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The second lover
I'm not in this situation so I can't really contribute but in true Marya style I will anyway 
When I hear of people who've been married for yonks and only ever shagged each other, I actually feel kind of sad for them.
I wonder if this is why some couples swing? They want the experiences that they didn't have when younger but still want to keep their relationship.
It must be really weird though; a lot of soul searching and heart to hearts.
Thank god I was a teenage slut! :lol:
When I hear of people who've been married for yonks and only ever shagged each other, I actually feel kind of sad for them.
I wonder if this is why some couples swing? They want the experiences that they didn't have when younger but still want to keep their relationship.
It must be really weird though; a lot of soul searching and heart to hearts.
Thank god I was a teenage slut! :lol:
Quote by flower411
Ian and I had been having sex for 22 years before we decided to try swinging if that is what you were getting at Flower?
No !!
What I`m "getting at " is how bloody amazing it must have been when you had the next one after 22 years !
Whatever way you look at it !!
Disappointing....amazing
Amazing..........amazing
Different........amazing
It must have had an affect !! surely ??
The situation of having a 3 some was amazing. I never actually thought about the sex part as a singular action. It was all part of a whole experience
Sex God
Quote by Marya_Northeast
Thank god I was a teenage slut!
i was one to
nowt suprising therei have huge respect for those who only ever slept with 1 person or had exclusivity for x amount of years i just sooo could not do it
but if im having the convo with me mam the number is 3
just a little white lie Quote by Dawnie
Ian and I had been having sex for 22 years before we decided to try swinging if that is what you were getting at Flower?
Same here (not 22 years tho
)... we were having amazing sex before we started swinging, we still having amazing sex now... swinging is fun and horny but my the 'amazing' sex is still just between the two of us. 
I was a bit of a floosy when I was younger and couldn't settle down, I didn't enjoy the sex much because I didn't make a connection with the bloke, it was a 'wall' that prevented me doing so (won't go into that), the best sex I've ever has been within the past 10 years. :lol:
My hubby was my first sexual partner and we didnt start swinging for 23 yrs. It never really occurred to me that i'd do "it" with anyone else as I was very inhibited and self conscious. However we always experimented and used toys and fantasised so taking it that step further by involving another man was just us evolving . If you want a relationship to last you have to keep it fun and fresh some way .
Sex God
Quote by Marya_Northeast
When I hear of people who've been married for yonks and only ever shagged each other, I actually feel kind of sad for them.
I wonder if this is why some couples swing? They want the experiences that they didn't have when younger but still want to keep their relationship.
It must be really weird though; a lot of soul searching and heart to hearts.
Why is this sad Marya?
Far from it in my opinion. Blue and I have been together over 20 years and he was my one and only till we started swinging. We were and are totally committed to each other and utterly faithful, it's not for everyone I know but it's hugely important to us.
And yes we did start swinging because we wanted to experience sex with other people but within the confines of our marriage and always with each other present. And like Jaymar we have great sex together, always have done and that continues. We didn't enter swinging to spice up our sex life, simply to add a different dimension and experience other people.
And we had loads of soul searching, yes naturally, we are both very protective of each other and our relationship. We still do soul search to keep us on track and maintain having recreational sex with ensuring that our relationship is not affecting aversely for any reason.
What was it like the first time with someone else? Well fantastic in a horny sense, exploring another man's body, feeling a different kiss to the one I've been used to for years.
And referring back to the counting thread, maybe I count because I am one of these annoyingly organised people who log everything
I in fact started it to keep track of babysitters and the wild stories we tell them! But thinking about it, I think it's also because it's simply a new experience for is and I love the fact that this last year I have increased my lover count by a substantial percentage! 
Steps down from soap box
pink x
Sex God
Quite opposite from being sad I think people who have been devoted to each other for such a long time have something special that they can share each other.....
