Hi guys
Genuine couple looking for feedback, we have been on the site a while now and have not had much success.
Can anyone tells us would we be better to be verified?
Thanks for any advice
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The success people have on the site varies tremendously, just as in life really. I don't know anything of your site history, so please forgive me if I'm suggesting something you may already have tried.
The first thing is that you need to be identified as a couple. It sounds daft, I know, but there are many single guys (or cheating married guys) using a couple's profile.
There are two ways to meet people and to verify that you are indeed who you say you are. Firstly, you ought to attend a "social", preferably one of the better attended ones, but any social near to you is a good starting point.
Secondly, you can go on cam in the chatrooms and chat with other members. You'll soon get to know who's who. Don't think of camming as being a sexual experience, although it does serve as such for some. There is still the option to be fairly discreet on cam, and as reserved, or otherwise, as you wish. Should you decide to "cam" you might wish to treat whispers and any communications from unidentified parties with some scepticism.
The first thing is that you need to be identified as a couple. It sounds daft, I know, but there are many single guys (or cheating married guys) using a couple's profile.
There are two ways to meet people and to verify that you are indeed who you say you are. Firstly, you ought to attend a "social", preferably one of the better attended ones, but any social near to you is a good starting point.
Secondly, you can go on cam in the chatrooms and chat with other members. You'll soon get to know who's who. Don't think of camming as being a sexual experience, although it does serve as such for some. There is still the option to be fairly discreet on cam, and as reserved, or otherwise, as you wish. Should you decide to "cam" you might wish to treat whispers and any communications from unidentified parties with some scepticism.
Mod
You can also get verified by doing the following.
Or failing the above, by finding a friendly chat room op who will oblige by verifying you by seeing the both of you on cam,this can be done in a private room if you you so wish.
The chat room ops can be recognised by the fact that they will have a blue star next to their name when in chat.
Please access the Image Verification process.
If the link doesn't work copy/paste this into your browser address bar:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/image-verification.html
The image you submit should show both of you holding up a handwritten note with the requested details.
Or failing the above, by finding a friendly chat room op who will oblige by verifying you by seeing the both of you on cam,this can be done in a private room if you you so wish.
The chat room ops can be recognised by the fact that they will have a blue star next to their name when in chat.
Casanova
Quote by funglosbicple
we have been on the site a while now and have not had much success.
It would be relevant to know how your interactions have gone so far to know where you could improve. Specifically to your question, personally I do not think verification makes much difference in the scheme of things, I don't think most people pay attention to it or hold it in any particular regard - though of course everything can contribute.
Basically what helps the most is generating lots of interest through exposure, so you can have a large enough pool of people to draw from/find who is right for you. There are different ways of doing this and hopefully you will find a way that you enjoy. Going to socials is one, hanging around in the chatrooms is particularly effective and convenient (but can be time-consuming), uploading more/higher quality pictures is fantastic for boosting visibility and response rates, and if done at regular intervals can help boost a dormant profile, posting ads can also help.
I think for you out of all these I would suggest chat and pictures, it is the easier to implement and you will see results quickly (or not
) As you are both bi it is even more important to show pictures of the both of you! If you've had poor response to your ads my suspicion is that fewer pictures is your downfall. Specifically for the chatrooms, my advice would be to join in at busy times (when numbers rise above 700), go on camera together as a couple (clothed/no face is fine), and use both the main/popular rooms but also the ones that are closer to your interests (for example "bi married" and BBW rooms would be a good place to get chatting).
Lastly I'd urge you to do some "hunting", browsing, contacting yourselves. As a couple it is not enough to wait for people to approach you, you need to pick and contact people you like also. For example, have you ever answered someone else's ad? You can see if nobody answers to ads, it doesn't matter how many ads we post, we'll always be in a bind ;)
As an aside, I think you should also factor in that finding what you are looking for (a long-term arrangement) is harder to get than one-offs - you need to screen that much harder for the other people into this, a minority here. Overall... put some concentrated effort in, and have some fun looking because it can take a while! Good luck.
Orgasminator
I would definately get verified - takes very little effort and gives peace of mind to people checking your profile that you are what it says on the tin.
Like the others suggest the chatrooms are a great place to meet, you can still stay quite discreet and be on cam.
I would also look at what items you have on your activities list.....remove anything thats not a 'must have' for you during sex e.g. you have watersports and anal listed which may discourage others from contacting you, if these are not a major factor then maybe discuss them further down the line....
Like the others suggest the chatrooms are a great place to meet, you can still stay quite discreet and be on cam.
I would also look at what items you have on your activities list.....remove anything thats not a 'must have' for you during sex e.g. you have watersports and anal listed which may discourage others from contacting you, if these are not a major factor then maybe discuss them further down the line....
Warming the Bed
I agree with skinny, first thing is to be verified as a couple, too many men pretend to be a couple wit a few pics.
Pebble says its not necessary yet they have clear SHREP record for all to see, and personally te first thing I look at is SHREP to see if the person really does exist and meet.
So ask a friendly operative to view you on cam (in a private room if your shy).
Personally I got sick of being asked if I was a female and having to prove it on cam.
(I hate camming). So I Turned up to a social and lots of wonderful things have happened since. The first being that my SHREP filled up, this validated me as a real and genuine female. I've never HAD to go on cam since.
Socials are just what they say on the tin, social events and not the orgy fests some people think they are. I've kissed a lot of people at them but have never played at the them.
