had a very good social last night but just feel i need to rant a little about the
3 females
11 males
7 couples
that had confirmed they were attending but then didnt show up or bother to let me know
i find this discourteous, particularly after the time spent preparing badges and budgeting for them, i just hope they dont treat their meets with the same disregard
but a big thank you to all those that came and made all the effort so worthwhile and a big thanks to gothicduo for his wonderful job of dj xx
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Sex God
We do not have a name and shame policy on this site, and nor will we have.
to say..75% are timewasters is silly. This site is no differant t0 normal life. If you organise a party, for a birthday....there will always be people that don't turn up. Some have viable reasons...some just poor excuses.I know from organising a few things on here, that it is a pain, but you simply have to cater for the fact probably 10%/15% won't show. No one wants to see a name and shame thing.....but I know that I note who don't turn up for my arranged things....and they certainly not first on the guest list next time around for sure.
Warming the Bed
I just wanted to say we had a great time last night, many thanks to the organisers for all their hard work.
It is a shame when people don't turn up but naming and shaming isn't likely stop it happening in the future, it's just life.
:love: :inlove: :rose: :love:
It is a shame when people don't turn up but naming and shaming isn't likely stop it happening in the future, it's just life.
:love: :inlove: :rose: :love:
i wouldnt think of naming and shaming but yes dean i will be keeping a list for next time :twisted:
the thing about naming and shaming tho is that some of them are repeatedly non attenders this would highlight them, i wonder if there is someway to identify them through the new SHrep thingy
goes to look at the guidelines ................
yeah its a fact of life that some dont show, i know that but i think its still bad mannered
the thing about naming and shaming tho is that some of them are repeatedly non attenders this would highlight them, i wonder if there is someway to identify them through the new SHrep thingy
goes to look at the guidelines ................
yeah its a fact of life that some dont show, i know that but i think its still bad mannered
Quote by Sexyme09
I just wanted to say we had a great time last night, many thanks to the organisers for all their hard work.
It is a shame when people don't turn up but naming and shaming isn't likely stop it happening in the future, it's just life.
:love: :inlove: :rose: :love:
ahhh just realised who you are lol its the boots that gave you away lol glad you enjoyed it and thanks for coming and bringing friends xx
Quote by deancannock
to say..75% are timewasters is silly. This site is no differant t0 normal life. If you organise a party, for a birthday....there will always be people that don't turn up. Some have viable reasons...some just poor excuses.I know from organising a few things on here, that it is a pain, but you simply have to cater for the fact probably 10%/15% won't show. No one wants to see a name and shame thing.....but I know that I note who don't turn up for my arranged things....and they certainly not first on the guest list next time around for sure.
Who said they dont? I certainly wouldnt object to it, its rude and theres no need for it
Sex God
Quote by Gillianthe1st
to say..75% are timewasters is silly. This site is no differant t0 normal life. If you organise a party, for a birthday....there will always be people that don't turn up. Some have viable reasons...some just poor excuses.I know from organising a few things on here, that it is a pain, but you simply have to cater for the fact probably 10%/15% won't show. No one wants to see a name and shame thing.....but I know that I note who don't turn up for my arranged things....and they certainly not first on the guest list next time around for sure.
Who said they dont? I certainly wouldnt object to it, its rude and theres no need for it
It may be rude..but I think the following senario would be much worse...
You keep getting pestered by somebody who you have made it clear you don't want to meet, but instead to be nasty, they 'name and shame' you.. Although you know its not true. Its your word against there's and why would anybody believe any of you?? How would you feel then?
For me, naming and shaming is not the way to wean out the timewasters. We all get them. It's just one of the down sides of this kinda lifestyle.
Lil x
Sex God
Maybe my memory playing tricks, but I seem to recall in the early days on here that the Mods were notified of the confirmed lists for Munches and any that did not turn up without imforming the organisers were then reported to the Mods. Repeated no-shows / no-info people were then noted and word got back to people who were organising future Munches about people who probably would not be attending.
