Hi there. My name is J**** and i am a virgin. I am writing this because it's not really talked about. Right, here goes.
I am 18, live in the UK, i have an average penis size of about 7inchs, of slim build, and yes, i am still a virgin. I am not really ashamed of this title, but i now, (and for the past 6 years) have been wanting to experience sex with a woman. I am very sexed up and horny as you can imagine, and only survive with pornography. I have confidence around women, but for some reason, i have never really had the oppurtunity to be close with another woman, even though i long for it.
I feel that meeting someone, that i don't know, to experience sex with would be great for me. It is the way i have dreamed of things for a long time, and i would probably have it no other way, but then that is where i come to a hold, where do i find this person? A woman thats kind, knows what she wants, able to teach me, experiment with me, and also be patient with a first timer! Then i discovered this amazing website. A place where sexed up and horny people meet, to swap stories, experiences and arange to have a good time. So this place is the answer, now i just need to find the right person.
So now all i have to do is keep on posting my ads on here, and hope something comes out of it. I havn't had any replies as of yet, probably because i don't have a picture up, but thats because i know some people on here that search round, so i don't really want them reading this! But if i do get a reply i can send some pics 2 their email if they want them.
Well there we go. I doubt if many people will read this, let alone reply, but hey, it's worth a try. If i was to get some replys, i would like the comments off some women, to see what they generally think, and maybe some comments from the guys if they have been in the same situation as me, and how you got out of it.
Well, thanks for reading, bye.
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The Life of a Male Virgin
Sex God
Have to agree with Clare on this. (Wonders will never cease!! :shock: )
JTML's post simply doesn't ring true. Call it a hunch.
JTML's post simply doesn't ring true. Call it a hunch.
Sex God
I too am a little miffed by this one.
Have you done a quick search on thread titles? I'm sure you will come up with this very discussion. What you may find is that although sweet and innocent you may seem do you really think meeting up with a complete stranger would be the answer? Do you feel you can handle the emotional side of no strings sex? In my opinion I have a feeling that it may often be too easy to confuse lust and love. This could bring signs of desperation. Maybe this is why you feel you are striking out all of the time. You are wanting it too much.
I have to agree with RSAB2. Try a night club first if it is a one night stand that you are looking for. Then again if you think just posting adverts up in the hope that somebody will come along and say yes please then by all means go for that approach.
Sorry I think I'm just blabbering, just come back from a long long night shift. Yawn.....
Have you done a quick search on thread titles? I'm sure you will come up with this very discussion. What you may find is that although sweet and innocent you may seem do you really think meeting up with a complete stranger would be the answer? Do you feel you can handle the emotional side of no strings sex? In my opinion I have a feeling that it may often be too easy to confuse lust and love. This could bring signs of desperation. Maybe this is why you feel you are striking out all of the time. You are wanting it too much.
I have to agree with RSAB2. Try a night club first if it is a one night stand that you are looking for. Then again if you think just posting adverts up in the hope that somebody will come along and say yes please then by all means go for that approach.
Sorry I think I'm just blabbering, just come back from a long long night shift. Yawn.....
Sex God
Seeing as the latest virgin hasn't actually said how he would like his virginity taken, could I make a suggestion........
..... that he bend over and take 8 inches from me :twisted:
:wink: :wink: :wink:
Job done
..... that he bend over and take 8 inches from me :twisted:
:wink: :wink: :wink: Job done
Quote by justtryingmyluck
i now, (and for the past 6 years) have been wanting to experience sex with a woman.
It's overrated. You'll do it and afterwards you'll sit and think "was that it?"
Take my serious advice and concentrate instead on getting your hormones under control. When you feel you're in control of your sexual urges rather than them being in control of you, it'll give you a wonderful sense of empowerment in your everyday life.
Besides, you're only 18. If you get to 50 and you're still in the same situation then yes, maybe there's something to worry about there, but at 18 you really have nothing to be concerned about. Remember that all good things come to those who wait! :twisted:
Well, i will have to try that and see what happens. But this is no bullshit, i am telling the truth, i got no reason to lie, but anyways thanks for all your feedback, i didn't think anyone would bother reading, a virgin on a swinger site, NEVER.
