Timewaster

22 Jul 2010

To Mod Edit: This site operates no naming and shaming.
Thanks for your are most unimpressed.
All the signs where there, no e-mail response, no phone response but your profile did seem nice enough.
Mod Edit: Name removed don't mess people around, many couples on this site have children to arrange babysitters for, we don't get many nights off and to be told everything is ok is not on. You should be at an age where you don't act like a petulant teenager.
Our best advice to you is to get yourself off this site until you have the confidence to meet up or at least tell people you chat to you will not meet, just chat, you give other single guys a bad name.
Your final comment 'please feel free to keep intouch'... why would we, when you have proved and admitted you are a timewaster.
Please don't contact other couples unless you want to meet up.
To give you some benefit, we broke a golden rule, we should make phone contact well before any meet is arranged.
Sadly, you are not the first and probably won't be the last single guy who gets a head of steam and suddenly his ego starts writing cheques his confidence can't cash.
Take care.

22 Jul 2010

ooooh, can we name and shame couples too, (not being sarcastic btw)
i sat in all saturday night a couple of weeks ago, waiting for a text to say where and when. heard nothing.
i too have a child, im a single father, arranged a baby sitter and waited for the text,call....nothing.
Some couples treat single males like canon fodder.
i know how you feel, bloody annoying aint it :sad:
i wont put their name on here...wish i could!!!!!!!

22 Jul 2010

Quote by dannybrut
ooooh, can we name and shame couples too, (not being sarcastic btw)

No

23 Jul 2010

We are a couple both working long hours but we do meet single blokes for threesomes.
When we make a date we usually keep to it but if circumstances change or the mood is not right it can spoil the evening to take it any further.
Having sex with someone should feel right as well as it is wrong it can make long lasting problems.
When you get in touch with someone off this site it is not a contract it is a first step to a casual friendship.
A woman is not a piece of meat, she is a person with needs and emotions you should not expect her to drop her pants to order! Or indeed on the arranged two hours in someones bedsit.
Thanks

23 Jul 2010

Quote by sallyhobbit
We are a couple both working long hours but we do meet single blokes for threesomes.
When we make a date we usually keep to it but if circumstances change or the mood is not right it can spoil the evening to take it any further.
Having sex with someone should feel right as well as it is wrong it can make long lasting problems.
When you get in touch with someone off this site it is not a contract it is a first step to a casual friendship.
A woman is not a piece of meat, she is a person with needs and emotions you should not expect her to drop her pants to order! Or indeed on the arranged two hours in someones bedsit.
Thanks

Well said!
ps. even single females get let down at the last minute too, nothing here is real until it is happening, even then I wonder sometimes....

23 Jul 2010

hi i been on this site for a few yrs now and a number of times i,ve aranged to meet someone and i,ve payed for a hotel or gone to a place to meet them they never turn up and i,ve lost money wen i,ve booked a roon for the meet, i think aswel everyone who is a time waister should be named so everyone can keep well away from them or they should be banned from this site for a month so they get the message not to p**s ppl about as most ppl have kids to sort asitter out for them,

23 Jul 2010

Quote by lizbiandpaul
To Mod Edit: This site operates no naming and shaming.
Thanks for your are most unimpressed.
All the signs where there, no e-mail response, no phone response but your profile did seem nice enough.
Mod Edit: Name removed don't mess people around, many couples on this site have children to arrange babysitters for, we don't get many nights off and to be told everything is ok is not on. You should be at an age where you don't act like a petulant teenager.
Our best advice to you is to get yourself off this site until you have the confidence to meet up or at least tell people you chat to you will not meet, just chat, you give other single guys a bad name.
Your final comment 'please feel free to keep intouch'... why would we, when you have proved and admitted you are a timewaster.
Please don't contact other couples unless you want to meet up.
To give you some benefit, we broke a golden rule, we should make phone contact well before any meet is arranged.
Sadly, you are not the first and probably won't be the last single guy who gets a head of steam and suddenly his ego starts writing cheques his confidence can't cash.
Take care.

You know... I always think this is the best kind of verification... who on earth would want to meet someone with such a huge lack of integrity. To make a post like that is crass and shows a total lack of respect. That says way more about you than it does about the person who wasted your time. confused

23 Jul 2010

Quote by lizbiandpaul
we broke a golden rule,

And the moral of the day:-
Golden Rule No.1 is, never break Golden Rules.. :doh:

23 Jul 2010

Quote by Dirtygirly
You know... I always think this is the best kind of verification... who on earth would want to meet someone with such a huge lack of integrity. To make a post like that is crass and shows a total lack of respect. That says way more about you than it does about the person who wasted your time

I think that comment is a tad unfair, no sorry very unfair.
We have been let down by a guy twice, we did all the checks.
At the time we had to pay a sitter 30 quid to look after the kids, and he still did not show.
I see him in the chat rooms on cam wanking, how sad but I always make a point of saying hello to him in the open room. Funny though he disappears instantly.
Yes obviously the site rules say no names but I can understand their anger and frustration which came out in their post, of which I see nothing wrong in it whatsoever.
I certainly do not see a lack of integrity at all.

