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I know i'm not the only one that hates them, you spend ages contacting them and then they just end up not being able to meet up with you or make some sort of excuse.....it irritates me
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people get cold feet, bottle it, have last minute nerves...
babysitters dont show up...relatives decide to visit unannounced....
I could list 100 reasons why people might not show up ....
then there's the 'get off on thinking/talking about it' type, who dont actually need the meet itself ....
I think sometimes its far too easy to brand someone a timewaster - and sometimes before doing so, it might be worth questioning yourself whythey've pulled out - maybe they've decided you're just not for them or something doesnt feel 100% right.... or maybe he/she/ they are simply having last minute cold feet
- me personally, I'd rather someone pull out, than go ahead and meet me for the sake of it :dunno: I'd also rather read that someone has been 'stood up' than have a post up here tomorrow about how someone went ahead with a meet they wern't 100% about because it was 'expected' of them and they didnt want to be branded a timewaster :dunno:
babysitters dont show up...relatives decide to visit unannounced....
I could list 100 reasons why people might not show up ....
then there's the 'get off on thinking/talking about it' type, who dont actually need the meet itself ....
I think sometimes its far too easy to brand someone a timewaster - and sometimes before doing so, it might be worth questioning yourself whythey've pulled out - maybe they've decided you're just not for them or something doesnt feel 100% right.... or maybe he/she/ they are simply having last minute cold feet
- me personally, I'd rather someone pull out, than go ahead and meet me for the sake of it :dunno: I'd also rather read that someone has been 'stood up' than have a post up here tomorrow about how someone went ahead with a meet they wern't 100% about because it was 'expected' of them and they didnt want to be branded a timewaster :dunno: 
Sex God
Quote by Darkfire
people get cold feet, bottle it, have last minute nerves...
babysitters dont show up...relatives decide to visit unannounced....
I could list 100 reasons why people might not show up ....
then there's the 'get off on thinking/talking about it' type, who dont actually need the meet itself ....
I think sometimes its far too easy to brand someone a timewaster - and sometimes before doing so, it might be worth questioning yourself why they've pulled out - maybe they've decided you're just not for them or something doesnt feel 100% right.... or maybe he/she/ they are simply having last minute cold feet
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Sex God
we've never been let down on a meet,suppose we are just lucky.....we chat on here in the chat rooms,then on msn and webcam with each other just to verify we are who we all say we are...then the girls chat on the fone....now and again we'll meet just for a drink just to ease any nerves they might have and to break the and only then,when everyone is happy we meet and have some fun...then we normally meet regular and have some more fun....... 
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Sex God
We've only ever been let down once..... the guy got cold feet, but when we really thought about it, it didn't feel right anyway, so I guess he was right to pull out.
M
M
I think as long as someone has the manners to telephone and apologise it shouldnt matter many people have last minute emergancies, of all kinds in all walks of life, and especialy those with children. I would only class someone as a time waster if they, said all was fine then didnt show and didnt message me or call again, to explain the situation.
k
k
yeah, bloody time-wasters....
i had a daytime meeting aranged recently...
here in my dreadfull gaff....
so Id made a wee bit of an effort... scrubbed the toilet, just in case...
swept the floor... shoveled the muck, as you do.
made myself as presentable as possible, and sat in a nervous state waiting the impending arrival...
...affraid to even use the loo for fear of missing the door buzzer... carrying the mobile with me.. and the landline... peeking through thenets to check every few minutes for an unknown vehicle drawing upp outside...
the hours ticked by...
i started to get rather fractious... was my last communication correct, were all the right details there/
had i been overly flippant about how important to this meeting may have been???
the designated hour of arrival had long gorrrrn... and I sadly had to admit to myself, that yet again it simply wasnt going to happen....
bloody gas-board!
lp
i had a daytime meeting aranged recently...
here in my dreadfull gaff....
so Id made a wee bit of an effort... scrubbed the toilet, just in case...
swept the floor... shoveled the muck, as you do.
made myself as presentable as possible, and sat in a nervous state waiting the impending arrival...
...affraid to even use the loo for fear of missing the door buzzer... carrying the mobile with me.. and the landline... peeking through thenets to check every few minutes for an unknown vehicle drawing upp outside...
the hours ticked by...
i started to get rather fractious... was my last communication correct, were all the right details there/
had i been overly flippant about how important to this meeting may have been???
the designated hour of arrival had long gorrrrn... and I sadly had to admit to myself, that yet again it simply wasnt going to happen....
bloody gas-board!
lp
Quote by LondonPlaything
yeah, bloody time-wasters....
i had a daytime meeting aranged recently...
here in my dreadfull gaff....
so Id made a wee bit of an effort... scrubbed the toilet, just in case...
swept the floor... shoveled the muck, as you do.
made myself as presentable as possible, and sat in a nervous state waiting the impending arrival...