All i wanna do is meet with someone for sex, nsa. Simple. Sex with a woman.
Anyways thanks 4 reading again. x
All i wanna do is meet with someone for sex, nsa. Simple. Sex with a woman.
Anyways thanks 4 reading again. x
Sex God
Not being funny mate, but if you're that sure that all you want is NSA with a woman, why not just go to a prostitute?
Quote by berkshire_boy
im worse than him im 23 and still a virgin put career infront of life adn partyin infront of gf jsut messed realtionships up vasically. howvere i have not had intercousre but just bout everything else and iam willing to try anything hence havin placed an add o nthis iste
I also was a virgin, well near as dammit, until 22, and even then the sex was crap until I met someone good in bed when 26. I'd had one screw when seduced by a German woman on holiday but that was pretty dire, then 6 years of unwanted celibacy. So I don't find yer man's post too hard to believe - I'm sure there are plenty of 18-year-old virgin males out there but most would be too ashamed to admit it. Whether JTML is gen or not I couldn't say, just that what he wrote is what I'd have written when I was a horny but frustrated 18-year-old had the Internet existed then.
Assuming you are gen, mate, I'd echo matmoleman in advising that you go for a one night stand at a club (not too hard to get as long as you don't look miserable and needy) or try some sort of relationship first. The actual physical sex act can be a bit of an anti-climax if that's all there is - it's the lead-up and anticipation (amongst many other things) that makes it exciting.
Still, I dare say that there are a few Mrs Robinson types out there willing to take a callow youth in hand, although this site might not be the best place to find one. In your position I'd try a personals ad in your local rag and/or on a sex contacts site.
What you might also need is some advice from a friendly woman you know, whom you don't fancy, about sexual etiquette. Picking up someone in public, or asking someone out you know, is a highly complex task full of unspoken social ritual, something I found out many years too late. A woman friend can tell you some simple home truths about what women fancy and don't fancy about blokes. Number one: don't be miserable (even if you are) - that's the biggest turnoff of all.
Just my 2 Euro's worth. I know how you feel, mate, I'm just not sure that you're in the right place to find a solution to your problem. Best of luck anyway.
Mr Licks
Sex God
Uhhhhmmmm......... Whats a Virgin????
Sex God
Personally im sure more of them would prefer to have sex with a male virgin like me . Unfortunately there arent any virgins , that are a bit like me !
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Recalling my own emotional development, I think the best thing that could have possibly happened to me at 18 is a few good sessions of nsa sex with a woman who knew what they were doing, and didn't have any ulterior motves. If this site was around when I was 18, I'd be posting the same sort of message as justtryingmyluck is (probably glossing over the nightmare 2 night stand I had at 17 though).
Assuming justtryingmyluck is genuine, I have to say I've encountered less sympathy and understanding in the replies to this thread than any other I have read here. He's written a sensible, literate and intelligent post, well above the standards we expect from newbie single males, and all most of what he's got back are platitiudes and insults.
"wonder why an ad like that is on a swinging site"? Eh? Where else do you go find genuine, highly sexed women who are happy to indulge in nsa sex, and will stand a good chance of dealing sensibly with a virgin male's inevitable performance anxiety?
"Do you feel you can handle the emotional side of no strings sex?" Eh?Have you ever met an 18-year old man? It's the emotional side of 'strings attached' that's the problem for them!
"go to a night club and get laid" Are you seriously recommending that he would be better off taking advantage of a random drunk woman with all societies' expectations that he'll be experienced and skillful than with a sober swinger who will enjoy the slightly kinky element to being his first?
"bend over and take 8 inches from me". I realise that's written in jest, but I wish you would seriously think about how insensitive that is going to sound when he reads it.
"this isn't a personals website" What's the photo ads section for then? Is there some reason an 18 year old bloke can't look for nsa fun here?
"It's overrated. You'll do it and afterwards you'll sit and think "was that it?"" Possibly, and that's far more likely to happen if he goes down the nightclub or prostitute route, but you are missing the point, which is that he won't be a male virgin anymore, spending way too much of his time wondering if it will ever happen, what it will be like and how to make it happen.