23 Jul 2010

Sadly being let down is a part of life :sad:
Some years ago, I arranged a meet with a couple on the seafront at a well known resort - I stood there for nearly two hours past the agreed time before I went the 80 miles back home. More fool me I suppose dunno

Plim

23 Jul 2010

Quote by kentswingers777
You know... I always think this is the best kind of verification... who on earth would want to meet someone with such a huge lack of integrity. To make a post like that is crass and shows a total lack of respect. That says way more about you than it does about the person who wasted your time

I think that comment is a tad unfair, no sorry very unfair.
We have been let down by a guy twice, we did all the checks.
At the time we had to pay a sitter 30 quid to look after the kids, and he still did not show.
I see him in the chat rooms on cam wanking, how sad but I always make a point of saying hello to him in the open room. Funny though he disappears instantly.
Yes obviously the site rules say no names but I can understand their anger and frustration which came out in their post, of which I see nothing wrong in it whatsoever.
I certainly do not see a lack of integrity at all.
Well I guess that's your opinion to which you're entitled. We've all been let down. Whilst I appreciate it's frustrating, there's absolutely no need for the opening post to be made publicly. By all means, send your gripes to the person involved but there's no excuse for making a post such as that. Massive lack of integrity. Have a moan, lots of people do, naming names on a public forum is unacceptable in any circumstances.

23 Jul 2010

Quote by Dirtygirly
You know... I always think this is the best kind of verification... who on earth would want to meet someone with such a huge lack of integrity. To make a post like that is crass and shows a total lack of respect. That says way more about you than it does about the person who wasted your time

I think that comment is a tad unfair, no sorry very unfair.
We have been let down by a guy twice, we did all the checks.
At the time we had to pay a sitter 30 quid to look after the kids, and he still did not show.
I see him in the chat rooms on cam wanking, how sad but I always make a point of saying hello to him in the open room. Funny though he disappears instantly.
Yes obviously the site rules say no names but I can understand their anger and frustration which came out in their post, of which I see nothing wrong in it whatsoever.
I certainly do not see a lack of integrity at all.
Well I guess that's your opinion to which you're entitled. We've all been let down. Whilst I appreciate it's frustrating, there's absolutely no need for the opening post to be made publicly. By all means, send your gripes to the person involved but there's no excuse for making a post such as that. Massive lack of integrity. Have a moan, lots of people do, naming names on a public forum is unacceptable in any circumstances.
No its not. In all other walks of life and on other forums we all do it but here just because its about sex its not allowed. Sorry but whats the difference?
Not saying its something I would do but can understand why people loose their rag about it.

23 Jul 2010

Quote by tweeky

Well I guess that's your opinion to which you're entitled. We've all been let down. Whilst I appreciate it's frustrating, there's absolutely no need for the opening post to be made publicly. By all means, send your gripes to the person involved but there's no excuse for making a post such as that. Massive lack of integrity. Have a moan, lots of people do, naming names on a public forum is unacceptable in any circumstances.

No its not. In all other walks of life and on other forums we all do it but here just because its about sex its not allowed. Sorry but whats the difference?
Not saying its something I would do but can understand why people loose their rag about it.
Perhaps not in your opinion, in mine it's unacceptable. I'm allowed my own opinion am I not?
The difference is that there are two sides to every story. If hearing one side of it when the other party is not around to defend themselves is acceptable to you then that's great, good for you. I don't really want either side of the story, some things should remain private.
Please don't speak on my behalf, I don't speak on yours. :thumbup:

23 Jul 2010

Quote by Dirtygirly

Well I guess that's your opinion to which you're entitled. We've all been let down. Whilst I appreciate it's frustrating, there's absolutely no need for the opening post to be made publicly. By all means, send your gripes to the person involved but there's no excuse for making a post such as that. Massive lack of integrity. Have a moan, lots of people do, naming names on a public forum is unacceptable in any circumstances.

No its not. In all other walks of life and on other forums we all do it but here just because its about sex its not allowed. Sorry but whats the difference?
Not saying its something I would do but can understand why people loose their rag about it.
Perhaps not in your opinion, in mine it's unacceptable. I'm allowed my own opinion am I not?
The difference is that there are two sides to every story. If hearing one side of it when the other party is not around to defend themselves is acceptable to you then that's great, good for you. I don't really want either side of the story, some things should remain private.
Please don't speak on my behalf, I don't speak on yours. :thumbup:
But we are not talking about opinions. Your or my opinion does not make this unacceptable its the site rules that do that. Rules on other sites are different.
You are right there is two sides to every story so perhaps if the other side had bothered to pm/email/phone/text their side of the story to the offended people above they wouldn't feel the need to take their course of action.
Again not something I believe I would do but can see why others get pissed off enough to do it.

23 Jul 2010

Quote by tweeky
But we are not talking about opinions. Your or my opinion does not make this unacceptable its the site rules that do that. Rules on other sites are different.
You are right there is two sides to every story so perhaps if the other side had bothered to pm/email/phone/text their side of the story to the offended people above they wouldn't feel the need to take their course of action.
Again not something I believe I would do but can see why others get pissed off enough to do it.

