The club newbie not so much what to wear but not to wear sag

10 May 2013

Hi all!
We as newbies around here we've decided to bite the bullet so to speak and get ourselves along to the sh 10th birthday bash as our first club visit but also our first experience of the swinging scene other than being around here recently....
So obviously what to wear has came up in conversation a bit recently we have a fairly good idea of what we should/ want to in line with the theme & dress code, slithering between the safe options and going that little bit further and a bit risqué because well because we can and why not at such an event! Obviously each to they're own, its all personal preference and what does it for them and others finding appealing but they're must be some grey areas?
However this got me thinking on others who have experienced the scene and those who frequent it, there must be a list of no No's, despite the obvious things stated that don't comply with dress code/theme of the event, like wardrobe malfunctions and can being under/ over dressed have an impact on the kind of experience you will have?
Any one got a horror stories or willing to share an experience of something that stands out in terms of what to wear and mostly what not to wear!
Love to hear thoughts on it! smile

I'm sure after the bash ill certainly know what kinda of things personally for me work and what I'll feel comfortable in, might even look back and have a good giggle at myself of some of the options I had considered!
Googled the life out of this topic so here I am making my 1st forum post about it!
However we can't wait to attend! Is it the 19th yet!
The impatient female of Jodie & Stevie xx

10 May 2013

Quote by Ste-n-Kez
Hi Jodie & Stevie,
I (Ste) usually wear smart trousers and a shirt and Kez wears something smart but short with stockings and a basque and high heels. I put a mankini on underneath for later in the evening Joke...
Other than the mankini :lol: we find that this sort of dress works in all the clubs we have ventured to. I usually strip down and wear a towel later in the evening. Hope this helps and say hi to us at the party
Ste and Kez xx

Hi ste-n-kez,
Thanks for your reply, we sure will say hi....just need to watch out for the mankini then smile

J & S x

10 May 2013

Hi Jodcap, some good advice from Ste-n-Kez (apart from the mankini, and he is NOT joking either). Personally, wear what you would normally wear on a night out, and if you want to feel that bit more sexy, wear some naughty underwear, but just keep it covered. If you do feel like going a step further, at least you are prepared, and if you dont feel like going further, at least you are ready for being naughty when you get home lol

Whatever, you wear or decide to do on the night, only go as far as you are both 100% comfortable with. Dont feel pressured to do anything, and if that means only chatting, so be it. There is no rush to do anything and sometimes, a nice long journey can make arriving at your destination more exciting wink

10 May 2013

Makes note to check for illicit mankini wearers before entry.. :grin:
Anyway back to the subject in-hand
Gents - Shirt and trousers always goes down well with the ladies in any club.
Ladies - Usually whatever you feel most comfortable in.
Most off-putting thing in a club is wearing a heavy after-shave or perfume and if you smoke - take a packet of breath mints.. :thumbup:

13 May 2013

I would have to say all of the above, and mingle around have a good chat with others. Don't be a wallflower by just sitting on the sofas.
Know your limits with others, and stick to them. If you get any problems (very rarely happens) inform the staff or host and issues can be sorted out quickly. We have had only one problem in 5 years, and that was because a guy would not take no as a answer.
The main thing is enjoy yourself and have fun.