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After the success of the two mini-munches in Manchester, and the success of the Rio's afternoon, and also small social meets in Teesside, Hampshire, and Yorkshire (although just across the border in Derbyshire!) in the past couple of months, perhaps the days of the vast munches of 150 - 200 plus people or more are on the way out. I'm sure the Scottish munch will be a blast, but maybe there won't be that many more on that scale.
I must say that I have enjoyed the mini-munches which I have attended more than I enjoyed most of the big munches (well- organised and enjoyable though they were, don't get me wrong), where it can be easy to feel lost in the crowd. And of course, they are easier to organise, and dates do not have to be fixed half so far ahead.
So maybe the smaller regular regional munches will be the future here, especially as the site is getting bigger all the time.
Mike.
Maybe easier for some to feel as though they can 'get lost in the crowd' though, whereas in a smaller gathering they may be more closely scrutinised?
Who knows, MIke, I must say my wife and I had a great time at a mini munch in Portsmouth where we met Venus and Mars for the first time. The Notts munch was an absolute blast but I am sure there is room for both styles,
Maybe now we will see more of the Mini Munch smile
I like both although I did find the Manchester Mini a lot more "intimate" .. I could actually chat to people without feeling overwhelmed and worrying about not chatting with anyone in particular.
dunno I guess the mini- munches will become more regular with time and the larger munches turn into (as you say regional) ones twice a year.
Cx
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Maybe easier for some to feel as though they can 'get lost in the crowd' though, whereas in a smaller gathering they may be more closely scrutinised?

Freckled bird, you can scrutinise me as closely as you like at the next munch wink
I see your point, by the way - it's everyone to their own taste really....
Mike.
Saying that who would like to travel a great distance to meet just a handful of people? I know if I was to go down south for a munch there would be so many people I would dearly like to say hello to.
What we may end up finding is that the die hard Munchers (Sounds sourcy that does), will be the most travelled and then only the people who meet up in the regional areas will only ever get to know the regional characters around them.
There is also the issue of feeling comfortable. This isn't just for regulars for a get together. Munches were brought in (Thanks Willxx for suggesting them) so newbies could get to learn from others. Meet different people from all aspects of life. In my opinion this would be a lot less educational for me if the group of people were small. Maybe I'm a little odd but I usually feel more at ease amongst strangers in a big group.
Quote by freckledbird
Maybe easier for some to feel as though they can 'get lost in the crowd' though, whereas in a smaller gathering they may be more closely scrutinised?

have to agree with you on this point, my 1st munch i almost run because i was in truth sh*ttin bricks at the thought of the meeting people
ok, I was lucky cuz I knew several from the forum/chat before i arrived which made it easier, but if it had been a small meet I think I would have walked because i would have felt more exposed.
Well, I think a mixture of the two is the best thing.
When I first joined there was not a munch a month like there is now. It was once every 3/4 months or so and everybody travelled ot them from all over. They weren't planned and advertised over five months in advance just to make sure the numbers were reached and people could make it. Three months is plenty of notice for a babysitter surely? confused
At a large munch there is a tendancy to spend about 10 mins with people as there are so many folk to meet(maybe for the first time) and catch up with, so you might not get to know folk as well as you might like to as there are other distractions... etc....
At a small munch where a lot of people might already know each other it could be a little intimidating at first but most will go out of their way to make a new one feel welcome.
Anyway, I don't think the large munches will go away cos they are so much fun, but I do think the smaller (around 50/60 people) mini munches will be more common as they are easier to organise, great fun and what a munch should be........ a damn good knees up biggrin
Gem. x - fan of the munch large or small.
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Three months is plenty of notice for a babysitter surely? confused

Spoken by someone with no children ;) ..... just teasing Gem LOL
Horses for courses it would appear !!!! confused :? :? :? :? :?
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........Munches were brought in (Thanks Willxx for suggesting them) .......