The pictures are a different story, when I had a lot of pictures up, I had very few emails or chats in room, when I asked (in chat room) what happened, the feedback in the chatroom was that they were intimidating and too full on. A flick through my pics now will prove that the one of my bust (similar to yours) gets the most response. So I've taken most of my pics down and just left ones that show what I want, couples and ladies.
So yes validate, chat in rooms and if you can get yourself to a social.
xx
Pebble says its not necessary yet they have clear SHREP record for all to see, and personally te first thing I look at is SHREP to see if the person really does exist and meet.
So ask a friendly operative to view you on cam (in a private room if your shy).
Personally I got sick of being asked if I was a female and having to prove it on cam.
(I hate camming). So I Turned up to a social and lots of wonderful things have happened since. The first being that my SHREP filled up, this validated me as a real and genuine female. I've never HAD to go on cam since.
Socials are just what they say on the tin, social events and not the orgy fests some people think they are. I've kissed a lot of people at them but have never played at the them.
The pictures are a different story, when I had a lot of pictures up, I had very few emails or chats in room, when I asked (in chat room) what happened, the feedback in the chatroom was that they were intimidating and too full on. A flick through my pics now will prove that the one of my bust (similar to yours) gets the most response. So I've taken most of my pics down and just left ones that show what I want, couples and ladies.
So yes validate, chat in rooms and if you can get yourself to a social.
xx
Orgasminator
Quote by scubamum
........one of my bust (similar to yours) gets the most response........
Fraser always approves of more nice boobs :thumbup:
Warming the Bed
Its simple really the more honest you are with people the more chance you have of meeting people. We have met lots of nice people at socials, clubs, parties, BBB market, SH get togethers, Swing camp and more. It takes time to get your SHREP working for you but it's worth putting time into it if you can. We know a number of men who have managed to make this site work for them but they seem to be level headed men who don't expect people to just jump at them. Its takes time to find the right people so don't expect it to happen all the time.
Keep at it and keep your chin up
Rachel & Paul
Keep at it and keep your chin up
Rachel & Paul
Orgasminator
Quote by scubamum
I agree with skinny, first thing is to be verified as a couple, too many men pretend to be a couple wit a few pics.
Pebble says its not necessary yet they have clear SHREP record for all to see, and personally te first thing I look at is SHREP to see if the person really does exist and meet.
So ask a friendly operative to view you on cam (in a private room if your shy).
Personally I got sick of being asked if I was a female and having to prove it on cam.
(I hate camming). So I Turned up to a social and lots of wonderful things have happened since. The first being that my SHREP filled up, this validated me as a real and genuine female. I've never HAD to go on cam since.
Socials are just what they say on the tin, social events and not the orgy fests some people think they are. I've kissed a lot of people at them but have never played at the them.
The pictures are a different story, when I had a lot of pictures up, I had very few emails or chats in room, when I asked (in chat room) what happened, the feedback in the chatroom was that they were intimidating and too full on. A flick through my pics now will prove that the one of my bust (similar to yours) gets the most response. So I've taken most of my pics down and just left ones that show what I want, couples and ladies.
So yes validate, chat in rooms and if you can get yourself to a social.
xx
You have summed up exactly how I feel. Nicely written. dee xx
Orgasminator
Quote by Gerty35
They obviously didn't like the advice . . . "sorry, that member doesn't exist"
Any other synics think he was a single dude looking for tips on masquerading as a couple??
Mod
Quote by Big_Fraser
Any other synics think he was a single dude looking for tips on masquerading as a couple??
Don't be silly,we never get single dudes doing that
Orgasminator
Quote by scubamum
I agree with skinny, first thing is to be verified as a couple, too many men pretend to be a couple wit a few pics.
Pebble says its not necessary yet they have clear SHREP record for all to see, and personally te first thing I look at is SHREP to see if the person really does exist and meet.
So ask a friendly operative to view you on cam (in a private room if your shy).
Personally I got sick of being asked if I was a female and having to prove it on cam.
(I hate camming). So I Turned up to a social and lots of wonderful things have happened since. The first being that my SHREP filled up, this validated me as a real and genuine female. I've never HAD to go on cam since.
Socials are just what they say on the tin, social events and not the orgy fests some people think they are. I've kissed a lot of people at them but have never played at the them.
The pictures are a different story, when I had a lot of pictures up, I had very few emails or chats in room, when I asked (in chat room) what happened, the feedback in the chatroom was that they were intimidating and too full on. A flick through my pics now will prove that the one of my bust (similar to yours) gets the most response. So I've taken most of my pics down and just left ones that show what I want, couples and ladies.
So yes validate, chat in rooms and if you can get yourself to a social.
xx
Well said, my sentiments too..dee xx
Quote by Big_Fraser
They obviously didn't like the advice . . . "sorry, that member doesn't exist"
Any other synics think he was a single dude looking for tips on masquerading as a couple??
Its all too easy to whack that user into the 'single dude masquerading as a couple" category. To be honest, I knew it was a BS post from the off. I'm surprised others didn't see it too. I'm all for being non judgmental, but its usually pretty clear when someone is dipping their toe in, seeking quick frills or fooling around. I try and reserve judgement as is right but there are plenty of these posts that are given the time of day. Such posts aren't always authored by a lone male partaking in such masquerading tom foolery, as is often presumed.
Just saying