Orgasminator
Before I came here I was 2 for 18 years and first time was great, although did have this guilt thing in the back of my head 
We did not start this because are sex life was not good more to explore more as we had done most things 2 people can do we started as a soft swing couple and enjoyed that for a bout 18 mouths then decide we wont to try full swap so we decide to meet a couple and just go for it well let say big mistake by us as it was not what we expert it to be not the other couple fault Ares for rush in to it but we sat down chat decide why we had not like about it and decide to try it again but this time to make sure it was right for all four people involve and it was horny as hell. But it just good sex nothing else what we have as a couple has never change .we just have more good sex with others now.
Quote by flower411
OK ...I started the "counting" thread partly because I`d been chatting to someone who said the she`d only had sex with a man other than her husband when she started swinging.
A couple of people have now mentioned the same thing.
What`s that like then ?????? :shock:
Having one sexual partner and then deciding between you that you want others !! After, how many years ??? :shock:
The second one !!
WOW !!! that must be really amazing !!
I`m always impressed when people say that they`ve been married for 20 twenty years and only ever had sex with each other. It`s like they must be such wonderful, loyal people ....I am sooooo jealous of that kind of committment....
It`s funny ...but I think I have it now
Not sure that all makes sense !!
But i`ll hit "submit" anyway ... see what occurs !
Hi Well i got married at 18..to the only man id ever had sex with
stayed married for 17 years. But got bored and eventually left, had one other partner..then met mr dd :lol: he hadn't swung(?) before i met him, 41/2 years ago but we decided to embark on this fantastic journey together and loving every minute of it :lol: Long may it continue!! We were in that situation (Though we're young anyway) but, honestly, I don't remember ever looking at it like that. I'm not even 100% sure I remember the first couple we fully swapped with was...
Perhaps it made it easier that we were both on level ground on that regard - neither of us had had sex with anyone else until that night.
I just remember it being terribly fun and exciting and, just like kinky stories, we were horny as hell for each other for a week afterwards.
It's all good fun - and still is! I guess it takes a certain mindset to see it as 'just sex' and no different to a night out at the bar.
Perhaps it made it easier that we were both on level ground on that regard - neither of us had had sex with anyone else until that night.
I just remember it being terribly fun and exciting and, just like kinky stories, we were horny as hell for each other for a week afterwards.
It's all good fun - and still is! I guess it takes a certain mindset to see it as 'just sex' and no different to a night out at the bar.
Quote by flower411
OK ...I started the "counting" thread partly because I`d been chatting to someone who said the she`d only had sex with a man other than her husband when she started swinging.
A couple of people have now mentioned the same thing.
What`s that like then ?????? :shock:
Having one sexual partner and then deciding between you that you want others !! After, how many years ??? :shock:
The second one !!
WOW !!! that must be really amazing !!
I`m always impressed when people say that they`ve been married for 20 twenty years and only ever had sex with each other. It`s like they must be such wonderful, loyal people ....I am sooooo jealous of that kind of committment....
It`s funny ...but I think I have it now
Not sure that all makes sense !!
But i`ll hit "submit" anyway ... see what occurs !
Flower I have just been trawling back through the forums and found this thread!
Was that me you were talking about? :lol:
As it was about this time I stumbled across you.
And as I at about that time only had one man for 28 years, have been with hubby since I was 15 just wondered.
:lol: But a few months on things are different now.
The first time the feeling of anticipation, excitement, the feeling of the unknown the unexplored. All of which lead to a high I haven’t felt before.
I still have those feelings on all my meets when the feeling goes is when I stop playing, until then we will both enjoy this lifestyle.
Quote by flower411
OK ...I started the "counting" thread partly because I`d been chatting to someone who said the she`d only had sex with a man other than her husband when she started swinging.
A couple of people have now mentioned the same thing.
What`s that like then ?????? :shock:
Having one sexual partner and then deciding between you that you want others !! After, how many years ??? :shock:
The second one !!
WOW !!! that must be really amazing !!