Eh? dunno
To be honest there are that many 'events' being organised at the moment that I'm not in any hurry at all to arrange another large NW munch. I'm more than happy to join in with the Manchester 'mini-munches' and yes, I think the site has grown to such an extent that things probably will get more regional. I think that was the whole idea in the first place but the novelty attracted people from far and wide.
Steve
but if there is gonna be a rise of mini munches
please dont put them mid week!. ive missed loads of them cause of working!!!...
ive only ever been to the big ones.. so can't really say which is best..
but i do find it easyer in the larger groups cause i can get lost in the growd adn go thoght meeting ppl.
i tend to clam up and go shy when the group is a lot smaller.
Jiggle
I think I agree with some of the people above......I think that the occurance of Mini-Munches will rise and the Big Munchs will only happen once or twice a year, which will give people the chance to get to know other people not from their area....
But I also agree, can we make the Mini Munches and get togethers on a weekend please cause I'm like Jiggle, I have missed loads because I haven't the time to get there midweek.....
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. Maybe I'm a little odd but I usually feel more at ease amongst strangers in a big group.

If you're odd then so am I! I am shy and do prefer to meet people in a larger group, and I think the smaller mini munches would have been just that lttle bit too intimidating for me as a newbie. Even now I would shy away from the smaller events becuase of being shy.
But then I know there are some that i would attend purely becuase there would be people going that I want to meet now that I have been on here for a few months.
So - in short - room for both i think smile
In answer to the comparative newbies (not you Rainbows, you know people better on here than I do! lol :lol: ) I understand what you mean completely, I also found the large munches less intimidating than smaller groups would have been, when I was new. Perhaps I was overdoing it to suggest that they will soon be on the way out.
Mike.
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. Perhaps I was overdoing it to suggest that they will soon be on the way out.
Mike.

nahh, I think you were simply asking a simple question, I think that very few people are comfortable to being in smaller groups
Most people belong in the Prey catagory with a few in Predator catagory
Prey catagory people are most likely to enjoy being a part of a crowd where they can blend in and dissapear within the camoflage of the group, this comes from our base animal instincs "safety in numbers"
Predator catagory people prefer smaller more powerful groups, where they do not hide themselves away but are seen to be larger than life and far more powerful than perhaps is truth, these are the uber confident people who will circle the larger prey crowd, spot their target and home in without hesitation to take down their prey
Whereas I like to be predatory amongst as many victims as possible :mrgreen:
Venusxxx
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Whereas I like to be predatory amongst as many victims as possible :mrgreen:

Now there's a surprise rolleyes yikes, better get out of here.... bolt wink
I'm so looking forward to the Scottish Munch Glasgow (26th March - place still left biggrin ), for a variety of reasons.
a) Its on my own home turf. I don't need to get myself wound up about being in a strange environment.
b) I don't need to spend hours and hours travelling to a venue which is only multi mapped, and those of you who know me, know that i'm a crap navigator rolleyes
c) Its not going to be such a huge financial burden as other munches sometimes have felt.
The fact that there are people out there who are prepared to travel many hundreds of miles to join me in my night out (as i see it), and to be part of the whole experience which ultimately will make my night out a huge success, is quite astounding.
Big munches, little munches, whatever, they ultimately are only as good as the people who are prepared to take the time to attend them. Be there 200 people in a room, or 20, the interaction between us all is what makes the event a success.
Lots of love, hugs and kisses
Little
XXX
I don't think the big Munches are going anywhere.....i say this because the mini-munches are normally held mid-week.....the people who go to these ones may live local or within good distance to get home that you hold mini-munches at the weekend they become fall blown munches as more people will i think they can co-exsist!
i tend to clam up and go shy when the group is a lot smaller.
Jiggle.
Jiggle,
One thing I can say is you are NOT shy in a small group. lol
Re:;- Munches
I think there is room for all size munches, and long may they continue.
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i tend to clam up and go shy when the group is a lot smaller.

Jiggle,
One thing I can say is you are NOT shy in a small group. lol

I can testify to that one as can a handful of others ! :rascal:
as i am quite a new bie i have to say i would rather get to know people in my area first at socials or mini munchs.
only when i knew people would i feel comfatble in going to a big munch or party.
I am quite shy normally
Mike
I like the little uns and the big uns.
Easy to lose yourself at the bigger 'do's' though.
lol Must get name down for more :twisted:
Cathy x
i think the advent of mini munches has been good for local people who can not always travel, but it would be a shame if there were then to take away from the bigger munches....
i would miss not seeing people from all over the country at the munches if there were to become regionalised...
sean xxxxxxxxxxx
Hello Everyone, It's my first time in this forum, I never been in a Munch just went That place in North London a couple of time and had some fun..
I really wanted to come last saturday but I was quite busy.... But next time I will try my best and enjoy with you guys...
I m quite shy aswell so Take it easy !!!
Cheers. redface