My partner has mentioned having a threesome - me, him and another man. The very thought seems to turn him on but I don't know if it's just a fantasy or whether he actually would do it. I must say I would be very willing! But if I approach it and he says it was just a game I'd look very stupid indeed.
I wish I knew a way to find out if he is serious or not.
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Threesome fantasy - advice please
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Quote by lucyluce
My partner has mentioned having a threesome - me, him and another man. The very thought seems to turn him on but I don't know if it's just a fantasy or whether he actually would do it. I must say I would be very willing! But if I approach it and he says it was just a game I'd look very stupid indeed.
I wish I knew a way to find out if he is serious or not.
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:lol: TBH I think that Marks hit the nail on the head (the voice of experience). If there are any cracks in your relationship or any doubts as to whether you're ready, then swinging will bring them out.
I'd say to talk about what you want to do and if you both feel ready for it take your time when you do meet a third person to ensure you're both comfortable with them. Arrange some kind of signal that will let the other know that you're not happy with this person and that you're both willing to stop at any time, if one of you feels uncomfortable. That means no recriminations on the one who stopped it when they did, just accept it.
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Quote by lucyluce
My partner has mentioned having a threesome - me, him and another man. The very thought seems to turn him on but I don't know if it's just a fantasy or whether he actually would do it. I must say I would be very willing! But if I approach it and he says it was just a game I'd look very stupid indeed.
I wish I knew a way to find out if he is serious or not.
I have met couples I have turned down because they didn't really convince me they were both commited to the experience. It seems to me its mainly the husbands in these cases forcing the issue... better if its the woman that takes the initiative and the husband is supportive. Just my view.
I found my first experience nervy at first but now I have 2 couples I see off and on. Once you meet the right guy it is very important that you set out the guidelines, who is in control of the situation as a misunderstanding could spoil your fantasy for life!
Good luck in your quest.
Hi Jucyluce,
This is going to perhaps sound a little big-headed, but in my humble opinion, if you do dicuss the possibility further with hubby, and decide to try your hand, so to speak. I would suggest you moderate your fastasy to finding someone experienced who you can be-friend. He can not only help to guide you both, but comfort you through the first awkward moments of exposing yourselves completely to a thrid party.
Some people in fact, find themselves more comfortable with another couple, the first time, as women are often able to give moral support to one another, and are trusted to know what's right for each other, and it doesn't have to be a full couple swap.
As it happens, I've only today posted a new add on here (can't remember the number, but I'm the guy in black with the car, and it starts: Oh,No, not another sex starved man), and if you read it, it may explain some of what I've been talking about.
Love, Keith
This is going to perhaps sound a little big-headed, but in my humble opinion, if you do dicuss the possibility further with hubby, and decide to try your hand, so to speak. I would suggest you moderate your fastasy to finding someone experienced who you can be-friend. He can not only help to guide you both, but comfort you through the first awkward moments of exposing yourselves completely to a thrid party.
Some people in fact, find themselves more comfortable with another couple, the first time, as women are often able to give moral support to one another, and are trusted to know what's right for each other, and it doesn't have to be a full couple swap.
As it happens, I've only today posted a new add on here (can't remember the number, but I'm the guy in black with the car, and it starts: Oh,No, not another sex starved man), and if you read it, it may explain some of what I've been talking about.
Love, Keith
Hi
this is how we started, my wife suggested it first and i was a bit horrified, but if you're secure in your relationship and open about what turns you on etc. but in no way wanting to ruin what you have, then talk about it openly. The more we talked I realised it wasn't as bad as it seemed and I wasn't threatened (always keep something 'special' just for the two of you). After quite some time we gave it a go and haven't looked back. All the time though being honest with each other. If either didn't want to continue then no probs. At the same time, you need to take care in finding the right guy. She now leaves that up to me and you can soon tell who's genuine. we always agree to meet somewhere public first of all and never come back to our place - unless wereally get to know someone we can trust. Also, lay some ground rules down which you both agree with first and make it clear to who ever you meet.
Have fun
this is how we started, my wife suggested it first and i was a bit horrified, but if you're secure in your relationship and open about what turns you on etc. but in no way wanting to ruin what you have, then talk about it openly. The more we talked I realised it wasn't as bad as it seemed and I wasn't threatened (always keep something 'special' just for the two of you). After quite some time we gave it a go and haven't looked back. All the time though being honest with each other. If either didn't want to continue then no probs. At the same time, you need to take care in finding the right guy. She now leaves that up to me and you can soon tell who's genuine. we always agree to meet somewhere public first of all and never come back to our place - unless wereally get to know someone we can trust. Also, lay some ground rules down which you both agree with first and make it clear to who ever you meet.
Have fun
Hi Jucylucy
Well weve been into swinging only a few months and after having a few soft swaps have decided to go to the 3some next.
We are both quite nervous ourselves as weve never done this before,and as its our ultimate fantasy we want it to be perfect(well youve got to wish).
We have a bit of a rule that we really get to know people before anything happens,get chatting on the net and then meet for drinks first when your all relaxed.
That way you get to find out if the person youve chosen is the right one for you,and when you know someone that bit better you also feel a whole lot more relaxed when you finally come to at the end of the day i always find that when your more relaxed its far easier to just let yourself go and really enjoy if its not the right person for you both then after the first meet you dont have to see them again,and no harm done.
Well i hope that this has helped in some way,and good luck whatever you decide upon.
Clare,xxx
Well weve been into swinging only a few months and after having a few soft swaps have decided to go to the 3some next.
We are both quite nervous ourselves as weve never done this before,and as its our ultimate fantasy we want it to be perfect(well youve got to wish).
We have a bit of a rule that we really get to know people before anything happens,get chatting on the net and then meet for drinks first when your all relaxed.
That way you get to find out if the person youve chosen is the right one for you,and when you know someone that bit better you also feel a whole lot more relaxed when you finally come to at the end of the day i always find that when your more relaxed its far easier to just let yourself go and really enjoy if its not the right person for you both then after the first meet you dont have to see them again,and no harm done.
Well i hope that this has helped in some way,and good luck whatever you decide upon.
Clare,xxx