...affraid to even use the loo for fear of missing the door buzzer... carrying the mobile with me.. and the landline... peeking through thenets to check every few minutes for an unknown vehicle drawing upp outside...
the hours ticked by...
i started to get rather fractious... was my last communication correct, were all the right details there/
had i been overly flippant about how important to this meeting may have been???
the designated hour of arrival had long gorrrrn... and I sadly had to admit to myself, that yet again it simply wasnt going to happen....
bloody gas-board!
lp
we once arranged a meet so i went into cleaning mode just in case while doing so (cleaning the toilet) bleach and limescale remover came into contact and th fumes got into my chest leaving me hardly able to breath i didnt think it was right to meet when i wasnt feeling my best so i explained to couple completely expecting to be called a timeswaster however we arranged to meet the nxt week and did so things didnt turn out but we still had a drink with them , many people would call this timewasting but this is real life things happen u or kids get ill babysitters cancel u have unexpected visitors sometimes it just dont feel right i would be thankfull for anyone who let us know they wernt guna show yes i may have doubts about them being a timewaster but if it didnt feel right then so be it
Quote by creampie123
people get cold feet, bottle it, have last minute nerves...
babysitters dont show up...relatives decide to visit unannounced....
I could list 100 reasons why people might not show up ....
then there's the 'get off on thinking/talking about it' type, who dont actually need the meet itself ....
I think sometimes its far too easy to brand someone a timewaster - and sometimes before doing so, it might be worth questioning yourself why they've pulled out - maybe they've decided you're just not for them or something doesnt feel 100% right.... or maybe he/she/ they are simply having last minute cold feet
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I think it depends on whether they contact you or not.
If someone contacts us, either before or just after the meet should have occurred, to let us know they can't make it for whatever reason then I wouldn't consider them a time waster. Things happen to us all that can prevent things going ahead despite all the planning in the world.
If someone arranges to meet us then just doesn't show with no word or message within the next day or so, then I would class them as timewasting, but I wouldn't let it worry or annoy me as life is way too short.
Jas
XXX
If someone contacts us, either before or just after the meet should have occurred, to let us know they can't make it for whatever reason then I wouldn't consider them a time waster. Things happen to us all that can prevent things going ahead despite all the planning in the world.
If someone arranges to meet us then just doesn't show with no word or message within the next day or so, then I would class them as timewasting, but I wouldn't let it worry or annoy me as life is way too short.
Jas
XXX
I've had to pull out of a couple of meets (usually social group meets) at the last minute, usually because something really unexpected has come up. However I've been to more meets than I have cancelled.
I also always try to PM the people concerned before the "doors open to the gig" so to speak, just to show that I am sorry and hope we can meet again sometime in the future and that there are no hard feelings.
The worst ones are those that go completely silent/off the radar.
I also always try to PM the people concerned before the "doors open to the gig" so to speak, just to show that I am sorry and hope we can meet again sometime in the future and that there are no hard feelings.
The worst ones are those that go completely silent/off the radar.
you have me there, well not you, not there. 
Sex God
Quote by Drewxcore
I know i'm not the only one that hates them, you spend ages contacting them and then they just end up not being able to meet up with you or make some sort of excuse.....it irritates me
That's not a timewaster - that's someone who's changed their mind about meeting you but maybe doesn't want to say that directly. Or maybe they have a genuine reason for not being able to meet when you want to.
Sex God
Quote by Fun Scottish Couple
And some people still think its a good idea to have a rating/feedback system in place, this post shows you why its a very bad idea if someone thinks your a timewaster because you don't want to meet after sending or recieving lenghthy emails :shock:
Oooooo you were just guessing as to his next thread weren't you?
Sex God
Quote by Happy Cats
We've only ever been let down once..... the guy got cold feet, but when we really thought about it, it didn't feel right anyway, so I guess he was right to pull out.
M
And mighty relieved I was
Not half as much as we were
:lol: Quote by Fun Scottish Couple
And some people still think its a good idea to have a rating/feedback system in place, this post shows you why its a very bad idea if someone thinks your a timewaster because you don't want to meet after sending or recieving lenghthy emails :shock:
Yes you are right, ratings are a bad idea.
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.................... and here endeth this weeks thread for timewasters!
Mal
Mal