But as I say, never having been a Mod may be mistaken on this.
John
But as I say, never having been a Mod may be mistaken on this.
John
Mod
We do for munches, but not for socials. 
Mal
Mal
Sex God
Quote by Trixie_D-Lish
had a very good social last night but just feel i need to rant a little about the
3 females
11 males
7 couples
that had confirmed they were attending but then didnt show up or bother to let me know
i find this discourteous, particularly after the time spent preparing badges and budgeting for them, i just hope they dont treat their meets with the same disregard
but a big thank you to all those that came and made all the effort so worthwhile and a big thanks to gothicduo for his wonderful job of dj xx
Same thing at our party last night. All confirmed, 4 couples didn't show .... grrrrrrrr
Quote by Funlovers2009
had a very good social last night but just feel i need to rant a little about the
3 females
11 males
7 couples
that had confirmed they were attending but then didnt show up or bother to let me know
i find this discourteous, particularly after the time spent preparing badges and budgeting for them, i just hope they dont treat their meets with the same disregard
but a big thank you to all those that came and made all the effort so worthwhile and a big thanks to gothicduo for his wonderful job of dj xx
Same thing at our party last night. All confirmed, 4 couples didn't show .... grrrrrrrr
so annoying eh, but i say their loss x
Forum Virgin
Quote by deancannock
to say..75% are timewasters is silly. This site is no differant t0 normal life. If you organise a party, for a birthday....there will always be people that don't turn up. Some have viable reasons...some just poor excuses.I know from organising a few things on here, that it is a pain, but you simply have to cater for the fact probably 10%/15% won't show. No one wants to see a name and shame thing.....but I know that I note who don't turn up for my arranged things....and they certainly not first on the guest list next time around for sure.
i agree with this... :P
Quote by Lilmiss
to say..75% are timewasters is silly. This site is no differant t0 normal life. If you organise a party, for a birthday....there will always be people that don't turn up. Some have viable reasons...some just poor excuses.I know from organising a few things on here, that it is a pain, but you simply have to cater for the fact probably 10%/15% won't show. No one wants to see a name and shame thing.....but I know that I note who don't turn up for my arranged things....and they certainly not first on the guest list next time around for sure.
Who said they dont? I certainly wouldnt object to it, its rude and theres no need for it
It may be rude..but I think the following senario would be much worse...
You keep getting pestered by somebody who you have made it clear you don't want to meet, but instead to be nasty, they 'name and shame' you.. Although you know its not true. Its your word against there's and why would anybody believe any of you?? How would you feel then?
For me, naming and shaming is not the way to wean out the timewasters. We all get them. It's just one of the down sides of this kinda lifestyle.
Lil x
There is a big difference in these two scenarios.....
Making the positive step to put your own name down on a social listing, going back at a later date to confirm, and then not having the common decency to post a "sorry i can't make it" or to even get in touch with somebody else who is going so they can pass the message on is just plain bad manners. I doubt many people would go to a social without knowing anybody else on the list, and be able to contact somebody by msn, or text etc.
As the postings are in a public forum for everybody to read, I can't see how anybody could claim they didn't apply to be on the social list.
Appearing on a "no show" list, or being blocked from attending future socials could only be blamed on the person who repeatedly doesn't turn up. - And with some events regularly having reserve lists, it would prevent others from attending.
The second scenario of a rejected person falsely claiming a no show for a meet could never be validated as being a name and shame option. Any arrangement would usually be made in private and could often be subject to a long winded "he said / she said" saga.
I know people who often put their names down on event listings as the "crowd" are going and you have to be seen to be participating Even though they haven't the slightest interest in attending. People can be very fickle if they find out you can't go to every single event they are going to. But, to not make contact with the event organiser if you can't make it I find difficult to understand.
Sex God
we have done about 8 big socials and helped with a 5/6 more and used to keep a list of the no shows (same ones over n over) and still see them putting names down we just didnt send the details in the end,if they cant be arsed to get in touch to let us know they aint coming the same applys back.