"why not just go to a prostitute?" I'm surprised to see a mod suggesting that, I thought the topic of paid-for sex was pretty much banned on this site. Suffice to say that doing something that involves a significant risk of involving an eastern europen human slave isn't the sort of advice I'd give someone pumped full of hormones and angst, without a lot of provisos, clarifcations and useful links.
Assuming justtryingmyluck is genuine, I have to say I've encountered less sympathy and understanding in the replies to this thread than any other I have read here. He's written a sensible, literate and intelligent post, well above the standards we expect from newbie single males, and all most of what he's got back are platitiudes and insults.
"wonder why an ad like that is on a swinging site"? Eh? Where else do you go find genuine, highly sexed women who are happy to indulge in nsa sex, and will stand a good chance of dealing sensibly with a virgin male's inevitable performance anxiety?
"Do you feel you can handle the emotional side of no strings sex?" Eh?Have you ever met an 18-year old man? It's the emotional side of 'strings attached' that's the problem for them!
"go to a night club and get laid" Are you seriously recommending that he would be better off taking advantage of a random drunk woman with all societies' expectations that he'll be experienced and skillful than with a sober swinger who will enjoy the slightly kinky element to being his first?
"bend over and take 8 inches from me". I realise that's written in jest, but I wish you would seriously think about how insensitive that is going to sound when he reads it.
"this isn't a personals website" What's the photo ads section for then? Is there some reason an 18 year old bloke can't look for nsa fun here?
"It's overrated. You'll do it and afterwards you'll sit and think "was that it?"" Possibly, and that's far more likely to happen if he goes down the nightclub or prostitute route, but you are missing the point, which is that he won't be a male virgin anymore, spending way too much of his time wondering if it will ever happen, what it will be like and how to make it happen.
"why not just go to a prostitute?" I'm surprised to see a mod suggesting that, I thought the topic of paid-for sex was pretty much banned on this site. Suffice to say that doing something that involves a significant risk of involving an eastern europen human slave isn't the sort of advice I'd give someone pumped full of hormones and angst, without a lot of provisos, clarifcations and useful links.
Sex God
Quote by justtryingmyluck
Hi there. My name is J**** and i am a virgin. I am writing this because it's not really talked about. Right, here goes ... Well, thanks for reading, bye.
I'm not unsympathetic to your feelings and situation, good luck to you though I do find it slightly strange for you to be posting this here on a Swingers site.
I would say though, at only 18 yrs old, and it is 'only', I really wouldn't worry too much about being a virgin ...
First of all, i would like to thank Mister_Discreet for his kind and thoughtful reply to my add. And a couple of others.
Although i have said it before, i am a genuine virgin, but that isn't what this particular post is about. I chose to tell my story on this site, as well as the other reasons in my first post, because i thought it might get other the people who were, or are in the same situation as me, to just talk, and also so i could get the comments of women, as that is what this post is mainly about.
What most of the other posters to this topic said in reply to me, were quite maybe hurtfull and saddend me, but as me mother always said to me, take it with a pinch of salt, lol.
So thanks for reading again, and if some women could post something on the whole situation, i would be very grateful. Thanks.
Although i have said it before, i am a genuine virgin, but that isn't what this particular post is about. I chose to tell my story on this site, as well as the other reasons in my first post, because i thought it might get other the people who were, or are in the same situation as me, to just talk, and also so i could get the comments of women, as that is what this post is mainly about.
What most of the other posters to this topic said in reply to me, were quite maybe hurtfull and saddend me, but as me mother always said to me, take it with a pinch of salt, lol.
So thanks for reading again, and if some women could post something on the whole situation, i would be very grateful. Thanks.
Orgasminator
Listen, if you are geniune and you are hurt by some of the things that have been said in this thread my friend, i suggest a good long think about what you are trying to achieve.
Speaking as a very happy single Male, thankyou. if you are hurt?? by words written.
My advice get yourself off to a night club, enjoy yourself there, and think about expanding your pleasure in a few years
Only my thoughts, not preaching
Speaking as a very happy single Male, thankyou. if you are hurt?? by words written.
My advice get yourself off to a night club, enjoy yourself there, and think about expanding your pleasure in a few years
Only my thoughts, not preaching