We wouldn't be talking about it at all if this side of the story had thought it through before posting or in fact read the rules. Shit happens. That's life. By all means complain about the timewasters, it's been done a million times already, once more isn't going to make any difference. In my world, it's not the rules that make it unacceptable, it's a total lack of respect. Two wrongs don't make it right. :mrgreen:

23 Jul 2010

Quote by Dirtygirly
The difference is that there are two sides to every story.

There certainly are.
Like almost everyone we have ever chatted to we have had timewasters. However we haven't named and shamed, as we think it's unfair. That doesn't mean that we agree with those that do, but we learnt just how easily things can go inocently awry.
We once arranged a meet with a guy, but he wouldn't be arriving until about half past midnight. So once we were satisfied that the meet was going to happen we gave him a number to call in case there was any problem. He never called and you guessed it he never turned up. We went to bed around 2AM, slightly annoyed that Mrs T had made the effort to dress herself up for a guy that couldn't be bothered to get here, but don't worry I still got the benefit, lol.
Anyway the next day we logged on to a rather upfront email from the guy accusing us of timewasting etc. We were taken aback and contacted him again. Anyway to cut to the chase he had typed our postcode 1 digit wrong into his sat nav and turned up at a street about five miles away, to a somewhat bemused and rather sleepy elderly couple's home.
Knowing we had young children he didn't call at that time of the night in case he woke them, bless him.
There are two sides to every story, in this case either of us could have hurled abuse at each other in the forum, but we chose not to and sorted it out like adults.

23 Jul 2010

Quote by Trevaunance
but we chose not to and sorted it out like adults.

:thumbup:
Dave_Notts

23 Jul 2010

once had a meet with a couple, date set, room set, champagne on ice, nice meal, complimented on the way she looked then it all blew wasnt up for it as much as him, they argued and left, me on me own, did the natural thing drank the champagne had a wank and pinched soap,shower cap and as many towels as i couple not from this site.

24 Jul 2010

In a calm moment a thought arose:
Life is full of risks - alzheimers, car accidents, finding out your husband is a CD and looks better in a frock than you do. Having a boring evening, an evening spoiled or getting let down on the promise of a shag ain't so bad. Annoying but not too bad.
Paying for the babysitter/hotel is the worst aspect of it. A couple can make the most of it - go out for a meal - enjoy the hotel room in peace etc. The single has fewer options.
Although when I was let down (by the most gorgeous six-pack I had ever seen!!!! But clearly the manners didn't match) I was so furious (paid for the hotel AND drove 60 miles round trip to boot) I went to my favourite restaurant and treated myself to a lovely meal.

24 Jul 2010

Yep, I've been let down and sat in a hotel I'd paid for on more than one occasion.
It was a pisser the first time. I was gutted. However I ran a bubble bath and spent the evening pampering myself. Second time I took myself down to the hotel restaurant, had a meal and then luxuriated in my own company in a big hotel bed.
Got to see the positives - and understand that it happens.
Would never name and shame though. Not classy. wink

24 Jul 2010

Quote by noladreams
Yep, I've been let down and sat in a hotel I'd paid for on more than one occasion.
It was a pisser the first time. I was gutted. However I ran a bubble bath and spent the evening pampering myself. Second time I took myself down to the hotel restaurant, had a meal and then luxuriated in my own company in a big hotel bed.
Got to see the positives - and understand that it happens.
Would never name and shame though. Not classy.

Blimey, that is generous coming from a young single female, if that happened to me once I would never let it happen a second time, sod that!
btw, I have the same necklace you are wearing in one of your pics, nice isn't it! x

24 Jul 2010

Quote by noladreams
Yep, I've been let down and sat in a hotel I'd paid for on more than one occasion.
It was a pisser the first time. I was gutted. However I ran a bubble bath and spent the evening pampering myself. Second time I took myself down to the hotel restaurant, had a meal and then luxuriated in my own company in a big hotel bed.
Got to see the positives - and understand that it happens.
Would never name and shame though. Not classy.

A true Epicurean answer.....enjoy what you have in the moment...best way to live

24 Jul 2010

Quote by demi
Blimey, that is generous coming from a young single female, if that happened to me once I would never let it happen a second time, sod that!
btw, I have the same necklace you are wearing in one of your pics, nice isn't it! x

Can't remember the necklace.
<<<< off to look! lol

In edit: yes, it's gorgeous. I've mislaid it though. Now that really is something to be pissed off about... cancelled meets not half as bad! wink

24 Jul 2010

That's the answer really. finding an option or alternative so that you don't waste your own time; if you get let down.
Look for something else in the area you can go onto, rather than getting left on your own.

24 Jul 2010

Quote by noladreams
Blimey, that is generous coming from a young single female, if that happened to me once I would never let it happen a second time, sod that!
btw, I have the same necklace you are wearing in one of your pics, nice isn't it! x

Can't remember the necklace.
<<<< off to look! lol

In edit: yes, it's gorgeous. I've mislaid it though. Now that really is something to be pissed off about... cancelled meets not half as bad! wink

Lol, I have lost my one too, do you think there is a theme here?
Maybe that necklace is the magic shag medallion, wear it and you never get let down again!