I`m always impressed when people say that they`ve been married for 20 twenty years and only ever had sex with each other. It`s like they must be such wonderful, loyal people ....I am sooooo jealous of that kind of committment....
It`s funny ...but I think I have it now
Not sure that all makes sense !!
But i`ll hit "submit" anyway ... see what occurs !
Flower I have just been trawling back through the forums and found this thread!
Was that me you were talking about? :lol:
As it was about this time I stumbled across you.
And as I at about that time only had one man for 28 years, have been with hubby since I was 15 just wondered.
:lol: But a few months on things are different now.
The first time the feeling of anticipation, excitement, the feeling of the unknown the unexplored. All of which lead to a high I haven’t felt before.
I still have those feelings on all my meets when the feeling goes is when I stop playing, until then we will both enjoy this lifestyle.
I`m pretty sure it was you ....
And as for "stumbling across me" ...Was I lying around on the floor in the chatrooms again ?? :lol:
If ya trawling through my old threads :shock: watch out which ones you resurrect won`t ya !!
Minx on a mission now!
Which ones wouldn't you like me to find?
Hummmmmm I wonder :twisted:
Sex God
just seen this :shock:
We've been married nearly 17yrs. Its been 3yrs now since we joined this site & never looked back
Its fantastic just me n him however its nice to have the chance to explore different adventures with 1 other, 2 others or more
We've been married nearly 17yrs. Its been 3yrs now since we joined this site & never looked back
Its fantastic just me n him however its nice to have the chance to explore different adventures with 1 other, 2 others or more
Quote by jaymar
Ian and I had been having sex for 22 years before we decided to try swinging if that is what you were getting at Flower?
Same here (not 22 years tho
)... we were having amazing sex before we started swinging, we still having amazing sex now... swinging is fun and horny but my the 'amazing' sex is still just between the two of us. I was a bit of a floosy when I was younger and couldn't settle down, I didn't enjoy the sex much because I didn't make a connection with the bloke, it was a 'wall' that prevented me doing so (won't go into that), the best sex I've ever has been within the past 10 years. :lol:Yes the 'wall' is not the best Pink Floyd to fuck too, try 'Animals'!
I was 14 when I met Mr Bone and him 16, we started having sex about a week after we started going out, and that was it for the next 21 years until may last year...noone else for either of us.
I didnt have the traditional late teens/early adulthood lifestyle of clubbing/partying/18-30 hols, we rarely went out and always enjoyed each others company and bodies.......
It wasnt always like that, dont get me wrong, there was a large part of the latter years that i was frigid and hated sex of any kind, and occasionally I felt that i had missed out on exploring sex with other people and that added to my lack of interest in sex as I, in a way blamed Mr B.
a chance encounter on the net led us to SH and we.....well certainly I havent looked back since.
It was an amazing and totally different experience to have another man have sex with me, and it was very very horny.
I love the differences between other guys and Mr B, and because I am now getting to explore sex with other men, I am having the best ever sex with Mr B...kind of like a switch has been flicked in my brain.
I think swinging has saved me from cheating on Mr Bone, if I am totally honest.
Hope that answers this really great question Flower my love xxx
I didnt have the traditional late teens/early adulthood lifestyle of clubbing/partying/18-30 hols, we rarely went out and always enjoyed each others company and bodies.......
It wasnt always like that, dont get me wrong, there was a large part of the latter years that i was frigid and hated sex of any kind, and occasionally I felt that i had missed out on exploring sex with other people and that added to my lack of interest in sex as I, in a way blamed Mr B.
a chance encounter on the net led us to SH and we.....well certainly I havent looked back since.
It was an amazing and totally different experience to have another man have sex with me, and it was very very horny.
I love the differences between other guys and Mr B, and because I am now getting to explore sex with other men, I am having the best ever sex with Mr B...kind of like a switch has been flicked in my brain.
I think swinging has saved me from cheating on Mr Bone, if I am totally honest.
Hope that answers this really great question Flower my love xxx
