We're a young couple ourselves so its a topic that concerns us directly, but we - over our time so far on SH - have gathered why people think differently about various things.
Younger people on the site sometimes feel offended with the "too young" tag - so here's an attempt to end any upset on the matter!
"We/I don't meet younger people because...
Reason Number 1: - "... you're not mature enough."
This is the number one reason that gets the backs of us "youngies" way up. It's the assumption that all people of a certain age are giggly street chav alcoholics who are wind-up merchants. In this case, age becomes almost a sign in some peoples eyes that someone isn't genuine.
Although the swinging scene is undoubtedly getting younger, this attitude does exist - and sadly there is a valid point behind it.
The vast majority of younger couples/singles DO lack the maturity to even accept their sexuality properly, never mind be able to distinguish whether they do or don't want to consider swinging as a lifestyle. It is a rare characteristic that at times needs a life of experience to understand yourself and your desires so that you can make a conscientious decision about what you want to do.
Unfortunately, genuine young people are still few and far between - and swingers who are wary of such people have a right to be wary.
Reason Number 2: - "... you're the same age as our sons/daughters!"
This can't be argued with!
We put ourselves in the shoes of those who say this; and you really can't argue!
People ultimately have different wants and the swinging scene, as much as it is about making friends and having fun, is about getting what you want sexually - and if what you want sexually is someone who doesn't remind you of your children, then thats that!
Reason Number 3: - "... we're/i'm fed up with timewasters your age."
Now this is alot harder to swallow, as it belies the attitude that swingers usually have of being open minded.
This is a again a symptom of too many "kids" signing up to SH and other such sites, acting like a genuine person, and ultimately turning into nothing.
Reason Number 4: - "... you will have absolutely nothing in common with me/us."
Whilst I can understand this, i think this is a very feeble excuse in general.
What things in life are not allowed to be discussed by adults no matter what age?
For instance, I am personally interested in the arts, theatre, law and politics amongst other things; whilst also being able to have fun, socialise, discuss social events etc.
While accepting that not everyone who is young will be like this, the "umbrella" effect of labelling all younger people as disinterested and into their own private affairs is somewhat unfair.
Again, it is upto the youths of the site to get involved, get along to munches, informally socialise and show people your mental qualities - which are every single bit as important as your physical ones!
To summarise, for us "young 'uns" more than most, respect has to be earnt - and if genuinely interested in the swinging lifestyle, then it will be!
But don't be offended by people simply stating what they feel - there is always a reason!!!
T & L xxx
p.s. this is not a rant!!!!!!!
people might think that the yougnsters can't "handle it"
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