have to do the rat-race before you can even *think* about NOT doing it?
t'is a catch-22 kinda thing? and it's rubbish!
n x x x
Sex God
Quote by marmalaid
See that guy on my sig? His name is Tony Robbins, he's helped me a lot in that regard.
Chris
I thought it was Ricky Martin..
Sex God
i go where ever life takes me .
When i went out into the Real World this afternon i thought that this post wasnt going to get any replies at all, that no one could obvilusly understand a word i was going on about and that i was clearly going round the twist, so i was delighted to come home and find all the above replies.
Dont think im anynearer the answer though.
As far as religion goes i ve found my own beliefs and although they arent orthodox they suit me,
Materialy im ok , not rich but happy with what ive got, im afraid i cant see aquisition of weath as a purpose in life
Family wise everything is fine, all 3 kids have done wel, grown into wonderfull adultsl and h/b is great
Health wish
Im not in bad nick for my age
Ive spent the last 15 tears of my life giving of myself professionally and i know ive left my mark
For all the above, im grateful, so what is the missing link and where do i find it?
With luck i have at least another 30 years left and i dont want to drift aimlessly.
Im currently in the middle of reading , "The man who sold his Ferrari" and thats not helping any
So again i ask what gives you a purpose in life and makes each day worth wakening up for and how do i find it?
Dont think im anynearer the answer though.
As far as religion goes i ve found my own beliefs and although they arent orthodox they suit me,
Materialy im ok , not rich but happy with what ive got, im afraid i cant see aquisition of weath as a purpose in life
Family wise everything is fine, all 3 kids have done wel, grown into wonderfull adultsl and h/b is great
Health wish
Im not in bad nick for my age
Ive spent the last 15 tears of my life giving of myself professionally and i know ive left my mark
For all the above, im grateful, so what is the missing link and where do i find it?
With luck i have at least another 30 years left and i dont want to drift aimlessly.
Im currently in the middle of reading , "The man who sold his Ferrari" and thats not helping any
So again i ask what gives you a purpose in life and makes each day worth wakening up for and how do i find it?
